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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Can You Honestly Get Naked with Yourself Right Now? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from Dr. Cindy BrownWhat do I mean by getting Honestly Naked? I am referring to you becoming conscious and aware of yourself, your challenges and your life… HONESTLY! THEN, dealing with these in an open, authentic fashion….not hiding, or avoiding (being in denial), but instead exploring, sharing and speaking in a ...
Views: 1107(1 vote) - Stress Relief In Uncertain Economic Times: 7 Steps to a Balanced, Healthy Life and Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from Dr. Cindy BrownIn today’s economic climate, many of us must balance many things in our lives to survive, be happy, healthy and successful. You may be juggling a job or career, or maybe you own or have several jobs or businesses like I do, a relationship, and some of you may even have children and then there’s ...
Views: 1715(2 votes) - Sweetening A Sour Apple: When A Bad Apple Spoils the Bunch - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsBecause life requires that we interact with different personalities, it is not uncommon for us to encounter a situation where there is one person whose behavior may negatively impact the experiences of others. Someone who is loud and crass can interrupt the serenity of those who come together to ...
Views: 676 - Don't Ever Quit on Your Teenager - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2009 from Mark GregstonI have seen many parents wonder what in the world happened to their family. They seemingly woke up one morning to a teen who completely changed overnight. Their loving, kind and thoughtful kid is now a person they no longer recognize. It is easy for them to feel they are not prepared for all of ...
Views: 1269(8 votes) - Doctor Credits Her Successful 17 Year Marriage to Science of the Mind - by Submitted on May 21, 2010 from Leah FriedmanAlthough many Americans still have a firm belief in marriage and “living happily ever after,” the fact that 50% of marriages end in divorce and that violence is the reason stated for divorce in 22% of middle-class marriages shows just how often this dream goes wrong. And it is not only ...
Views: 1269(1 vote) - Learning the Lesson - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Timothy MeadLearn the lesson! How many times have you been told to learn the lesson? How many times have you offered this advice to others? The questions follow, “What lesson?” and “How do I learn it?” First some background: All life forms are symbiont beings. The physical shell is a vehicle which ...
Views: 1103(1 vote) - *** Understanding and Using The Pit to Create Healthier, Happier Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Scout WilkinsThe pit is that place of drama where you might end up sometimes, when things are lousy: you lost your job, your kid called from the police station, your best friend let you down, you burned dinner. Sometimes, we just let ourselves go there. Sometimes, we see our friends go there. It ...
Views: 1322 - Journey to a Better Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Ray Kadkhodaian,CAC,LCPC,CADC,PsyD & Jean Kadkhodaian,MA,CH,Rev.The symbol for a journey towards a better relationship is a spiral. Growth itself is also a journey. Look at the center of a spiral, this is where life begins. As we walk on our journey we soon come to a challenge and descend into the shadow side. This is where we face our fears, learn our ...
Views: 1593(3 votes) - The Essence of a Better Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Ray Kadkhodaian,CAC,LCPC,CADC,PsyD & Jean Kadkhodaian,MA,CH,Rev.If there is anything I have learned in my own life and the lives of those I have helped, it is that we are all here to create a better relationship with all those around us as we individually experience our own joys, sorrows and overall discoveries. It is in our attempt to share these ...
Views: 1567(1 vote) - Better Community Equals a Better Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Ray Kadkhodaian,CAC,LCPC,CADC,PsyD & Jean Kadkhodaian,MA,CH,Rev.With divorce being at epidemic proportions, couples today are seeking ways to have a better relationship and prevent becoming part of the statistics. Reports have shown that over a 40 year period, 6-7 out of 10 marriages will end up in divorce. These numbers also do not represent divorce ...
Views: 1459(1 vote) - Attempting a Better Relationship After Divorce - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Ray Kadkhodaian,CAC,LCPC,CADC,PsyD & Jean Kadkhodaian,MA,CH,Rev.Better relationship? The Chicago Cubs? You may be asking what the two have in common. Back in 2003, it was extremely disappointing watching the 7th game between the Chicago Cubs and the Florida Marlins. The game started out great and somewhere along the way, it headed south. There were many Cub ...
