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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Differing Paths in Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsQuestion: I'm trying as much as I can to think by myself about my deep questions but this one I thought, I really need to ask you, because I feel stuck: a year and a half ago, I fell deeply in love with a man. It was 'love at first sight' and felt so completely obvious that "he was the one", ...
Views: 491 - Spiritual, Love Relationship Guide - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsA simple guide of agreeable ideals and intentions as a foundation and touch stone for spiritual love relationship. We believe that our relationship has a spiritual basis and serves the Divine and our own evolution. We experience this, manifest, as a deep and powerful desire to know ...
Views: 816 - Pain on the Path - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsQuestion: When one begins the path to Enlightenment, I've read it can be from either what we would call a painful or a wonderful experience. My enlightenment began when I fell in love with a man whom I left my husband for. I thought he was the love of my life. After leaving my marriage of 13 ...
Views: 607 - How to Get Over the Post Break-Up Guilts - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsQuestion: I have just recently ended a three year relationship, yet I am receiving a lot of guilt from my ex-boyfriend and his family. How do I avoid taking on this guilt and how do I feel confident about who I am again? Sherri's Answer: In order to regain your self-confidence, you need to ...
Views: 1517 - Deadly Relationship Habits - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2009 from Kim OlverHow many of you have ever been involved with a significant other who wanted you to do something you didn’t want to do? I doubt that I’m the only one. By virtue of a significant other relationship, there will be times when our partners will want us to do things we don’t necessarily want to do and ...
Views: 1036 - Father’s Day without Fathers - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2009 from Daryl GreenIntroduction A young child questioned his mother about the character of his father: “Hey Momma! Is it true what they say that Papa never worked a day, in his life? And Momma, some bad talk goin' round town sayin' that Papa had three outside children….” This narrative from “Papa Was A Rolling ...
Views: 851(1 vote) - How to Identify Problems in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2009 from Tanay Kumar DasBefore you can choose the proper persuasion techniques in your relationship, you will need to consider what you want to change and what is causing the problem in the first place. Sometimes it’s not as simple as wanting something to change, you need to know what you’re up against. What’s ...
Views: 1327 - "We Need to Talk" - How to Start a Difficult Conversation with a Partner, Colleague or Neighbor - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2010 from Tracey BennettRelationships are like shoes. Sometimes they fit, and sometimes they cause annoying, painful blisters. For example, your partner doesn't call when running late; your colleague at work taps his pencil incessantly; and a neighbor trashes your yard. Sometimes you need to confront the offender and ...
Views: 6165(3 votes) - ***Should You Try To Save Your Marriage? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have said for many years, “Most marriages and relationships can be saved, but not all!” And our corollary has always been – “Most marriages and relationships are worth saving, but not all!” Here’s what we mean. In the case of abuse – sexual, ...
Views: 3366(30 votes) - Do Relationship Advice and Life Coaches Help Have a Chance to Transform You?... and Me… and Us? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2009 from Dr. Joseph AbrahamWhat Do We Know (so far) about Human Behavior? What Does it Tell Us About Potential Impact To Transform and Better Uorselves? Here are some basic facts and agreed upon assumptions that have a valuable impact regarding counseling and therapy: 1. Human beings are biological creatures – our ...
Views: 881 - When Family and Friends Hate Your Significant Other - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraWhen friends and loved hate your significant other, it can be a major disappointment. There’s no doubt that this can be a painful issue, since conflicts are always waiting to happen. The situation can make you feel as if the people who matters most in your life are disrespecting you by ...
Views: 1865 - Beyond the Edwards Affair – What Elizabeth's Book Teaches Us - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2009 from Dr. Bonnie Eaker WeilIt's been almost a year since John Edwards revealed to the public that he had had an affair with the woman that produced his videos in preparation for his campaign launch, and now his wife has written a book about the whole thing. He came clean to his family before the scandal broke publicly and ...
Views: 1034 - *** Relationships: The Dance of Victims and Perpetrators - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2009 from Margaret Paul"He is always blaming me for the bad things that happen in his life, and then he tells me it's my controlling him that is making him so angry. He yells at me and puts me down rather than deal with his own feelings. How can I get him to see that he is the one trying to control me? How can I ...
