Self-Esteem and Self Confidence Articles

If a man is highly driven, he could often be seen as someone that has high self-esteem. Along with all the things that he has achieved, then, can be all of the positive feedback that he receives from others. However, although he may have high self-esteem, it doesn’t mean that he is being driven by a sense of wholeness. In fact, deep down, he could feel very empty and just about everything that he does can be a way for him to avoid the deep hole that is inside him. Doing Mode

Over the years, a man may have been with a number of women who were anything but loving. When he was with these women, he might have often been verbally put down, emotionally deprived and even physically harmed. Thanks to this, he might not have a strong desire to be in another relationship. But, based on how he has been treated by the women that he has been with, this is not going to be much of a surprise. Inner Conflict

Even though a man has his own needs and feelings and life to lead, he can act as if he is merely an extension of his mother. Due to this, he is going to neglect himself and his life won’t be very fulfilling. However, this can just be what is normal, which means that he might not be aware of what is going on. If he is not aware of what is going on, he will suffer but he won’t be able to join the dots, so to speak. The Next Stage

After a man, who is emotionally entangled with his mother, comes to see what is going on, he could end up having the need to change his life. Before this takes place, though, he could feel deeply frustrated and totally helpless. However, after a while, assuming that this doesn’t take place more or less straight away, he could end up looking for a way to change his life. This will show that part of him believes that his life doesn’t have to stay this way forever and that there is a way forward. A Rush

If a woman is with a man who is overly focused on his mother’s needs and neglects himself, she is likely to wonder why he doesn’t take care of his needs. Furthermore, she is likely to wonder why he doesn’t stand up to his mother and make it clear that he is not responsible for her. Therefore, what will be clear is that he finds it hard to assert himself, with this being why he is not there himself and is there for his mother. The other part of this, of course, is that he won’t be there for the woman that he is with. The Same Experience

If someone is in a position where they are finding it hard to handle life, they could believe that there is something inherently wrong with them. They could often see themselves as useless, incapable and even stupid. Unlike perhaps the people in their life, who have it together or at the very least appear to, they won’t have been able to get together. This can mean that they will also have moments when they will see themselves as a failure and lack what others have. One Area

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they find it hard to believe in themselves. By being this way, it is not going to matter if they are good at something as they won’t be able to accept it. Along with this, if they have made a plan to do something, they could spend a lot of time wondering if it will work out. Ultimately, they simply won’t be able to accept that it will work out and, if it doesn’t, they will be able to handle it. One Consequence

Even though someone is a separate being that has their own needs and feelings, based on how they typically behave, it can be as though they are merely an extension of others. They are then going to be focused on other people’s needs. Due to how caught up they are in other people’s lives, they might not realise that they are focused on them and that they are out of touch with a number of their own needs. Other people’s needs can be seen as their own needs and behaving in this way is likely to be will feel comfortable. The centre of their life

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they typically need to be by themselves in order to feel settled and at ease. Along with this, this can be when they generally experience a sense of freedom and are able to be themselves. On the other hand, when they are around others, they can often experience a lot of pressure and feel as though they have no control over themselves. By being this way, it is likely to mean that they will often say yes when they would rather say no and do things that they won’t want to do. A Possession

From the outside, a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother is likely to look as free as just about anyone else. He will then have the ability to behave however he wants to behave and to live the life that he wants to live. At times, it could even appear as though he is in control of how he behaves and is happy with the life that he is living. Yet, even if this is the impression that he creates, it will be nothing more than an illusion. A Compulsion

What can be normal is for a man to be out of touch with how he feels and to be in a collapsed physical state. Due to this, he can typically go through the motions in life, not feeling alive or as though his life has much meaning. But, if he has been this way for a very long time, he might not realise that he doesn’t have a strong connection with his feelings or that he is generally in a low place. Yet, if this is just what is normal, why would it stand out? One Area

Over two thousand years ago, in a place called Sparta, males were trained from a young age to fight. As part of their training, they went through numerous challenges in order for them to be moulded into warriors. It then didn’t matter what any of these males wanted to do with their life as their path had been laid out for them before they were even born. And, of course, their fathers probably went through the same thing. One Purpose

