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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Soul Mates or Cell Mates? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2009 from Michele LandersWhen we hear the words “Soul Mate,” most people conjure up visions of that special someone specifically molded and made for them and only them. Someone who understands us as no other person can. And, like synchronized swimmers, “Soul Mates” are in tune and in rhythm with one another, navigating ...
Views: 757(1 vote) - Is Your Relationship in Danger? Take This 10 Question Quiz to Find Out - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2009 from Jonathan HuieYou have the occasional argument. Sometimes you feel frustrated, and you have that uneasy sense that everything is not as it should be. Is your relationship in trouble? The answer may not be obvious. Take this quiz to measure the overall state of your relationship and highlight the trouble ...
Views: 1035(2 votes) - Are You Healing an Affair? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2010 from Janice TownsendIt's Tuesday and you're thinking about where you're going at the weekend. You're spouse says they would like to speak to you about something. 'Sure, What's up?' And the words come back to you as though they've been delivered from a dream. 'I've been having an affair for the past ...
Views: 590 - Infidelity and the Road to Recovery - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2010 from Janice TownsendYes, you can recover from the tragedy that infidelity is, but it may take some time. Probably best to think in terms of twelve months minimum, and most likely two years. This may not be what you want to hear just now, as you may be at the very beginning of your trauma. However, don't think ...
Views: 565 - A Brief Look at Betrayal - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2010 from Janice TownsendNobody expects it will happen to them, and that's part of the problem. At least it's that belief, that trust, that takes the hardest blow when the news of infidelity blows its cold chill along the corridors. It's the crushing of one's trust, and core beliefs that brings about the intital ...
Views: 576 - Is Break Up the End of a Relationship? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2009 from Jamie GrantThere is nothing you can do to avoid the pain and the frustration when you have to face a break up. Especially if you felt real love and counted on it. There are lots of tips and advices everywhere about how to mend a broken heart, how to survive a break up, healing a broken heart and so on. But ...
Views: 508 - ***Marriage Help: 3 Steps to Becoming a Better Listener - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2009 from Richard Nicastro"You never listen to me...I've asked you a thousand times to let me know when you can't pick the kids up from daycare!" In my work with couples, it is common to hear one person accuse the other of "not listening." This usually takes the following form: 1. You ask your partner to do something ...
Views: 864 - Three Ways for Couples to Stop the Tug of War - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2012 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondValerie was hurt and upset. Barry dismissed her plans for the Thanksgiving holiday but supported the same proposals coming from cousin Ruth. What made it even worse was that Barry seemed oblivious to the stinging rebuke he had dealt his wife. Silenced by the lump growing in her throat and the ...
Views: 1319 - ***Caring For Aging Parents Can Challenge Your Marriage - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We are “baby-boomers.” Like some 80 million Americans, we were born during the period 1946-1964. We are that generation of Americans born to what former NBC anchor Tom Brokaw called, “The Greatest Generation.” Our parents survived the Great ...
Views: 4360(32 votes) - Silly Love Songs: I Wanna Hold Your Hand - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2009 from Tony CucksonSome people say They’ve had enough of Silly love songs. - Paul McCartney, Just Another Silly Love Song Let this Irish storyteller suggest a time when people could really say they’ve had enough of ‘silly love songs.’ It’s when they are dead. Before such time ...
Views: 875 - Manifesting Love - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Kristy Robinett"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all of the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." A Course in Miracles With Valentine's Day fast approaching, I thought it would be fitting for me to focus in on love and relationships, which is probably the ...
Views: 764(3 votes) - 4 Things to Get Rid of Toxic Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2009 from Chris RobertsFor starting a new and healthy relationship, you need to first create a space for it by getting rid and throwing the toxic relationship out of your life. In this world we build so many relationships with different people. These relationships we have can directly affect our life in every possible ...
Views: 1206 - Valentine’s Day Recessionomics - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2009 from James LeGrandWe are in a world wide economic downturn. This Valentine’s Day won’t be about the size or the price of the gift one receives. Materialism in this economy would be irresponsible. More of an emphasis must be placed on truthful expressions of love this Valentine’s Day. So, how can we express our ...