Views: 1667 - A Better Relationship with Yourself - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Ray Kadkhodaian,CAC,LCPC,CADC,PsyD & Jean Kadkhodaian,MA,CH,Rev.After working with people for over 10 years, I have found that what happens to us is not as important as how we process what has happened. As children our parents and other adults tell us white-lies or keep secrets from us in order to protect us. This creates confusion between what we feel ...
Views: 1394 - Creating Successful Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Licia GinneWhat makes couples counseling successful? In my experience couple's who are willing to take risks, try new behaviors and invest time and energy increase their changes for success. Learning how to communicate and problem resolve provide the foundation but time and energy are essential for lasting ...
Views: 1257 - All Broken Up - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Keith and Maura Leon - Relationship Specialists, Best Selling Authors, Master Relationship Coaches and TrainersDear Keith and Maura, I broke up with my lover last August, but still now I have his feelings. I didn't know why he left me without even telling me. I stayed for some time but now am dying of his love. What do I do? Please help as soon as possible. Broken Hearted in Kenya Dear ...
Views: 1910(3 votes) - How Could This Be About Me? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Keith and Maura Leon - Relationship Specialists, Best Selling Authors, Master Relationship Coaches and TrainersDear Keith and Maura, I just found your website and podcasts yesterday and they totally resonate with me. I am a very active youthful 55. I was widowed suddenly at 32 with 2 babies. My soulmate died and I was lost and devastated. I banged around for 10 years raising my boys, working and ...
Views: 1406(3 votes) - Why Hire a Dating and Relationship Coach? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Nicole BaikieEveryone at some point in their lives is faced with the cold hard facts that in some area of their life change needs to occur - big time! For many people, their whole lives are about avoiding the changes they need to make. However, life has a funny way of catching up with you, and when it does ...
Views: 2189(6 votes) - Growing by Connecting - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsQuestion: I have taken quite a few Chopra Center retreats in the past year, I am wondering if it is necessary to stay in touch with like-minded others in order to stay in touch with the consciousness that we share? Is a higher state of consciousness something that we need to spend effort in ...
Views: 469 - Relationship Lessons from Gorillas - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsMy daughter recently returned from a two week trip to Rwanda and Uganda. She attended a wedding of friends who celebrated in the tradition of their countries. While in Africa, she visited the natural habitats of the native gorillas on a guided tour through mountains and deep forests. The family ...
Views: 628 - Adult Peer Pressure and Toxic Relationships: Are they Stealing your Dreams? - by Submitted on May 13, 2013 from Maria MarYou tell your children not to give in to peer pressure. But do YOU recognize the level of adult peer pressure you carry on your Psychic Shoulders? Is it taking a toll in your manifestation process? Find out! Let's start your exploration with a beautiful parable I use in the Toxic ...
Views: 5692(4 votes) - Overcoming Roadblocks to Romance - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Sherri Nickols"The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated." ~ William James What road conditions are stopping you from unleashing yourself and driving like a diva into an extraordinary relationship? Is your road harangued with the hairpin turns of expectation, insecurities ...
Views: 963 - Love and Romance: #1 Tip for Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Sherri Nickols"As you continue to send out love, the energy returns to you in a regenerating spiral... As love accumulates, it keeps your system in balance and harmony. Love is the tool, and more love is the end product." ~Sara Paddin Hidden Power of the Heart Love and romance are in the air along with ...
Views: 706 - Five Ways to Make Your Relationships Bloom: The August Full Moon in Aquarius - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Ron Archer"Let us be grateful to people who make us happy: They are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom." -Marcel Proust (1871 - 1922) A few months ago a friend gave me a small African Violet when he came over for a dinner party. It was very sweet and a thoughtful change from the usual ...
Views: 1955(1 vote) - *** Why Don't I Have Friends? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Margaret Paul"Why don't I have friends?" asked Isabella in one of our phone counseling sessions.Isabella, 25 and very attractive, was having a problem that many people have. Sometimes, if people don't keep their high school friends or meet friends in college or at work, they may have trouble making ...
Views: 4946(2 votes) - Our Relationship Stuff - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2010 from Julie FarhaWe all have our stuff… our issues to be recognized, wounds to heal, negative patterns to end. Every relationship experience and every experience in a relationship is an opportunity to discover something about yourself by recognizing unhealthy patterns, healing wounds, and identifying what it is ...
