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- Change The Channel - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2019 from Rick HansonIn response to a previous JOT – Find Stillness – a wise therapist, Betsy Sansby, reminded me that sometimes a person just can’t find any stillness anywhere. Maybe you have epilepsy or chronic pain, or are wildly worried about a child or other loved one, or have been rejected in love or had the ...
Views: 17 - Love Someone - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2019 from Rick HansonSometimes something happens. Perhaps your sweet old cat takes a turn for the worse, or there’s a money problem, or your son waves goodbye as he gets on a plane to start college on the other side of the country. Sometimes it’s on a larger scale: maybe there’s been an election and you’re grappling ...
Views: 33 - 9 Resolutions to Become the Best You in 2019 - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2019 from Carmen HarraA funny thing happens right around this time of the year: we suddenly realize that we want to change. We want to lose weight or eat healthier, save money or give up old habits. So we set January first as the official date of change and start to seek improvement, sometimes desperately, and ...
Views: 66 - How to Stop Worrying - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2019 from Dada BhagwanWorries, worries, worries! The day starts with worries and ends with worries. We all desire to live a peaceful life, free from all worries. Yet we worry. Why? Param Pujya Dadashri beautifully explains to us ‘What is called worry?’, ‘When and why do we worry?’, ‘What are the dire consequences ...
Views: 54 - See What's Likable - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2018 from Rick HansonLiking feels good, plus it encourages us to approach and engage the world rather than withdraw from it. Your brain continually tracks whether something is pleasant, unpleasant, or neutral. In essence, is it a carrot, a stick, or safely ignored? Naturally, we like - we enjoy - what's pleasant, ...
Views: 32 - Mobile Usage Safety for Your Children - A Parent Guide - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2018 from Abhinav BhutadaAs children are engaging in mobile activities at a faster pace, it is crucial to guide them for its safe usage for Internet exploration. Let us have a look at the mobile usage safety for your children. A parent guide has been presented here. We teach our children how to behave ...
Views: 63 - Find Stillness. - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2018 from Rick HansonThings keep changing. The clock ticks, the day unfolds, trees grow, leaves turn brown, hair turns gray, children grow up and leave home, attention skitters from this to that, the cookie is delicious but then it’s all gone, you’re mad about something for awhile and then get over it, consciousness ...
Views: 53 - Can Your Children Be Honest - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2018 from Randi FineCan Your Children Be Honest? Parenting Advice: Establishing Open Communication and Trust Written by Randi G Fine Children go through phases, particularly during their adolescent years, when they see no logical or justifiable reason to communicate with their parents for any reason other ...
Views: 82 - Rest Your Weary Head. - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2018 from Rick HansonThe traditional saying that's this week's practice has been sinking in for me lately. Thoughts have been swirling around like a sandstorm about work, things I've been reading, household tasks, finances, concerns about people, a yard that needs mowing, loose ends, projects, etc. etc. The other ...
Views: 65 - Parenting 101: How a House Move to Bournemouth Can Affect Your Kids - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2018 from Stephanie CooperHouse moves are among the top five most-stressful life-changing events a person can experience, alongside the divorce, sudden unemployment, loss of a family member and long-term illnesses. There are many reasons behind the need for home relocation, some good, some not so much but once started ...
Views: 132 - How Your Home’s Decor Affects Your Mental Health - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2018 from Brooke ChaplanHome decorating decisions are often heavily influenced by the homeowner’s personal style and preferences. A home should make a statement about the homeowner, but there is plenty of room to creatively accomplish this. Your decorative choices play a major role on mood and mental health, so home ...
Views: 253 - Accepting Help: 5 Ways to Prepare for Self-Care - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2018 from Anica OaksSelf-care is the essential practice of engaging in regular activities or practices to reduce stress, maintain and enhance our physical, emotional, mental well-being and health. It’s learning to take care of yourself, knowing your limits, and not sacrificing your health for others. More people ...
