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Although someone is an adult and thus their childhood will be well and truly behind them, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. Of course, they will no longer be a toddler, infant or even a child; that will be clear from their appearance. But, while this will be clear from the outside, what is going on the inside can be very different. On the inside, they can feel like a powerless, terrified and dependent infant. Covered Up

If a man fears being seen by a woman, it doesn’t mean that he will realise this. But, even if he is not consciously aware of this, what he fears is still going to have an effect on how he experiences life. The reason why he is not aware of what is going on is that he could be out of touch with his true self. This will mean that he won’t have a strong connection with his body and thus, a number of his needs and feelings will be a mystery. Living on the Surface

If a man typically acts like an extension of his mother, he is likely to seldom if ever truly be seen by her. What this will mean is that she won’t be able to acknowledge that he has his own needs and feelings. It will then be as if the only reason he is on this earth is to be there for her and make sure that her needs are taken care of. Naturally, this is going to mean that his mother will take a lot from him but she won’t give anything back, at least not emotionally. More of the same

Although a woman may want to be with a man who is available, she may find that she has ended up with one who is anything but available. This will be a man who is super focused on his mother and does what he can to meet her needs. As a result of this, he is likely to be emotionally unavailable and rarely physically available. So, he might seldom, if ever, be truly present when he is around and at other times, he won’t be around as he will be caught up in taking care of his mother. The Contrast

What should feel comfortable is for a man to pay attention to his own needs and to live his own life. However, although this is what should feel comfortable, it doesn’t mean that it will be. Instead, a man can have the tendency to be there for his mother and to do what he can to meet her needs. This can be something that takes place without him even needing to think about it. One and the Same

In general, someone could come across as though they are needless and this could take place without them being consciously aware of it. Therefore, they won’t choose to hide their needs from others, this will just be what typically happens. What this is also likely to mean is that they will seldom be aware of their own needs. So, not only will their needs largely be a mystery to others they will also largely be a mystery to themselves. Self-Neglect

If someone is in a position where they have the tendency to feel bad about themselves, their life is unlikely to be very pleasant. It is then going to be normal for them to be in a very low place and their life could be very unfulfilling. And, as they rarely feel good about themselves, it could mean that there are a number of people in their life that are not very kind. But, even if this is the case, how they are treated by these people might not always stand out. Another Experience

Even though someone’s physical self will be seen by others, it doesn’t mean that the rest of them will typically be seen by others. What this means is that their inner world, so what their thoughts are about certain things and how they feel, for instance, might seldom be revealed to others. If this is the case, it is going to illustrate that they usually wear a mask when they are around others and, consequently, who they are will rarely see the light of day. They are then going to be a separate human being who has their own self but they will act as if they are an extension of others.

At this point in time, someone could find it hard to understand why they are experiencing life in a certain way. Based on the life that they lead, they can believe that they shouldn’t be the way that they are. The reason for this is that their life could be good in so many ways and yet they can often be depressed. As a result of this, it can be as though what is going on for them internally is completely irrational. A Mismatch

There are going to be moments when someone needs to be in an active state and moments when they will need to be in a passive state. They are, after all, not a tree and neither are they a machine. If they were more or less always in doing mode, they are likely to end up being burnt out before long. And, if they were always in being mode, very little if anything would get done. Balance

What can be normal is for a man to only have casual encounters with women, which will mean that he will only share his body and perhaps his mind. This might be the only thing that interests him, with him having no desire whatsoever to experience more. He might sometimes be told that he has ‘commitment issues’ and that it’s time for him to settle down, but this might not have much of an impact on him. If most if not all of his friends are in the same position, he is likely to receive a lot of support for how he behaves. A Natural Outcome

Although someone will be an individual that has their own needs, feelings, thoughts and preferences, it doesn’t mean that they will typically act like one. In general, they could act as though they are nothing more than an extension of others. Consequently, it will be normal for them to hide themselves around others and put on an act. Therefore, even if they don't act for a living or as a hobby, their life will be one big act. Unaware

After someone has been treated badly as a child, the same thing could take place now that they are an adult. Therefore, the hell they experienced very early on won’t be over, it will have simply continued. However, it might not cross their mind that their adult life is very similar to their early years as this can just be what is normal. If so, the thoughts and feelings that they have as an adult are unlikely to be very different to the thoughts and feelings that they experienced as a child. A Natural Outcome