Views: 856(2 votes) - Signs That You Are in an Abusive Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Debi BerndtAbuse can come in many different forms – physical, emotional and even financial. If you are not sure if you are in a bad situation, review the different types of abuse and warning signs to see if you need assistance. 1. Physical abuse – This does not only apply to women or men who are bruised ...
Views: 2546 - Histories and Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Michael PaulWe all have history. For many, history forms our present views of relationships. From our past, we determine what we liked in relationships and what we didn’t like. This becomes, in part, the basis for forming new relationships when we have had the experience of ending one. One might think ...
Views: 1156(2 votes) - How to Get Over a Fear of Being Rejected - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2009 from Royane RealSome people end up living very lonely lives, with few friends, and no loving partner. Why? Because their fear of being rejected is so powerful that they can't find the courage to approach others socially. Learn what you can do to increase your confidence and improve your social ...
Views: 4554 - Getting Along with Family - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2009 from Deborah HillFamily members are often our greatest and most difficult ongoing teachers. A reader of my blog "Getting Along with Difficult People" (www.theawarenessinitiative.com/blog) asked how to get along with family members. I can't say that I've mastered the family conumdrum. In fact, I believe that ...
Views: 6434(3 votes) - How to Bounce Back After He Starts Dating First - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2009 from Lisa BrooksIt can feel shocking when the man you were in a long-term relationship with starts dating again, while you are still getting over the loss of the relationship and being alone. It opens up new wounds of betrayal and heartache. Here are some tips on how to handle the challenges of bouncing back ...
Views: 693 - ***The Recipe for Finding Love Again - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We know how you feel! Starting over is really difficult when it comes to love and marriage. Getting a divorce, breaking up, or losing the one you love due to their death can be overwhelmingly painful. The simple truth is this – you entered into ...
Views: 3747(35 votes) - Warning Signs of a Controlling Relationship: Read This Before Someone Controls You! - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2009 from Michael LeeKnowing the warning signs of a controlling relationship is crucial because it helps you avoid being manipulated and controlled by a potential partner. If dealt with correctly, you can re-establish a balanced relationship in which both parties participate fairly in the decision-making process and ...
Views: 3078(4 votes) - Should I Go The Distance? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2009 from Yvonne ChaseDear Coach Yvonne, I met a very nice man 3 months ago and we're enjoying getting to know each other but here's the thing, we live 3,000 miles away and neither of us wants to move. We've seen each other a couple of times since meeting but that's about it. I'm wondering if I should pursue this ...
Views: 1549(3 votes) - 10 Things You Can Do When You Are Lonely But Not Ready for a Relationship (Part 2) - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoBeing alone can be, well, LONELY! And most of us – even those who like to be alone – don't really like to be lonely. But what can we do about it? Many of us find ourselves alone, and lonely, for a reason: our previous relationship just ended, we've tried and tried to sustain a successful ...
Views: 4586(1 vote) - 10 Things You Can Do When You Are Lonely But Not Ready for a Relationship (Part 1) - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoI know of a woman who so longed to be loved, held, and not feel lonely that she gave her lover, a man she hadn’t known long and knew to be a criminal, all of her life savings—some forty-three thousand dollars to be exact. He promised, along with his abiding love, that he would give her back her ...
Views: 1441(1 vote) - Trust - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2009 from Aryana HudsonIn any situation where an agreement is formed to share a reality there is then made a commitment between the parties to do that. Legally the words ‘in trust’ mean and that there is something left to an appointed trustee lets say to care for and to dispense to another that may be a minor. So ...
Views: 1798(3 votes) - How To Please A Man And Make Him Love You More - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2009 from Michael LeeIt has been commonly thought that pleasing a man would require tons of research, experience, and a lot of other factors that you need to be good at. Well, you can take it easy. Just like any other skill; the more you do it, the more you become better at it; however, there are views on how to ...
Views: 4812(1 vote) - The Single, Best, Handy, Working Assumption for Drama-Free Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsAs many of you know, we discuss love relationships, psychically and common-sensically, on the famous Radio From Hell show every Friday morning (KXRK 96.3 FM – www.x96.com ). Many people want happy, fulfilling interpersonal connections in their life and continue to struggle over this. So, I want ...
