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If someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, they might not have a favourable view of their fellow human beings. As a result of this, they will be part of the human race but they can feel the need to keep their distance from others.
Through being this way, their life is likely to be far ... Views: 771
One of the effects of early abuse and/or neglect is that one can have no sense of their own value as an adult. Deep down, they can feel as though they have absolutely no value whatsoever.
As a result of this, it will probably be hard for them to feel comfortable in their own skin and they ... Views: 688
“Whatever we have taken from them, the founding story of our lives, imposed on us by a mother and father who in turn inherited a faulty script from their own parents, isn’t even ours.” – Derren Brown in Happy
There is an element of your shame that is not yours. It was drip-fed down through ... Views: 999
There are people on this planet that have a sense of their own value and then there are those that don’t. It can be as though some people were born with this in place, while others weren’t.
Still, even though it might seem as though this is something that someone is born with, there is far ... Views: 884
If someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, it may have stopped them from realising that they deserve to be here. As a result of what took place, it can be as if they have no right to be on this planet.
What took place at this stage of their life will then define how they experience ... Views: 760
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
"Triggering cascade" is when a seemingly minor trigger results in vastly disproportional trauma.
Painful memories, replete with the attendant negative emotions, are walled behind mental barriers: combinations of dams and ... Views: 1898
In recent years, a lot has been said about the importance of being present and living in the moment. Numerous books have been written about it and there have even been programs on TV that go into this.
This surely shows that this is something that is a challenge for a lot of people; if this ... Views: 796
If someone was abused as a child, it might be possible for them to see that their childhood was anything but nurturing. However, if they were neglected during this stage of their life, this might not be possible.
The reason for this is that when it comes to abuse, someone might be able to see ... Views: 761
As a child, one would have been powerless, dependent and not equipped to deal with their emotions or too much arousal. This is why they needed caregivers who were loving, caring, and emotionally in tune.
Yet, as they were abused at this stage of their life, they wouldn’t have received what ... Views: 729
Although someone could live in an area that is relatively safe, they could behave as though their life is constantly under threat. What this means is that they could have the tendency to be aggressive.
As a result of this, they could routinely get into heated arguments and even fights. So no ... Views: 690
As an adult, one will most likely have the ability to take action by moving their body and to speak by using their voice. Therefore, they will have the ability to just be and to do nothing, and they will have the ability to do and to express themselves.
However, while this could be the case, ... Views: 653
Towards the end of last year, I read the ‘The Divided Self’ by R.D. Laing and, before this, I read ‘The Integrity of the Personality’ by Anthony Storr. In one or both of these books, it went into how someone felt like a nobody as they were disconnected from their body.
One then had a physical ... Views: 637
When it comes to the tools that are held in high esteem in the self-development world, affirmations are right at the top. There are even people that believe that one can transform their whole life by using these alone.
For others, they will be seen as powerful but they won’t be seen as some ... Views: 663
Although someone will have a body and live on planet earth, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable being in their body and living on the earth. This can be due to what took place when they younger.
If this is so, thanks to what they went through as a child, they won’t be able to ... Views: 671
While it can seem as though being seen is a normal part of being human, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. So, just because someone’s being can be seen by others, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable with being seen for who they are.
There is then going to be a big ... Views: 710
Experiencing emotional trauma can be one of the hardest moments of your life. As you replay the events in your mind, it can seem overly difficult to focus on anything else. To get relief, you can participate in these five different strategies below.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
This is ... Views: 1315
If someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, it can be hard for them to just be. No matter what part of the day it is or what day of the week it is, they can more or less always be on the go.
Simply doing nothing and relaxing can be something that rarely, if ever, takes place. In a way, ... Views: 713
One thing that someone can experience a lot of, after having been abused as a child, is anger and even rage. Given what they went through during this stage of their life, it could be said that this is to be expected.
They may have been violated on a weekly, if not daily, basis, and this would ... Views: 650
If someone has a strong connection with their body, they will generally be in touch with their needs and feelings. Through having this connection, they will be able to fulfil their needs and to listen to their feelings.
This will make it easier for them to live a fulfilling life and to have ... Views: 672
Ideally, if someone was abused as a child, they would end up getting the assistance that they need now that they are an adult. At this point in their life, they will most likely be able to do something about what they went through.
The years will have passed, that much is clear, but what they ... Views: 742
In the same way that a child can disconnect from their feelings when they are too painful to handle, an adult can also do the same thing. In both cases, it can seem as though the feelings have disappeared.
Even so, in both cases the feelings will have most likely been pushed down into their ... Views: 824
If someone finds it hard to be emotionally balanced and to experience inner peace, there is the chance that their early years were not very nurturing. This may have been a time when they experienced some kind of abuse and/or neglect.
The time in their life that should have built them up would ... Views: 720
If someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, one thing that they may struggle with as an adult is saying no. Thanks to this, they can have the tendency to say yes when they would rather not do something.
This is going to mean that they will go along with things that they don’t really ... Views: 700
One thing that someone may find, that’s if they were abused and/or neglected as a child, is that it is hard for them to stand their ground. In other words, it will be a challenge for them to be assertive.
As a result of this, it will be normal for other people to walk over them and for them ... Views: 672
One thing that is often spoken about in self-development is the importance of being present. In some cases, this is seen as the answer to every problem and, in others, it is just seen as something that will allow someone to function better.
So when someone is present, they won’t be caught up ... Views: 754
One outcome of early abuse and/or neglected is that someone may find that it is hard for them to fulfil their needs now that they are an adult. What could be normal for them is taking care of other people’s needs.