Views: 726 - Why Communication is the Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2009 from Joshua UebergangYou have heard communication is important for relationships, romance, and love. Well, I take this a step further. Communication is the relationship. Communication connects people. You can do neither when communication is nonexistent. How do you maintain or build a strong relationship when you ...
Views: 924 - 4 Freedoms Integration Exercise (18): Floating Lights - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2009 from Al Link and Pala CopelandINTEGRATION EXERCISES Exercises To Do Together by Al Link and Pala Copeland FLOATING LIGHTS Candles are one of the most useful aids for creating your own romantic rituals and celebrations, for remembering loved ones you cannot be with right now, or for healing the separation between ...
Views: 822 - Saying Goodbye to Defensiveness - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2013 from Jeannie CampanelliPart of fully claiming your own life is learning the steps to stay “in your own business”. What that means essentially is staying focused on your own affairs, rather than determining what those around you “should” or “should not” be up to. One way we intrude into someone else’s business is by ...
Views: 1086 - Monsters: Live or Die with Them - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2009 from Bradley FalkMore than likely you have a couple of Monsters in your life. The type of Monsters I’m referring to reside within your inner circle (giving you no line of defense) and they are purposefully removing the very essence that makes you human. Because I was born on Halloween, I’ve been ...
Views: 631 - How Do You Express Love? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Karen CardWe all want to feel love; we want to give it and we want to get it. But, what happens if we don’t feel it? In order to have a healthy, loving relationship we need to recognize that our partner may have a different description of love than we do. What does love mean to you? Your partner? How ...
Views: 1376 - Keeping Your Valentine Forever! - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2009 from John CurtisHere are some little known facts about Valentines Day: 1. Nationwide, 6,000 couples will tie the knot on Valentine’s Day 2009. Even when that date does not fall upon a Saturday, February 14th is consistently one of the most popular days of the year to wed. 2. 255,000 other couples will become ...
Views: 608 - Energy Psychology Tips for Romance in Healthy Aging - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2009 from Dorothea Hover-KramerRomance is widely understood as the vital connection with the “special someone” who is or will become your life partner. The laws of attraction operate in a most tangible way when it comes to romance. If you are grumpy, unhappy, or very needy you are likely to attract those very qualities ...
Views: 348 - How to Create a Fun Valentine's Day Date on a Tight Budget - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2009 from Tracey BennettRomantic Valentine's Day date ideas don't have to bust your budget. Here's a recipe for cooking up a memorable occasion with a few simple and cheap Valentine's Day gift ideas. Dazzle your sweetie with a feast of sensory delights. The most important one, good conversation, is free. Ingredients ...
Views: 991(2 votes) - What Women Want in Men - Do You Need to Look Good? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2009 from Joshua UebergangOne of the strongest beliefs I need to destroy is that women must have a physically attractive man. Society overemphasizes physical appearance as it pries off of men's insecurities. Physical attractiveness in women is important for men, but guys get into relationship trouble by projecting their ...
Views: 2679 - Creating Boundaries or Barriers – Where do You Hang Out? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2013 from Jeannie CampanelliWhat I’ve seen as a professional coach is that much of our personal power (‘claiming our life as our own’) relies on setting clear boundaries – listening to our own values, asking for help, and knowing what we want and don’t want. There’s an art to setting boundaries that do not become barriers ...
Views: 888 - Sleep Solutions for Bedroom Bliss - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsSleeping together is an important way for couples to feel connected to one another. While many partners can live happily together; they just can’t sleep well side by side. Research from the Better Sleep Council (BSC) found that on average, one in three Americans report that their ...
Views: 597 - Secrets for Singles to Survive (Even Thrive) on Valentine's Day - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2009 from Gloria MacDonaldHow do you get through Valentine’s Day when you’re single? For many singles, Valentine's Day can be really tough. Maybe you’re thinking “I’ve been on my own for a long, long time, will I EVER meet someone?” Or perhaps you’ve recently gone through a ...