For someone to be able to take life in, to receive, they will need to be able to inhabit their body. This will allow them to be in the part of their being that truly experiences life as opposed to the part that simply observes it. To use an analogy: it will be the difference between someone being in water and simply looking at water. When they are in their body, then, they will be able to experience life in all its glory. A Big Difference

It can seem as though there is only one type of birth – a physical birth. However, along with this type of birth, there is also another type of birth, and this is known as an emotional birth. The first type will allow someone to have their own vehicle, so to speak, and the second type will allow them to have a sense of self. So, when both of these births occur, they will be able to see that they are both an individual and feel like one. Analogy

Although someone is likely to have been connected to and expressed their emotional needs when they were a child, it doesn’t mean that this will be the case now that they are an adult. In general, their emotional needs could be a mystery and, naturally, this will stop them from expressing them. When it comes to their emotional needs, this will relate to their need to be seen and heard, touched, appreciated, and supported. These are then needs that will be met primarily through intimate relationships. The Norm

For someone to have deeper connections with others, they will need to share how they feel. If they were to purely share what they have been doing and their views, for instance, this wouldn’t take place. This is not to say that being this way wouldn’t allow them to form connections with others; no, what it means is that these connections wouldn’t have the same level of depth. This is because they would only be sharing a small part of themselves. The Norm

If a man was brought up to be there for his mother and to take care of a number of her needs, it probably wouldn’t have occurred to her that he was an individual who had his own needs and, over time, his own life to lead. Of course, when he was born, it is likely to have occurred to her that he had had basic needs such as the need to eat and sleep but that might have been about it.

Even if someone feels worthless, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. However, by not having a felt sense of worth, their life is likely to be anything but fulfilling. In general, they could have the tendency to please others and ignore their own needs and feelings as a result. If this is the case, their true self is rarely going to see the light of day. Outer Directed By behaving in this way, they are likely to be used to receiving positive feedback from others. Some people could describe them as being easy-going, helpful and even selfless.

From the outside, someone can appear to be free to express who they are. However, although this may appear to be the case, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they can actually relate to. And, to make matters worse, there is the chance that they are not fully aware of the fact that they are this way. If so, they won’t be aware of what is going on but they are likely to be aware of the effects of living in this way. One Scenario

In general, someone could spend a lot of time working, having very little time for anything else. It doesn’t mean that this is something that will cross their mind, though, as it could just be what is normal. And, if they ever do think about how much time they spend working, they could end up justifying how they behave. They could say to themselves that being this way is better than being lazy and/or that they have so much to achieve. A Similar Response

What can be normal is for someone to be in the background and not stand out. So, when they are with a friend, they can do a lot of listening and not a great deal of talking. And, if they were to go to an event or out shopping with them, once again, their friend could take the lead and be the one that talks to others. Like a supporting actor, then, they won’t take up much space and they are unlikely to overshadow anyone. Another Part

After learning about the law of attraction, someone could soon come to the conclusion that they need to feel good as much as they can and to have positive thoughts. This is because both their feelings and their thoughts will play a big part in what they do and don’t experience. So, as the days, weeks and months go by, they are likely to do what they can to make sure that they have the right thoughts and feelings. This will be essential if they want to attract what they desire into their life. Another part

A man is going to be only too aware that his physical body was created and birthed by his mother, but it might not occur to him that his self-image was largely created and birthed birth by her too. One reason for this is that he might not even think about how he sees himself. But, even if he doesn’t think about how he sees himself, his view of himself is still going to have a massive impact on his life. If he has a view of himself that is empowering, this might not matter. Very Different

What a man may find, if he was to step back and reflect on his life, is that he doesn’t have a very positive view of women. He could see that he largely sees them as people who are against him and want to cause him problems. As a result of this, he could do his best to keep his distance and only spend time with them when he has to. Along with this, if he ever experiences the desire for female company, he could see this as a time when he needs to act in a calculated manner. Exte al Support

If someone wanted to change their society or even the world, there are a number of things that they could end up doing. For example, they could take part in a protest, sign a petition and/or vote for a certain politician/party. Alte atively, if they were happy to break the law, they could block off a road/motorway and vandalise buildings. In all of these cases, they will be rebelling through what they do. The Only Option

