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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- 7 Marriage Hacks to More Passion and Adventure - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIf you have been married for any length of time you know full well the amount of work that has already taken place. Yet, there is still more work looming. Wouldn’t it be nice if there were some short cuts to experiencing more blessings in a marriage? While there are no easy tricks or short ...
Views: 607 - How To Deal with People Who Bring Us Down - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2009 from Andrew RondeauIt takes all kinds of people to make up the world we live in. In life, we have the opportunity to meet many people. Some of them we find are too difficult to deal with. These are the people we end up not liking and we try and avoid them as much as possible. Keeping well away from them might be ...
Views: 2894(1 vote) - Anger & Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2009 from Michael PaulWhen there is a build up of anger in a relationship, healthy communication is clearly absent. Both ears and mouths are not working properly. Messages being given are likely to be interpreted through a filter that hears only what anger expects to hear. The message, as it might be offered, is ...
Views: 1765(2 votes) - Improve Your Relationships Through Personal Development - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2009 from David ArnoldExploring and improving the dynamics of Relationships is a lifelong process. In fact, I have learned that the quality of our relationships has a direct impact on nine areas in our life that are entertwined daily. A broken area can cause disruption in the remaining areas thus casusing an ...
Views: 592 - Life Coach: Solving Your Life's Problems in Two Simple Steps - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2009 from Ed McDonoughHaving problems and challenges in life is something we all face at one time or another. For most people, problems drag them way down emotionally and almost completely drain the life energy out of them. But it doesn't have to be that way. By making a few simple adjustments in the way you view ...
Views: 1576(1 vote) - ***Making Marriage Work in Tough Economic Times - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. There is an old saying that many attribute to a Chinese proverb that goes like this – “May you live in interesting times.” To say that is an understatement of our world today is, well . . . an understatement! We are experiencing unprecedented ...
Views: 5687(32 votes) - Romantic (and Sexy) Dinner for Two - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2011 from Rebecca Savidge GrayThe Menu Dinner: Artichokes with Basil-Lime Dipping Sauce Lobster Tails with Butter Dessert: Chocolate-Dipped Strawberries Drinks: A rich, buttery Chardonnay such as Bryon Chardonnay, or Franciscan 2002 Chardonnay. Champagne works too Whoever you break out ...
Views: 2510(1 vote) - Relationships as Reflections of the True Self - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsQuestion: I have read so many books...many of them yours. All say that relationships are your Self reflecting back to you. I have never had a healthy relationship with a man. I had a childhood that seems to have left me feeling unlovable. Abuse and no real concern expressed for its impact ...
Views: 767(3 votes) - On Moral Responsibility: I'm Sorry I Screen Your Calls - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2009 from Intent.com Authors"The answers to our problems don't lie beyond our reach. They exist in our laboratories and universities; in our fields and our factories; in the imaginations of our entrepreneurs and the pride of the hardest-working people on Earth. Those qualities that have made America the greatest force of ...
Views: 523(1 vote) - Nurturing Our Relationship - Invest some Love and Time and Reap the Rewards! - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2009 from Jonathan RoachAs a staff support officer I am seeing an increasing number of people who are sadly splitting up having been together, in a lot of cases, for many years. They say that the magic has gone and they have grown apart, and perhaps they have taken each other for granted over several years. Each has ...
Views: 1322 - How Women Undermine Themselves and Their Girls: It’s Not Always Men Who Take Us Down - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsHaving highlighted the problem of women undermining themselves and their girls in my first blog, I wanted to use the second to express the spirit in which I hope we can try to address it. How can we start to limit the pressure we put on ourselves around body image, aging and sexuality? Here’s ...
Views: 925(1 vote) - ***Tough Economic Times Can Strengthen Marriage - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Let’s face it – the economy of the USA is in turmoil. And the truth is, the unemployment rate is approaching 10%, and will probably exceed that rate in the coming months. The times are tough in America today. Not good news, for sure. Tough ...
Views: 4054(39 votes) - Why Men Don’t Talk About Their Emotions or Attend Therapy… - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2009 from Martin Phillips-HingOf course it’s not completely true that men don’t attend therapy, however, women are more likely to attend therapy in greater numbers. According to Statistics Canada, there are also differences in the types of mental health disorders and addictions reported by men and women. Approximately 6% of ...
