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- Focus on Listening - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sandra Baptist -Do you really listen to others? Or do you simply hear what they're saying?"What's the difference?" I hear you say. Well, with the help of Carol Mc Call, Master Coach, this is what I've learnt. Persons speak to us and we don't listen! We hear them. We listen 25% of the time and hear and make up ...
Views: 1924(1 vote) - Ten Contributors To Dynamic Results - by 1. Develop a clear view of the results you desire to achieve. You must know where you are going before you set out on your trip to successville.
2. Develop a detailed step-by-step plan on how you will achieve your results.
3. Identify the additional poeple and skills needed to reach your ...
Views: 1554(2 votes) - Mourning the Narcissist - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam VakninAt the commencement of the relationship, the Narcissist is a dream-come-true. He is often intelligent, witty, charming, good looking, an achiever, empathetic, in need of love, loving, caring, attentive and much more. He is the perfect bundled answer to the nagging questions of life: finding ...
Views: 4505(1 vote) - Traumas as Social Interactions - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam Vaknin("He" in this text - to mean "He" or "She"). We react to serious mishaps, life altering setbacks, disasters, abuse, and death by going through the phases of grieving. Traumas are the complex outcomes of psychodynamic and biochemical processes. But the particulars of traumas depend heavily on ...
Views: 1639(1 vote) - The Malignant Optimism of the Abused - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam VakninI often come across sad examples of the powers of self-delusion that the narcissist provokes in his victims. It is what I call "malignant optimism". People refuse to believe that some questions are unsolvable, some diseases incurable, some disasters inevitable. They see a sign of hope in every ...
Views: 2228(1 vote) - Facilitating Narcissism - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam Vaknin"The new narcissist is haunted not by guilt but by anxiety. He seeks not to inflict his own certainties on others but to find a meaning in life. Liberated from the superstitions of the past, he doubts even the reality of his own existence. Superficially relaxed and tolerant, he finds little use ...
Views: 2008(1 vote) - Sex or Gender - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam VakninAlan Pease, author of a book titled "Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps", believes that women are spatially-challenged compared to men. The British firm, Admiral Insurance, conducted a study of half a million claims. They found that "women were almost twice as likely as men to have a ...
Views: 2098(1 vote) - The Psychology of Torture - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam VakninThere is one place in which one's privacy, intimacy, integrity and inviolability are guaranteed - one's body, a unique temple and a familiar territory of sensa and personal history. The torturer invades, defiles and desecrates this shrine. He does so publicly, deliberately, repeatedly and, ...
Views: 2320(1 vote) - What is Abuse? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam VakninAbusers exploit, lie, insult, demean, ignore (the "silent treatment"), manipulate, and control. There are a million ways to abuse. To love too much is to abuse. It is tantamount to treating someone as an extension, an object, or an instrument of gratification. To be over-protective, not to ...
Views: 1865(1 vote) - 12 Easy Ways to Organize your Work or Home Life (or both!) - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Heather DiodatiDDesign You have permission to publish this article electronically or in print, free of charge, as long as the bylines are included. A courtesy copy of your publication would be appreciated I admit it! Sometimes I'm overwhelmed by the seemingly endless streams of paperwork. Emails I want to ...
Views: 1460(2 votes) - Tips for Making the First Date Bearable - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Susan DunnThe first date is a high-stress time. Here are some ways to make it work better for you. 1. Keep it in perspective. If it's going well, no problem, but if it isn't, remember it's just a date and it'll end. Make the most of it. 2. Keep your expectations in line. Consider possibilities rather ...
Views: 1567(1 vote) - Life Strategies from Mister Rogers We Can Still Use as Adults - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Susan DunnKnowing how you feel, having personal power, managing anger, being creative, focusing on your strengths and having Intentionality - these are all emotional intelligence competencies. 1. You can never go down, never go down, never go down the drain. 2. You can stop when you want to, stop ...
Views: 1328(1 vote) - The Simplest and most Effective Goalsetting technique ever. - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2003 from John MurphyI am fortunate to work with people from all walks of life on a regular basis and one of the most common requests I have is to help them set and achieve ‘real’ goals. One necessity in starting this process is to take time out of our day to assess our current position and determine where we are ...
