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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- *** Getting Love, Being Loving - by Submitted on May 04, 2009 from Margaret PaulTake a moment right now to think about your real intention when it comes to love: Is it most important to you to get someone to love you - to get love? Is it more important to you to be a loving person - to give love to yourself and others?At any moment, you have one of these two intentions, ...
Views: 3200(2 votes) - Cheaters Never Prosper, Expect On Internet - by Submitted on May 04, 2009 from Donna GoldsteinSince the dawn of social networking websites, meeting new friends has been far easier now, than it was 10 years ago. But unfortunately, with the growth of technology comes the evolution of Married Personals websites, making it easier for cheating wives and husbands to prosper. Media portrayal ...
Views: 604 - Passive-Aggressive Behavior - by Submitted on May 04, 2009 from Mary Jane Hurley BrantHave you ever felt confused when speaking with someone? He or she might be smiling but you were uncomfortable by how they were acting? Well, it might be a passive-aggressive behavior you are experiencing. Passive-aggressive behavior is a manner of interacting with others in passive ways as, ...
Views: 2043(5 votes) - Alcoholism in a Relationship - When to Stay, When to Leave - by Submitted on May 04, 2009 from Jonathan Huie"Alcoholic" is one of those words that raises high emotions. We tend to think of an alcoholic as someone who is violent, dangerous, and self destructive. We may also visualize an alcoholic as being selfish and not caring about anyone but themself. Sometimes those stereotypes are appropriate, ...
Views: 1315(2 votes) - Best Way to Break Up with Someone - by Submitted on May 03, 2009 from Michael LeeA lot of relationships come with an expiration date. And when that day comes, you’d better be prepared for the best way to break up with your specific someone. It won’t be easy but it’s not something that can take care of itself either. When breaking up, you can’t help hurting the other person ...
Views: 885 - Life Partner Quest - by Submitted on May 03, 2009 from Shelley Riutta“ “The only thing worse than being alone is being with the wrong person” Reuben Schmidt, 89 years old—happily married to Joyce Schmidt for 53 years. Look around you. Do you see couples that are wonderfully happy together? Happy and joyful couples bless everyone they come in contact with. ...
Views: 1423 - How to Avoid Falling in Love with Love - by Submitted on May 02, 2009 from Jonathan HuieFalling in love with love has been the subject of parody from the time of ancient Greece, to Shakespeare's Twelfth Night, to the present. The 1938 Rodgers and Hart show tune describes falling in love with love as "falling for make-believe" and "playing the fool." Do real life people actually ...
Views: 1389(2 votes) - Mad That Your Partner Isn't Who You Expected? - by Submitted on May 27, 2010 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondNo Welcome Home Made Jeremy Angry There was no happy smile. There was no light in her eyes. There was no bear hug. There was no gasp of welcoming delight. Jeremy’s expectation of a warm and affectionate homecoming was decimated. Wasn’t it only yesterday that they had exchanged messages of ...
Views: 1214 - Creating a Loving and Spiritual Relationship through Heart-Centered Communication - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2009 from Kim PhippsIs your beloved relationship honest, fulfilling and harmonious? Do you often have moments when deep love is flowing between your hearts? Do you wish for more depth, love and understanding? Communication is a key to a good relationship. There are many books and workshops that model good ...
Views: 1929(1 vote) - To Snoop or Not to Snoop? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraSnooping is probably one of the biggest mistakes one can make in a relationship. Most of us are guilty of it, although some would rather die than admit it. At one point or another, most people resort to digging through a partner’s personal effects, trying to find proof because of suspicions. ...
Views: 469 - Fundamentals of a Successful Relationship: A Marriage Counselors’ Perspective - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2009 from Allison MupasHave you ever wondered how ‘that couple’ stayed together all those years? What is it they are doing right? What are the things that contribute to the success of healthy long term relationships? There are a few fundamental things that will improve the chances of a relationships success. Those ...
Views: 15102(2 votes) - *** Real Love: What is Real Love? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2009 from Margaret PaulMost people would love to have "real love," yet often they have no idea what real love is. Take a moment to think about how you would define real love. Defining love is like defining a particular color to a person who has never been able to see color - you have to feel it know what it is. ...
