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- A Smart New Year Resolution: Develop Self-Awareness & Become Empowered to Have a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2011 from Doron GilSTICK ON TO YOUR NEW YEAR RESOLUTION & BECOME ABLE TO DEVELOP A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP New-Year is a time for Resolutions. At times you promise yourself to do such and such in the coming year, but put this intention aside as soon as January 1 is over. The reason is that it is so easy and ...
Views: 1499 - A Successful Intimate Relationship Depends on Being Aware - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2011 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION We all like to think that we are logical, rational human beings. But many of our reactions and behaviors are driven by factors we NOT aware of – leading us to harm our relationships. Developing Self-Awareness paves the way to a successful intimacy. ARE WE RATIONAL HUMAN ...
Views: 1657 - Afraid to Develop Self-Awareness? Fail in Your Relationships? Combat the Fear and Develop a Successful Relationship - by Submitted on May 04, 2011 from Doron GilThere are many who, in spite of failing in their relationship over and over and again, are afraid to develop self-awareness and understand what makes them fail. This is unfortunate, since it is only when they will develop Self-Awareness and understand how they shoot themselves in the foot in ...
Views: 1456 - Are You Authentic? Learn Why Authenticity is Essential for a Successful Intimate Relationship! - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2012 from Doron GilA major component of successful intimate relationship is authenticity: when you are “who you are”, true to yourself and genuine, you can develop, nurture and maintain a healthy and satisfying intimacy. But many fail in their relationships because they are NOT authentic. Getting up the courage to ...
Views: 1328 - Are You Aware of How You Sabotage Your Relationships? Taking the Road to Self-Awareness Will Help You Change! - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2012 from Doron GilAs long as you are not aware of the ways in which you might be sabotaging your relationships, you might fail to develop a successful intimacy time and again. But without knowing what you do which harms your attempts at relationships, you will not know what and how to change. Developing ...
Views: 949 - Are You Capable of Leaving an Unsatisfying Intimacy when You Realize the Relationship Isn’t Good Enough? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2013 from Doron GilI once heard someone describing her wish to separate from her partner in the following words: “I’m in the departure lounge at the airport… there’s some waiting before take-off…there might even be some delay…”. She already knew she should separate, but still hesitated about doing it and ...
Views: 1422 - Are You Dating Someone who is NOT for You? Why Won’t You Find and Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction If you find yourself time and again with a partner who seems to “run away from you”, but nonetheless you hang-on to this “partner”, albeit the pain it causes you, you are not alone. Many behave similarly. Still, it is YOUR life. Therefore, when you get up the courage to ...
Views: 1156 - Are You Single & Dating Yet Failing to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship? Learn What Stands in Your Way - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2013 from Doron GilMany singles are trying various ways to find a partner with whom to develop a satisfying intimate relationship: enroll on dating sites, seek the help of a “dating coach”, attend workshops on the subject, read books on relationships and seek relationship advice in different journals and internet ...
Views: 1606 - Are You Stuck in an Unsatisfying Intimate Relationship? Here are 3 Routes for you to Consider - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2013 from Doron GilThe increasing number of separations and divorce is an indication that many are not satisfied with their relationships. Yet, those who stay in an unsatisfying relationship might have reasons for doing so. Whatever the reasons are, there are at least 3 routes to making a change. Reasons for ...
Views: 1456 - Be Authentic! This is a MUST if You Want to Succeed Having an Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2012 from Doron GilBeing authentic is a MUST in order to develop a successful intimate relationship. Unfortunately, not many are authentic. In this article I explain why it is so difficult for so many to be authentic, and what you can do to enhance your authenticity and thereby your relationships. WHAT DOES ...
Views: 1641 - Be Aware: If Your Expectations Are Based on Social Conventions they Might Harm Your Relationships! - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2011 from Doron GilYou probably have expectations from partners and relationships. They add some “juice” to the relationship: you expect things to happen, you fantasize about them, and you make an effort to ensure they will “come true”. When this happens – it’s wonderful. But expectations might harm a ...
Views: 1119 - Be Aware: Self-Sacrifice, Neediness and “Being there” for Your Partner Might Harm Your Relationships - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2012 from Doron GilIf you are single looking for a partner and your friends ask: “Do you want a relationship?” you certainly answer affirmatively. But often, once you have one, something odd happens: you give up and ignore your own will. You tell yourself: “I have a relationship - and that’s what matters! Do ...