Views: 3831(6 votes) - Four Symptoms of Wonderful Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThis week, I met with a wonderful young man who wanted to talk about falling in love one day. It was a tough subject for him. He was brought up in very typical circumstances and had therefore developed a belief that relationships are difficult, imperfect, full of compromises and require a bit of ...
Views: 499 - Relationship Ebb and Flow - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Marie BarrettRelationships are supposed to be peaceful, rewarding, and fun! They're not supposed to be boring, difficult, or distant. If your relationship with your lover has turned a little chilly, lost its excitement or is now just plain boring, when did it begin to lose its spunk? Maybe your ...
Views: 2871 - Relationships and Sustainability - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThere is an old saying that says: “Make new friends, and keep the old. One is silver, the other is gold.” Life is all about relationships. We have a relationship with the environment, with our work, with our home, and especially with the people in our lives. Earth Month gives us an ...
Views: 472 - Relationships Don't Have to Be Hard - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoDo you ever feel like relationships are 2 parts game, 1 part luck? Or maybe you are at the point where it feels like ALL game to you…and you’re all gamed out? Maybe you just wish it could be like in the movies, a little: boy meets girl, some witty banter, your souls become one, you get married ...
Views: 743 - Great Relationships Begin Within - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoI heard a great story years ago about a kid whose mom asked him to make her some eggs. She instructed him to scramble one and fry the other. He, being a “good egg” and of course wanting to please his mother, did just that. He stood and beamed proudly before his mother, presenting her with what ...
Views: 754 - Narcissists Feel No Love in Any Relationship - by Submitted on May 31, 2009 from Lisa ScottThe easiest way to think about it is this : Narcissists are stuck at age five. One of the most well-known theories in pyschology is Sigmund Freud's theory that as children, we pass through different psychosexual stages. According to Freud, if a child is deprived or over-indulged in any of these ...
Views: 2901 - Relationships and Sustainability - by Submitted on May 31, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThere is an old saying that says: “Make new friends, and keep the old. One is silver, the other is gold.” Life is all about relationships. We have a relationship with the environment, with our work, with our home, and especially with the people in our lives. Earth Month gives us an ...
Views: 350 - 100 Questions Before Marriage - Will it Be I Do or I Dont? - by Submitted on May 31, 2009 from Roy MaloneyYou may have 100 questions before marriage that you want to ask your fiancé, or maybe you have no idea how to go about getting to comprehend him better. If the latter applies to you then it is time that you learn what you need to ask your partner before you take that big jump. It is crucial ...
Views: 728 - 5 Steps to Building a Strong Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2009 from Renee ShupeHave you ever invested your time and emotions to build a relationship, only to see that relationship destroyed in a matter of minutes? When it was all over, and the dust settled, did you find yourself wondering, "What happened?" Whether the relationship is in your business or personal life, ...
Views: 7883 - Signs He Does Not Like You in a Romantic Way - by Submitted on May 29, 2009 from Michael LeeAs much as you might want to marry the guy of your dreams, have a lovely house and family with him, you have to make sure he likes you first. And figuring this out is easier when you know the signs he does not like you. These signs are easier to spot because you’re not exactly conjuring up ...
Views: 1307(2 votes) - How to Get Over a Break Up: 3 Ways to Ease the Break Up Pain - by Submitted on May 29, 2009 from Michael LeeThey say time heals all wounds. True. But that doesn’t mean locking yourself in your house for weeks, sulking and waiting for time to tell you you’re ready to face the world again! There are positive ways on how to get over a break up. Of course, moving on is easier said than done. But ...
Views: 706 - A Question of Balance: One-Sided Relationships - by Submitted on May 28, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsOne of the most beautiful qualities of an intimate relationship is the give and take of energy that occurs between two people. In the best-case scenario, both people share the talking and listening, and the giving and receiving of support, equally. Occasionally, within any relationship, the ...
Views: 2441 - Life Coach Relationship Advice to Infidelity Victim: Fix Your Self Esteem Before Your Relationship - by Submitted on May 28, 2009 from Dr. Joseph AbrahamCan a Marriage Counselor help a couple get through and overcome such an upsetting event as Infidelity? In most cases yes, but there are two ‘but’: first, the underlying causes and the unhealthy aspects of the relationship need to be addressed. Second, in the course of working through the ...
