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After getting to the stage where they can see that they are typically only appreciated for their looks, they could end up coming to see that this is largely due to how they present themselves. Although they will have many different sides to them, they might have primarily focused on one side. Due to this, it could be normal for them to receive attention and compliments from the opposite and the same sex. Furthermore, they might be used to having people throw themselves at them and have no trouble finding someone to date or sleep with. By Design

Although someone has a mental, emotional and physical self, they might typically only be aware of the thoughts that are in their head. In fact, they might even see themselves as a being that is purely mental. This is going to mean that they won’t have a good connection with their body. By being this way, they can often experience a lot of ‘negative’ and automatic thoughts. Out of Control If so, their mind is going to cause them a lot of problems and make it very difficult for them to be at ease. Another part of this is that they could often experience a fair amount of anxiety.

Even though someone will have a number of needs, they could typically act as though they only have a few needs. They can then come across as though they merely have basic and mental needs, for instance. Due to this, they could see themselves as someone who is very independent and doesn’t need others. Being this way could fill them with a sense of pride and they might even look down on people who are very needy. Another Part When it comes to what they are like, they could generally come across as emotionally detached and distant. Some people might describe them as being aloof.

Deep down, someone can believe that they will only be loved if they are perfect. Naturally, if they are in this position, it is going to be more or less impossible for them to be loved by others. At the same time, they can be loved by others, but, thanks to what is going on inside them, they won’t be able to truly accept the love that they do receive. The trouble is that if this is something that is operating outside of their conscious awareness, they won’t be able to do anything about it. Highly Motivated

If a man were to take a step back and reflect on his life, what he may find is that he often feels unseen and unheard and as though he doesn’t even exist. He is then going to have a physical body and be able to be seen by others but he will seldom feel seen. If he were to take a closer look at why this is, he could find that he is often ignored and overlooked when he is at work. Additionally, this could be what it is generally like for him when it comes to his love life. A Miserable Existence

If a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time doing things for his mother and neglects himself in the process, it could be said that this illustrates that he has a strong need to please her. After all, she is going to be the person who he is doing so much for. Based on this, if he no longer had such a strong need to please her, there would be no reason for him to behave in this way. It would then be normal for him to be there for himself and to be there for his mother if and when he wanted to be there for her. In Balance

For some people, it will be clear that something is not right if a man is focused on his mother and is not there for himself. He will be a separate human being, who has his own needs and life to lead, and yet, he won’t act like one. Thus, he will have put his own life to one side and his main priority will be to be there for his mother and take care of her needs. It can seem strange as to why he would be living in this way. The Norm

For a little while now, someone may have been looking into the different past lives that they have had. They might resonate with one life more than the others or they could feel equally connected to all of them. Furthermore, in each life that they have been able to remember, they might have been very important. If so, thinking about a one or a number of their other lives can fill them with positive feelings. An Uplifting Effect

When it comes to experiencing change, it is often said that self-awareness is essential. The reason for this is that if one is not aware of what is going on for them, how will they be able to change their life? Through being aware of what is taking place both internally and exte ally, they will be able to move forward. Still, this is a process and not something that one develops and that’s the end of it. For Example

As someone is an individual, with their own needs and feelings, it will be essential for them to be able to assert themselves. This will allow them to make it clear when something is not right for them and thus, protect themselves and their well-being and do the things that are right for them. But, although being this way is essential, it doesn’t mean they will be able to relate to this. Consequently, it is likely to be normal for them to do things that they would rather not do and not do the things that they want to do. A Half-life

If someone has turned their back on themselves, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. However, if another person were to observe how they behave for a little while, they might soon realise what is going on. At this point, it can seem strange as to how another person would be able to see what is going on but they wouldn’t be able to; after all, it is their life. What this illustrates is how their brain will have blocked out what is going on in order to protect them. The other Side

What can be normal is for someone to hide how they feel when they are around others. Then again, this can be something that takes place without them consciously choosing to do so. Due to this, they can generally create the impression that everything is fine. Naturally, this is going to stop them from being able to receive the attunement and support that they need during the moments when they are not doing well. Unaware

