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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- The Psychology of Falling in Love - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2009 from Patrick WanisLove is a state that exists within you and someone else triggers that state so that you fall in love. How does that psychological process work? “Can you think of someone in your life who instantly brings a smile to your face or a warm feeling inside of you? “ One such person for me was my ...
Views: 6282(1 vote) - I Should Have Married A Mind Reader! - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2009 from Noelle NelsonYou barely make it through the door after a particularly “challenging” (oh how you hate that word) day at work, when your spouse thrusts the baby into your arms, aims the three year old in your general direction and cries on his or her way out the door, “Hon, you take them, I gotta go chill.” ...
Views: 1155 - *** Relationship Breakup: Heartbreak and Healing - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2009 from Margaret PaulLindsay called me for counseling because her boyfriend of 18 months had just ended their relationship. Lindsay, 28, had been sure that Jake was "Mr. Right.""I am so heartbroken," sobbed Lindsay. "I don't know how I’m going to get through this. It feels like my ...
Views: 5458(5 votes) - Heal Your Heart in Just 21 Days - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2009 from Lisa SteadmanConventional wisdom says it takes just 21 days to establish a new habit. So what if that new habit involves getting over a breakup? Is it possible to exorcise your ex, clear your head, and heal your heart in just 3 weeks? It is when you enroll in a crash course in breakup survival, immerse ...
Views: 2845(3 votes) - Reconnect with the Ex? What You Need to Know Before You Give it Another Go - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2009 from Lisa SteadmanAfter a relationship ends, it's all too easy to second-guess the decision to split up. And while reconsidering doesn't necessarily mean you should reunite, what happens if you and your ex DO decide you'd like to give the relationship another go? Maybe the time away from one another has shown you ...
Views: 9270(3 votes) - After the Breakup: The Do’s and Don'ts of Dealing with Your Ex - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2009 from Lisa SteadmanEveryone knows breaking up is hard to do. But staying in contact with your ex following a breakup? That's where things get really tricky. By remaining in each other's lives, you run the risk of a post-breakup rendezvous, holding onto feelings for your ex, and in general delaying your ability to ...
Views: 3243(3 votes) - Heartbreaker 101: How to Heal Your Heart and Be Glad He’s Gone! - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2009 from Lisa SteadmanThere’s no denying it. Breaking up is oh-so hard to do, especially in today’s 24-hour techno-savvy world of Facebook, Twitter, and post-breakup booty calls arranged via sexting. Before you get down in the dumps about getting dumped (or even if you did the dumping), the following five tips will ...
Views: 3086(6 votes) - Good Communication For A Better Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraAny couple who wants to have a strong and loving relationship knows how important communication is. Although we are aware that good communication skills is the major single factor which decides the kind of relationships we build with others, a lot of us are still quite clueless about what it ...
Views: 585 - Unlocking The Diary, Letting the Light Pour In - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsI am about to invite you into my life in a way I have never done before. I am unlocking my diary and posting excerpts every few days in succession. Warning: This post is direct as it came from my actual diary…. it is even often extremely challenging for me to re-read. I share it because my ...
Views: 466 - Why Good Communication is More Important than Ever Now - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2009 from Patrick IwobiDo you talk to your partner? When is the last time you had a conversation about something more significant than what to have for dinner or who needs to pick up the kids after school? In most marriages, the answers are not going to be reassuring. We’ve all heard experts talk about the importance ...
Views: 1387(6 votes) - How Loving Yourself Can Help Your Marriage Overcome the Recession - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2009 from Patrick IwobiYou may have heard the old saying, “You can’t love someone else until you love yourself.” That old saying is true in many ways and is even more relevant when you are trying to save your marriage during a recession. If you can’t value yourself, you won’t be able to value the relationship you ...
Views: 697 - To Forgive An Affair - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraDiscovering an affair is always hurtful—no person is invulnerable to the pain and anguish that it can bring. Often, a person’s initial reaction would be shock, fury and numbness that could go on and on in a vicious cycle. The sad thing is whatever reactions one might have hardly matters at all, ...