Views: 2682 - The Flashing Red Flags of Fatally Crashing Relationships - by Submitted on May 27, 2009 from William CottringerThe Flashing Red Flags of Fatally Crashing Relationships By Bill Cottringer You may wonder why anyone in their right mind would miss these blatant red flags before they found themselves stuck in a fatal relationship; but the real problem becomes more of how to get out of such a ...
Views: 1537 - Relationships and Money: What Promises Do You Make (and Break) About Spending? - by Submitted on May 27, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI used to work with a couple, the wife of whom habitually overspent. Considering their lines of work—an attorney and a CEO—they had plenty of money. However, they had an agreement that she would not overspend, and each month, she did. With some observation, it came to light that the wife liked ...
Views: 512 - Start Now to Change Your Bad Relationship Habits - by Submitted on May 27, 2009 from Susie and Otto CollinsHabits. We've all got them. Some of our habitual ways are beneficial and others can limit or even harm us. Couples can also fall into habits or tendencies in their relationship. It might be the assumptions you each tend to make about one another. It could be the habitual ways you two usually ...
Views: 5390 - Keeping the Romance through Serious Illness - by Submitted on May 27, 2009 from Sharon Wells-AckermansHow do you preserve the romance of your relationship through serious illness? That is a question we hope never to answer, and it presents a huge challenge to a relationship. My husband, Skip, had a very serious stroke in 2006 – we had only been married for two years. Luckily, Skip got a place ...
Views: 1434 - Energy Therapy Healing: Does It Work On Relationships? - by Submitted on May 26, 2009 from Donna BurickRelationships are a part of life that never seem to go smoothly. Dealing with other people can be difficult, no matter how much you care about them. Energy therapy healing offers you a way to help you deal with relationships and even improve upon them. This type of therapy is often combined with ...
Views: 1792 - What is Non-Love and How Does it Impact on Your Life? - by Submitted on May 25, 2009 from Sue PlumtreeThe first time I heard the term non-love was about five years ago. The context, at the time, was limited to a particular person and to a particular situation. The situation was simple. I had been calling my Mum every single day for over ten years. It was an expectation I had put on myself after ...
Views: 4506 - 6 Tips That Give "Staying Power" to Your Relationship - by Submitted on May 25, 2009 from Khem GreenHere are 6 tips that help keep couples together long after they tie the knot, (and after many of their friends and acquaintances have decided to divorce). TIP#1 -- CONTINUE DATING Over the years, people often drift apart. Relationships and marriages become stale because couples fail to do new ...
Views: 1351 - Getting Past Emotional Pain - by Submitted on May 24, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraAll of us have been emotionally hurt at one time or another—it doesn’t matter who and what you are, really. However, there are also people who seem so totally unreceptive to emotional pain. These are the type who doesn’t give a smack when someone tries to get close to them with a bit of an ...
Views: 4328(3 votes) - 17 Best Ways to Nurture and Grow Your Relationships - by Submitted on May 24, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThe following 17 tips offer guidance on how to nurture and grow your personal relationships and how to be your best self so that loving, healthy relationships are possible. Arm yourself with the tools that can help you avoid making self-destructive choices. Write down the following in your ...
Views: 1016 - Wife, Mother, Goddess: A Message to Men for Mother’s Day - by Submitted on May 24, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsShe’s the mother of your children, whether they’re still in diapers or already driving themselves to work. She might even be a grandmother. She’s your wife and your partner in the day-to-day management of your life, your family, your home, and maybe your business. Mother’s Day is an opportunity ...
Views: 671(1 vote) - How to Influence Your Guy to Take Your Relationship More Seriously - by Submitted on May 24, 2009 from Chris RobertsIt is fairly common to find guys who seem to have a phobia for making serious commitments in their relationships with us. In case your boyfriend happens to be of this type, you may face a lot of frustrations as your relationship does not appear to move towards the direction you would like. ...
Views: 4176 - ***Infidelity is Not Okay and it is Not Forgivable! - by Submitted on May 23, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Frankly, if we hear yet one more person talk about infidelity in a relationship as if it were okay, not a big deal, and forgivable, we are going to get angry! We have studied the best marriages for more than 25 years and we know this – the best ...
