Intimacy Articles

Have you ever heard of a dog that gives you the middle finger, snubs you when you call, believes that you exist to please her and that she doesn’t have to please you (unless she feels like it)—and channels the worst parts of your mother to boot? A dog that intentionally tries to trip you when ...

WHAT IS IMPOTENCE? Impotence is the inability to get a potent enough erection to perform the act of sexual intercourse. The causes are mainly emotional and psychological in origin, though physical factors may also contribute. The closing section of this article discusses brain entrainment as an effective cure of impotence. THE CAUSES AMONGST VARIOUS AGE GROUPS Impotency affects men of all ages - from young adolescents to those of post-middle age. The factors which contribute

While it is true that sexy is purely a state of mind, there are still a couple of things you can do to turn up the romance at home. When it comes to preparing for a romantic evening at home, be sure that nothing can interrupt the mood. Turn off the cell phone, television, and computer, since modern technology is not required for a night of intimacy. And since we are talking about romance here, it's always good to have a few candles on hand. What's romance without candlelight?

Jealousy is an ugly, unpredictable and worst emotion of fear, insecurity and envy over love and relationship. Even though jealousy is unhealthy, it is but a normal occurrence in every part of the relationship. The perception of jealousy differs from one person to another as it can be stronger to some and sometimes, it consumes them. Now, how can you really say that the jealousy is not healthy anymore? When a person is strongly in love with his partner, he doesn’t know when

10 simple things to spark that desire and set your love life on fire again! After many years of being in a committed relationship, both people very busy, kids running around, family obligations, and possibly even two careers and a household to manage, it’s not shocking that intimacy would be the last thing on someone's mind.

"Spiritual Relationships" from my book Pillars of Awesome Relationships . . . We are spiritual beings and we never get farther away from our true spiritual nature than when we are triggered in an intimate relationship. Intimate relationships can be the most challenging part of living a spiritual life because they demand that we look into the darkest parts of our being and bring light to the farthest reaches of our past. Having an awesome, blessed relationship that nurtures

"I really hate it when we argue…but I've also learned so much about my husband from our fights and we have a stronger relationship now." ~Sandra, married seven years Even the most effective communicators get into spats now and then. And despite your best efforts at marital bliss, you and your partner will disagree and argue from time to time. But not all conflict is bad—conflict (if handled correctly) can teach you a great deal about yourself and your spouse or partner.

Men, Marriage & Emotions As a marriage/couples counselor, I often witness the emotional mismatch men and women struggle with when it comes to the world of feelings: For women, feelings are the pathway to emotional intimacy; closeness and connection are achieved by acknowledging and sharing what is felt. Feelings are something to be experienced, shared and, at times, savored with one another. For men, requests to acknowledge and integrate feelings into their life and relationships place them in unwelcome territory. Here are two possible reasons for this struggle:

There is currently a class war between the workers and the ultra-rich, and the rich are winning. That's unfortunate, because this is not sustainable for anyone. Money, which is nothing more than a piece of paper representing an agreement and a contract, is losing its stability. Investors are moving their wealth into real assets such as gold, metals, food, rice, cafe and everything that has real value. As a consequence, the price of all the commodities is going up. Inflation is going up until people can't buy what they need for survival.

There is a new love and marriage forum which is ideal for anyone who is wanting to swap views or get support or find out information on any subject relating to feelings, relationships and people. You can find it at http://www.girls-magazine.moonfruit.com. Girl's forum. One of the reasons people are so keen to use computers now is because they enjoy reading and writing. Sometimes it is possible to combine this with making friends and finding out things, getting support and sh

One of our aspirations in life aside from work success, we also wish for a perfect partner and pray to make a relationship last. Almost all of us actually wish to have those dreams, as in a desire and wish. Life is necessary with support and one good support we can have is the support from a good relationship.Love in the relationship can totally transform you as a person; it can really make a change in your life from negative to positive. When you want a relationship that wil

Questions have power. They can open our minds up to new possibilities and ways-of-being, they can alter the course of our thoughts and shape our behavior in positive ways... ...and questions can have the opposite effect, shutting us down with the force of a jackhammer. And some questions aren't questions at all, they're really statements or proclamations disguised as questions. Here's an all-too-common example of a statement pretending to be a question that never leads anywhere useful (unless, of course, your goal is a break down in communication):

nnSharing your deepest darkest secrets isn’t easy; it takes courage and a promise of confidentiality and can leave you at your most vulnerable. Truly intimate relationships require a high level of trust in order to sustain. Please take a moment to write your answers to the following questions to assess where you are in your ability to forge meaningful sexual relationships.n n Do I enjoy sex? n What do I like most about my relationship? n What steps can I take today to make

