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Instead of acting like an individual, it can be normal for someone to typically act like they are an extension of others. Therefore, when it comes to how they behave, it can all depend on who they are with. Consequently, they are rarely going to freely express themselves and this is likely to mean that most of the people in their life won’t know who they are. However, even if this is the norm, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of what is going on. Two Parts

What someone can believe, if they were mistreated during their early years, is that their parent or parents did this on purpose. They then did what they could to undermine their child as opposed to doing what they could to build them up. Assuming that it was one parent who did this; they could believe that this parent was essentially evil. But, if they believe that this parent went out of their way to harm them, this is to be expected. The outcome

What someone may come to see, if they were to take a step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to feel jealous. But, this might not be something that they experience from time to time; no, it could be something that is a regular occurrence. Consequently, when they are with friends, at work or in a social setting, they could be consumed with jealousy. And, at times, this could be something that goes even further with them experiencing envy. A Big Issue

In general, a man can be out of touch with how he feels and a number of his needs. He is then going to look like a whole human being, but he typically won’t operate like one. As a result of this, it is going to be normal for him to ignore how he feels and overlook a number of his needs. But, as this is just what is normal, there will be no reason for him to be aware of this. A Catalyst One thing that could allow him to become aware of this is if he were to start a romantic relationship. By getting close to a woman, he is likely to be asked how he feels about her.

If a man was to experience a breakup, he might end up feeling very low and as though he is missing something. Due to this, it might not be long until he is having casual encounters with one or a number of women. Then again, and even if he was to have casual encounters with one woman, he might soon be in another relationship. This could mean that he could start off purely having sex with a woman and then this could develop into more. A Different Season

In order for someone to be able to freely express themselves, they will need to feel safe enough to do so. So, if they don’t feel safe, they are likely to have the need to hide who they are and please others. In this case, their attention won’t be on what is taking place inside and outside of them, it will primarily be on what is taking place around them. Therefore, they are not going to have a good connection with their needs and feelings. On The Surface

When someone is connected to their true self, they will be aware of their needs and feelings. This will mean that they will be in touch with their body as this will be where most of their needs and feelings will be found. By having this connection, they will be able to live a life that is in alignment with who they are and this will allow them to have a fulfilling existence. For example, their career is likely to be something that nourishes them and when it comes to their relationships, the people in their life will know who they are. The Ideal

Now that someone is an adult, they will have had many different experiences since they were a child. But, even though this is the case, it doesn’t mean that they will feel a lot different. However, if they are not in tune with how they feel, this is not going to be something that will stand out. They can then continue to have many different experiences but no matter what they go through, life is typically not going to leave a mark on them. An Important Part

If someone was to observe their thoughts for a little while, they can find that they often think about bad things happening in the future. Consequently, they are likely to experience a fair amount of fear and anxiety. And, if they were to talk to a friend about what is going on for them, they could be told that being this way is not serving them. This friend could also suggest that they start to focus on positive things taking place. Another Part

After having been with a man who is overly focused on his mother for however long, a woman could have spent a fair amount of time trying to understand why he is the way that he is. This could be something that has been going on for a number of weeks, months or even years. Throughout this time, she might have read a number of articles and books and watched numerous videos. Thanks to what she has learnt along the way, she could have a good understanding of why he is this way. Another Part

For a little while now, a woman may have been with a man who is unable to be there for her. This can be because he is too focused on taking care of his mother’s needs and doesn’t have much time or energy left for anyone else. As a result, this is not going to be a relationship that is having a positive effect on her. But, as she will have given a lot and received very little in return, this is to be expected. A Big Decision

To have been with one man who was overly focused on his mother would have been a lot to deal with, and, therefore, if a woman has been with a number of men who were like this, it is not going to be a surprise if she is well and truly fed up. For however long, she will have wanted to be with a man who is available but, no matter what she has done, she won’t have been able to achieve this aim.