Views: 644 - 4 Freedoms Integration Exercise (16): Together Forever - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2009 from Al Link and Pala CopelandINTEGRATION EXERCISES Exercises To Do Together by Al Link and Pala Copeland TOGETHER FOREVER Lifelong commitment normally means growing old together. Think and talk together about how your relationship will mature as your age advances. Time for Exercise: five to 30 minutes Properties ...
Views: 658 - Relationship Sabotage - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2009 from James LeGrandYou may be pushing your partner out of your life. Your fears, guilt, doubt, past experiences and feelings of unworthiness may drive you to doing and saying terrible things to the one you like or love. Whether you are doing this consciously or unconsciously, you could be pushing away the ...
Views: 7191 - Try a Spark Experiment in Your Marriage or Love Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2009 from Susie and Otto CollinsReverend Ed Young, founder of a nondenominational church in Texas, made an unusual proposal to his congregation a few months ago. He suggested that married couples in his church make an agreement to have sex with one another every day for seven days. This “sexperiment” was intended ...
Views: 1716 - How Unspoken Agreements Run Your Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2009 from Susan QuinnUnspoken agreements are the agreements that we do not speak, but play out in our lives. They are agreements that we make with ourselves, another person or group as a way to get love, attention, or to feel safe. From the time that Kathy married Bob, she took the back seat in their interactions ...
Views: 3609 - Emotional Incest: Will He or She Change? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2009 from Margaret PaulSharon, one of the members of our website, emailed me asking me to write more on abuse, particularly covert incest. She was in the process of ending her 4-year marriage with her covertly abusive husband, who is emotionally incestuous with his adult daughter. "There is no physical involvement, ...
Views: 3543(1 vote) - Parents - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2009 from Rebecca KimbelParents are people, not Gods. They cannot provide something out of nothing. They cannot give what they do not have. They cannot be what they are not and they cannot fill the emptiness in adult children who cannot or will not assume the responsibilities of an adult. Parents, who themselves have ...
Views: 747 - Your Relationship is Over What Next? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2009 from Chris RobertsNothing is as hard as trying to cope up with a relationship when it is over. What started as two hearts coming together into a wonderful relationship suddenly encounters bad time and breaks up causing a lot of pain. Usually the break up is connected to the heart as it all started there. So the ...
Views: 601 - Tragedy Can Heal Troubled Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2009 from Allison O'NeillWhen tragedy strikes people really do come together. A friend of mine shared a story with me... “We have had nothing to do with our extended family for more than ten years but when one relative’s baby lost its life moments after delivery we knew silence wouldn’t be right. The fact we are blood ...
Views: 657 - 6 Tips for Successful Relating - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2009 from Melanie Smithson1. Know what’s your business and stay out of what’s not your business So often we take responsibility for another person’s well-being (or what our idea of that is) and we try to get them to do what we think is best. The problem with this is that most of the time, nobody asked for our help. ...
Views: 665 - Why Do We Lie to the People We Love? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThere’s something about love which stimulates the imagination. We fantasize about romance and sex. When we are in love we walk on air and everything is wonderful, even when in reality we soon discover that it isn’t perfect. Besides, who can compete with our complex imagination? And ...
Views: 732 - Life Plan For Love: Three Romantic Meals for Busy Couples - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2009 from Katherin ScottSimply put, romance is pretense. It is pretending that everything is not only alright, but that it is absolutely perfect – if only for a little while. Romance is not food. Romance is attitude. Romance is atmosphere. Romance is using details to create a mirage. A spaghetti and ...
Views: 486 - Celebrate the Inauguration of Hope in Your Personal Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2009 from hadley finchLet's celebrate the inauguration of hope in our country by adding the magic of hope to our pursuit of happiness and love in our personal relationships. Let's set aside past disappointments that drain our well of hope. Let's rise above fear, negativity, and apathy that block our hope of ...
Views: 692 - Are Rebound Relationships for Real? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraAah, love. Can’t live without it, can’t get enough of it. Every day, a lot of relationships are formed: people get married, move in together, start a long distance relationship, or an office romance. Love seems to sprout like mushrooms overnight but it seems that love can fade and go ...