Views: 150 - Gift Yourself. - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2018 from Rick HansonCan you remember a time when you offered a gift to someone? Perhaps a holiday present, or a treat to a child, or taking time for a friend – or anything at all. How did this feel? Researchers have found that giving stimulates the same neural networks that light up when we feel physical pleasure, ...
Views: 55 - Enjoy Now - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2018 from Rick HansonThere’s a profound and miraculous mystery right under our noses: this instant of now has no duration at all, yet somehow it contains all the causes from the past that are creating the future. Everything arising to become this moment vanishes beneath our feet as the next moment wells up. Since ...
Views: 88 - Dr. Romance on The Importance of Humor - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: We are such an inventive species. We are also a species with a sense of humor. I think the two are connected. It takes a sense of humor to be able to stumble around in an unfamiliar situation until you figure it out. Current research has ...
Views: 135(1 vote) - Find What's Sacred. - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2018 from Rick HansonThe word, sacred, has two kinds of meanings. First, it can refer to something related to religion or spirituality. Second, more broadly, it can refer to something that one cherishes, that is precious, to which one is respectfully, even reverently, dedicated, such as honesty with one's life ...
Views: 71 - Avoid the Rush. - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2018 from Rick HansonAs I was meditating this morning, our cat hopped up in my lap. It felt sweet to sit there with him. And yet - even though I was feeling fine and had plenty of time, there was this internal pressure to start zipping along with emails and calls and all the other clamoring minutiae of the ...
Views: 74 - STAYING POSITIVE REGARDLESS - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2018 from Dean FraserSTRESS FREE LIVING EVERY DAY Part of our experience of living on this bluey green planet of ours is that from time to time we all find ourselves feeling either a little or perhaps even rather a lot stressed. If this is going to be just a short-term situation, more often than not it is ...
Views: 155 - Find Your North Star. - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2018 from Rick HansonI did a meditation retreat (at Spirit Rock, wonderful place, including for workshops). One evening as we walked out of the hall after the last sit, I was feeling rattled and discombobulated. (One of the benefits of a retreat - though it can be uncomfortable - is that it stirs up of the sediments ...
Views: 103 - Results of Positive Thinking - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2019 from Dada BhagwanEveryone faces difficulties in life such as loss of job, loss of family member, ill-health, financial crisis etc.; we too would have faced many. But we may not have faced them with a positive thinking, as we usually get trapped into negative thoughts, the moment we come across any difficult ...
Views: 119(1 vote) - Negative to Positive Mindset - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2019 from Dada BhagwanOur life feels so fulfilling when our mindset is positive, whereas negative thoughts and feelings drag us into suffering. So if our mindset is already negative, we should look at changing it into positive, at the earliest. What can we do to bring about this change? Let’s see… 1.Fight ...
Views: 121 - Why Mental Illnesses Require Attention Even When You Feel Well - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2018 from Brooke ChaplanMany people suffer from mental illness at some point in their lives. For some people, the illness is relatively short-lived, but many people must receive some type of treatment for their mental illness for many long years or even for the rest of their lives. Some people may be inclined to stop ...
Views: 165 - Cling Less, Love More - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2018 from Rick HansonAs a rock climber and a parent, I know some physical kinds of clinging are good - like to small holds or small hands! But clinging as a psychological state has a feeling of tension in it, and drivenness, insistence, obsession, or compulsion. As experiences flow through the mind - seeing, ...
Views: 142 - "Can We Ever Be 'Too Much'" - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2018 from Barry and Joyce VissellAt our recent retreat in Assisi, Italy, besides visiting powerful spiritual places, our group entered into an atmosphere of deep healing. Sometimes Joyce and I have the opportunity not only to lead the retreat, but also to participate in some of the exercises for our own continual healing, which ...
Views: 134 - Positive Thinking – The Key to Absolute Bliss - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2019 from Dada BhagwanThere are many situations in life like ill-health, loss of job, lack of money, relationship issues, bringing up children, lack of appreciation or motivation at the office or home, harsh weather, car breakdown, heavy traffic and many more. How do we deal with such situations in our daily life? ...