Views: 3166(2 votes) - Instantly Increase the Romance in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2009 from Olumide JattoWhether you are in a long term, committed relationship or are in a new relationship, romance matters. After all, romance is what most of us are striving for. There is one thing to keep in mind though; romance and sex do not automatically happen in a relationship. In fact, most of the time ...
Views: 612 - Co-Parenting with Your Ex - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2009 from Angie BlackwellDo you still define your ex in terms of your failed relationship, or do you relate to him/her strictly as "the other parent"? How you frame your perception of your former spouse has a tremendous impact on your co-parenting relationship. The two of you may not be friends, but you’ll always be ...
Views: 1980(4 votes) - Violence in Intimate Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2009 from Kim OlverAre you in an intimate relationship where violence is a part of your exchange? Does one or the other of you lash out physically toward the other? Do you want it to stop? There is lots of information out there about intimate partner violence. Just google the term and today there were 4,680,000 ...
Views: 1030 - ***A Symphony Of Love And Marriage - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Tonight, we heard the sounds of love! Over the years we have seen love, felt love, heard about love, observed love, and been in love. But tonight, we heard the sounds of love! We heard love tonight through the magnificent sounds of the St. Louis ...
Views: 3139(32 votes) - Don't Let Your Relationship Slide into Recession - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Sean LatimerRelationships in a Recession – Part 1 Don’t let your relationship slide into recession In this series of articles, I am addressing the effect that the growing recession is likely to have on a couple’s relationship, what stance to take and what action to take to prevent the slide. In this first ...
Views: 811 - Love is in the Air - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Allan HardmanI am writing this from my winter home in Chacala, Nayarít, Mexico. The moon is full, hanging softly overhead in a warm tropical night sky. I can hear the ocean waves caressing the sandy beach, and mariachi music is playing in the distance. What could be more romantic?? In fact, this scenario is ...
Views: 851(1 vote) - The Lie of Love - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Allan HardmanCould it be possible that we were lied to about love? I think so. I think we have been taught a big lie about Love. To understand the origin of the lie, we need to go back to a time, not too long ago, in a place, not so very far away. That is the time you were a small child. In that time not ...
Views: 804 - Five Ways to Avoid Intimacy - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Allan HardmanWhen an apprentice called me to tell me his wife was thinking about leaving him, he was mystified about what more she could want from him. He worked hard, supported her so she could be a stay-at-home Mom, he mowed the lawn, and kept the oil changed in the car. He was always busy with tasks and ...
Views: 3880(1 vote) - Soul Dance or Ego Dance: Attracting and Creating Fulfilling Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Sunil AhujaAre you looking for that perfect relationship, or is your relationship not quite as perfect as you want it to be? That's because our intimate relationships are mostly based on fantasy -- a subconscious, idealized image, and a belief that a partner that matches this fantasy image will bring us ...
Views: 3193 - Long Distance Relationship Advice: Six Tips for the Sleepless in Seattle - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Marcia BaczynskiIn my work as a relationship coach, I spend a lot of time on the road. (In fact, I’m writing this article in an airport right now.) Inevitably, when talking with my fellow travelers, one will mention they are in a long-distance relationship, and when they find out what I do, they all want to ...
Views: 2212 - Love Conquers All Things - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Michael SinkolongoSomeone told me that love conquers all. Yes, that is what she said. She said Love conquers all. However, she did give me an exception. She told me that the only thing that love cannot conquer is a toothache. Her assertion that the only thing more powerful than love is a toothache is worth ...
Views: 15313 - Unwitting Double Standards: The Bane of Human Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Azriel WinnettWhen the phone rang at the local drug store, the pharmacist was shaken to hear the booming voice of a very angry doctor on the line. The doctor demanded to know why the pharmacist had dispensed medication to his patient completely different to what he had prescribed. Just how careless can a ...
Views: 1659 - Subtle Danger Signals in Everyday Married Life - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Azriel WinnettIf you've been around long enough, you're aware of the many things that can play havoc with domestic peace, even where the parties concerned are not short of goodwill and have the best of intentions. High up on the list of culprits here are poor communication habits, either on their own or in ...