If someone missed out on the love that they needed in order to grow and develop very early on, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of this. Most of what took place during this stage of their life could be a mystery to them. However, even if this is the case, it doesn’t mean that this stage of their life will be well and truly behind them. Not only can they be in an underdeveloped state but they can continue to try to meet their unmet developmental needs. Submerged

Even though someone can live in an environment that is relatively safe and be free to express themselves, it doesn’t mean that they will feel safe or freely express themselves. Still, this might not be something that they are consciously aware of. If they are not consciously aware of what is going on, how they experience life will just be what is normal. Thus, there will be no reason for them to do anything about what is going on. Their Experience

One thing that a man could find, if he was to get into a relationship, is that it is a challenge for him to connect to how he feels. This is not to say that he was fine before this, though, as he may have struggled to connect to his feelings before. However, now that he is in a relationship, how he experiences life will have come into focus. To use an analogy: it will be like a room that had no light and now that there is a light, it will be clear what is in the room. A Different Experience

If a man didn’t receive the love and nurturance that he needed from his mother during his early years, it doesn’t mean that he will have simply been able to move on from what happened. Physically, as well as mentally, he will have grown, but emotionally, he is likely to be underdeveloped. Nevertheless, there is the chance that this is something that he won’t be aware of. It could seem strange as to how he could be in an emotionally undeveloped state and not realise it. By Design

Not only could a man find it hard to understand why he is so focused on his mother but some of the people in his life could be just as confused. So, even if he is not currently in an intimate relationship, some of his friends and perhaps family members could also wonder what is going on. There is even a chance that he became aware of what is going on after one of his friends or family members had a long conversation with him. Conversely, it might have taken a number of conversations for him to accept this. A Mirror

Although someone was deprived of the emotional nutrients that they needed during their formative years, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of this now that they are an adult. If they were to think about their early years, they could believe that this stage of their life was fine. For example, they could say that one or both of their parents was more or less always around and that they were not physically harmed. Furthermore, they had somewhere to live, didn’t go hungry, and had the clothes they needed. A Very Different Experience

If someone were to look back at their early years, what might stand out is that this wasn’t a time when they were generally loved and cherished. Instead, they could see that this was a time when they were typically treated like they were nothing. This can be how their mother and perhaps father, if he was around, treated them. Thanks to how they were treated throughout this key stage of their life, they could be in a bad way now that they are an adult. It’s not over

What can be normal is for a man to be drawn to women who are not in a good way and want someone to look after them. This can mean that if he is not in a relationship with a woman who is like this, he is likely to have a number of female friends who are. At the same time, even if he is in a relationship with a woman who is like this, he can still have a number of female friends who are. In so, a lot of his time and energy will be spent being there for women. A Superhero

After a woman has been in a relationship with a mother-enmeshed man, she is unlikely to be in a very good way. Not only can she be in a lot of pain but she can also have a number of questions. Perhaps she was with a man like this for a number of months or maybe her time with him lasted even longer. The longer she spent with him, the more pain she is likely to be in and the more questions she may have. Inner Conflict

If a man was to step back and reflect on how he experiences life, what could soon stand out is that he doesn’t feel as though he has any value. He could see how this has held him back when it comes to his career and his relationships with the opposite sex. He might have continually made one step forward and two steps back when it comes to his career and been unable to make a great deal of headway. Then again, he might not have a career and might have just gone from one job to another. A Bleak Existence

For as long as a man, who is entangled with his mother, is not aware of the fact that he is this way, he is likely to be out of touch with most of his needs and feelings. By being this way, he will have no trouble being there for his mother and focusing on her needs. This is likely to just be what is normal and, therefore, there will be no need for him to change his behaviour, even though behaving in this way won’t truly be serving him. In order to stop himself from facing reality, he is likely to have a number of defences in place. Invisible

Now, if a man is overly focused on his mother and unable to live his own life, this could be something that baffles him. He could struggle to understand why he is so focused on her and so neglectful towards himself. In general, he could feel as though she has complete control over him and that he has to do just about whatever it is that she wants him to do. Thanks to this, it can be normal for him to feel angry, frustrated and deeply helpless. Liberation

What someone could find is that they often lack energy and find it hard to do things. In general, they might only leave their home when they have to go to work and need food. Along with this, they could go out to see friends, watch TV and they may exercise every now and then. But, even when they do go out to see others, it could typically only be because someone reached out to them. Missing Out What could be clear is that being this way is stopping them from being able to truly embrace life. They are just going to be going through the motions and won’t be really living.