In the article that I wrote about Yellowstone titled, ‘Can Someone Learn About Enmeshment By Watching Yellowstone?’, I briefly spoke about John’s youngest son, Kayce. I said that he was a loose cannon, and, in addition to the drama in his life, he was inches away from being killed or ending up in prison. Additionally, I said, amongst other things, that the endless fights and dramas that he has are no doubt a partly replay of how it was for him as a child. This was the conclusio I came to after having watched eight episodes of the first season. A Deeper Look

If someone has just gone through a breakup and even if this took place a few weeks or a number of months ago, they could be in a bad way. This could show that they were with their ex for a number of years, or it might not have been this long. Additionally, this might have been a relationship that was going well or it might not have been going well. But, regardless of how long it lasted or how well it was going, they are now going to be in a very low place. Totally Defeated

After going through a breakup, a man could decide to take his time before he dates or merely share his body with another woman. If so, this can show that he has been greatly affected by what has happened. Then again, this might not be the case but he might just want to take a break and focus on other areas of his life. This may show that certain areas of his life had been neglected. One Scenario If he has been greatly affected by what has happened, he won’t be in a position to simply ‘move on’. He can be in a lot of pain and it could be hard for him to carry on as normal.

If someone’s life is not very fulfilling and they were to take a step back and reflect, a number of things could enter their mind. So, they could see that their relationships are not very nurturing and that it is normal for them to be ignored, put down and treated badly. Due to this, they are likely to often feel worthless, unloved and invisible. Additionally, they could often feel anxious, fearful and as though their life is going to come to an end. A Bleak Existence

After suffering for many, many years, someone may have come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years. Therefore, it is not that they were born this way and/or simply can’t get it together. No, it is that they were deprived of the love that they needed in order to grow and develop in the right way. One thing that they could struggle to understand, though, is why they were treated so badly. Two Parts

So, shortly after I had written the previous article about Yellowstone, titled, ‘Can Someone Learn About Enmeshment By Watching Yellowstone?’, I thought about how I had more to say. In this article, I spoke about how Jamie, John’s second youngest son, is very sensible and reserved and how different he is from his other siblings. In a way, apart from mentioning that at an emotional level, he is still a boy who craves his father’s acceptance, I created the impression that he is a well-adjusted man. But, although he is more grounded than they are, he is not in touch with his power.

If a man is finding it hard to move forward in life, he might find it hard to believe that this could be due to what took place during his early years. As far as he is conce ed, what took place at this stage of his life could be in the past and that’s the end of it. The reason why his life is the way it is could be put down to what is going on exte ally. Consequently, what is taking place “out there’ will be seen as what is holding him back, not what is taking place within him. A Closer Look

In general, a man could be easy-going, needless and do his best to please others. He is then rarely if ever going to assert himself, express his needs or disagree with what another person says. But, although how he comes across won’t be a reflection of who he really is; he could believe that it is who he is. What this comes down to is that he is an individual with his own needs and feelings. An Act

Now that someone is a man and no longer a boy, it could be said that his childhood will be behind him. This stage of his life will be well and truly over, so it won’t matter what took place during this time. However, while this may appear to be the case, it doesn’t mean that this stage of his life has truly been put behind him. What took place during his early years could be preventing him from living a fulfilling life. Missing the Connection

Before long, a woman may find that she is with a man who has two women in his life; his mother and her. He won’t just have a normal relationship with his mother, though, as she will be his main focus. The woman, who should be his primary relationship, is then going to be like a woman that he is seeing on the side. As a result of this, most of the man’s time and energy will be directed toward his mother. The Priority

If a man spends most of his life doing things for his mother and overlooking his own life as a result, he is unlikely to have much of a life himself. He will be an individual with his own life to lead but that will be as far as it will go. So, as opposed to being the leading character in his own story, known as his life, he will be nothing more than a supporting character. His mother, on the other hand, will be the main character in his story. The Centre of His World

As someone is an individual with their own needs and feelings, they are not always going to want to do what another person wants them to do or suggests. If, on the other hand, they were merely an extension of others, this wouldn’t be the case. Another person could want them to do something or suggest something and they would go along with whatever has been put forward. There would be no resistance and once they have done something, how the other person feels would define how they feel. Standing Their Ground