Views: 753 - Creative Wedding Proposals: Memorable Ways to Pop the Question - by Your marriage proposal is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to do something unique, memorable and amazing. Make your wedding proposal something that you and your friends will be talking about for years to come.
Here are five creative proposal ideas:
#1 – Online proposal website
With so ...
Views: 788 - Do Not Engage - Dealing With Your Bipolar Partners' Angry Outbursts - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2009 from Kathleen Hennessey Buchanan"I will not engage; I will not engage; I will not engage. No matter what mean, cruel or hurtful things he says, does or accuses me of, I will not engage." I can't tell you how many times that verse has gone through my head, since my husband was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder II, ...
Views: 9062(2 votes) - The Only Single in the Group - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsQuestion: Within my circle of friends, all but one of us has a boyfriend. When we go out it's all the couples...and me. I love being with everyone but sometimes I feel so alone within the group. It's as if a spotlight is on me screaming "I'm the only one that doesn't have someone." What's the ...
Views: 464 - "Eat, Pray, Love" Your Way to Closer Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsSpring has sprung, and many of us are slowly moving out of hibernation and feeling ready to get outside. This luring translates to relationships as well. With the bad news of the recession pounding, we need to surround ourselves with positive, upbeat people to help us shift gears, focus on the ...
Views: 595 - ***Married With Children: Jon and Kate Have It All Wrong - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Like us, we are sure many of you have been following the on-going saga surrounding the so-called “reality” show, Jon & Kate Plus Eight. Well, it seems like Jon and Kate are going to go their separate ways – divorce seems eminent. Ah, but ...
Views: 3024(33 votes) - When Shopping is Not Shopping (for Your Mate) - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2009 from Rachel BerbudeauA typical and yet interesting reality is that most women enjoy shopping and most men do not. As one interested in human behavior this is a fascinating finding worthy of some curiosity. The explanation of the differences between the two genders regarding shopping might be found in a basic ...
Views: 659 - ***Cheating On Your Spouse Is Not Okay! - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. It appears that the Governor of South Carolina, Mark Sanford, has admitted to having an affair. His extramarital love affair with a woman from Argentina has again driven home the point that trust is at the heart of the most successful marriages, and ...
Views: 2947(43 votes) - What Is Young and Is It Better? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2009 from Angel HarperWHAT IS YOUNG AND IS IT BETTER? I read the other day that our 60's are really the new 40's. So does that mean that the 40 year olds are the new 20 year olds? Hmm, maybe not. But what I have discovered is you can be 60 years "old" or 60 years "young". I started my independent study about what ...
Views: 554 - Communication Tips for Talking about Tricky Topics - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2009 from Susie and Otto Collins“I want to quit my job and go back to school.” “I would like us to work with a relationship coach.” “I think we need to make some decisions about our child.” “I want to spend more intimate time with just you.” It's not always easy to speak what you want or how you see a situation in your ...
Views: 1064(1 vote) - Let the Fireworks Continue - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2009 from Jan DeniseAs we pause to celebrate our nation's freedom, it's apparent that we as individuals determine its value to us. We can -- and must, if (SET ITAL) we (END ITAL) are to be free -- declare individual freedom; and we can do it on the same grounds: (SET ITAL) We hold these truths to be ...
Views: 919 - Spiritual Dimension of Sexuality - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Marie BarrettThere is a spiritual dimension to sex and sexuality, as indeed there is to every aspect of human life. Understanding the power of this spirituality and intentionally embracing it can only escalate the richness of our sexual experience. Many single women and men who are celibate, see their ...
Views: 2063 - Ending a Relationship - Help For When You'd Rather Stay - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2011 from Rachel RussoThere is no doubt about it, break ups are painful for all parties involved. Whether you plan to rip it off like a band-aid or plant the seed and treat it like a process, ending a relationship is no easy task. Often, the challenges facing the person initiating a break up are grossly ...
Views: 1986 - Relationship Mistakes - How a Woman Can Ruin Her Most Ideal Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2011 from Rachel RussoWomen make relationship mistakes too; after reading this article, you'll no longer be able to pretend that it's all your soon-to-be-ex boyfriend's fault. Let me guess- you had some great times together-just you and him against the world. He soon became your first thought in the morning and ...