As someone is an interdependent human being, it will be important for them to have relationships where they are seen and heard. When this takes place, not only will their physical self be seen but their inner world will also be seen. This will take place by them opening up about how they feel, expressing their needs, and sharing what is and isn’t going well in their life. What this will do is strengthen their sense of self and have a positive effect on their well-being. The Opposite

One thing that someone could wonder, if they were abused as a child, is why one of their parents abused them but treated others differently. They could see that while this parent was not always pleasant to others, they were not abusive toward them. Therefore, they might have had moments when they were rude, but they wouldn’t have physically harmed another or been verbally abusive, for instance. Naturally, as this parent had at least two very different sides, it will be hard for them to get their head around what took place. One Part

If a man is in a relationship with a woman who is undermining him, he could have at least one friend who finds it hard to accept why he doesn’t cut his ties with her. Over the days, weeks and perhaps months that he has been with her, this friend might have had a number of conversations with him. But, although they will have made it clear that this woman is not good for him and he himself might have also agreed, it won’t have had much of an impact. Instead, he will have continued to put up with what is going on. His Experience

When it comes to how someone experiences life, how they see themselves will have a big impact. However, they might not even think about how they see themselves and, even if they do, this could just be seen as who they are. If, then, they have an empowering view of themselves, this is not going to matter. But, if they have a disempowering view of themselves, it is likely to mean that they won’t have a very fulfilling life. Stepping Back

On one side, a man will have a masculine aspect, and, on the other, he will have a feminine aspect. But, although he will have two sides to this nature, it doesn’t mean that this is something that will stand out. He could generally come across as though he is only made up of the masculine aspect and doesn’t possess a feminine aspect. If it was put forward to him that he has both sides, he could also say that this is not true, or words to that effect. His Personality

Recently, a man may have been in a relationship that seemed to be going well and then, out of nowhere, it came to an end. As a result of this, he could be in a pretty bad way and find it hard to function. When he is not feeling low and flat, he could be filled with a deep sense of sadness and feel hopeless and helpless. Assuming that this is so, he is unlikely to be interested in doing a number of the things that he used to enjoy doing. A Lack of Motivation

If a man was to take a step back and reflect on how he typically behaves, he could see that he has the tendency to hide how he feels. As a result of this, most if not all of the people in his life are not going to know what is really going on for him. This is going to mean that he will keep a lot to himself and he could often feel deeply alone. It is then not going to matter how many people are in his life as it will be as if he is on an island in the middle of nowhere. An Act

After having recently experienced something that has enabled him to see clearly, a man who is overly focused on his mother may now feel a strong need to live his own life. At this point, he could wonder why it has taken him so long to see clearly. Then again, he could look back and see that due to how caught up he was in his mother's world, it simply wasn’t possible for him to see clearly. It was then to be expected that it would take a while for him to wake up. For Example

If a man is in a position where he does a lot for his mother and very little for himself, he is going to be more like his mother’s parent than her son. As with a parent-child relationship, he will be giving a lot but he won’t receive a great deal back. Now, of course, if he was her parent, she wouldn’t be there to fulfil his needs. But as he isn’t her parent and a number of his own needs will be overlooked as he is not there for himself, his own tank is not going to be filled up, so to speak. Deeply Deprived

If a man, who is overly focused on his mother’s life, was at the stage where he is aware of what is going on and is able to step back and reflect on this behaviour, he could find that not behaving this way is seen as something that would lead to his demise. He is then going to have two options: either he neglects himself and lives, or he is there for himself and dies.

In general, there are feelings that are seen as “good” and feelings that are seen as being “bad”. As a result of this, it can be normal for someone to deny certain feelings and to embrace others. To go one step further, they could view themselves as a “good” person who only experiences “good” feelings. For example, they could see themselves as someone who is always happy, friendly and accepting of others. Both Ways