As a result of this, they are going to spend a lot of time being there for ... Views: 676
If someone was abused and/or neglected during their early years, it could be hard for them to get close to others. Their early years would have been a time when the people that were supposed to love and protect them crossed their boundaries on a daily basis and violated them in a number of other ... Views: 820
If someone was abused and/or neglected when they were a child, it may be hard for them to reveal who they are now that they are an adult. What could feel comfortable is hiding from others and hiding when they are around others.
However, even though this is what can take place, it doesn’t mean ... Views: 899
One thing that early abuse and/or neglect can do is set someone up to have serious relationships problems as an adult. They could be used to having relationships that are dysfunctional.
Then again, it could be far worse, with them having had a number of relationships that were abusive. They ... Views: 1049
One thing that child abuse and/or neglect can do is stop someone from developing in the right way. The years will then pass and there will come a point in time when they will look like an adult, but that can be as far as it will go.
Behind their appearance can be someone who feels more ... Views: 682
One thing that can cause someone to get into self-development is if their life is not very fulfilling. What this can mean is that they haven’t been able to make much progress in life or perhaps they have made progress, but they have only been able to get so far.
Either way, they will be ... Views: 967
The other day I was looking through a book called, ‘How to Survive Without Psychotherapy’ by David Smail. From what I read, it was clear that this was someone who was not too keen on the type of approach that is often taken when it comes to mental and emotional problems.
He didn’t like the ... Views: 752
In recent years, a lot has been said about the amount of people that are not in a good way mentally and emotionally. Alongside this, a number of solutions have been put forward.
One thing that is often recommended, if someone is not in a good way, is that they open up to friends or family ... Views: 1042
Once again, reader’s discretion is advised. Also, due to the personal and intimate nature of the story, some names have been withheld.
At the beginning of the year 2016, we got an email and then (when we asked her) a call from a woman who was residing near Dallas, Texas and who had ... Views: 1009
The mourning process can be one of the most difficult things in the world, period. There are few experiences in life that can be as hard as dealing with the passing of someone who was important to you. If you’re trying to get through grief, then there are a number of things that can help you in ... Views: 725
If someone was abused as a child, they can be in a very bad way now that they are an adult. Like a car that has been in a massive accident, they won’t just have a few scratches; every part of them can be messed up.
So, their thoughts and emotions can be all over the place, their brain might ... Views: 854
There are a number of things that play a part in someone being able to live a life that is worth living, and having a sense of self worth is one of them. When one has this in place, it will be possible for them to feel good about themselves.
Through having the ability to feel good about ... Views: 1007
It could be said that everyone on this planet has a part of them that provides them with aggression. This part of someone will provide them with energy, drive, enthusiasm and the ability to stand their ground.
Of course, it can also be something that can cause them to cause destruction, not ... Views: 779
If someone had parent who was abusive during their early years, it can be hard for them to get on with them now that they are an adult. The reason for this is that this parent could be in denial when it comes to what took place all those years ago.
Or, this parent could make out that one ... Views: 739
When someone is in their body and feels connected to it, they will experience life in a certain way. For one thing, they will be aware of what their feelings and needs are, and this will mean that they will be in touch with their true-self.
Along with this, they will probably find that they ... Views: 773
Nowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to be told that they need to ‘stay in the moment’, ‘be present’ or to ‘live in the now’. Experiencing life in this way is often seen as the answer to most of life’s challenges.
Now, there is no denying that life is going to be a lot harder for ... Views: 735
If someone heard a loud bang, they could end up experiencing a strong reaction. Their whole body could end up freezing and they could stop breathing, that’s if their breathing doesn’t become very shallow.
Before long, they could end up getting out of this state and going to see what exactly ... Views: 760
When someone has a sense of safety, it will be possible for them to pay attention to what is taking place inside them and to utilise this information. In other words, one will be able to act like an individual.
Ultimately, they will feel comfortable being in their body and safe to exist, ... Views: 700
Operating a motorcycle involves different skills than driving a car. They’re far less stable on the highway and less visible to other drivers. The openness of the vehicle itself also makes motorcyclists far more susceptible to injury and vulnerable to conditions than other drivers. In fact, it’s ... Views: 1127
Boundaries can definitely be a tough thing to master, they also can have a profound impact on how we interact with others. For a lot of us, we weren’t taught how to have boundaries so it can be tough to figure these suckers out. Maybe the people that raised us didn’t have boundaries and modeled ... Views: 1271
In this video, Todd Creager shares a success story of how EMDR therapy helped an individual process, heal and move on from childhood trauma.
PTSD infiltrates people’s lives, their work, and relationships, often limiting them. Watch the video and listen to Todd tell the story of Sue who had a ... Views: 741
If someone had a problem with their car, they would probably take it to a garage to be fixed. There is then no need for them to take a deeper look into what is going on, as another person will do that for them.
However, if someone had mental and emotional problems, it is unlikely that ... Views: 830
When we are in the midst of life trauma it is very difficult to feel anything but the pain, hurt and disappointment related to that time in life. But very often, looking back in hindsight, we can find meaning, relevance, valuable lessons and insights that were the direct result of that drama. ... Views: 929
I know… mindfulness is pretty popular and everyone is encouraged to practice this weird thing. It will solve all of your problems, can eliminate cavities, will ensure that you will never feel sad again! Not exactly, but many people have found it helpful to bring awareness to what’s going on. It ... Views: 930
What the heck is EMDR? EMDR stands for eye-movement desensitization and reprocessing. Francine Shapiro, Ph.D, the woman that developed EMDR, suggests that painful or traumatic memories can get “locked” in the brain. These memories are often fragmented and incomplete and they can lead to us kinda ... Views: 1276