Views: 1073(3 votes) - Dysfunctional Relationships Dynamics Part 1 - Power Struggle - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2011 from Robert Burney"In our disease defense system we build up huge walls to protect ourselves and then - as soon as we meet someone who will help us to repeat our patterns of abuse, abandonment, betrayal, and/or deprivation - we lower the drawbridge and invite them in. We, in our Codependence, have radar systems ...
Views: 1746(2 votes) - Relationships Created from Needs - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Allan HardmanI have been playing with the idea that we create all of our relationships based on the needs they fill. It is not a very romantic notion, but I invite you to read, ponder with me, and let me know what you think. I am thinking of all relationships—romances, friendships, family, strangers, with ...
Views: 683 - Open the Door to Let Love In - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Edie WeinsteinLast night those words echoed through my dream state and when I awoke this morning I was determined to remember them and put the message to use. As a divinely human being and humanly divine being, I take them to heart. In this moment, they are more than a spiritual directive. They are a gateway ...
Views: 698 - Dress To Impress! - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraClothes are a part of a person’s individuality. What a person wears usually speaks volumes about his/her personality. Often, it is an essential factor in the dating game. The majority of the first impression a person creates is largely based on how the one looks—especially on the clothing style. ...
Views: 1295 - *** How to Avoid the Top Relationship Dangers of Minimizing Harmful Behavior - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) Wish*Sylvia’s husband had a rule: If you can’t be home right after work, you had to call. When she rushed a co-worker to the hospital, in the confusion, Sylvia called about thirty minutes after she was due home. When she did phone home, he accused her of cheating on her and lying. The moment she ...
Views: 4340(1 vote) - How to Stay Positive…With a Negative Vibration Spouse or Partner - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Jackie LapinPeople who are making the change to a conscious and spiritually-driven life often discover that they are yoked to someone who is not prepared to come along on that journey. The partner is mired in his or her own negative thoughts and emotions, and meets any topic of spiritual enlightenment, ...
Views: 1612 - He Wants You to Need Him. How Can That Be Healthy? - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Rachael Jayne GrooverA masculine man loves to become aware of a need and fill it. That’s why they love to fix things, make things “better” for you when you are upset, and put a lot of focus on their work. Many men only put attention on what is directly and specifically needed, which is why many bright, confident, ...
Views: 767(6 votes) - Steps For Absolute Honesty – Honestly - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2009 from Dan OhlerDefinition of Honest: truthful; trustworthy; genuine; open Soooo, are you an honest person? Your response is likely, “Yes.” However, if we look deeper in our lives, we may find our response is not totally true. And if we are really honest with ourselves, we may find that our lack of ...
Views: 1825(1 vote) - Mental Landscaping for Effective Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Dan OhlerRecently, we traveled to Southern Alberta to visit with Carol’s side of the family. Are they in-laws, out-laws, or maybe some of both? Regardless, I love them all. As we approached our destination, we chatted about our expectations of how the landscape would look, based upon our memories. ...
Views: 926(1 vote) - Rhubarb Romance: A Little Honey Works Wonders - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2009 from Dan OhlerSpring is in the air. It is a time of new life. There are green grass, kittens, puppies, and rhubarb. Rhubarb? The darned stuff is the first thing to show up in the garden. For those of you who don’t know about rhubarb, it grows from a huge root-ball under the soil. A mass of stalks ...
Views: 1554 - Aren’t Gardens And Relationships The Same? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2009 from Dan OhlerYahoo, it’s spring! It’s a great time to focus on the garden – and relationships. They are the same, aren’t they? Imagine this… As the grass began to grow, I knew it was time to connect with nature and get our garden ready for another productive year. It was fun to work in the garden ...
Views: 2612(3 votes) - Breaking the Cycle of Unfulfilling Relationships, an excerpt from How to Create a Magical Relationship, The Three Simple Ideas T - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneIf you want to create a working, supportive relationship with another, it is imperative that you be willing to be complete in the relationship you have with your parents. The dictionary defines complete as "lacking no component part; full; whole; entire." But what does being incomplete with your ...