Although a man can need to keep women at bay, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. As a result, it can seem as though someone or something ‘out there’ is simply holding him back. If he is in this position, this area of his life is not going to be very fulfilling. So, what can be normal is for him to continually end up with women who are emotionally unavailable. One Scenario

If a man has come to see that he is too focused on his mother and her needs, what could also stand out is that his father is also in the same position. After this, what could enter his mind is that his mother is using both of them. He could then see that this has been going on for many, many years and is nothing new. So, in addition to thinking about the impact that this has had on his life, he could think about the impact that it has had on his father’s life. One Conclusion

Not only can a man be focused on his mother but she can also expect him to be there for her and meet certain needs. From this, it will be clear that she can’t accept that he has his own needs and life to lead. Based on how she treats him, it will be as if he is her possession and thus, she has the right to use him. There is then going to be no reason for her to feel guilty or ashamed about how she is behaving. One Reaction

If a woman is in a good position in life and she has been with a number of men who are overly focused on their mother, she can be well and truly fed up. But, as she will be a woman who has continually ended up with men that are more like boys, this is to be expected. This area of her life is not going to make any sense and she could wonder if it will ever change. She might even believe that she only has two choices; to either stay single or end up with a man who can’t truly be there for her. Exte al Feedback

During someone’s formative years, they may have had at least one parent who was very harsh. If so, it would have been normal for them to be put down by this parent and treated like they were nothing. Therefore, even if there were moments when this parent did treat them differently, it wouldn’t have had much of an impact. It also wouldn’t have mattered if they had another parent who was different. A Deep Impact

Nowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to have difficulty falling asleep. Furthermore, they could know at least one person who has the same challenge. And, even if there isn’t anyone in their life who has spoken about this, it doesn’t mean that there is not someone in their life who is in the same position. The reason for this is that they could keep what is going on for them to themselves. A Common Problem

If someone was brought up by at least one parent who was emotionally unavailable and lacked the ability to attune to their needs and feelings, they can be in a bad way now that they are an adult. The reason for this is that they wouldn’t have been born with a fully developed sense of self; they needed to receive the right nutrients for this to occur.

If someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might end up standing out is that they have a strong fear of being left. So, they can believe that their friends are going to leave them and perhaps their partner, if they have one. By being this way, they could see that they often feel anxious and have the tendency to cling to others. This can mean that they will do what they can to be around another or others, with them rarely spending time by themselves. One Area

If a man was mistreated by his father during his formative years, it doesn’t mean that he will be aware of this. The reason for this is that his brain may have blocked out most if not all of what took place. But, if he was able to remember some of the things that took place, he still might not be able to face up to what actually took place. For example, he could believe that his father didn’t treat him badly and that how he treated him was for his own good. The Next Part

If someone were to think about something that they wanted to attain or experience, they could soon think about what it is that they need to do to achieve their goal. So, a number of steps could enter their mind, and, before long, they could take the first step. As the days, weeks and perhaps months pass, they can see how far they have come and how close they are to having what they want. Further, they could generally be full of self-belief and know that it’s only a matter of time before they hit their target. A Smooth process

If a man missed out on the love that he needed to grow and develop in the right way during his formative years, it is not going to be a surprise if he behaves like an extension of his mother now that he is an adult. He will no longer be a powerless and dependent child, but, as he was deprived, he won’t realise this deep down. As he was unlikely to have been able to emotionally attach to her and then break away, his survival will still be attached to her. This will relate to both his emotional and physical survival. Two Levels

There are those who experience anxiety from time to time and those who more or less always feel anxious. When someone can relate to the latter, they might want to lose the ability to be anxious. This may show that they have experienced life in this for a few months or a number of years. But, regardless of how long their life has been this way for, they will be desperate for their life to change. Too Much To Handle

If someone was to think about the relationships that they have been in, they may find that they have generally not been very nurturing or full of love. In most of their relationships, they may have experienced a lot of pain and might not have been long before they felt the need to cut their ties with the other person. This could be because they have been with a number of people who lacked boundaries and ended up walking over them. Due to this, they are likely to have felt violated and smothered, among other things. Two Sides

At the beginning of a man’s life, so his formative years, he may have been treated more like an object than a being that had his own needs, feelings and rights and had inherent value. Once, he was born then, his mother and perhaps father may have created the impression that they were happy but, even if this did take place, their behaviour, either straight away or as time passed, wouldn’t have backed this up.