Views: 4296 - The Withdrawal Syndrome: Why Your Man Pulls Away - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2012 from Editha RodriguezIt’s confusing, isn’t it? One moment you think you’ve found your soul mate, the next moment he’s stopped calling. You rack your brain for any clue that would explain his behavior. Nothing. Zero. You got along well, he worshipped the ground you walked on. He was smitten by you as much as you ...
Views: 55529(2 votes) - Getting to Know a Toxic Friend - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraWhen we hear the word “friend”, we think of love, trust, laughter, a feeling of security, comfort and happiness. It reminds us of bike rides on summer afternoons, camp-outs in the backyard and toasted marshmallows, of pillow fights and slumber parties. Life’s precious moments ...
Views: 418 - Is Fear of Failing Sabotaging Your Relationship Dreams? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2009 from Dawn AllenDoes it feel like your dream of having a wonderful relationship is beyond your grasp? Is the fear of having another failed relationship holding you back from even trying? When I’m having a difficult time moving forward, it’s usually because underneath all my excuses, I’m ...
Views: 4454 - Top 20 Relationship Deal Breakers - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2009 from CS LewisIf you’re a single woman looking to marry and start a family, here’s a fact that may startle you: The average amount time from single status to motherhood is approximately five to seven years. For a woman now 30, that means waiting until her late 30s or early 40s to have a child. A second one ...
Views: 6909 - How to Tell if She Has Commitment Phobia - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraCommitment phobia is the fear of commitment, especially in a marriage or a long-term relationship. For a long time, it was believed that only men had this fear. In the recent years, however, the population of women who actively choose to be single are increasing rapidly. A classic example of a ...
Views: 855 - 4 Freedoms Integration Exercise (13): Seeing in the Dark - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2009 from Al Link and Pala CopelandINTEGRATION EXERCISES Exercises To Do Together by Al Link and Pala Copeland SEEING IN THE DARK The lights went out. Only then could we see withour our eyes. Al Link Time for Exercise: all day and night (short variation: one hour or more) Properties Required: blindfold Steps: One lover ...
Views: 724 - Moving on After a Break Up - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraIt’s been days since you looked at yourself in the mirror- and your eyes look like a couple of dehydrated prunes. You can smell yourself but you have no plans of taking a bath soon. What’s the point? You feel like dying a little each day, sometimes from the break up, and sometimes ...
Views: 463 - Madly in Love… - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2009 from Rajiv VijThey say marriages are made in heaven. At the time of marriage, all couples seem ecstatic about their relationship and sound crazy about each other. They all express that relationship to be the best thing that ever happened to them and they are willing to walk on water to please each other. ...
Views: 517 - Forget Your Ex? When He's Back and Asking For a Second Chance - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2009 from Chris RobertsHave you ever had situation crop up where the love your life ran off? You were heartbroken and after some time decided it was time to move forward with your life. You wanted to forget your ex but suddenly your ex is back, asking for a second chance. Do you take that chance? If you are someone ...
Views: 598 - Success In The Tit For Tat Relationship Game - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2009 from William CottringerSuccess In The Tit For Tat Relationship Game By Bill Cottringer Success in relationships is based on accurate information used in the basic cooperation vs. antagonism tit for tat game we all play. The tit for tat game typically goes like this. If I choose to do this then I expect you to do ...
Views: 6405 - Relationship Compatibility - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2009 from Dr Philip AgriosWe need to look at human behavior and why we do the things that we do. All of us are made up of atoms. Atoms behave in a certain way and their behavior is a good model to use to understand human behavior. There are 3 atomic bonds: Ionic bonds, Covalent bonds and Metallic bonds. The Ionic ...
Views: 3148 - Seven Great Dates - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2009 from Sally ConnollyWith Valentine’s Day just around the corner, it is time to begin thinking about how to celebrate. Even if it were not the season for romance, couples must continue dating throughout marriage. It is important for connection, nurturing and romance. It reminds people not to take each other ...
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