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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- The 51% Rule — Boundaries are Your Friend - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2016 from Chandra LynnHave you ever felt like you are doing more to help your partner then they are to help themselves? Sometimes it just seems easier to take control and get things done on your own than ask your partner to do their part. And they may be completely happy with having you take care of business. But ...
Views: 5944(1 vote) - What To Do When Ex Boyfriend Won't Get Back Together With Me - Answers - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2016 from Joan RiversWhat To Do When Ex Boyfriend Won't Get Back Together With Me; You are here because your ex boyfriend won't get back together with you. Although this may seem like an impossible situation to be in, you can change things around and make him come running back to you by understanding male psychology ...
Views: 5940 - Will A Trial Separation Save Or Break Your Marriage? Find Out Here! - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2011 from Mika MaddelaMany couples out there with a failing marriage question whether or not a trial marriage separation will make or break their marriage. If you are seriously thinking about whether or not you and your spouse should get separated, please read on. Many couples with failing marriage living under ...
Views: 5930(2 votes) - Love, Lust and Friendship - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2010 from Susan DerryCarl Reiner stated, “Lust is easy. Love is hard. Like is most important.” What is the difference between lust and love, between loving and liking? Love involves being as concerns for someone else’s welfare as you are for your own. Love allows us to care for, serve and sacrifice for each ...
Views: 5928 - Breaking the Groundhog Day Relationship Syndrome - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2010 from Roy Biancalana.Breaking the Groundhog Day Relationship Syndrome How to Stop Attracting the Same Partner Over and Over Again Roy Biancalana Relationship Coach and Author www.coachingwithroy.com 407-687-3387 After a series of bad or unsatisfactory relationships, people often come to me for help being ...
Views: 5921 - Mixed Messages... - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2010 from Denise PendletonCommunication ~ it's such an important aspect of life and yet so few people really know how to communicate well. So many of us don't even realize we are poor communicators. Mixed messages are just one of many ways that people communicate poorly. Mixed messages occur when spoken words don't ...
Views: 5915(1 vote) - ***Core Sadness vs. Wounded Sadness - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2010 from Margaret PaulVery often, in my work with my clients, when I ask them what they are feeling they say, "I feel sad." Often, they do not know why they feel sad.Sadness comes from two very different sources.Core SadnessCore sadness is sadness that is in reaction to something that is happening or has ...
Views: 5903(7 votes) - Put The Petty Bickering Behind You And Be Happy With Your Girlfriend! - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2010 from Andrew HunterIt almost seems as if there's a stage of petty bickering and arguing that all relationships must go through. You'll find yourself having disagreements, sometimes over pointless or stupid things, even when the relationship seems to be going great! You'll find that sometimes tempers flare for no ...
Views: 5894(4 votes) - ***Feeling Disconnected From Your Partner? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2011 from Margaret Paul"We can't seem to connect anymore."This is one of the most common complaints I hear in my counseling practice.We all know that it is generally easy to connect at the beginning of a relationship - before all the protections and defenses come up. But what do you do to reconnect once you ...
Views: 5892 - Change Your Perception Change Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2010 from Susan DerryIf you have difficulties in your relationship, your perspective may be part of the problem. Consider how you are looking at your relationship and how you are looking at your partner? Your perception of your partner and your relationship affects the reality that you experience. Thinking and ...
Views: 5892(3 votes) - Relationships: What Is Emotional Cut-Off? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one made a mess somewhere, they could either clean it up or they could leave it where it was. If they were to take the first option, it might take them a while, and this may mean they have to put something else on hold. However, if they were to take the second option, it might allow them ...
Views: 5882 - I Messed Up My Relationship with My Boyfriend: I Messed Up My Relationship How Do I Fix It - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2017 from Michael BradI Messed Up My Relationship with My Boyfriend: I Messed Up My Relationship How Do I Fix It "I pushed my boyfriend away and now I want him back." How you wish you could just turn back time so you could undo your actions, right? You regret pushing him away but at the time you just felt it was ...
Views: 5876 - Make Your Ex Boyfriend Beg You to Take Him Back - 3 Secrets to Make Him Crawl Back to You - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2011 from Christian CalebMake your ex boyfriend come crawling back with the 3 secrets I am about to share with you. Utilizing these 3 secrets, many girls continue to successfully keep their guys coming back for more. And you can too, read more to find out how. Live Positively. Take care of yourself and your body, ...