One thing that someone could wonder, if they had a mother who was typically not very nurturing, is why she even had a child or perhaps children. But, based on how she generally behaved, this is to be expected. If she had generally been nurturing and supportive, there would be no reason for them to have this question. However, it might have taken them many, many years to get to this point A Number of Hurdles

When someone has met another person who they are attracted to and is getting to know them, they can have only good things to say about them. Not only this, but they can want to spend a lot of time with them. If they take the next step and end up in a relationship with them, they can end up having a more balanced view of the other person. They can see that they are made up of many different sides, with there being some sides that they like more than others. A Natural Consequence

If someone was to watch a film, they might soon find that there is the main actor and then there are a number of supporting actors. Once the film has come to an end, what may stand out, if they were to reflect on their own life, is that they have a lot in common with a supporting actor.

If someone was brought up in an environment that was extremely conditional and there was very little love on offer, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they will be aware of now that they are an adult. In fact, if they were to think about this stage of their life, they might not be able to remember a great deal. However, even if this is the case, it doesn’t mean that what took place will be well and truly behind them. If they could remember what took place, they might soon see how their past is very much part of their present. Weighed Down

What someone may find, if they were able to step back and reflect on their life, is that they continually end up in situations where they feel unloved, unwanted and even invisible. Now, this could mean that they have had a number of relationships that have been anything but fulfilling. But, while this could be the case, this could be how they feel around their friends and when they are at work. Of course, their friends are not going to meet the same needs as an intimate partner and their colleagues are not going to meet the same needs as a close friend, let alone an intimate relationship.r

If someone was to sit with themselves and was able to connect with how they really feel, what they may soon find is that they don’t feel as though they deserve to exist. As opposed to being worthy of being here, then, they will feel like an intruder. After this, they could look into why this is and end up doing something about it. Then again, this could be something that is running outside of their conscious awareness and thus, it won’t be something that they are aware of and are able to do anything about. A Big Impact

When it comes to self-development, a lot is often said about the importance of being positive. The impact that this will have on how someone feels, their relationships and their ability to attain what they desire is typically mentioned. With this in mind, if someone is into self-development, and even if they are not as a lot of what is spoken about in this area has entered the mainstream, they can do what they can to be positive. This can take place by them having ‘positive’ thoughts, using affirmations and focusing on the things that they are grateful for, for instance. One Experiencer

Although someone is a human being that has a number of needs, feelings and inherent value, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Instead, they could treat themselves like they are nothing more than an object that only has a few basic needs, no feelings and no value and purely exists to perform one or a number of tasks. They are then going to be no different to an appliance that is here to be used and only needs to be put to one side when it needs to be recharged or repaired. In their case, they will be ‘recharged’ while they are sleeping. On The Go

When someone is connected to their body, they will have access to their needs and feelings. By having this connection to themselves, they will be able to freely express who they are and live a life that is worth living. What will also play a part in them being able to live in this way will be the felt sense of safety and worth that they have. As, if they didn’t feel safe enough to live in this way or worthy of living this way, they wouldn’t be able to consistently express themselves. Just how it is

Even though someone is a valuable human being, who has the right to say no and live their own life, it doesn’t mean that they will know this at the core of their being. Consequently, they can be accustomed to being treated badly and putting up with things that don’t serve them, saying yes to things that they don’t want to do and pleasing others. Thanks to this, they are likely to live a life that is anything but fulfilling. The trouble is that if they are used to not being there for themselves and being violated by others, this is not going to be much of a surprise. The Norm

Even if a man does a lot for his mother and neglects a number of his own needs in the process, it doesn’t mean that he won’t end up in a position where he de does even more for her. This is something that can take place if his mother was to become unwell and less capable of looking after herself. Assuming that this was to take place, he could soon spend more time doing things for her. Moreover, if he lives somewhere else, he could end up moving closer to her or even more in with her. An Automatic Process