What you create in your home you create in your life. You can begin to take control of your life’s outcome by taking control of your environment. Since you end up spending over half of your life in bed, it should come as no surprise how important this room is to your life’s happiness and the practice of Feng Shui. The goal is to create the optimum environment in your bedroom for prosperity, abundance, relationships and health. The bedroom is the place where you restore and re

We are all embedded in a continuous stream of experience—an endless current that is too expansive to for us to take in all the information at once. One function of the mind is to help you deal with this vastness: To select, order and ultimately, create meaning out of all the life that surrounds you. This filtering of experience has great significance for your marriage/relationship.

After the story broke that New York governor Eliot Spitzer was having sex with prostitutes, relationship experts popped up on every news channel, dispensing theories about Mr. Spitzer's behavior. Opinions about why a married man (and one with a great deal to lose) would behave this way ranged ...

Surveys indicate that men are more likely to be unfaithful than women. Because of this unsettling statistic, it is helpful to explore the specific reasons why men -- more often than women -- may choose to have an affair. There are many reasons why you might be unfaithful. The obvious is that ...

During an extensive marriage seminar; the speaker emphasized on the fact that intimacy is the bedrock of romance in any marriage. He did his best to convince everyone in attendance to nurture intimacy in their homes. As Jude and his wife sat listening with rapt attention to the speaker, they thought on the state of their marriage and oblivious of each other’s conclusion, their views were contrasting.

Oh how you dread all the publicity around Valentine’s Day because even though you love your partner dearly, the intimacy and romance has seemed to have gone many years ago. Maybe it is because you sleep in separate rooms you think, but then you rationalize this by saying, it has to be this way so that you can both get a good nights sleep, because your partner’s snoring keeps you awake. With over 90 million snorers in the US and some research indicating that one in four coupl

A loving connection is the bedrock of a committed relationship—all couples are trying to find ways to remain emotionally close to one another as they navigate the complexities of life. When people feel deeply connected to their partners, they often describe feeling "complete," "whole" or ...

I get computer programming job offers every week, which pay 80000$/year as salary or 100000$/year as independent contractual worker. I thought it was because of my extensive programming experience and expertise, but there might be more to it. One of my coaching clients got 3 job interviews the week after we worked together on solving a feeling of unworthiness. Another coaching client just got several job offers. Guess what? Now they can afford coaching!

At times in our intimate relationships we find ourselves repeating the same pattern of conflict with each other. There can be an escalation where both partners end up feeling unresolved and more distant, and it can be hard to see how we can do anything different. Even though we may be aware of this, again and again we get drawn into the same pattern – so much so that the interactions roll out predictably. Unwinding this cycle can be a challenging process, but the benefits f

Online therapy courses - It is good to help others and it is even better if you can help them to transform their lives. To take a person who is going through an emotional torment or who is undergoing an emotional improvement in their goals or their personality. To take someone who is anxious and turn them into someone who is at peace with themselves is wonderful. To take a flawed self image or personality or improve them so that you are happier or more able to work out your g

"I'm tired of feeling alone in my marriage." ~Christian, married three years Often times, when couples complain about a break down in communication or some other marital/relationship problem, part of their distress centers around feeling emotionally disconnected from each other. This lack of emotional intimacy is often a warning sign that something needs to be addressed in your relationship.

One quality of a happy long-term relationship is that each person develops a high level of comfort with the other person. That comfort level allows the couple to interact in a stress-free manner most of the time. There is nothing wrong with that! However, there is an unwanted byproduct: the relationship can become humdrum or boring. Boredom leads to resignation at best and a wandering eye at worst. To alleviate the boredom, it is imperative to occasionally do the unexpected.

