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Dear Dr. Romance:
I have been together with my wife for about 3 years now. We have worked on many issues in our marriage and resolved most of them, however there is still one issue that has not been resolved.
It seem that little mistakes I make such as not taking out the trash when it smells ... Views: 890
Dear Dr. Romance: As I am approaching middle age, my kids are graduating from high school, I am a single woman, kept a youthful image, found myself many times attractive to older married men, I have been saying no, but now I feel free to say ... Views: 1450
Dear Dr. Romance:
I find your articles very interesting. I have a minor problem with my husband. he keeps telling me that I don't listen and that I am stubborn. I admit my mind goes blank sometimes because he expects a lot from me and treats me like a teenager. I keep telling him ... Views: 785
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am confused I am dating a deaf girl and I love her with all my heart. The problem is she likes to party sleeping around and in the community they have noticed it. They keep complaining about deaf gals but sometimes I want to cry coz I love that girl so ... Views: 796
Dear Dr. Romance,
My name is Michelle i am 18 years old.. I was reading "How Not to Fight"; and everything that you talked about not doing during a fight I tend to do. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and we tend to fight a lot about the smallest things that you could ... Views: 928
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm an Iraqi woman in my forties. I am divorced & I have a daughter in her twenties. I read your article "Age Differences in Dating". 3 months ago I fell in love with a man a few years older than my daughter. At first I didn’t know ... Views: 1208
Dear Dr. Romance:What to say in this situation? OK so there's this girl in my art class that i really want to talk to and get to know! Problem is she sits at a different table then me and i just plain don't know what to say to her! I'm a senior and she's a sophomore! What should I say ... Views: 774
Dear Dr. Romance
Your website impressed me and prompted this note, and I'd appreciate your thoughts.I am a reasonably well-educated individual which includes a couple of degrees in psychology and have been quite successful in my career. My wife who is also well-educated and our ... Views: 675
Dear Dr. Romance,
I have read some of your articles and am very impressed. I am about to write about something that will probably be one of the most bizarre cases you have ever heard. About 12 years ago, I felt a strong attraction towards a girl who was in my high school. We ... Views: 872
Dear Dr. Romance: I was very attracted to a lady and I did things for her with out asking for any thing in return. She was single and I fixed her jeep, I put down new linoleum in her kitchen for her, we did go out together for drinks, dinner, dancing, movies as ... Views: 2283
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am in my late sixties, and I . For over the past 14 months I was in a very loving, intimate relationship with a man in his mid thirties. It has ended because I could not let go of the age issue in my mind. We live in different states and we traveled back and forth to ... Views: 941
Dear Dr. Romance: I live in Scotland and I think we are quite backward when it comes to mental health issues. I have spoken to 2 therapists now about my obsessive thinking, both of whom seem strangely perplexed by what I perceive to be quite a common problem. I seem to ... Views: 1256
Dear Dr. Romance:
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years now. There is a seventeen year difference in age. I left for two and a half months to help my older sister during her second pregnancy because her husband was in Iraq.
When I came back I found out ... Views: 1662
Dear Dr. Romance: I think I am missing myself
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am a women in my early twenties from India. I have gone through your website and i think u can help me. For the first time in life I am so confused, so helpless, and I don't know what i want. Everything ... Views: 1330
Dear Dr. Romance:
I was wondering if I could ask you for some advice. I'm feeling so troubled. I got divorced a few years ago. Since then, I became involved with a man more than ten years older than me. I got a work assignment out of town, and he was adamant about keeping a ... Views: 731
Thank you Dear Dr Romance:
I've stumbled across your website, and think I'm going to be eternally grateful for having done so. Your advice is a pleasure to read, with helpful action-plans for effecting change. I love your articles on relationships with parents/children, being one's own ... Views: 697
Dear Dr. Romance:
To be honest I think she is really scared to go to therapyI have been many timesAnd I know it worksAnd I really want her and I to learn how to communicate
stumped
Dear Reader:
she probably thinks you want to fix her, and that hurts her feelings. Ask her to go ... Views: 643
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm a middle eastern single mother in my late twenties. suffering from depression and stress. As a child, I always wanted extra care and attention from my parents. I was closer to my father than my mother. When I was molested by an uncle, I complained to my parents ... Views: 832
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am a young man whose life has fallen apart because of the girl I love so much. I slept with her but then she betrayed me by telling every body she saw and I felt so bad and walked away from her when she needed me the most. I could count all the tears that run out of ... Views: 2597
Dear Dr. Romance:
I saw your article "The One Who Got Away " about getting back together with your ex.