What can be normal is for someone to spend a lot of time looking into what the elites are doing. In their eyes, these can be seen as the people who are creating most if not all of the problems in the world. If so, this is likely to mean that they will watch a lot of videos and read a lot of articles. They could also look toward different social media sites to keep them informed about what is going on. Two ways

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on how they behave, is that they have the tendency to ignore their feelings and a number of their needs. Due to this, they are typically going to act as though they are an extension of others as opposed to a separate human being. Thanks to this, they are likely to be well and truly fed up and no longer want to behave in this way. But, as they will be neglecting themselves, it is to be expected that they will be this way. A Different View

A few days, weeks or months ago, someone may have been in a relationship with someone who they loved. But, after finding out that this person cheated on them, they might have soon decided that it was best for them to cut their ties with them. Then again, they might have found out that this didn’t happen once, it happened on a number of occasions. At the same time, there is also the chance that after this became clear, whether it was once or a number of times, their partner ended the relationship. In A Bad Way

If someone is in a position where they are typically out of touch with how they feel, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of this. But, if this is how they how been for quite some time, there will be no reason for it to stand out. And, as they are likely to live in a society that is full of people who are, to one degree or another, shut down, the chances of another person noticing what is going on for them are low. Being this way, then, can allow them to blend in with others and to even be seen as someone who is well-adjusted. Undermined

Although someone can have a fear of being left, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Even so, this can still be a fear that will have a massive impact on their life. So, from outside of their couscous awareness, this fear is likely to define how they generally behave. For one thing, they might rarely if ever be single, with them having spent just about everyone moment of their adult life in a relationship. No Standards

Now, although someone can have the desire to be in an intimate relationship, it doesn’t mean that they won’t have ended up pulling away from at least one relationship. In fact, this may have been something that has taken place on more than one occasion. Either way, when this has taken place, they could have ended up wondering why they behaved in this way. This is not to say that this took place straight after as it may have taken a little while. One Priority

After being with a man for a little while, a woman could feel as though he is too much for her to handle. This is because she could feel controlled and as if her ability to freely express herself has been taken away. However, there is a strong chance that she didn’t feel this way in the beginning. When she first met him and for a little while after, she may have felt valued, loved and even special. She may have believed that she had finally met the man who was right for her and perhaps that she would stay with him forever. A Slow Process

In general, a man might be out of touch with his need to be with a woman. Thus, he won’t be aware of his need for emotional closeness and support, affection, or sex. This can mean that he will spend a lot of time in his head and very little time in his body. The reason for this is that these needs will be found in his body, not his head. Another Part Still, there could be moments when these needs end up entering his conscious awareness. During this time, he could end up feeling incredibly needy and end up trying to meet these needs.

If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that just about every area of their life is one big battle. Due to this, they will be used to putting in a lot of effort while getting very little in return. If there is a plus to the life that they lead, it could be that their life has moulded them into someone who is resilient and has a lot of inner strength. But, even if this is the case, they can be sick and tired of working so hard and having very little to show for it. One Area

In order for someone to have a fulfilling life, they will need to be able to assert themselves and to go after what it is that they desire. The reason for this is that if they are unable to do this, they won’t be able to live a life that is in alignment with who they are and what they desire won’t merely drop into their lap. With this in mind, it will be essential for them to have a strong will. However, although this is important, it doesn’t mean that everyone on this planet will be in this position; there are plenty of people who aren’t. A Bleak Existence

As a child, someone generally needed to be treated as though they deserved to exist and were valuable and lovable, among other things. If this is what took place, now that they are an adult, there is a strong chance that they will have developed a strong sense of self and be able to feel good about themselves and let love in. However, although they needed to receive the right nutrients very early on, this might not have taken place. As a result of this, they might not have a strong sense of self and they might find it hard to feel good about themselves and let love in.