If you are to become sexually empowered, you must tell your story. We ALL have a sexual story to tell. Your story might include your experience of your own body from very early in your life up to now. It might include feelings of desire or crushes or past relationships and sexual experiences. It includes shame and rejection, ignorance and trauma or other difficult parts of your sexual experience—the parts you rarely, if ever, share. It includes your relationship to your own

One key to marriage success was exposed in the Bible by King Solomon long time ago; but most modern couples are ignoring it or they are not aware of it. Let’s check it out first before I comment on it. "I am my beloved’s, and his desire is toward me. Come, my beloved, let us go forth into the field; let us lodge in the villages. Let us get up early to the vineyards; let us see if the vine flourish, whether the tender grape appear, and the pomegranates bud forth: there will I give thee my loves"(Song of Solomon 7:10-12 KJV)

My stepfather Dick (not a pseudonym) is incredibly kind. He is so kind it often makes others around him uncomfortable. His kindness enervates a room and can trigger others to tease or to create an opposing position. He is regularly, persistently and unceasingly complimentary. He sees the best in others and then voices it. He encourages, supports and positively mirrors. And he thrives. In the process of writing the book, The Discomfort of Happiness, I wanted to explore my resi

Meditation entails any practice used to quiet one’s mind thus enabling the practitioner to focus on the present moment. Physical activities including yoga, walking, running, sewing, cooking, etc. may focus the mind and empty it of extraneous thoughts. Less physical activities including observance of the breath, mantra meditation (the continuous chanting of a sacred sound or phrase), and guided meditation (following auditory or visual prompts) are also vehicles known to shift brain activity from a stress prone state to a measurably calmer state of being.

Intimacy is the hallmark of a healthy marriage or relationship. But there may be powerful, unconscious forces at work that prevent you from developing a deep and meaningful connection with your partner. Many couples seek out marriage help, relationship advice and/or couples counseling because of ...

We all need intimacy. We all have different ways we receive and give intimate messages. It should be easy, as intimacy is natural and we are born needing to be intimate and close. What is challenging is that we might know what we want, but not how to get it. We may know how to give, but not to receive or vice versa. In other words, intimacy, although needed by us all, is not so easy to time correctly. Sometimes we are unable to even understand it is there, right before our ey

Do you know the real meaning of intimacy? For most men, this word means closeness. If your answer is closeness then you are thinking in right direction. But the closeness should be of minds and not bodies. Until you and your partner come close, you can’t make love. Or in other words, both the partners should be close to each-other for successful lovemaking. Men think different than women do. For men, sex is a way to satisfy their physical needs. Some men take lovemaking as

When it comes to love, men often get a bad rap. "You only hear about the guys who are abusive or cheat, but how about the tons of men who are faithful and kind?" ~John "I've been married for over twenty years. I know I'm not perfect, but I can honestly say that I do my best to be a good ...

Why is it important to your own growth and peace of mind that you are ok with where you are? Being OK with where you are accomplishes two things. First of all, it gives you a clear picture of where you are. Second, it gives you piece of mind, and an honest foundation from which you can start healing your early sexual trauma. When you are honest with yourself, you have a solid base to start from. It gives you a starting point from which you can begin to trust yourself.

In more recent years it seems like our society has begun to shy away from physical contact. Gone are the days of constant touching and hugging, with most of us instead choosing to keep to ourselves. According to experts in the field many of us are currently “contact starved” in our current practices. However, there are certain exclusive benefits that accompany light contact, so becoming more open to touch can yield some notable improvements. It’s worth mentioning that I used

Valentine's Day is the annual affair that sends everyone scrambling to find the one token that represents their love. Most are desperate to make their partners happy on this special day and will try not to leave room for disappointment. If you want to be one of those lucky few, consider investing in a vibrator. A vibrator is the perfect gift for couples to send their lovemaking experience soaring to a whole new level. Roughly 30% of women achieve orgasm through intercourse. B

We all strive for equality in our lives. We look for it at work, we demand it in our classrooms and we ask for it in relationships. Gender equality, race equality and opportunity equality for all. The search is always there. The need for it is relentless, and should be. This article examines the equality that we look for in couples’ relationships. The couple can consist of any type. This particular examination reflects in every single relationship without any barriers, not

In the Western World, trauma is mostly seen as psychological impact but there is actually a different view on trauma that not many people do not know about or understand. One of the most common approaches to healing trauma is to have someone to talk to so that you can be heard and feel understood and supported. That is very important because it can make you feel better and enable you to move on, however, it does not clear out your trauma.