Views: 1491(2 votes) - What is holding you back - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2003 from Joanne NelsonWhat is it you want and desire? -A better life -To have greater prosperity -A better job -A new car -A bigger house -To lose weight -A new relationship -More money -An overseas trip -To send the kids to University -To create more success These and many other outcomes are thought about, dreamt ...
Views: 1893(1 vote) - Timing and the Moon - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2003 from Joann HamparElectional astrology is the astrology of timing and the Moon plays the most significant role because she is responsible for setting events in motion. As the closest orbiting body to the earth, her influence is so important that two branches of astrology, Horary and Electional, use the Moon as ...
Views: 2920(1 vote) - Parenting a child with special needs - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2003 from jill curtisAs a parent of a child with a disability or with special needs you will be only too aware of all the challenges you encounter when you try to get the best help you can for your child. Sadly the list of problems faced by so many children, and their families, never seems to end. Each disability ...
Views: 2043(1 vote) - Letting Go – In my own words! - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2003 from Ashleigh Stewart-GhabiWhat do we mean in healing when we talk about ‘letting go’? Everywhere we turn to get some help in healing, all we hear is people preaching to us “you must let it go!” This probably sounds like a very nice idea to the person who seeks guidance and I do agree with whomever it is that is preaching ...
Views: 1168(1 vote) - Bird Takes Flight Around the World - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2003 from Joanne LongLess than ten years ago, most folks thought “emu” was a crossword puzzle answer. Today, Emu is the answer to many other puzzles: What to make for dinner? Emu Steak or Emu Burger. What to rub on sunburn to take the sting out? Emu Oil. What to apply to wrinkles to help with anti-aging? Emu ...
Views: 1979(2 votes) - "Inner Medicine": Revolutionary Character Development. - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2003 from James Barton"When you are deluded and full of doubt, even a thousand books of wisdom are not enough. When you have realized understanding, even one word is too much." Ancient Teacher "Teachers open the door, but you must enter by yourself." Ancient proverb Contents 1)Introduction 2)How to read ...
Views: 1806(1 vote) - FINDING PEACE OF MIND IN A VERY UNCERTAIN WORLD - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2003 from Susan JeffersThere is great adventure in the unknown that propels us to discover powerful parts of ourselves that we didn't know were there. As I write this article, my eyes focus on the cover of our leading news magazines. They tell us that ANXIETY is the number one issue at the moment. ...
Views: 3223(2 votes) - Do You Know How To Focus? - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2003 from Jan TincherDo you know how to focus? No? Well, if you did know how, would it help you remember people's names? Would it stop you from being nervous, or at least help you control your thoughts so your thoughts don't make you nervous? You Bet! How about if you talk too much or too loud? Would ...
Views: 12091(7 votes) - How to feel great in a moment! - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2003 from Sean McPheatThe power of the mind is a truly remarkable thing. How you feel in any given moment is linked to: - What you are focussing on - The way that you are moving and using your body - The language you are using Your mind controls all three! If you are feeling lethargic or need an instant ...
Views: 3068(1 vote) - Is It Possible to Have Too Much Emotional Intelligence? - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2003 from Susan DunnSomeone emailed me recently, "Do you think it's possible to have too much emotional intelligence going on? To the point that perhaps logic takes a backseat?" Good question. The fact is, we need both IQ and EQ. You can't have "too much" emotional intelligence, but that doesn't mean atthe ...
Views: 1535(2 votes) - Treadmills: Are They Really Worth The Money? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2003 from Kathryn O'NeillOk, so back in June I shelled out $1200 for a premium treadmill (it was on sale, I AM a female after all) It was a huge decision and yes, there were the cheerleaders and the naysayers. "That's great, that treadmill will really help you get in shape!" (how out of shape do I look?) "You'll be ...
Views: 9072(1 vote) - 4 Tips to Avoid Internet Scams - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2003 from John LynchThis article may be freely reproduced provided it is unaltered and the resource box at the end is included. 4 Tips to Avoid Internet Scams If you are new to the internet you will come across numerous programs offering promises of riches. You may know about people who have become rich ...
Views: 1409(1 vote) - Are You Staying True to Your Strengths? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2003 from Susan DunnI stopped by a preschool the other day, and met Sam. He caught my eye right away because he had presence. We call him “Mr. President,” the teacher told me. “He’s bossy.” Sam was focused on a car he was playing with. When I walked up to him, he looked up slowly, with confidence. Something ...