Views: 2288(1 vote) - 10 Texting Rules for Dating Singles – Texting Guidelines and Dating Etiquette - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2009 from Deborrah CooperI believe the growing preference for texting has a lot to do with its impersonal nature. It’s much easier to launch a new relationship by exchanging texts than it is to talk. It’s also very easy to say and do things over a screen that one would never have the nerve to do face to face (or say ear ...
Views: 10367 - 8 Tips For Improving Your Relationship With In-Laws - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWhen you asked your spouse to marry you, or when you said yes to the question, did you fully comprehend what you were saying at the time? You were planning out the rest of your life at the moment and inviting another person to join you in the journey. But did you realize who they’d be ...
Views: 1394(4 votes) - Ask Lisa Daily! Why Did My Girlfriend Dump Me? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2009 from Lisa DailyDear Lisa, I am a man, and I would like to know why my girlfriend dumped me! Women also do the dumping! Why do you NOT have a WHY WOMEN DUMP MEN column on your site? Is it only a figment of the mind that men are also human? –Representing Dear Representing, Yes, men are human. Most ...
Views: 2625(4 votes) - Ask Lisa Daily! I Slept with Him and He Never Called Again - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2009 from Lisa DailyDear Lisa, I started seeing this great guy for about a month. He made me feel pretty special and I liked him a lot. After I slept with him, he never called me again. I called him a couple weeks later and he says he’s emotionally unavailable. I feel duped and hurt, but I still want him to ...
Views: 4766 - Ask Lisa Daily! Is He Losing Interest? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2009 from Lisa DailyDear Lisa, Why is it that when two people start dating for the first four to six months the relationship is fine, and then it falls apart? In the beginning, you’re calling each other all the time, emailing, spending time together, and then things start to go downhill and the man stops calling ...
Views: 2586 - 6 Things You Should NEVER Say to a Man - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2009 from Lisa Daily1) “We Need to Talk.” Nothing puts up a guy’s defenses faster than those four little words. Why? No woman ever says , “We need to talk — I’ve been thinking you should play golf more often.” or “We need to talk — my hot supermodel friend is going to spend bikini season in our spare bedroom.” ...
Views: 1833 - Ask Lisa Daily! Was dumping my boyfriend a mistake? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2009 from Lisa DailyDear Lisa, I broke up with my boyfriend back in January. I was going through a lot of personal problems and he was working a lot. We lived almost 1,000 miles apart. I felt like he didn’t care anymore and thought I’d dump him before he dumped me. The thing is, I don’t know why I thought ...
Views: 3450 - How To Get Over Your Ex Girlfriend - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2010 from Dan DennickDon't make things worse by trying to get her back The biggest regret guys often have is that during the break up they acted in way that was clearly out of desperation. Usually guys feel a profound anxiety to do something to fix the situation and so they end up acting in a way that they ...
Views: 14439 - Are You in an Abusive Relationship? 25 Warning Signs - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThe recent tragedy between Rihanna and Chris Brown has left many people scratching their heads. How could someone as beautiful as her get into such a relationship? How could he do that to her? Why would she put up with it? Why did she go back to him? Abusive relationships are difficult to ...
Views: 1415(2 votes) - #1 Universal Relationship Law: Healthy, Happy People Tend to Relate, Date, and Mate Other Healthy, Happy People - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsAs the Radio Love Psychic on the nationally renowned KXRK Radio From Hell morning show, I use a few sneaky tricks to get the quick, accurate reads on the callers. The first is that there are some unchangeable, immutable Universal Laws regarding people’s connections with each other. The next is ...
Views: 754(1 vote) - Quality Time: How to Find More and Some Ideas on How to Use It - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThe world moves at a tremendously fast pace. It’s virtually impossible to disconnect from work, social networks, media, news, even friends and family. Life is often an overload of emails, voice mails, instant messages, profiles, shows, kids activities, schedules, and the endless desire to know ...
Views: 793(2 votes) - Should Women Avoid Men to Lower their Risk of Heart Disease? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsAn unhappy marriage predisposes women to metabolic syndrome (the risk for obesity, diabetes, heart disease and stroke) according to a study by University of Utah psychologists (American Psychosomatic Society); by the way the unhappily married men in the study are just fine. Apparently, when ...