After someone has experienced a breakup, lost a loved one, or had a pet pass on, for instance, they could end up embracing how they feel and allowing themselves to grieve. This is then likely to be a time when they won’t behave as they usually would. So, they might no longer have the desire to do certain things and might prefer to spend more time by themselves. Their life will have been one way and now it will be another way, with it never being the same again. A Stage

If a man’s whole life practically revolves around his mother, it is going to be clear that he has a number of beliefs that are not serving him. Most likely, these will be beliefs that are just outside of his conscious awareness. As a result of this, he won’t realise that what he believes is having a big impact on his life. It can be as though the life he leads is just the way that life is and there is very little that he can do about it. One Step Too Far

While a man whose whole life practically revolves around his mother is likely to have other family members, these people are not going to receive the same amount of attention. And, even if he only has one other family member, this is still going to be the case. His mother is then going to be far more important to him than himself and the other people with who he is related. This is also likely to mean that his friends if he has any, and his partner if he was one, will be of secondary importance. One priority

If someone was greatly deprived during their formative years, they are likely to be carrying a lot of pain and a number of unmet developmental needs. This is, of course, assuming that they haven’t started to work through any of this pain. The reason for this is that missing out on the love that they needed would have deeply wounded them. To handle what was going on, their brain would have repressed the pain that they were in. One Priority

If someone has come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years, they might have the need to speak to the parent or parents who harmed them. But, if they have this need and take the next step, it doesn’t mean that they will get very far. Assuming it was one parent who mistreated them; this parent could dismiss most if not all of what they say. Based on what takes place, it will be as if they are talking to someone who wasn’t around during this time. A Stranger

As someone is a human being, it means that they will have a head and a body. And, on the inside, they will have and thoughts, feelings and instincts. However, although there are these two parts of them or seemingly two parts of them, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with both of these parts. They can be very much live in their head and be strong attached to their mind and more or less overlook their body. Two Parts

Even though someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they have it together and are living a fulfilling life. Instead, their life could be one big struggle and they could be well and truly fed up. But, if this is just what is normal, what is going on for them might not stand out. As a result of this, there will be no reason for them to look into what they can do to change their life. Stepping Back

If a man were to take a step back and reflect on how he sees himself, he could find that he doesn’t have a very empowering view. He could find that he sees himself as someone who doesn’t have any value. What could then stand out is how this view is having a negative impact on his ability to live a fulfilling life. To be more specific, he could see that this is causing him to work somewhere that is soul-destroying and holding him back from being with a woman who is right for him. A natural outcomer

When a woman meets a man who she is attracted to and takes things further with him, she is likely to have a positive view of him. For example, she can see him as a man who is loving, kind, and protective. Due to this, when she thinks about him and is with him, she can feel loved, valued, desired and safe. As a result of this, she could spend time thinking about being in a relationship with him and even starting a family. The Truth

Having needs is part of the human experience but that doesn’t mean that a man will feel comfortable with all of his needs. So, when it comes to his basic needs, such as his need to eat and sleep, he could be fine. But, when it comes to his emotional needs, such as his need to be seen and heard, to receive physical affection, and be valued, for instance, these could typically be overlooked. In fact, he might rarely if ever be aware of these needs. The Outcome

If a man is caught up in his mother’s world, he might not be the only one in this position as his father could also be in the same position. Assuming that this is so, there will be what he does for his mother and what his father does for her. Based on this, the weight of his mother’s life is not going to be fully on his shoulders; it will be partly shared with his father. As a result of this, she is going to have two men that are focused on her needs. The Same Old Story

If someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, they may see that they don’t have a strong connection with their feelings. As a result, they are going to spend a lot of time in a disconnected state. Not being in tune with this part of them is going to undermine them. This is because their feelings are there to provide them with feedback and allow them to embrace life. Two Parts

If someone was able to step back and reflect on how they experience life, what may soon stand out is that they often struggle when it comes to having enough. What could enter their mind is that they rarely have enough money. After taking a closer look, though, they may find that there is far more to it than this. They might see that it is a challenge for them to experience enough attention, affection, encouragement and support. A Different World

Over the years, someone may have spent a fair amount of time around people who always wanted to be the centre of attention, to always be admired, had a strong sense of entitlement and were self-centred, for instance. Unlike these people, they could come across in a very different way. So, they might typically avoid attention, have no interest in being admired, not feel entitled to anything and spend a lot of time being focused on others. Thus, to say that they are anything like these people wouldn’t be accurate. Random

If someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that their life is not very fulfilling. But, if this is so, they might not believe that they deserve to experience life differently. They could believe that it doesn’t matter what their needs are or how they feel, as, unlike others, they don’t matter. This will then cause them to neglect themselves and merely go through the motions in life. A Bleak Existence

Having feelings is part of the human experience but that doesn’t mean that someone will have a good relationship with their own. What can be normal is for them to be out of touch with how they feel. This part of them is there to provide them with guidance. Consequently, they are typically not going to be able to utilise the information that is provided by this part of their being. Another Experience

As a result of what is taking place in the Middle East and Ukraine, someone can often feel down and depressed. Due to this, they might not do a number of the things that they used to do before. Quiet simply, they won’t have the desire or the energy to do a great deal. Apart from going to work, then, they might spend a lot of time at home and seldom if ever see their friends or family. Weighed Down

Even though a man will have his own needs and feelings, he could generally be out of touch with what is taking place within him. These parts, along with his desires and preferences, will be connected to his true self. Thus, if he is out of touch with what is going on within him and is disconnected from his essence as a result, it is not going to be possible for him to live a life that is deeply fulfilling. Still, this doesn’t mean that he will be able to join the dots, so to speak and to do something about this. The Norm

Even if a man has the desire to connect with and develop a deeper connection with a woman, it doesn’t mean that he will be able to achieve this aim. So, if he has been able to connect with at least one woman, he might not have been able to take things further. Then again, he might not have been able to get this far, with the first part being something that has eluded him. As a result of what is going on for him, he could feel pretty hopeless and helpless when it comes to this area of his life. Too Much To Handle

What will be clear, if a man behaves as though he is an extension of his mother, is that he hasn’t separated from her. He will then be an adult, but based on how he behaves, it will be as if he is still a dependent child. However, there is a chance that he is not even aware of the fact that he is not living his own life. If so, he could create the impression that he is happy to live in this way and is not neglecting himself. A Strange Scenario

Although someone will have a number of needs, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of all of them. As a result of this, it is not going to be possible for them to meet all their needs. By living in this way, they are going to be depriving themselves of a lot of what they need. They can then often feel drained and even exhausted but they won’t be able to join the dots, to speak. It’s Normal

Nowadays, there are numerous books that go into what women are like and the truth about female nature. If, then, a man wants to understand women, he won’t find that there is a shortage of information on this topic. Yet, if he has this need, he doesn’t need to read a book, as he will be able to find a lot of information online. Here, he will be able to watch videos, read articles and read the thoughts that certain experts share on different social media sites. Another Part

If someone is highly motivated, there is a strong chance that they will be used to receiving a lot of positive feedback from others. They can often be seen as living in the right way and even having high self-esteem. The reason for this is that in today’s world, being motivated is often seen as a sign that someone is well-adjusted and values themselves. So, through being this way, they will do what they can to achieve their goals. Always On

If someone was able to record how they talk to themselves and then play it back through speakers, they could find that they are typically not very kind to themselves. By having exte alised what is going on for them internally, it will have been easier for them to see what is going on. Although this is a hypothetical scenario, what it illustrates is that when something is normal, it can fade into the background. Consequently, it won’t be possible for something to be done about what is going on. The Norm

A man could be in a position where he is only interested in having sex with women. What this then means is that he won’t be interested in having a relationship with a woman. And, if he ever dates a woman, most of the time that he spends with her could involve him having sex. When this doesn’t take place, he could be having something to eat with her or watching a film, for instance. More tha One

At the beginning of someone’s life, they might have been deeply traumatised, but, now that they are an adult, they might not be aware of this. This stage of their life could be a complete mystery to them, or they could say that it wasn’t that bad, for instance. However, even if this stage of their life is a complete mystery, it doesn’t mean that what took place won’t have left its mark on them and continue to make their life a misery. For example, they could suffer from anxiety, often be depressed, and even have moments when they think about ending their life. The norm

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