Views: 1333 - Be Aware: Traits You Deny and Reject in You, You Project onto Your Partners and Sabotage Your Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2011 from Doron GilThere are many traits you are NOT AWARE of which control your attitudes, thinking, reactions and behaviors in your relationships. These usually are traits which you perceive to be “negative”; which you are afraid might bring criticism upon you; disrespect; rejection and abandonment. As long ...
Views: 1342 - Be Aware: When Your Desire for Love is Driven by Neediness & Dependency it Harms the Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2012 from Doron GilIntroduction Many “fall for” others who are unavailable, giving themselves totally, as if there is no tomorrow, ignoring warning signs – even the most obvious ones – believing they have found “the love of their life”, only to become disillusioned time and again – and to jump in with another ...
Views: 1579 - Be Your Own Relationships’ Coach and Become Empowered to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2012 from Doron GilEngaging coaches in your personal and professional life has become a trend: more and more seek the advice and services of one coach or another, be it for lack of time, lack of experience, inability to make the right choices by yourself or just a symbol of status (just like having a personal ...
Views: 1324 - Be “The Artist” of Your Relationship Success Story - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2012 from Doron GilYou may be trying for a long time now to find a partner (if you are still single) with whom to develop a successful relationship, or to develop a satisfying one (if you already have a partner). In order to succeed you have probably read advice columns about dating and relationships. Listened ...
Views: 1390 - Become Aware of Messages Which Affect You! Don’t Let Them Harm Your Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2011 from Doron GilThere are many messages you have UNCONSCIOUSLY internalized while growing up, which drive you to behave in self-sabotaging ways with your partners. DANNY (Example 1) Nathalie accuses Danny of not expressing his love for her. He doesn’t hug her; he doesn’t tell her that he loves her. She ...
Views: 1256 - Become Aware of Your Perception of Reality: Don’t Let it Harm Your Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2012 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION You and your partner react and behave in your relationship each from your own Perception of Reality – your personal view point of how things “should be”. Your perceptions are affected by many factors you have internalized over the years while growing up. As long as you are NOT ...
Views: 2794 - Becoming Aware of How You Hurt Yourself is a Key to Improving Your Life & Relationships - by Submitted on May 08, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction If you feel there is something in the way you “do” life, your attitudes and the way you behave that hurts your well-being and happiness, becoming aware of what you were not aware of until now is the key to initiate a conscious change in your behavioral patterns, tendencies and ...
Views: 1100 - Being Authentic on First Date: Can it Lead to Developing a Successful Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction Even if you perceive yourself to be an open, honest and authentic person, if you are not alert to your date and don’t keep any boundaries during first date, you might sabotage any possibility of extending the date into a relationship. Being an open person doesn’t mean you don’t ...
Views: 2290 - Betrayal, Cheating, Trust & Forgiveness - by Submitted on May 12, 2013 from Doron GilBetrayal is a common occurrence. Research shows that a large proportion of partners betray their “loved ones”. A person thinking that his/her partner is “unique”, “special” and “exceptional” might stop thinking it after finding the partner has been unfaithful. After all, he/she has become “just ...
Views: 1506 - Can You Blame “The Other Sex” for Your Failed Relationships? - by Submitted on May 18, 2012 from Doron GilIf you have been trying for a long time now to have a satisfying intimacy and didn’t succeed, it is very likely that you fail due to lack of Self-Awareness: you don’t understand how you shoot yourself in the foot. Developing Self-Awareness will enable you to realize a host of factors which drive ...
Views: 1870 - Can Your Dreams about a Wonderful Intimate Relationship Materialize? - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2013 from Doron GilIt is wonderful to dream and fantasize about a wonderful relationship with a wonderful person. Who wouldn’t want to be involved with a great intimacy? But often, when you meet someone, even if at the beginning of the relationship you believe you have indeed seen your dream come true, slowly but ...
Views: 1507 - Change the Way You Do “The Dating-Game”- and Succeed in Developing an Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2011 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION If you have been in the dating-game for quite a long time now and still are not successful to develop a successful intimate relationship, maybe it’s time for you to change tactics. Having the courage to do things differently may prove to be “the right way” to succeed in finding a ...
Views: 2075 - Dating “Unavailable Others” is a Waste of Your Time: Learn Why and How to Avoid It - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2012 from Doron GilIf you are presently on “the dating scene” wishing wholeheartedly to find a partner with whom to develop a serious relationship, don’t date those who are basically UNAVAILABLE. No matter what they promise you, and regardless of how much you think “this is the right person for me”, dating them is ...