Views: 2179(7 votes) - The 5 Principles of a Successful Marriage - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Dr Ana GarciaWhen we embark ourselves in marriage, we embark ourselves in the most meaningful partnership of our lives. Like all relationships, this partnership requires a continuous and mutual exchange of energy and, because of the nature and depth of emotions involved, communication and choices based on ...
Views: 3813 - Trust in Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Kim OlverIn my work with couples, I often find a lack of trust at the root of many challenges they report. Trust is a Verb We have been taught to believe trust is a commodity to be earned by others. Once they have passed certain tests, then we feel safe to extend our trust. I would like to entertain ...
Views: 5284(7 votes) - Relationships: Physical Compatibility - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Kim OlverHow important is physical compatibility in relationships? Well, it depends on the couple. For some people their physicality is of utmost importance to them. When it is, they often want their partner to engage in many of their activities with them. For some couples the physical nature of their ...
Views: 12628 - Turning Up Your Man Magnet - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Suzanne BlakeTurning Up Your Man Magnet! By Suzanne Blake, PCC As a relationship coach, when I first meet with women who haven't been dating for a while, most of them use the same excuse for not getting out there. They all tell me that they have to lose five to twenty pounds before they feel they are ...
Views: 1050 - Ghost of Christmas PastSubmitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Susan JoyceGhost of Christmas Past This is a story about learning to forgive. The man I divorced 25 years ago, is still in my life: the father of my daughters, the grandfather of my grandchildren. I see his face in their features. I see his mannerisms in their smiles and gestures. My grandson looks ...
Views: 782 - The Seven Sacred Steps to Extraordinary Loving - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Sharon WalkerThe Seven Sacred Steps are very powerful tools to conjure the energy of extraordinary loving for yourself, your partner and others. They first must used to give yourself - body mind and spirit the great treasure of extraordinarily loving yourself. The first sacred step is to Stand as a ...
Views: 2902 - Love in Action - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Melody BrookeWhat does it mean to tell someone “I love you”? How many times have people said that to you in your lifetime? The words are great to hear. They make us feel all warm and mushy inside. Of course, there are different kinds of love. Our minister may say “I love you” but it means something ...
Views: 1290 - Regulation of Sensitivities in Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Delyse LedgardThe pain of not being heard, or betrayed, lied to or criticized are examples of experiences from our past that become sensitivities we bring into our present relationships. We become vigilant to these behaviors in others, and it takes only a hint of the original betrayal to cause a reaction. ...
Views: 597 - Diffferentiation in Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Delyse LedgardThe concept of differentiation is central to the work I do with couples. In this article I provide a couple of definitions and identify the skills needed for differentiation, and some of the ways couples avoid doing this work in their relationships. Differentiation is the active, ongoing ...
Views: 668 - 4 Ways to Survive the Hard Times and Come Out Closer - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Sharon RivkinIs it possible for something good to come out of the economic downturn? Can a relationship, even one that may be experiencing its own hard times, come out better for surviving the hard times? Here are some ways to use the recession to your benefit: 1. Back to Basics. View this as an ...Is ...
Views: 2170(2 votes) - 6 Ways to Stay Focused on What You Really Want in Your Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Sharon RivkinNo matter how young or old you are, or how hard things have been, it’s never too late to review what works and what doesn’t work in your life. It’s easy to lose focus on what you really want due to the daily demands of life. However, there’s always a way to look at your life differently, to ...
Views: 4459 - 3 Stages of Mending a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Chris RobertsWhen you get dumped next the negative feelings start coming in to your mind. You may become suicidal or you can end up being all alone by yourself. You may end your entire social circle by not going out and not answering phone calls. This condition of depression is very painful. You may not feel ...
Views: 654 - Being Dumped Sucks – How You Can Get Over It - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Chris RobertsThere are many reasons why people are being dumped. You would never know if a relationship can last as it may look fine at the moment. But whatever may be the reason, you need to get over the bad experience as soon as you can. Life presents its own challenges to face in different forms. This is ...
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