Views: 5875 - Go for a Twin Flame, Not a Soul Mate - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2009 from Jim HagueBy Jim Hague It is long believed in western culture that concept behind Soul Mates pertain to lovers only. But the dictionary defines soul mates as two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity. This does not necessarily imply lovers. Us spiritual ...
Views: 5872(2 votes) - Ten Ways To Use Anger To Build Confidence and Succeed - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondLouis shock turns to disbelief and anger The world caved in on Louis when his girlfriend of three years ditched him, complaining he was ‘too needy!’ Louis had been the devoted boyfriend and caretaker. He did whatever she asked no matter what the cost to him. He cut out his friends and family. ...
Views: 5868(1 vote) - Trust in Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Kim OlverIn my work with couples, I often find a lack of trust at the root of many challenges they report. Trust is a Verb We have been taught to believe trust is a commodity to be earned by others. Once they have passed certain tests, then we feel safe to extend our trust. I would like to entertain ...
Views: 5856(7 votes) - How To Get A Girl To Ask You Out In 3 Simple Steps - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2011 from Michael LeeWant to know how to get a girl to ask you out? Then this article is for you. Contrary to what you might think, women can be just as gutsy as the next guy nowadays. Still, there isn’t a lot of information out there on getting a lady to ask you out. I believe that any man can use more help ...
Views: 5852(1 vote) - Psychological Trick For Ethically Manipulating Your Ex Into Getting Back With You! - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2013 from Jeff ThomasIf you've just broken up with your ex, you are at the place. I understand if you are depressed, angry and frustrated at the moment. This is a natural reaction to what is likely to be one of the emotionally toughest experiences you'll go through, especially if you and your ex had a strong bond ...
Views: 5851(3 votes) - Being Dumped Sucks – How You Can Get Over It - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Chris RobertsThere are many reasons why people are being dumped. You would never know if a relationship can last as it may look fine at the moment. But whatever may be the reason, you need to get over the bad experience as soon as you can. Life presents its own challenges to face in different forms. This is ...
Views: 5849 - 5 Top Tips To Improve Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2007 from Chris GreenAre you like millions of other people who've endured the frustration of relationship breakdown? Perhaps you're disillusioned with love because relationship after relationship never lasts. Here are 5 reasons as to why many relationships breakdown to help you form lasting, happier unions. ...
Views: 5848(1 vote) - The Complete Idiot's Guide to Sensual Massage - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2008 from Maya SilvermanHave you ever wanted to give your beloved a great sensual massage experience but didn't know where to start? Get the quick key steps to injecting some more pleasure and stimulation in to your relationship. Set Up Essentials: • A comfortable table or bed that will allow the massager access ...
Views: 5847 - How to Tell if Your Girlfriend Loves You - Take the Litmus Test for Love - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2017 from Marlon RayeDo you remember something you did to test the love of your beloved? Yes, I'm talking about the rose. You sat down in front of her, plucking each petal with the alternating chant of “she loves me, she loves me not.” It was an immature action and performed as a mere joke. But you won’t deny ...
Views: 5844 - Ex Boyfriend Has A New Girlfriend: I Miss My Ex Boyfriend But He Has A Girlfriend - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2017 from Michael Brad"My ex has a girlfriend and I want him back." Does that sound like something you've been thinking or saying recently? If it is, you're stuck in a pretty miserable position. Seeing the man you love with another woman is enough to break anyone's heart. It's emotional torture at its worst. All you ...
Views: 5843 - Make Every Day Valentine's Day - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2012 from Timothy HollandValentine’s Day should be every day in dating and relationships. Though it is nice that a day is set aside to celebrate love for someone, February 14 should not be the only day. As the song by the late Teena Marie says ‘365 is a year’ and that’s how much you should love your dear. This does ...
Views: 5843 - How to Align Intentions, Actions, Emotion, and Thoughts for Law of Attraction Creation - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2011 from Nanette GeigerIt might seem like common sense, but to most people it's almost too simple to accept; you are what you think, what you feel, and what has happened to you, and this does not always give you room for much conscious choice. Almost every normal person goes about their day on relative cruise ...