For someone to meet their needs, they are going to need to know that they are worthy of having them met and to take action. Another way of looking at this is to say that there is the being element and the doing element. However, although both of these elements are important, someone can be in a position where the latter is in place but not the former. Consequently, they are going to be out of balance. A Struggle

After feeling lonely for many years and becoming aware of this, someone could find that they have the tendency to feel invisible. They are then going to exist and be able to be seen by others but they generally won’t feel as though they exist or are seen by others. Naturally, experiencing life in this way is going to cause them to live a life that is anything but fulfilling. But, due to how long their life has been this way, a big part of them might not believe that their life can be any different. A Closer Look

If a man is not in a good way, it doesn’t mean that they will end up reaching out for the support that he needs. He might not even share what is going on for him with his friends or family, for instance. As a result of this, he could have a number of people in his life that would be happy to support him but it won’t matter. It will then be as though he is on an island in the middle of nowhere and there is no one else there. Inner World

Even though someone has the right to be on this planet, it doesn’t mean that they will know this at the core of their being. Instead, they can feel as though they don’t deserve to be here. If this is so, it won’t be seen as something that they merely believe; it will be seen as the truth. It is then not going to matter how they behave or what they do as how they experience life won’t change. Emotional State

There are some people that are not very confident and are full of doubt, while there are others that are full of confidence and don’t really experience doubt. Due to this, those that can relate to the former often achieve far less than those that can relate to the latter. If one was to meet someone that falls into the second category, one could wonder how they could be this way. While they could struggle to feel good and capable, they won’t be in the company of someone that is in the same position. High Up

Even if a man wants to develop a loving and harmonious relationship with a woman, it doesn’t mean that he has been able to make much progress. He could be in a position where he hasn’t been able to find a woman who is suitable. Alte atively, he might have dated at least one woman but for whatever reason, it might not have been long before their time together came to an end. Then again, this might be something he has experienced more than once. Confusion

If a man was to think about how his mother treated him during his formative years, he could be filled with gratitude. The reason for this is that this is likely to have been a time when he was loved and cherished by her. However, if another man was to think about how his mother treated him during his formative years, he could be filled with frustration and anger. And, the reason for this is that this is likely to have been a time when he wasn’t loved or cherished. A very different experience

In the same way that a man won’t just have a masculine element, a woman also won’t just have a feminine element. Just as with a man then, her appearance will be an expression of one element but when it comes to her inner world, she will contain both elements. Nonetheless, although this will be so, it doesn’t mean that she will embrace both elements. She could be in touch with her feminine aspect but have more or less denied her masculine element or the opposite may have occurred. The Second

Although someone has needs that they need to pay attention to in order to live a fulfilling life, they can overlook a number of their needs. In fact, they might not even be aware of a number of their needs. Therefore, they won’t be consciously choosing to be this way; it will just be what is normal. Thanks to this, a number of their needs are rarely if ever going to be met. Self-neglect

If a woman is with a man who is focused on his mother’s needs and does what he can to please her, she is likely to wonder what is going on. She can struggle to understand why he is behaving in this way. It could be clear to her that he is not there for himself and this is causing him to neglect a number of his needs. Not only this, but she could be angry and frustrated about how unavailable he is. Self-Neglect

If a man was brought up to be there for his mother and to take care of a number of her needs, it probably wouldn’t have occurred to her that he was an individual who had his own needs and, over time, his own life to lead. Of course, when he was born, it is likely to have occurred to her that he had had basic needs such as the need to eat and sleep but that might have been about it.

One thing that can plague a man’s mind, if he has come to see that he was unable to attach to his mother, develop a strong sense of self and then break away from her, is why this process didn’t take place. He can feel angry, enraged and deeply betrayed. But, as the person who he came through if not from let him down, this is to be expected. There can also be how he feels toward his father, if he has taken the time to think about the part that he played. Another Element

Although someone can feel emotionally empty, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. But, what they can be aware of is their need to attain, achieve and experience different things. They can then be someone who describes themselves as driven and this could be how a number of the people in their life see them too. By being this way, they could be used to receiving a lot of positive feedback from others. A Role model