Can this really happen? My wife is divorcing me because she has fallen out of love with me. We aren't divorced yet but are in the process by going to a mediator. It's something I do ... Views: 1154
Dear Dr. Romance:
I wanted to get someone else's take on what is going on in my marriage right now. My problem is that right now my wife and I do not have sex all that often, we average about once every month and half to two months. I have tried talking to my wife about this subject before and ... Views: 1097
Dear Dr. Romance:
I have been dating my boyfriend for seven years, I care for him deeply. However, I am not happy. I want to break-up with him, but I don't know the best way to do it and not hurt him. I would still like to remain friends with him, or is this just wishful thinking?
Dear ... Views: 1169
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm at a loss as to what to do. I'm married to a man that I sleep in the same bed (our daughter co-sleeps with us) with but other than that not much else. We are in our thirties, and we've been married about two years but have been living together for longer. In ... Views: 1092
Dear Dr. Romance:
I had two divorces, and both men turned out to be gay. By this time my self esteem was shattered, I felt there was something wrong with me. To make a long story short, I basically started dating and slept with men, just because they showed they desired me. ... Views: 1024
Dear Dr. Romance:
I recently read your article "The Challenges of Blended Families" focused on interfaith couples and their impact on raising children. I wanted to reach out to you as a last resort to saving my relationship. My girlfriend and i have been together for three ... Views: 805
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm a single mother suffering in depression and stress.
I met my ex husband online, we fall in love and got married. He was a Middle Eastern guy. We had a daughter, the marriage didn't last long and we got a divorce. I was aggressive, I used to break things, yell at ... Views: 847
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm a 23 year old single mother and believe me when I say my life has been crazy and very rough. I have no relationship with the father of my child. He's pretty much abandoned our four year old son after his 1st birthday. He doesn't help out, and blames everything ... Views: 861
Dear Dr. Romance;
I read your article "Age Differences in Dating" I am dating a man who is 22 yrs, younger than myself. He appeared older and I appeared younger to him. Now I'm afraid the age difference means our relationship won't work. Would you be ... Views: 875
Dear Dr. Romance:
I suffer with sleeping alone in "our" bedroom while my wife of 14 years, sleeps in our two pre-teen sons' bedroom. I've tried to talk and reason with her about this important problem, only to fall on deaf ears. I'm desperate. What else can i do? How can i get ... Views: 801
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm having major anxiety about the guy I'm dating. I wanted to talk with him, but I lost my strength when I asked about his ex and he gave me an answer like, "There are things you need to know and things you don't need to know and when things don't affect ... Views: 690
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm still having a bit of trouble letting go and cutting off communication with a guy who mistreats me. I understand in my head that this is not right, but I can't seem to get it emotionally. Yesterday was his birthday and particularly difficult to ... Views: 640
Dear Dr. Romance
I am in a terrible funk over a failed relationship that lasted 2 years and I thought would lead to marriage. We met online and now I'm afraid if I go online again, he will see my profile and/or I will see his. I took this breakup so hard, the thought of that happening just ... Views: 639
Dear Dr. Romance
I'm in my seventies, and he is 25 years younger.we met on a senior dating site almost two years ago, and have been living together for over a year. He and my daughter went to the same high school, and he says he was attracted to me then and always compared his other ... Views: 964
Dear Dr.Romance:
i wear make up skinny jeans hollister shirts cardigans uggs and converse or just boots I love to act sing dance I'm a gr8t actress I'm always working out love to run I'm smart funny short brown hair sometimes jewlery now I have a crush on someone I always talk to him we ... Views: 835
Dear Dr. Romance:
I don't even know where to start… I just did the most stupid thing alive!! I send the man I can't forget a text message…and he did not reply. I don't think he wants to speak to me. He knows I'm married.
I was 20 years old when I fell in love with him. I was ... Views: 1695
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm really confused about a guy I know online from a social site, he's ten years older than I am. We've been in contact for several months. We now live in different countries. Recently, our chatting got intense and he told me that he likes me. ... Views: 695
Dear Dr. Romance,
I am a young adult male who has always had some sort of complication in relationships. I need help on deciding what I should do from the point at where I’m at now. The situation is that I have been talking to this girl. She first started talking to me but I didn't really ... Views: 843
Dear Dr. Romance: I'm terrified to recommit
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm in my mid-twenties and a professional. I recently brokeup from a bad relationship with my fiancee, and lost everything. Its been sometime and I've moved on I'm doing well, but find ... Views: 1044
Dear Dr. Romance:
I saw your article: "Debunking Dating Myths" Great article, good advice.
I couldn't agree with you more. It was a very timely message for me. Just recently, I decided to let go of my partner...for good...It's only been 2-1/2 months since ... Views: 809
Dear Dr. Romance:
Incomparable? I was in a beautiful meaningful relationship that led to a too brief but wonderful marriage until tragedy struck and my husband died two years ago. I rejoined the dating world nine months agoand am having a difficult time finding someone who can measure up to my ... Views: 874