Views: 5980 - ***The John Edwards Affair - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2009 from Colin TippingIf I had known earlier what I have just learned from reading excerpts, in Newsweek, taken from Elizabeth Edwards' recently released book, I would have gone out and put money on the absolute inevitability of her husband's infidelity. I am quite certain that John Edwards had no choice in the ...If ...
Views: 2774 - Finding the Right Mate for You - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2009 from Alina FrankEFT is the most effective tool hands down to break ancient patterns of behavior and thinking both in my opinion and in my experience . Nothing works as elegantly in making links to the past so that all a skilled practitioner has to do is be completely present to what the client is feeling to ...
Views: 1443 - Enhancing Relationships With the Enneagram - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2009 from Nicola BuntingWhat difference would it make to your life if your relationships, at home and at work, were based on mutual understanding and respect, where you inspire each other to be your best and enjoy the differences between you? The Enneagram is a powerful and still surprisingly little known approach to ...
Views: 3414 - What of Our Fathers? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2009 from Jan DeniseWe can be quick to judge our parents. There are so many things they could have done better. That is, if they had been better trained. We tend to compare our parents -- at least during some stage in our lives -- with an ideal that virtually no parent measures up to. If we must compare them, ...
Views: 801(2 votes) - Social Brain Stimulus - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsCommunication leads to community, that is, to understanding, intimacy and mutual valuing. Rollo May We are wired to connect to each other. Daniel Goleman’s new book, Social Intelligence, has uncovered new research on social neuroscience has identified brain cells, termed mirror neurons, which ...
Views: 526 - Letting Go or Holding on to Love - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsQuestion: I have a question about letting go and holding on. I recently ended a relationship with someone who I care dearly about. There is no doubt that my love for this woman is clear to the both of us. During our relationship I learned that this woman has difficulty expressing her love and ...
Views: 1847(1 vote) - Forgiveness: How and Why - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2009 from Isabel KirkForgiveness is one of the most difficult things to do while at the same time one of the most needed in the world. There are plenty of people sick of anger, either toward others or to themselves. Forgiveness involves letting go and surrender of judgment and condemnation while engaging in a ...
Views: 937 - A little bit of empathy, a big benefit for your health - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2009 from Isabel KirkEvery human being needs to get around satisfactory human relations, both in the family and other areas. Your emotional well-being will depend largely on the capacity you have to achieve this objective. In 328 BC, Aristotle said humans are social animals. Nowadays, more and more evidence is ...
Views: 1868 - Relationship Advice: “Should I Take My Partner Back After Infidelity?” - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2009 from Susie and Otto CollinsWhen you find out your partner had an affair, it can seem as if the world stopped and you are frozen in the feelings of pain and hurt in the aftermath of betrayal. As the reality settles in, you might be confused and conflicted about whether or not to take back your mate. You might be ...
Views: 2303 - Speak Up or Sit Down! - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2009 from Maryann ReidSome of you may know her. That woman who speaks her mind and gets what she wants. All the while soft, vulnerable, and smart. This has nothing to do with having a big mouth, but only big dreams. What I'm talking about is being honest about your needs and feelings with people, specifically ...
Views: 638 - Why Playing the "Blame Game" Is So Counter Productive - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2009 from Patrick IwobiIn homes all over the World, couples are playing a dangerous game. It’s a game that erodes the marriage and leads to resentment, bitterness, and built-up anger. It’s known as the blame game. Although most married couples have played it at one time, most don’t realize how counter productive it is ...
Views: 756 - Relationship Tips - How to Manage Love with a Narcissistic Individual - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2009 from Sophie RinaldiI am sure you think as overrated the cliche that 'love is blind' - but neuroscience, this prodigy child of science, unveils with an almost cruel satisfaction that some areas of our brains shut down when love comes upon us, blinding the ration from the smart choices we should make. Brain scans ...
Views: 1067 - After the Wedding: What to Expect During the First Year of Marriage - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2009 from Lauri Allison LaBadieBy this time, most of us have probably attended at least one wedding this summer. I went to one last weekend, and my dear friends Lauri and Jeff, the co-owners of TherapyLinx.com, will be tying the knot in just a few weeks. That got me to thinking how these happy, glowing effervescent brides’ ...