Views: 1445(1 vote) - I'm Not Looking for a Friend, I'm Looking for a Jedi Master - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2003 from Susan DunnCoaching's been around for about 10 years but there are still lots of people who haven't tried it yet, and don't know what it's about. Two major confusions in people's minds are: · What's the difference between coaching and therapy, and; · What's the difference between coaching and a good ...
Views: 1598(2 votes) - The Top Ten Reasons Why You Should Live as if There Is No Tomorrow - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2003 from Susan DunnIn Memoriam, Thomas Leonard, the Founder of Coaching, who died February 11, 2003 1. Because we never know when we may die. 2. Because we never know when's the last time we'll see a loved one. 3. Because it's the worst thing in the world to have someone die and not have told them you loved ...
Views: 3046(1 vote) - WHY WE NEED DETERMINATION! - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2003 from Roy BurtonIf it is our aim to succeed in life then many qualities will be demanded of us. We must have not only courage and ability, but also intelligence and integrity to name just a few. To aspire to success you will also need to understand, either consciously or instinctively, the necessity of having a ...
Views: 6556(1 vote) - Marketing Your Massage Services - The One Minute Message - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2011 from Eric BrownHave you ever had a client say, "Oh, I didn't know you treat headaches." or "Massage can't help a tendinitis, can it?" Have you ever felt like hitting your head against a wall? I certainly do when I hear those kinds of comments. The truth is that most of your clients - even your most ...
Views: 3209(2 votes) - Whose Fault Was It Anyway? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2003 from Susan DunnOne of the hardest things for some people to do is to accept the blame for something they did, as in admit they made a mistake. This has to do with authenticity, with being honest with yourself, and with your self-esteem. Perfectionists have the hardest time owning up to a mistake; in fact ...
Views: 1470(1 vote) - Concerta: Benefits and Side Effects - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2003 from Jeannine VirtueA number of ADHD medications are hitting the market, joining the old Ritalin standby. Concerta, in its relatively short existence, has already grabbed a sizeable portion of the ADHD medication market share. Although Concerta offers a number of advantages over the older ADHD medications, it ...
Views: 60738(13 votes) - Relaxing Into Reiki - by REIKI TODAY
Reiki is an ancient healing art that has recently been re-
discovered in Japan. With the resurrection of Reiki in this
age of mass and almost instantaneous communication,
word of its power is quickly gaining the attention of the
mainstream world. The mode of transmission of Reiki ...
Views: 1547(1 vote) - Charting Your Course For Success - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2003 from Julie DonleyHaving clear goals is important to ensure successful living. With a vision in mind and landmarks for achieving success, you add direction and focus to your personal and professional life. It’s like taking both hands and grabbing hold of the steering wheel of the car called life and steering into ...
Views: 1403(2 votes) - Ask Dr. Paul: "Help Me Save My Marriage!" - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2003 from Paul HannigQuestion: “I am going out of my mind. I have two small children and my husband, behind my back, went out and bought a very expensive car. We are hardly making our monthly expenses and he goes out and does something like that. Is he stupid, or what? I am furious! I am on the verge of divorcing ...
Views: 2579(1 vote) - Nail Biting Basics - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2003 from Christopher HenryNail biting is common among children as well as adults. It typically begins between the ages of seven and 10. But the number of nail biters increases as children reach adolescence, according to parentplace.com. On average, boys 10 years old and older tend to bite nails more frequently than ...
Views: 3020(2 votes) - Inspirational Quotation about Fear - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2003 from Susan Dunn"I've been terrified every day of my life but that's never stopped me from doing everything I wanted to do." ~ Georgia O'Keefe, American painter Go to: http://cgfa.sunsite.dk/okeeffe/p-okeeffe4.htm to see one of her paintings, called "Music - Pink and Blue II"
Views: 2746(2 votes) - Are you taking your inner brat to work? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2003 from Pauline WallinARE YOU TAKING YOUR INNER BRAT TO WORK? By Pauline Wallin, Ph.D Author of "Taming Your Inner Brat: A Guide for Transforming Self-defeating Behavior" Is your inner brat taking over your job? Everyone has an inner brat. It's the part of us that's still a 2-year-old. It gets furious at the ...