Views: 131 - Pay Attention. - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2018 from Rick HansonMoment to moment, the flows of thoughts and feelings, sensations and desires, and conscious and unconscious processes sculpt your nervous system like water gradually carving furrows and eventually gullies on a hillside. Your brain is continually changing its structure. The only question is: Is ...
Views: 112 - This Strange Journey of Aging - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2018 from Nicole AI'm in my late twenties, and that feels strange to write. For so long, I was the youngest everywhere I went. The youngest in my classes, the youngest in my workplace, the youngest of all my friends. I've always been told that I'm mature for my age. That I'm "wise beyond my years." That I was ...
Views: 133 - ***Staying Positive in a Negative World - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2018 from Judi MoreoWhen the nightly news is filled with the major tragedies of today, it is very hard to stay positive and upbeat. Even if these terrible things weren’t done to us or to someone we love, they still affect us. They are all around us. They are being done to people who are like us, who have ...
Views: 155 - Leave the Red Zone. - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2018 from Rick HansonThere I was recently, my mind darting in different directions about projects in process, frazzled about little tasks backing up, uneasy about a tax record from 2010 we couldn’t find, feeling irritated about being irritable, hurrying to get to work, body keyed up, internal sense of pressure. Not ...
Views: 89 - JUPITER IN SAGITTARIUS: The Kingdom of Heaven is Within the Heart of the World - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2018 from joan pancoeTo view in your browser and see all the images and activate all the links CLICK HERE: http://joanpancoe.com/page-newsletter-details.php?nl=130 “There’s no situation in which you can be without a partner. If you have no human partner, then the whole of phenomenal reality is your partner.” ...
Views: 276(1 vote) - How can i avoid negativity - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2019 from Dada BhagwanNegative thoughts take away all the good and happiness that we experience in our daily life. The negative things that the intellect shows is actually of no use to us. Highlighted below are few of the ways to combat the negativity that may arise in you: 1.Drive out the Negative ...
Views: 132 - Be Benevolent. - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2018 from Rick HansonBenevolence is a fancy word that means something simple: good intentions toward living beings, including oneself. This goodwill is present in warmth, friendliness, compassion, ordinary decency, fair play, kindness, altruism, generosity, and love. The benevolent heart leans toward others; it ...
Views: 113 - Top Tips for Caring for Your Mental Well-Being - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2018 from Pie chanGenerally speaking, the phrase mental well-being describes how well a person can cope with his or her everyday life. Caring for your mental well-being is possibly the most important thing you can do. A positive mental well-being can make you feel safer in your own body and help you to make ...
Views: 232(1 vote) - Make The Offering. - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2018 from Rick HansonOne of the strangest and most meaningful experiences of my life occurred when I going through Rolfing (ten brilliant sessions of deep-tissue bodywork) in my early 20's. The fifth session works on the stomach area, and I was anticipating (= dreading) the release of buried sadness. Instead, there ...
Views: 127 - Don't Beat Yourself Up - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2018 from Rick HansonThe previous JOT - admit fault and move on - was about our relationship with other people. This JOT applies the same practice to ourselves. Most people know their less than wonderful qualities, such as too much ambition (or too little), a weakness for wine or cookies, something of a temper, ...
Views: 112 - Admit Fault and Move On. - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2018 from Rick HansonHave you ever watched two people quarrel, or otherwise be stuck in a conflict with each other? Usually, if either or both of them simply acknowledged one or more things, that would end the fight. Recall a time someone mistreated you, let you down, dropped the ball, made an error, spoke ...
Views: 133 - Cultivating Good Sleep Hygiene - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2018 from Pax TandonGet rid of any electronics or devices in the bedroom. It’s meant for two things: sleeping and sexing (I said sexing, not sexting). When you allow too much of the outside world into the bedroom, distractions infiltrate the sacred space meant solely for rest, relaxation, and procreation. Shut ...
Views: 171 - Be The Body. - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2018 from Rick HansonAs a kid, I was really out of touch with my body. I hardly noticed it most of the time, and when I did, I prodded it like a mule to do a better job of hauling "me" - the head - around. This approach helped me soldier through some tough times. But there were costs. Many pleasures were numbed, ...