Views: 523 - The Female Bite - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2009 from Dr. Mona SpiegelSummer's a great time for evening walks, except for one problem - mosquitoes. Many couples like to walk at night. They'll be walking along, enjoying the cool air, when zap! One or both of them gets bitten. Mosquitoes don't discriminate between genders. I don't know how they choose their ...
Views: 1234 - Tips on Feeling More Secure in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2012 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondPity or genuine desire for connection? Watching Tom rapt in conversation with their guests made Roxy feel left out and unimportant. Almost as if he heard her wish, Tom asked her for her opinion of the movie they were all talking about. She could hardly speak. She didn’t want to be brought in ...
Views: 9651 - Relationship Magic 101 - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2009 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonDo you want to believe in magical relationships--the click your heels three times--answer to having healthy, happy and intimate relationships? But does your own life make this desire look impossible? Do you sometimes think, if only I had a partner who was willing to do their fair share. Well ...
Views: 980(2 votes) - Five Ways to Deal with an Emotional Hangover - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2011 from Adele McDowellEver have one of those weeks when there is palpable, anger-inciting tension between you and a family member? Or you have had a crushing misunderstanding with one of your dearest friends? Or there is an incident at work that has had you mumbling obscenities under your breath and double-checking ...
Views: 8582(5 votes) - Two Ingredients of Good Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2009 from Jacqueline MarshallShowing respect is a way of demonstrating love. The feeling of love or affection doesn't have to be present in order to give it. When you show another (or yourself) respect, you are acting out of love. If someone said he or she loved me but consistently treated me with disrespect, I am ...
Views: 1489(1 vote) - More Men Now See a Marriage Counselor - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2009 from Lyn McDonaldCall them SNAG’s – Sensitive New Age Guys or men that are genuinely trying to rescue an ailing relationship. Our practice now sees as many as 75% of males seeking counsel. So what has lead to this new revolution? Once upon a time, the first stages of a marriage breakdown saw the wife looking ...
Views: 1159(1 vote) - Emotional Arguments and Explosions - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2009 from Donald WallachI’ve been working with a lot of couples over the years. One of the most common concerns they bring up are arguments that get too aggressive. Spouses end up getting emotionally hurt, upset and angry. While conflicts are a given in relationships, you can dramatically improve how you argue and ...
Views: 1773(3 votes) - ***How Will I Know I Can Trust Him? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Here is an undeniable truth about life – actions speak louder than words! We know, you’ve heard this all before! But the truth is, you can, and must, judge a man by his actions and not by his words! Words are cheap. Actions mean everything! The ...
Views: 10790(39 votes) - When Love Hurts - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2009 from Michael Sean Symonds:So much has been said of friendship and love that it seems on one level redundant to even write about it. In my own life I have found insight, understanding, awareness and suffering, as I engage the pursuit of its experience and the never ending conversations that occur around the dance of its ...
Views: 1510 - The Challenge of Letting Go - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2009 from Gian Fiero |There comes a point and time in everyone's life when they need to let go. It's easier said than done, and even when most recognize the need to let go they can't do it. Letting go is about freedom; freedom that can only be experienced through the disconnection of the things - or the person - ...
Views: 2843(3 votes) - Early Signs a New Relationship Won't Last - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2009 from Gregory SmithThe following article originally appeared on www.midlifebachelor.com on June 14, 2009 ... Choosing to invest in a new relationship directly affects your own level of personal happiness especially in the near-term ... and so it is extremely important to keep your eyes and ears open, and be ...
Views: 7330(5 votes) - Toxic Relationships: Love Them, But Leave Them - by Submitted on May 13, 2013 from Maria MarYou’ve worked so hard to move forward, and you are finally manifesting the life you wanted. You’ve learned how to let go of self-sabotaging habits. But what do you do when what’s pulling you back is someone you love, or an old client to whom you have dedicated lots of time? I am talking about ...
Views: 11061(4 votes) - Is Marriage an Outdated Concept? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2009 from William BerryAccording to the most recent statistics, the divorce rate, often quoted (even by this author in psychology classes) as 50% of marriages, is actually closer to the low 40 percentile. (Divorce Rate: It's Not as High as You Think, By Dan Hurley, The New York Times, April 19, 2005). But that does ...