Views: 5830(2 votes) - ***The Seven Most Common Mistakes Made By Marriage Counselors - Part 1 of 2 - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have studied successfully married couples for over 26 years on six of the world’s seven continents. We have traveled in more countries than we can remember. And while our focus has been on those who have made their marriages work; we are also ...
Views: 5812(38 votes) - When Your Ex Boyriend Needs Space From You - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2013 from David BrittoEverybody of us in our lives has experienced a break up. We sure don't think about break-ups when we start a new relationship. We target the positive and happy times when a relationship is fairly new. With time, issues may occur in any relationship. Here are several tips that can help you in ...
Views: 5810 - Fear Of Commitment - Are You As Strong As This Woman? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Sarah MichaelsAre you facing a relationship – or even a NON-relationship – that is prevented from moving forward due to fear of commitment? Have you taken any steps to try to confront and banish this fear, or, like many women, do you resort to needy behavior such as clinging or unproductive displays of anger? ...
Views: 5801 - Is He Killing Your Spirit? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2011 from Kara OhOkay, here’s how my thinking rolled along, ending up with the above title, knowing I had something helpful to share with you… I’m sitting out here on my patio, looking at my beautiful view, listening to John Legend’s “So High,” sent to me by Stephen, my CO (Chosen One) in a text. (Check out the ...
Views: 5800(1 vote) - How to Sweet Talk to a Girl to Make Her Feel Special - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2012 from How To Get GirlsA lot of men are intimated by women who are more liberated and wanted equal treatment thus they are reluctant to show acts of chivalry and are not even motivated to learn how to sweet talk a girl. But this not always the case, some girls would still go for romantic guys. Girls still want to be ...
Views: 5795 - The Three 'Magic' Questions To Save Your Marriage - by Submitted on May 10, 2010 from Greg BakerFor years, as a Pastor and counselor, I've had to figure out how to save someone's marriage. Here is a short formula that I use to find out where the problems may truly lie, and knowing them, I can recommend a plan on what needs to be done to fix the broken relationship. You can follow it for ...
Views: 5786(2 votes) - Dear Kim...Why Can't I Leave My Narcissistic Boyfriend? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2013 from Kim SaeedDear Kim, I have been with my Narcissistic Partner for four years. He’s been cruel, demeaning, and lies to me left and right. I know he’s not good for me, but I keep hanging on to the nice part of him that I know exists. Aside from being emotionally abusive and irresponsible, he has a ...
Views: 5776 - Start Now to Change Your Bad Relationship Habits - by Submitted on May 27, 2009 from Susie and Otto CollinsHabits. We've all got them. Some of our habitual ways are beneficial and others can limit or even harm us. Couples can also fall into habits or tendencies in their relationship. It might be the assumptions you each tend to make about one another. It could be the habitual ways you two usually ...
Views: 5773 - Anger Management: The 5 Relationship Killers - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2010 from Joe JamesAnger Management: The 5 Relationship Killers At times, every marriage or significant relationship has times in which anger management would be helpful. Its pretty hard to live with someone and not get angry with them at some point. Interestingly, research has shown that its not the number of ...
Views: 5772(2 votes) - How Do I Tell My Ex Boyfriend I Still Love Him - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2016 from Vanessa MooreHow Do I Tell My Ex Boyfriend I Still Love Him And Want To Start A Family With Him. My ex boyfriend and I broke up in October 2012 (long story why we broke up). On December 22, 2012 he sends me a text out of the blue saying that he misses me and that he still loves me. Problem is I met a new ...
Views: 5761(1 vote) - Engagement Anxiety Relieved: Working with Projection - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2010 from Sheryl PaulMost people in an intimate relationship will, at some point, find themselves stuck in a projection about their partner. Projections are a bit challenging to define and even more challenging to see it when you’re in it. In Wikipedia’s words: “Psychological projection or projection bias ...
Views: 5758(3 votes) - What To Text A Girl - How To Use Callback Humor To Create Instant Attraction - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2011 from Ethan ZelmandoA lot of guys struggle with not know what to text a girl in order to get her to feel that same excitement and attraction that she felt when she first met you. But what if I told you that there is a technique for texting her that could pull her back into the state that she was in when you two ...
