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“Speak well to yourself because your deep mind is always listening”
I remember one evening at a boot camp session, when a fellow boot camper working out right beside me managed to slightly vex me, to put it nicely... her self-talk, which she let out for everyone to “enjoy” went on something ... Views: 4278
•Do you put yourself down for not being “good enough” or “smart enough?”
•Do you have difficulty knowing what’s realistic to expect of yourself?
•Do you compare yourself and often feel inferior or superior?
•Do you call yourself names when faced with frustration or defeat?
•Do you expect ... Views: 4267
Please don't take this the wrong way, because that's not the way it's intended. But in a manner of speaking, I am excited about these tough economic times, these cutbacks, these peels and reels of people who were put out on the street. No job, three months of COBRA benefits, insurance only. It's ... Views: 4256
You probably already know that without confidence, you have MUCH fewer options in your life. In fact, self-doubt might just be the most crippling limitation that you’ll ever face in life. It limits your ability to ask for and to receive the things that you want and to assert and stand up for ... Views: 4256
Procrastination is a problem for people with or without ADHD. The damage doesn't stop with the repercussions of not following through. It is more than failing grades on a report card, loss of promotion, missed opportunities, or getting dismissed from a job. Although the consequences are ... Views: 4240
Let’s face it. No matter how positive we intend to be and how focused we are on attracting positive people into our lives, there are times when we will come into contact with negative people. You know the type: They love to talk about all the things that are going wrong in their life. They ... Views: 4236
This is something that can come under many names, from self esteem, to self worth, self belief and confidence. And no matter what words are used, what it ultimately comes down to is the feeling or sense of being enough.
Here one feels that who they are is enough, and this relates to who they ... Views: 4230
Manifesting abundance starts with being already contented with what you already have. However, contentment is not about being external gratification alone. True contentment comes from self acceptance. It is about loving yourself unconditionally. Hence, if you wish to manifest abundance, you ... Views: 4223
There are some people who believe just about everything that another person says. And then there are others who go to the other extreme, who question and doubt everything they hear. With other people having a balance between the two; so they don’t believe everything that comes out of other ... Views: 4215
The term boundaries can seem unclear and even confusing at times. What does the term ‘boundaries’ mean? And how does it relate to psychological wellbeing? Are they the same as ‘walls’? And in this context what are walls?
What I am describing here are psychological boundaries. So here I will ... Views: 4208
In May 2006 the journal Clinical Psychology and Psychotherapy published a research study that proves there is a way to permanently eliminate the fear of public speaking.
This research paper described how 36 people who had a fear of public speaking were divided into two groups to test the ... Views: 4175
All of us, as we were growing up, learned a myriad of ways to try to have control over getting love, avoiding pain, and feeling safe. One of the ways we might have learned is to lie.We all had many opportunities to learn this way of protecting ourselves, which is a form of manipulation/control:A ... Views: 4174
What makes one person happy is not necessarily going to be the same as what makes another person happy, but while their requirements may be different, they both have the need to be happy. This is something that most people on the planet want to experience; with their being many ways in which one ... Views: 4166
From the book "Contemporary Parables"
We need to understand how we value ourselves and hopefully heal ourselves from an epidemic of self-doubt and self-rejection.
We are spirit which is eternal and divine. Being divine in nature there is no question about our worthiness. As spirit we are ... Views: 4132
Symptoms of low self esteem are like symptoms of any other malady; they are indicative of an underlying problem that, unless treated, is likely to get worse before getting better. And as I stated earlier, health self image is your permission to succeed and without it, personal fulfillment and ... Views: 4055
I would be completely lying and doing everyone a disfavor if I said, "The inferiority complex is all in the mind, dude. Just stop thinking you're inferior because you're not." It isn't. If it were so simple then billions, yes billions, wouldn't experience it sometime in their life.
I know of ... Views: 4047
While one can be friends with people who put in as much effort as they do, there is also the chance that this isn’t the case. It could then be said that some of their relationships will be out of balance.