If on one side, there are those who believe just about everything the media says, on the other, there are those who believe very little of what this source says. As a result of this, when it comes to how the former see the world, it is going to be very different to how the latter see the world. This is, of course, a very black and white way of looking at things, and there are going to be many different views on both sides of the spectrum. However, when someone doesn’t look towards the system to inform them, they are more likely to have views that are seen as being crazy. Way Out Therer

If someone finds it hard to be seen and they were to share this, another person might find it hard to understand. They could say that they can see them, so there is no way that this could be an issue for them. However, being physically seen is unlikely to be the real issue; what they will struggle with is being seen for who they are. So, this will relate to having their feelings and needs recognised by another and being treated like an individual. A Big Difference

Right now, a man could be in a relationship with a woman who is not really interested in him. Or, if he is not in a relationship with a woman like this, he could be dating or seeing a woman who is. Consequently, he is going to be into or really into her but she is not going to feel the same way towards him. He might have been trying to change what is going on for a number of years, months or weeks. A Waste of Time

If a man has spent most if not all of his life focusing on and doing things for his mother, he is unlikely to have a very empowering view of himself. Even so, this doesn’t mean that he will be aware of this. But, if he has been this way for a very long time, why would he be aware of this? How he is will just be what is normal, so it is to be expected that it won’t be something that will stand out. Looking Closer

Earlier on, it occurred to me that when it comes to working through emotional wounds, it is very similar to weeding a garden. At this point, you might wonder how the former has got anything to do with the latter. Perhaps the reason why I was able to see this connection is that I have removed a lot of weeds over the years. Many years ago, I worked at a crematorium and I also took care of a few gardens. Moving On

During someone’s early years, they might have had at least one parent who didn’t treat them very well. If they did, this parent would have often been very cruel and, as a result, this would have deeply wounded them. Still, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to acknowledge how cruel this parent was. So, when they do think about them, what could enter their mind is how this parent not only did the best that they could but also did a good job overall. The Other Part

If the average person was asked to explain what it means to be human, they could say that it involves having a physical body and an intellect or something similar. Therefore, who they are will be a combination of what is going on in their head and what keeps this part of them in place.

Before the contagion came onto the scene, it wouldn’t be right to say that, as a whole, there was harmony on earth. There were numerous things that a number of people were fighting over. For example, there was the battle between some men and women and between those who belong to one religion and another. However, fairly recently, a new battle has arisen between some of those who are vaccinated and some of those who are not. Nothing New

It has been said that someone’s ego allows them to have their own experience on this earth, among other things. Therefore, this part of them causes them to see themselves as separate from everyone and everything. So, while this will allow them to have their own experience, which can be seen as a ‘positive thing, it also leads to a number of ‘negative’ things. For example, this sense of separation can cause them to feel disconnected, alone and isolated. The Antidote

If someone was able to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have the tendency to elevate others. As a result of this, seeing another person as more knowing, more powerful and more capable will be normal. They are then going to be at one level and the average person will be on a level that is much higher. What might stand out is that it typically doesn’t matter what this person is actually like as they could see them as being superior to them. One Outcome

At times, someone is going to need to stand their ground and not tolerate something. By doing this, they will be paying attention to their own needs and looking after their own well-being in the process. At other times, they will need to go after what it is that they desire. This will also allow them to fulfil their needs and, thus, to live a life that is fulfilling. It’s missing

What can be normal is for a man to feel angry and this could be something that the people in his life are only too aware of. The reason for this is that he could often come across as intense and rude. It might go further, though, as there could be moments when he is violent and destroys things. But, even if he doesn’t go this far, the people in his life could find it hard to feel at ease around him. Nothing New

What someone may find, if they were able to detach from how they experience life, is that they have the tendency to feel low. This can mean that they will often feel depressed and they may even have moments when they think about ending their life. They may find that this is how they have been for as long as they can remember. So, if they do feel good about themselves, it could be because they have consumed something or have engaged in some kind of activity. Hidden