Views: 11738(3 votes) - Do You Make or Break Your Romantic Relationships? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Cherry Norris"Man's greatest motivating force is his desire to please woman" so writes Napoleon Hill in his iconic book, THINK & GROW RICH. According to Hill, men who accumulate large fortunes, gain power and fame do so to satisfy their desire to please women. If this is so, you have to consider: If a ...
Views: 1687(3 votes) - Tales from the Therapist's Couch: Why Smart Women Stay with the Wrong Guy - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Jennifer GauvainAs a relationship therapist, I meet women every day who know they are dating the wrong guy. They are bored, they feel lonely, and their relationship is unsatisfying—yet they stay. Why? As different as the women are, their reasons are shockingly similar. Here are the top four reasons I hear over ...
Views: 1748(1 vote) - Release the Pressure - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2010 from Julie FarhaWe are so intense about our relationships that it sometimes feels like we’re in a pressure cooker! Here are a few suggestions to release the pressure, remember what is real and enjoy your relationships more. • Have more fun. Go for a drive. Take a walk or a hike. Cook a meal together. Watch ...
Views: 1324(3 votes) - Ask Lisa Daily: How Can I Stop Freaking Out? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Lisa DailyLisa, I believe that a large part of my problem is that I am what you referred to as a “nightmare girl.” I don’t know how to be one of those “dream girls.” I can hold it together for anywhere from a few days to a few months, but I get sooooo incredibly insecure that I end up losing it. I ...
Views: 2791(5 votes) - Ask Lisa Daily: Broken-hearted Swim Guy - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Lisa DailyDear Lisa, I just got jacked around pretty good by a gal. I’m too nice, as people say, I just don’t want to play games. I haven’t done anything yet that can be construed as being a jerk about it. (Just an email venting a little, but nothing mean.) I have never been able to play the game ...
Views: 1666(1 vote) - 5 Things to Never Say to a Woman - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Lisa DailyIf you’ve ever said something you considered to be completely innocent, only to have your wife or girlfriend flip out, you may have stumbled on to one of these taboo topics: 1) “Relax” You may think you’re being helpful, but to us, it feels like you’re being dismissive of how we’re feeling — ...
Views: 2148(10 votes) - Crash and Burn-ology: 6 Signs There Won’t Be a Second Date - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Lisa DailyYou like him, but does he really like you? Is there any way to tell how well a first date is going? 1) What day of the week did your date ask you out? It’s generally a good sign if your date asks you out with a few days notice — it means he’s thinking about you and wants to lock in weekend ...
Views: 6522(3 votes) - Ask Lisa Daily: She Wont’t Stop Calling My Boyfriend! - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Lisa DailyDear Lisa, I’ve been with my boyfriend for three years. I moved back with my parents temporarily because we were fighting a lot. While I was home, he was seeing this girl he works with. I was really upset about everything even though she said she never slept with him. She assured me that she ...
Views: 4668(6 votes) - *** Emotional Dependency vs. Emotional Freedom - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Margaret PaulWhat is Emotional Dependency?Lydia consulted with me because her relationship with her husband, Andrew, was falling apart. Andrew had moved out, stating that he could no longer tolerate Lydia's neediness and constant pull on him to make her feel loved and secure. Now that they were separated, ...
Views: 7523(6 votes) - Are You Stressed Because of Someone’s Potential Reaction? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Robert VibertI’ve written about how we can get stressed over what might happen, when we jump to conclusions. Here I’d like to focus on one variant of this situation, the one in which we can almost forecast what is going to happen when someone reacts to what we say or do and, as a result, we stop ourselves ...
Views: 2291(3 votes) - Are your thoughts causing your stressful feelings? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Robert VibertThere is a prevalent theory making the rounds, time and again, that your thoughts are what create your emotions and therefore your stress. One of the expressions of these is what is called “Appraisal Theory”, which has been summed up as follows: Event ==> thinking ==> Simultaneous arousal ...
Views: 1835(3 votes) - You Can Only Be Replaced If You Let It Happen! - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2021 from Dr Rick GoodmanIt was 1994 when the papers were delivered to my apartment; I had just joined the ranks of 50% of the population when my wife filed for divorce. As a single father my biggest fear was that someone would come in to my ex-wife's life and that person would eventually replace me as the figurehead ...
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