Views: 5752 - Be a Man Magnet With This Secret Weapon - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Kara OhIs shyness or insecurity keeping you from meeting your soul mate? Here’s a simple way to become more confident and start having more fun. Men agree that one of the most attractive qualities in a woman is when she’s self-assured, likes herself, is comfortable with who she is, likes how she ...
Views: 5750 - Reasons Why You Feel Rejected Or Why Everyone Hates You - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2011 from Greg BakerEver feel that way? Do you feel that everyone hates you? As a pastor and counselor, I have encountered many people who feel this way. In looking into it, I have pinpointed a variety of causes and effects for this discouraging feeling of rejection. In knowing the causes, you may be able to combat ...
Views: 5750 - Letter to Get Your Ex Back - You Can Still Win Them Back - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2011 from John OnyekaBreak ups hardly ever occur on joint accords and usually one person is left unhappy. The one who is dumped to a certain extent clearly wants to get back together however the idea of really getting it done may seem overwhelming. I am here to let you know that you can win back your ex however if ...
Views: 5746 - 5 Ways To Stay Positive During The Dating Process - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2014 from Lorraine JacksonAfter briefly discussing the importance of maintaining a positive attitude about dating in a previous article; one reader commented that although it would probably be much easier for younger women to remain positive when attempting to attract a man, for someone her age, being positive was a lot ...
Views: 5745(2 votes) - Discover How To Build An Emotional Connection With A Man: How To Connect With A Man On An Emotional Level - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2017 from James UadialeDiscover How To Build An Emotional Connection With A Man: How To Connect With A Man On An Emotional Level Having a deep emotional connection with your man is something every woman wishes for. Not all men seem open to that though and it can become very frustrating when it's something you long ...
Views: 5739 - Dysfunctional Love: What Is Dysfunctional Love? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is clear to see that in the world we live in, what is often classed as love is anything but love and could be classed as dysfunctional and in some cases abusive. So this is going to be my perspectives on some of the things that are not love. We come to understand what something is, by ...
Views: 5737 - How to Make a Good Apology - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2009 from Isabel KirkOne of the biggest problems my clients complain about everyday is not that the person they love hurt them or did something wrong. It is the fact that the person didn’t apologize or the apology did not feel sincere. Let’s face it. We don’t really know how to apologize and the problem is that it ...
Views: 5731 - Understanding the hierarchy of values - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2011 from Maria ErvingWhy understanding each others values can help resolve conflicts. Assuming that you have taken your time to identify your values, it's very important to become clear about the hierarchy they are in as well. Why is that? Because we can share values with the people we surround ourselves ...
Views: 5728(1 vote) - Relationships: Don't Settle For Less Than the Best - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2010 from Gloria ArensonDo you settle for relationships with people because you secretly believe that you can't do better? I once knew a wonderful and loving minister who used to tell a story about one of his parishioners who came to him for guidance. She was a lovely woman who was having trouble financially. She told ...
Views: 5724(1 vote) - Engagement Anxiety Relieved: Daily Journaling - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2009 from Sheryl PaulWhen my clients are struggling with engagement anxiety and marriage fear, they often ask what they can do between sessions to help alleviate their suffering. I offer a variety of specific exercises depending on the details of the client’s story, but there is one exercise I suggest to all my ...
Views: 5722(2 votes) - 3 Tips On Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back Before It's Too Late! - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2011 from Mika MaddelaAre you suffering from a painful breakup? Do you feel broken inside? A breakup can leave you feeling shattered inside. If your boyfriend recently broke up with you and you want to get him back before he moves on with his life without you, please keep reading. Tips On Getting Him Back # 1: ...
Views: 5721 - My Wife and Mother Can't Stand Each Other by Linda Lipshutz, MS, LCSW, ACSW - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2010 from linda lipshutz“My wife and My Mother Can’t Stand Each Other” by Linda Lipshutz, M.S., LCSW Rob W. writes: ”My wife and I have been arguing incessantly and I am beside myself. Stacy and I have been married for five years and the problem seems to be getting worse, not better. I’ve always been very close to ...
Views: 5719(2 votes) - ***Looking for Love in All the Right Places - by Submitted on May 14, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We believe that many folks are afraid of marriage because they read the dire predictions about marriage in the news, they watch way too much television where the focus is, more often than not, on glorifying sex and multiple relationships, and because ...
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