Views: 122 - Getting Help: 3 Ways Therapy Can Keep You out of Trouble - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2018 from Brooke ChaplanWhen you break a bone or become ill, most people wouldn’t think twice about going to see a doctor. When it comes to trauma or other mental health issues, however, there seems to still be a great deal of shame that surrounds the idea of seeking out the help of a counselor, therapist or other ...
Views: 161 - Back to Basics. - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2018 from Rick HansonIn middle school, I thought it would be cool to play a musical instrument and picked the clarinet. My wise parents rented one rather than buying it, and I started practicing. (In the garage because it sounded pretty screechy.) After a week or two of doing scales, I got bored and picked my way ...
Views: 147 - Caught in a Thought - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2018 from Sheryl PaulA coaching client recently shared the following (shared here with her permission): A few weeks ago, I found myself obsessively thinking about a situation with a friend of mine – someone to whom I’ve given my power for many years. I was completely caught by this theme and I couldn’t get out ...
Views: 217 - Know You're a Good Person. - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2018 from Rick HansonFor many of us, perhaps the hardest thing of all is to believe that "I am a good person." We can climb mountains, work hard, acquire many skills, act ethically - but truly feel that one is good deep down? Nah! We end up not feeling like a good person in a number of ways. For example, I once ...
Views: 162 - Whose Feelings Are You Responsible For - Yours or Others? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2018 from Margaret PaulDo you believe you are responsible for causing others' anger, hurt, sadness or anxiety? Is this causing you to feel guilty? "My wife is so upset that I have to travel more on my new job," Chuck told me in our phone counseling session. "She feels so alone and lost when I'm gone. When I talk ...
Views: 316 - Feed The Wolf Of Love. - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2018 from Rick HansonI once heard a Native American teaching story in which an elder, a grandmother, was asked what she had done to become so happy, so wise, so loved and respected. She replied: "It's because I know that there are two wolves in my heart, a wolf of love and a wolf of hate. And I know that everything ...
Views: 148 - Seven reasons to stop being a doormat! - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2018 from Lynda HudsonPeople may be taking advantage of your good nature But perhaps you are letting them do it! Maybe you are too ready to say ‘yes’ when people ask you to do something even when it isn’t what you want. Or even when it is really inconvenient. You may begin to feel very resentful after a ...
Views: 237 - Drop Tart Tone. - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2018 from Rick HansonTone matters. I remember times I felt frazzled or aggravated and then said something with an edge to it that just wasn't necessary or useful. Sometimes it was the words themselves: such as absolutes like "never" or always," or over-the-top phrases like "you're such a flake" or "that was ...
Views: 160 - Lower The Pressure. - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2018 from Rick HansonThings come at us with so much urgency and demand these days. Phones ring, texts buzz, emails pile up, new balls have to be juggled, work days lengthen and move into evenings and weekends, traffic gets denser, financial demands feel like a knife at the neck, ads and news clamor for attention, ...
Views: 152 - See Beings, Not Bodies. - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2018 from Rick HansonWhen we encounter someone, usually the mind automatically slots the person into a category: man, woman, your friend Tom, the kid next door, etc. Watch this happen in your own mind as you meet or talk with a co-worker, salesclerk, or family member. In effect, the mind summarizes and simplifies ...
Views: 180 - Step Into The Cloud. - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2018 from Rick HansonI had a lightbulb moment recently: I was feeling stressed about all the stuff I had to do (you probably know the feeling). After this went on for a while, I stepped back and kind of watched my mind, and could see that I was thinking of these various tasks as things, like big rocks that were ...
Views: 175 - Positive Health Effects of Having a Garden - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2018 from Ronald WolfThere is no greater way to combine a complete body workout, get mental tranquility and produce nutritional products for your dinner table than to do gardening. By having your little private green heaven, you will not only reap what you've sowed but also you will have a chance to blend in with ...
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