Views: 10110(2 votes) - Signs of a Troubled Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2009 from Lauri Allison LaBadieAnyone who’s been in a long term relationship will tell you there are rough periods, and most people, when they’re honest, will admit to doubts along the way. But sometimes we don’t know how to assess, “Just how bad is it?” Here’s a list of symptoms that suggest a relationship is in trouble. The ...
Views: 1971 - *** It's All About Love! - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2009 from Margaret PaulWhat is life REALLY all about? It's all about love! But what does this mean? Most people, when thinking about love, think about BEING LOVED. But, as an adult, the deeper soul's journey is not about being loved - it is about BEING LOVING. For small children, the main focus is on being loved, ...
Views: 3494(3 votes) - Minefields and Mirrors of Relationships - by Submitted on May 26, 2013 from Lisa RaphaelThe realization that relationships are basically mirrors is the key to healing any and every relationship?with ourselves, with others, with nature and with the universe. We are all inter- connected. What we think, feel and do affects everything around us. We are one. Our entire environment is a ...
Views: 1321 - He Likes Me -- Doesn't He? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsTimes have changed. The days of Rhett Butler telling Scarlett O'Hara he didn't give a damn are long gone. That's a shame in some ways. At least it made dating simple. Nowadays, guys try to be considerate in an attempt to not hurt your feelings. His miscues make it hard to know whether he's ...
Views: 720 - ***What to Say to the One You Love? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have learned lots of interesting and important lessons from the thousands of successfully married couples we have interviewed over the years – of that you can be sure. There is no question – the wisdom of these wonderful marriages humbles us when ...
Views: 5185(39 votes) - Think Thoughts Are Inconsequential? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2009 from Jan DeniseIt's tough enough to assume responsibility for our actions and words. Should we, can we, also be responsible for our thoughts and intentions? Those are private, right? Yours alone? Apparently not. According to Marilyn Schlitz, president of the Institute of Noetic Sciences, we're ...
Views: 880 - Watch Out for Internet Dating Dangers - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2009 from Judith ShervenMost people who sign up at dating websites are usually clueless about Internet dating dangers — whether they pay to join an Internet dating service or it’s a totally free Internet dating site — it doesn’t make the experience any safer if you don’t know what to watch out for. So, be on the look ...
Views: 1171 - *** Relationships: The Art of Listening - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2009 from Margaret PaulIn 1974, Dr. Virginia Satir presented the concept of mirroring in her groundbreaking book, "Conjoint Family Therapy." In 1975 Dr. Thomas Gordon wrote a best-selling book called "Parent Effectiveness Training." In the book he taught parents to "active listen," which ...
Views: 3793(5 votes) - The Dating Dance: Games vs Boundaries - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2010 from Barrett Clemmensen PowellDespite the movies and television we see, there is no need to play games when dating. However we do need to set boundaries or limitations. Game-playing (unhealthy) and boundary-setting (healthy) are two different things. Because the Law of Attraction says we get what we focus on (what we put our ...
Views: 3469 - Can an Affair Save your Marriage? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2009 from Dana HunterMany people who have had an affair see their marriage collapse and end in divorce. However, there are undoubtedly a very significant number of people that have had one or more affairs and also remained happily married throughout this time. The difficulty is in compiling statistics because those ...
Views: 1471 - Anger Management To Deal With Emotional Blackmail - by Submitted on May 27, 2010 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondYou Mean I can Have What I Want? Fabienne drooled over that gorgeous pair of shoes in the store window. Just for once she wanted to indulge herself by splurging on something personal that wasn’t an absolute necessity. She had spoken to Larry about it and he gave her the go ahead. This weekend ...
Views: 2819 - Marketing Yourself: 5 Tips to Get Out of a dating Rut - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2009 from Brandi HamrickStuck in a dating rut? Tired of attracting the wrong kind of people? Change your approach to finding the right person. If a business isn’t attracting enough customers, they don’t just complain without taking action. A successful business will change their marketing strategies and do what it ...
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