Views: 1875(1 vote) - IN THE FACE OF TERRORISM, YOU'RE STRONGER THAN YOU THINK - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2003 from Pauline WallinIN THE FACE OF TERRORISM, YOU'RE STRONGER THAN YOU THINK By Pauline Wallin, Ph.D Clinical Psychologist Author, "Taming Your Inner Brat: A Guide for Transforming Self-defeating Behavior" In the weeks and perhaps months to come, the world will be on edge as events unfold in the Middle East and ...
Views: 1742(2 votes) - Examples of Reptilian Behavior in the Workplace - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2003 from Susan DunnThe reptilian brain, our oldest brain, operates at the level of survival instinct. It's the life of easy choices -- Can I eat it? Will it eat me? Can I mate with it? This brain regulates basic life functions, generates strong primitive emotions needed for survival (lust, fear, aggression), ...
Views: 3873(1 vote) - "History of a Rare T'ai-Chi Form: San Shou" - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Harvey Kurland MSc, MFS, CSCS©Harvey Kurland M.Sc., MFS, ETT, CSCS 2003 Chief T'ai-Chi Ch'uan Instructor University of California Riverside http://www.myspace.com/hkurland Unlike what most think of as a tai chi form, i.e. the slow movements practiced a putative trance like state, the San Shou form is played with or ...
Views: 4902(3 votes) - Three Sales and Marketing Tools to Boost Profits - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2003 from Joel Sussmanhttp://www.marketingsurvivalkit.com The quality of your life, whether you're talking about your professional or personal life, is determined by habits. Success is often the result of simply doing the right things over and over again. In sales and marketing, consistency is one of the most ...
Views: 1661(3 votes) - The Why's in the Road. - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2003 from Michael LevyThe Why's in the Road. By Michael Levy Each day in our lives there are decisions to be made. Most are small but nevertheless can have significant impact on our happiness. We amble along and make the most of each situation we face as the result of our actions. But there will come a time when we ...
Views: 1378(2 votes) - Hate It? Gotta Do It? Not Good At It? Whatcha Gonna Do? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2003 from Susan DunnThe Equalizer doesn't seem to be answering the phone so it looks like its up to you. What? Oh any of those nasty chores we all hate to do. For me its keeping lists, keeping records. Of course I can DO them. I was an event planner - it's nothing BUT details - but it's not my strong suit. ...
Views: 1495(2 votes) - The MOST Important thing YOU can do to manifest World Peace - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2003 from Lisa HepnerHere it is, it’s very simple...The most important thing YOU can do to manifest World Peace is… BELIEVE PEACE. What? What does that mean, BELIEVE PEACE? “You mean to tell me that all I have to do is Believe Peace and Peace will be my reality? You mean I don’t have to do anything like write my ...
Views: 4261(1 vote) - We all want the same thing: A Declaration of Unity - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2003 from Lisa HepnerI was at the public Library the other day to look up some media contacts for a publicity campaign and also to check out a biography of Woodrow Wilson. When I left the library, I found myself walking directly behind a man who had a dark complexion and was wearing a turban. Two young kids on ...
Views: 2104(1 vote) - How To Be The Perfect Guest - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2003 from Susan DunnBeing a good guest is important to both your business and your social life. When you’re invited somewhere as “the guest,” you really have a role to play, and it’s an active one, not a passive one. You’re there to enjoy yourself, but it’s also up to you to make a positive contribution to the ...
Views: 2400(1 vote) - Ayurveda- Science of life - Basic concepts - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2003 from Dr. Shashikant PatwardhanAyurveda- A Complete Science of Life Welcome to read about the most ancient and traditional science on one of the most modern systems, the Internet. How can this ancient system of health care be relevant to people of today, when technological advances have radically altered our ...
Views: 4348(1 vote) - 8 Feng Shui Tips for Better Behaved Children - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2003 from Kathryn WeberIs your son or daughter not as respectful and courteous as you would like? Maybe you’d like to instill more discipline in your child. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you could influence better behavior from your child just by making simple decorative changes? You can with feng shui. Often ...
Views: 13738(2 votes) - Using Feng Shui for Better Behaved Children - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2003 from Kathryn WeberIs your son or daughter not as respectful and courteous as you would like? Maybe you’d like to instill more discipline in your child. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you could influence better behavior from your child just by making simple decorative changes in his or her room? You can with feng ...
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