And not only might this apply to their friends, it could also be something that they ... Views: 4043
“Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for a while and leave footprints on our heart and we are never, ever the same.” ~ Anon
This article is penned by my colleague and friend Jim Delpino. Jim is a highly gifted and experienced clinical social worker and marriage and ... Views: 4036
As you look back on your life today what would you change? Anything? Everything? Have you lived a passionate adventure or have you been stuck on the birth-school-work-death treadmill?
Many of us have made choices in our lives that have compromised who we are. We do things that are out of ... Views: 4025
I recently received an e-mail from a friend of mine regarding choices specifically a person's ability to choose their own attitude of mind and how one can look at any situation either positively or negatively and its direct effect on the outcome of that particular situation.
Even though we ... Views: 3962
You know not to think the obvious kinds of negative thoughts. Thoughts like “I am not as smart as my counterparts” or “I can’t…” Those are easily identified as thoughts to remove from your mental diet. Here are 3 other kinds of ‘empty calories’ thoughts. Cut them out immediately!
1. ... Views: 3961
Many individuals feel that the lessons learned from their mothers and fathers and their teachers are the keys to flourishing in life. People learn how to think in particular ways and told these ideas will aid them in succeeding. In the book, “The Maverick Mindset” by Dr. John Eliot who is a ... Views: 3932
How often have you become irritated or angry, given yourself up, started to argue or debate, teach or explain, or withdrew when someone was treating you badly - ordering you around, judging you, blaming you, or dumping their complaints or negativity on you? How often have you behaved in any of ... Views: 3901
The way you feel about yourself impacts how and why you do everything in life. If you feel good about who you are, then what you do will be an outside reflection of your innermost thoughts and feelings. Contrary to popular belief, self-esteem is not something anyone or any accomplishment can ... Views: 3897
Self Esteem is more than feeling good about yourself. It's having self confidence and self respect. You can feel confident in doing a particular thing, but unworthy to receive the benefits of your success.
The opposite is also true. You can feel worthy and deserving of success and / or ... Views: 3895
Although some people feel comfortable with themselves, there are others who experience life differently. And it could be said that one will achieve more when they feel comfortable in their own skin, so to speak.
Based on this, if one doesn’t feel comfortable with themselves, it will then ... Views: 3884
To walk all over a carpet or some kind of tiled floor would be normal. This is because the floor has no feelings and very few wants and needs for example. If the floor was used too much it may wear out; so it will need to be cleaned at certain times and it might even need to be replaced after a ... Views: 3884
During the past couple of weeks several readers have asked me: “What’s so new about this ‘occurring’ distinction? Haven’t you been saying for years that our beliefs and conditionings determine our behavior and emotions?”
Yes and no. I have said that our specific behavior and emotions are ... Views: 3883
The Angel Inside: Michelangelo, Il Gigante, and Creating a Life of Power and Beauty by Chris Widener
The following is an excerpt from The Angel Inside
The Whole book can be found at www.TheAngelInside.com
“Let us start with a story.” The old man began as he and Tom sat, looking at the David. ... Views: 3875
Most people think confidence is something you gain by being successful at something. Yet others say that you need to generate confidence in order to succeed. It's almost like the question "which comes first the chicken or the egg?"
Well, after over 20 years of helping people reach their ... Views: 3869
To be human means to be vulnerable and so it is incredibly important that we look after ourselves and don’t allow people to compromise who we are. Physically we are vulnerable and this also applies to our mental and emotional sides. Each one of these needs to be looked after and protected from ... Views: 3868
For millions of people, public speaking is a fear that they cannot overcome. Some experts believe that it is because it is the fear of speaking to peers or people who the speaker perceives to know more about whatever subject they are speak about. This occurs even though to become a public ... Views: 3841
Connecting With Others
By Dr. Joe Rubino
CEO, Http://www.CenterForPersonalReinvention.com
All too often, we live our lives in a state of isolation, keeping others out in an effort to protect ourselves from losing our identity and a sense of control. Although we crave intimacy, connectedness ... Views: 3839
New beginnings come in all shapes and sizes … maybe you’ve separated from your partner, lost a loved one, lost a job or a business you put your heart into building, experienced a health crisis, relocated to a new place, or simply experienced one of life’s periodic speed bumps.