Views: 1197 - Defining One's Relationship-Status on Facebook as “Complicated” – What Stands Behind it? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2011 from Doron GilNO ONE HAS EVER PROMISSED YOU A ROSE GARDEN No one has ever said relationships are easy. Neither with a “soul-mate” nor with “loved-ones”. Arguments, disagreements and conflicts always exist. They are part of the relationship. THE MEANING OF “COMPLICATED” Yet, when I see from time to ...
Views: 5159 - Denial and Projection Harm Your Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2012 from Doron GilIf you find yourself in unsatisfying relationships over and over again, or without a partner, the reason might well be that you sabotage yourself without even knowing that you do. One way might be, to project onto your partner traits, emotions and behaviors you deny in yourself. When these are ...
Views: 3049 - Developing Self-Awareness Enables You to Understand How You Harm Your Relationships – and Change - by Submitted on May 13, 2011 from Doron GilIt is very likely that your attitudes, reactions and behaviors in a relationship harm it, causing conflicts and arguments. Often, you don’t even know that that’s the case. When your relationship fails, you tend to blame your partners. Developing Self-Awareness will help you notice that many of ...
Views: 1412 - Do You Choose Your Partner(s) or They Choose You? This Can Make a Big Difference in Your Relationship’s Success - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2012 from Doron GilAlthough it might NOT be apparent, there is a big difference whether you go out with someone YOU have decided to go out with or with someone who has chosen you. The first usually happens when you are empowered to be yourself and feel safe with being alone. The second often occurs when you have a ...
Views: 1182 - Do You Have a Burnout from Dating? Take the Time during the Holidays to Heal - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2012 from Doron GilIntroduction There is much talking about burnout from work. But burnout also happens when you feel exhausted from endless dating - yet you keep dating nonetheless. This is counter-productive, since you don’t project happiness to your date, but fatigue; not empowerment, but desperation; not ...
Views: 1443 - Do You Have the Personal Quality Which Enables You to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2012 from Doron GilWhat are the “best” personal qualities which enable you to develop a successful intimate relationship? Different personal coaches and therapists might give you different answers. There are those who believe that communication skills are the key for a satisfying bond; others believe that ...
Views: 1008 - Do You Know What Stands in Your Way from Developing a Successful Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2012 from Doron GilYou might be failing in your relationships for a variety of reasons. But as long as you are not aware of what the true reason is, you will not know what you need to change. Consequently you will keep failing in your relationships. Becoming aware of what stands in your way is therefore vital to ...
Views: 1207 - Do You Know What Stands in Your Way from Having a Successful Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2013 from Doron GilIntroduction If you wholeheartedly wish to have an intimate relationship and don’t yet have one, it is important that you understand the true reasons for not succeeding. Implementing five simple steps might help you figure out how to proceed to having the relationship you hope ...
Views: 1295 - Do You Tend to Give-up on Your Will for the Sake of the Relationship? Be Careful! It might Harm Your Intimacy - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2012 from Doron GilWhen you sacrifice your own will “for the sake of the relationship” your relationship seems harmonious, everything is by mutual consent. However, because you don't allow place to your own will, but rather live according to your partner's, you begin to feel uncomfortable, frustrated and angry. ...
Views: 1273 - Do You Want to Have a Successful Intimate Relationship Next Year? Here Are the Requirements - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2011 from Doron GilDo you find yourself at the end of this year either without a partner or dissatisfied with your relationship? Do you wish to ensure that next year you’ll have a successful and satisfying relationship? If so, what you need to do is embark on The Journey to Self-Awareness: Understand what has led ...
Views: 1197 - Does the “Fear of Letting Go” Withhold You from Changing an Unsatisfying Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2012 from Doron GilWhether you are single wishing to develop a relationship or have a relationship wishing to change or end it, changing the situation you are in involves taking a risk. The Fear of Letting Go might withhold you from taking such a risk since it makes you anxious about an uncertain future. But the ...
Views: 1878 - Does Your Anxiety Drive You to Sabotage Your Relationships? Learn How to De-activate its Power - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2012 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION Your anxiety often harms your attempts at relationships. It works against you as you try to find a partner and develop a successful intimacy. It drives you to react and behave in ways which are counter-productive to a successful relationship. Combating your anxiety enables you to ...
Views: 4589 - Don’t Let Your Anger Sabotage Your Relationships: Allow Yourself to Express it! - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2011 from Doron GilAnger is a natural emotion. However, there are those who, for one reason or another, don’t allow themselves to express it. By doing so they might harm their relationships. If you are a person who doesn’t express anger, you may want to understand why you don’t and teach yourself to express it ...