Views: 5292(34 votes) - 7 Factors That Influence the Quality and Life-Span of Romantic Relationships and Marriage - by Submitted on May 23, 2009 from Ismini ApostoliWhen most adults embark upon a new romantic relationship, they do so with the best intentions in mind. Yet most romantic relationships usually fail within the first three months, others break down within the first year and some that last longer and even lead to marriage create more pain than ...
Views: 7783(3 votes) - How to Find and Impress the "Perfect" Man - by Submitted on May 21, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsStatistics say men lie five times more often than women. (Now ask yourself, is that true, or did I just make it up?) And despite human progress and enlightened times, we're still slaves to our genes. Males are hardwired to impress women. Watch the elaborate dances some birds go through to win ...
Views: 764 - How to Romance a Man - by Submitted on May 21, 2009 from Michael LeeWant to know how to romance a man? Then this article is for you. It has been commonly thought that romancing a guy would require tons of research, experience, and a lot of other factors in order to be good at it. People would commonly think that learning how to romance a man is just like any ...
Views: 1076 - Everybody Needs Romance! - by Submitted on May 20, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraWe all have our own definition of romance: it is a nicely-written love poem, a breakfast in bed, or an adorable puppy at your doorstep. It is a very important ingredient for every successful and passionate relationship, whether it’s still in the budding phase or running for more than 30 years ...
Views: 489 - *** Love Asks for Nothing - by Submitted on May 19, 2009 from Margaret Paul"We 'love' another in order to get something ourselves….There can be no greater mistake than that, for love is incapable of asking for anything." -- A Course in Miracles "Love is incapable of asking for anything." Wow! Take a moment to think about that ...
Views: 2854(3 votes) - How to Break Up with Someone Painlessly - by Submitted on May 19, 2009 from Michael LeeBreaking up is like swallowing a bitter pill. You know it’s not going to be any good but you still have to do it to get better anyway. Nobody likes to be the one to break the bad news; but luckily, people are starting to learn the proper ways to end relationships - ways that will make the whole ...
Views: 1623 - ***Almost Smart Cookie Tips: Falling for Falling in Love Traps - by Submitted on May 19, 2009 from LB WishMy research on strong women's relationship problems revealed that over 40% of women liked lots of excitement in their relationships. They were drawn to men who offered a high-energy life style. Typical dates included private jets to the latest event, hobnobbing with the rich and famous and ...
Views: 944 - Are You Ready For A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 18, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraSpring: Everything seems alive and vibrant-- flowers are definitely more colourful, the air has a heady smell, the weather is story-book perfect and there is an unmistakable increase in libido in the singles crowd. Everyone seems to want to date more in the spring, and this is often the time ...
Views: 456 - Secrets for Sensitive People to Find Relationships That Work: Why Emotional Empaths May Stay Lonely or Alone - by Submitted on May 18, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsLoneliness gets to some more than others. But why it hangs on isn’t always apparent when read by traditional medical eyes. In my practice and workshops I’ve been struck by how many sensitive, empathic people who I call “emotional empaths” come to me, lonely, wanting a romantic partner, yet ...
Views: 1669(4 votes) - Love Entanglements - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2009 from Gary RobertsonIf we were to diagram most adult relationships as stick figure art, we would have a confusion of interlocking lines. Even if different colors were used for each person, arms and leg lines would show a lot of confusion, struggle and oppositional positioning. That's because for the most part we ...
Views: 1346 - Be Your Own Life Coach: Use the Push-Pull Relationship Theory - by Submitted on May 18, 2009 from Dr. Joseph AbrahamSometimes when a couple enters into a new stage of their relationship it can become very difficult to maintain an open and healthy line of communication. Through every phase of any relationship the ability to communicate is essential. Sometimes as the relationship grows and moves forward into ...
Views: 6367 - Trust is a Bogus Issue - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2009 from Gary RobertsonA primary conflict within relationships gets labeled “trust issues.” He needs to trust her to be there for him and she must trust him to remain interested only in her. We have a social convention that sexual fidelity tells us who is trustable and anyone cheating cannot be trusted. Breaking trust ...
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