We all need to ... Views: 3827
If our various child parts are not fully integrated into our adult self, we're likely at times to feel like a child inside an adult's body. We won't be able to feel truly grown up because our basic sense of self hasn't sufficiently evolved into the actual adult we've become. Our chronological ... Views: 3825
In a recent session I conducted with performers on what they wanted out of their performances, I found that many of the performers in the group were big believers in the Perfectionists’ Creed:
Perfectionists’ Creed: “If I try hard enough and I am very careful and I follow all of the ... Views: 3799
If you think about it, you'll find that low self esteem is like a mental jail, a set of rules, opinions and values, imposed by our own mind, which limit our abilities, our way of thinking and our life.
Do you like what you see in that mirror? Do you feel pride, compassion and respect about ... Views: 3789
Are you an unwilling, unconscious magnet for toxic people? If you often find yourself dealing with toxic people or if the effects of toxic encounters affect you more and for a longer time than they affect others, then you may be a Toxic Magnet.
Just because you have a couple of toxic ... Views: 3788
A very wise woman once said, ‘Dress how you want to be addressed.’ There couldn’t be more truth to this statement. What started off as a glamorous and burgeoning industry centuries back has today evolved as an inextricable part of society. The question we ask today in the article is, does ... Views: 3785
Most individuals think that their thoughts and dreams are merely thoughts and dreams. The Higher Self is a book by Deepak Chopra that will show you that everything you desire has the potential to come about in the present. All the spiritual requirements you possess in terms of love, acceptance, ... Views: 3782
How do you start?
The first goal in developing yourself in to identify the areas where you believe you may have a need for growth; and everyone has room for personal growth in some areas. It would be a mistake to think that you have failings that is not the same as reflecting on areas of your ... Views: 3764
When the chips are down, the athlete often cannot share his/her inner fears, anxiety and anger issues with the coach or their parents. Now, the athlete has a critical ally...the professional Sports Psychologist (also referred as the professional Sport Psychologist).
The Sports Psychologist, who ... Views: 3753
Overall, impossible is just a word to limit our beliefs and potential as to what we can and should do. Practically, it destroys our goals and puts us in a nutshell which we subconsciously resigned to as our comfort zone. Moreover, it contradicts on how to make everything possible.
We all ... Views: 3721
Of The classifications of animal, vegetable or mineral, where do we fit? According to most scientific authorities, we are the human animal.
AS WE LOOK into the animal kingdom we discover more often than not there exists a herd. Some people call it a tribe-same thing. And the herd has the ... Views: 3701
If you think that shyness is a 'normal' condition that you just need to endure, think again. People who are painfully shy miss out on a lot of things in life - from personal relationships, to job opportunities, to self-development. In extreme cases, shyness can manifest on the outside, making a ... Views: 3693
Debating as a vocation, in my school was a big thing. Students who were good in this segment of the school curriculum were praised, rewarded and those were not too adept at it, were ignored. Unfortunately I belonged to the latter group and it would not be an understatement to say that I did feel ... Views: 3693
There is overwhelming evidence that the higher the level of self-esteem, the more likely one will be to treat others with respect, kindness, and generosity. ~Nathaniel Branden
You may have heard it said that you can not love others if you do not love yourself. Having self-love means you care ... Views: 3677
Intimidation is why most people avoid pursuing others they want to meet. In the quest for sales this would mean C-levels and top decision makers. Sure there are those that storm the C-Suite only to be thrown back like undersized fish. These rouges are not intimidated, but they’re not too ... Views: 3640
Have you ever felt that there is a deep hole inside you? One you cannot fill. I think all of us do to some extent. It feels like sometime, when we were very, very young, something or some things happened that pulled the natural love out of us and left a endless hole, because Love is infinite. ... Views: 3635
QUESTION:
I’ve never been in a leadership position before. How do I get my team to trust my leadership? How do I get employees to follow me?
ANSWER:
First, recognize that your fears are perfectly normal and understandable. Every leader and executive I’ve coached during the last 12 ... Views: 3629