Views: 1560 - Don’t Let Your Belief-System Harm Your Relationships: The Role of Self-Awareness in Your Life - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2011 from Doron GilYour attitudes, emotions, reactions and behaviors towards your partners are often controlled by a belief-system which you are NOT AWARE OF. You adopted this belief-system from your childhood home, your social environment, television, radio, books and films. EXAMPLES OF BELIEF-SYSTEMS WHICH ...
Views: 1030 - Don’t Let Your Belief-System Hurt You & Sabotage Your Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2012 from Doron GilIt is being said that having a belief-system is good: it is something which directs you; guides your actions; motivates you to know how to go about feel you know how to move forward with life. But if your belief-system controls your attitudes and behviors without you being aware of it, you are ...
Views: 2347 - Don’t Let Your Expectations about Your Partner & Relationship Harm You Just Before the Holidays! - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2011 from Doron GilEXPECTATIONS ABOUT PARTNERS AND RELATIONSHIPS We all have expectations about partners and relationships, and this is natural. However, if you hold on to unrealistic expectations hoping that they will be fulfilled, you are likely to harm your relationships. Becoming aware of your expectations ...
Views: 1753 - Don’t Let “The Fear of Being Alone” Drive You to Stay in an Unsatisfying Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2012 from Doron GilStaying in an unsatisfying relationship might be driven by many fears, one of which is THE FEAR OF BEING ALONE.You convince yourself that it is better to have a partner and be in a relationship, albeit not a satisfying one, rather than being alone. The problem is that you the give up on your ...
Views: 2814 - Don’t Sabotage Your Relationship! Become Aware of What You Do – and Change! - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2012 from Doron GilWHY DO YOU FAIL TO DEVELOP A SUCCESSFUL INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP? If you have been trying for quite some time now to find a partner with whom to develop a satisfying relationship but in vain, or are having continuous problems with your partner, there is probably something you do wrong. ...
Views: 1269 - Don’t Sacrifice Yourself for a Partner and a Relationship: It Will Only Cause You Harm - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2013 from Doron GilYou will be amazed to realize what people do for love. Some sacrifice themselves on the “altar of a relationship”, some are involved with dangerous and stupid “adventures”. But whatever others do, what is important is that you know yourself and know what you are willing, or unwilling, to do “for ...
Views: 1762 - Don’t Seek Short-Cuts to Finding a Partner with Whom to Develop an Intimate Relationship: They Might Fail You! - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2012 from Doron GilTime is money. For one reason or another this phrase has taken precedence in many aspects of our daily life: on CNN, for example, you often hear the anchor saying to an interviewer: “quickly…”; or “please answer the final last question in one sentence”. Twitter forces you to send messages with ...
Views: 1135 - Don’t You At Times Wish that Your Relationship with Your Partner Will be as Good as the One You Have with Your Friend? - by Submitted on May 24, 2013 from Doron GilHave you ever wished that your relationship with your partner will be at a similar level of friendship like the one you have with your closest friend? That with him you would be able to talk about everything in the open, like really two soul-mates? Hellas, this is often not the case. And when ...
Views: 1479 - Falling in Love, Romance and Love Poems: Are They Possible via Long-Distance Chat? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2011 from Doron GilWho doesn’t dream about falling in love, meeting “the one and only”, having a “once-of-a-life-time connection” like in the fairy tales, the movies, and TV series? At times the modern technology and the social-media provide all these. Just touch the key-board and YOU’RE CONNECTED! When such ...
Views: 1552 - Freeing Yourself from Harmful Behaviors within the Relationship Enables You to Succeed with Your Intimacy - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2013 from Doron GilAs much as you might want to have a successful, healthy and satisfying relationship, and as much you think you do “all you can” in order to have one, you might still, unconsciously, react and behave in ways which hurt your bond. This is normal and humane, and many share this problem. The ...
Views: 1339 - Getting in Touch with Your Will Is Vital for Having a Successful Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2011 from Doron GilNOT BEING IN TOUCH WITH YOUR WILL SABOTAGES YOUR RELATIONSHIPS If you haven’t been successful in cultivating a successful relationship until now, in spite of your many attempts at dating and with on-and-off relationships, you might be telling yourself the following: * “If only I had a ...
Views: 1008 - Getting to Know Yourself is the Best Way to Succeed in Developing a Satisfying Intimate Relationship - by Submitted on May 03, 2012 from Doron GilIf you are single and on the dating scene wishing to find a partner with whom to develop a successful relationship, you have probably listened to and practiced many dating-tips you read in advice columns, found on the internet and received from friends, such as: * Write the perfect profile * ...
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