After suffering for many, many years, someone may come to see that they were mistreated during their early years. Through having this understanding, it will start to become clear why they are experiencing life in this way. Now, while having this understanding won’t mean that their life will automatically change, it will allow them to take the next step. Without this understanding, they would have continued to suffer. Moving Forward

When someone is born, they are going to be an embodied human being. That is, of course, unless their time in their mother’s womb and their birth was not traumatic. By receiving the right attunement and care throughout this time, their connection to themselves will be supported and strengthened and they will be able to develop a strong sense of self. This shows the importance of having at least one parent who is emotionally available and is able to love. The Outcome

Even though a man’s childhood will be behind him, it doesn’t mean that he has fully moved on from this stage of his life. A big part of him can be anchored to this stage of his life. The reason for this is that this might have been a time when he missed out on what he needed from his father and perhaps his mother. If so, it wouldn’t have been possible for all of him to forward. Three Parts His physical and mental self would then have grown, but his emotional self would have stayed frozen in time. However, thanks to repression, this might not be something that he is aware of.

If someone feels happy, they could soon feel uncomfortable and their inner state could change thereafter. This could be something that is the rule as opposed to the exception. But, if this is something that is normal, it might not be something that stands out. As a result of this, they are going to find it hard to be happy but this won’t be something that they are consciously aware of. One Step Further

Even if a man fears women, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. If so, being this way will have a big impact on his life but he won’t realise what is going on. But, while he won’t be aware of this, a friend or family member, for instance, could be aware of this. It might then seem strange as to how another person could see this but he himself is unable to. Self-Deception

If a man were to connect with how he feels, he could find that he feels as though he is missing something. It is then going to be as if there is a hole inside him that needs to be filled. And, if he were to go deeper into this inner emptiness, he could come into contact with a lot of pain. He could find that he feels rejected, abandoned, worthless, helpless and hopeless. Two Levels

If a man were to think about the experiences that he has had with women over the years, he might soon experience a number of ‘negative’ feelings. This is because he may have been with a number of women who were not very loving. So, these women might not have typically been interested in his needs or how he felt and the challenges that he had. These women would then have been very self-absorbed and he would have been greatly deprived as a result. The Other Side

While there is a time to be and a time to do, someone could be in a position where they find it hard to get things done. It could take a lot for them to get moving and when they do move, it could typically be because they have to. For example, if they didn’t have to go to work, they could simply stay in bed, and if they were not hungry, they could stay sitting down. What is clear is that they won’t have much energy or drive. Another Area

For as long as a man can remember, he might have had the need to be there for his mother. He may find that this is generally something that he doesn’t have to think about doing as being there for her is something that just happens. But, as time has passed, he might have started to experience resistance when it comes to behaving in this way. He may realise that behaving in this way is not serving him, so part of him no longer wants to behave in this way. It’s Grown

At first, a man who is entangled with his mother might have focused on the impact that she is having and had on him. The reason for this is that it would have been clear that she is having and did have a big effect on him. But, as time has passed, it might have become clear that there is the impact that his father is having and/or did have. He will then know that how both of his parents behaved during his formative years played a big part in the experiences that he had and is now having. Black and white

For someone to live a fulfilling life, they will need to be connected to their body and be in touch with their needs and feelings. The reason for this is that by being connected to themselves, they will be able to take life in, and this connection will provide them with the guidance that they need. However, although this is the optimal way to experience life, it doesn’t mean that someone will be in this position. Instead, they can be disconnected from their body and out of touch with most of their needs and feelings. A Way of Life

What can be normal is for someone to be there for others and to ignore a number of their own needs and feelings. But, although they will have abandoned themselves, it doesn’t mean that this will stand out. However, even if what is going on doesn’t stand out, living in this way is still going to have a negative impact on them. Ultimately, they will be missing out on a lot of what they need, so this is to be expected. For Example

After suffering for many, many years, someone may come to see that they were mistreated during their early years. Through having this understanding, it will start to become clear why they are experiencing life in this way. Now, while having this understanding won’t mean that their life will automatically change, it will allow them to take the next step. Without this understanding, they would have continued to suffer. Moving Forward