Not everyone realizes they have relationship needs (emotional and physical needs that you expect your spouse/partner to meet). This is especially the case for older couples I work with who were raised in a generation where the phrases, "emotional needs" "emotional intimacy" and "need for validation" would cause confusion. In the past, a statement like, "I need you to..." might be seen as selfish, self-indulgent, and counter to what marriage is all about. But times have changed. Relationship Help: Are you entitled to have your needs met?

Whether it is appreciating the beauty of the sun rising in the morning, admiring the innocence of a newbo child, acknowledging the joy of spending quality time with friends or the intimacy of making love to your partner – pleasure in it’s many forms is one of the most important things for us to respect and cultivate in our lives. Whenever we hold a pleasurable thought in our mind we create a biochemical reaction in our body, which releases nitric oxide from the lining of our

When Marriage hurts, there is a high possibility of making mistakes that will make the matter worse. 9 THINGS YOU MUST NOT DO WHEN YOU ARE TIRED OF YOUR MARRIAGE Emotion is high, depression is setting in, anger is deep and worry is overwhelming, that is the period when people make more terrible mistakes, saying terrible things, do negative things, hurt themselves and their loved ones.9 THINGS YOU MUST NOT DO WHEN YOU ARE TIRED OF YOUR MARRIAGE Here are things you must never do, when your marriage is really hurting:

Relationships are the one of the most rewarding and challenging parts of our life. There are types of personal development that we are unable to do unless we are in relationship and there are ways that relationships push us to do work that we would not be otherwise motivated to do. One of the greatest challenges in relationship can be our boundaries –maintaining a connection to our self, being open with another, and caring for the relationship that exists between us. We can

Have you ever related to your spouse/partner in a totally non-defensive, emotionally open way? If you have, in that moment you and your spouse/partner were vulnerable and receptive to each other’s emotional needs/experiences. To do this, you were able to free yourself from the emotional blocks that so many men struggle with—you were unencumbered by the stereotypes and preconceived notions about masculinity that stand in the way of an authentic emotional connection. During moments of deep emotional intimacy there is no pretense or ego at work.

Imagine your life without goals. That’s right: pretend you just wiped away every single goal imaginable—from the mundane sort like getting out of bed and brushing your teeth to the bigger variety, like making partner at the firm. I bet you can’t imagine it. Because without goals (the ones you ...

There are times when it's helpful to use compare and contrast thinking. For example, fifth-grade Social Studies. Remember when Mrs. Dogoody assigned the paper: "Compare and Contrast Ancient Roman and Ancient Greek Civilizations"? (I do; I still have the occasional nightmare about that one.) The ...

Lasagna, the earth's crust, and people;what do they have in common? They're all made of layers. Our layers are certainly more complicated than pasta and cheese, and very different from the planet's natural stratifications, but as thinking, feeling humans, we're complex, layered individuals. ...

When a Constellation is “set up,” we always try to start as small as possible. After you state your issue to the group, which generally consists of 15-20 people, I then check in with you about how you are doing. When you are ready, I tell you who needs to be represented in your Constellation. We need someone to represent you, someone to represent your father, and someone to represent your mother. In a Constellation, other people from the group are asked to represent the members of your family or the parts that are needed in a Constellation.

According to a Dictionary intimacy is defined as, "showing a close union or combination of particles or elements: an intimate mixture." Being intimate involves the mixing of our life with another's, a mingling of souls, a sharing of hearts. This is something we all long for because it's how God made us. We were designed to connect. Real Intimacy is More Than Sex Maybe you are wondering about sex. Assuredly, sex is a part of intimate expression, but it is not intimacy. Sex is a basic level of physically connecting to another person, but intimacy is a deeper connection.

You might have heard somebody tell you recently: “Don’t shoot the messenger”. The sentence has become kind of a catch phrase, but what does it really mean? In short, it means that you shouldn’t react. That when something is “triggering” you, upsetting you, you shouldn’t act out or lose it. This is easier said then done (as we all know!) This article will take a look at how you can stop yourself from reacting, and how you can create more peace in your life (Stop shooting the messenger). It all has to do with your response-ability It all has to do with your response-ability.

“Love is patient, love is kind.” But love, the kind we share with another, requires courage. Courage to stand in the world of unknowns and harness the intimacy that comes with the practice of being authentic with one another. It requires something akin to standing in a room completely naked, baring our wounded egos, learned pretenses, deepest hurts and most griping fears and saying, “this is me…. all of me”, and knowing that what is seen, will be cherished, honored, and above