Views: 582(1 vote) - Pregnancy, Childbirth & Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2009 from Michael PaulYou've just given birth to the most precious gift imaginable. This gift will portend the future of the world. Certainly you hope this precious gift child will have a life filled with excitement, wonder, and happiness. But what if the excitement and wonder bring this child a world of ...
Views: 934(3 votes) - Four Things Necessary for a Happy, Whole Love Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsMargaret Ruth, I am heart broken over my break up. What went wrong, we were so in love? Margaret Ruth, I have made so many mistakes in love. What do I need to be certain of a long term, happy marriage? Intimate love relationships can obviously be the most rewarding and the most painful to ...
Views: 1158(2 votes) - 3 Easy Ways To Improve Any Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2009 from Laurie-Ann MurabitoRelationships are all around us, from our family members to fellow colleagues to customers and to our friends. There are three easy things you can do today to instantly change the relationships in your life. Listening When was the last time you really felt you were heard? Many of us do not ...
Views: 1082(1 vote) - See What Lurks Beyond Your Own Drama - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Jan DeniseINSIDE RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, JULY 31, 2009 See What Lurks Beyond Your Own Drama Is there somebody who always leaves you feeling better than he found you? I used to live next door to such a person. Whenever I ran into Bob, whether it was for 20 seconds or 20 ...
Views: 1275(2 votes) - Can You Walk the Six Steps for Your Marriage Counseling Journey? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Dr. Joseph AbrahamThe Six Steps of ‘Save Your Relationship’ Marriage Counseling Guide Six steps of my Marriage Counseling processes are reviewed; the various qualities of being a marriage counselor, a psychologist, a life coach and a relationship advice provider are outlined. Step # 1: I ask to speak loud ...
Views: 2576(1 vote) - *** Compassion Fatigue (Part 2) - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Daniel BenorRemedies A common sense, Cost vs. Benefit Analysis (CBA) of your situation while under stress will often point to obvious changes you can make in order to change and improve the situation. For instance, working fewer hours is permitted! If you are exhausted, you will be less than fully ...
Views: 1667(1 vote) - *** Compassion Fatigue (Part 1) - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Daniel BenorOverview The recent tsunami in Asia and major earthquake in Pakistan have highlighted problems long recognized in the helping professions. Caregivers have known well the potentially draining experiences of compassion fatigue – from experiences of policemen, firefighters, paramedics and other ...
Views: 1535(1 vote) - When it comes to dating, are you a Cougar? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Debi BerndtIn case you haven't heard of this new phrase, a "Cougar" is named used to refer to an older woman who dates men much younger than her. Cougars come in all types and the reasons for their particular fetish with the boys are varied. Some are content with having fun and others seek more in the ...
Views: 2368(2 votes) - ***When A Good Woman Marries A Bad Man - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We are eternal optimists – make no mistake about that! With us, glasses are always half full, not half empty. The sun is always shining where we live! We are eternally hopeful that tomorrow will be a brighter day – and it usually is! We love life ...
Views: 5090(31 votes) - Tender and Brief - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIt seems incredulous to me that I am grieving a goldfish. My past experiences of gold fish were always short lived and I warned my young daughter that her new fish probably wouldn’t last a week. But as week after week and month after month went by, she loved to tease me about Bubble’s longevity. ...
Views: 496 - Stress and the Dating Game - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2009 from Cheryl HitchcockIn my years as a therapist and Stress Management Coach I have spoken with a lot of single men and the subject that has them stressed out more often than not is the dating 'game'. While they have their lives together for the most part, good jobs, a vehicle, their own place to live, leisure ...
Views: 5342 - Cultivating Kindness - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2009 from Cheryl HitchcockThis is a great topic and so timely for today with all of the turmoil that seems to be going on globally, especially with the fear that is being cultivated about the world's economy. We tend to get caught up in our own lives, and making sure that we are okay and have enough. Often we tend to ...
Views: 1039 - Stressful Relationships - How to Create Harmony Without Forgiveness - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2009 from Cindy L. HerbHow many of you have been so angry that you could not see straight? Perhaps you are upset with another or have stressful relationships. If you would like to create more harmony with others, it is possible. I have a family member who used to get under my skin so badly that I never wanted to ...
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