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- Relationships: Why Do Some Men Fear Intimacy? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile men and women are both human, they are often portrayed as being radically different. It is clear that they are different on the outside, but what is not as clear is that there are differences when it comes to their brain structure. One outlook is that these differences are due to ...
Views: 1567 - The Media: Does The Media Promote Intolerance? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about what the propose of the media is, they may start to think about how it is there to inform people about what is taking place around them and in the world at large. Based on this outlook, it will be normal for them to look towards the media in order to be informed. In ...
Views: 1567 - Fear: Is Fear All In The Mind? - by Submitted on May 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings can allow their life to be defined by love or fear, and while one is often seen as destructive and the other is often seen as constructive, they both have a purpose. However, problems will arise when someone allows their life to be defined by fear. Another ...
Views: 1566 - Support: Why Do Some People Only Feel Supported When They Are Pleasing Others? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperEach and every one of us is interdependent and this means that not only do we want to be supported by others, but that we also need to be; with it being it being vital for our own survival and our ability to thrive. The ideal is going to be for one to feel supported for who they are. There ...
Views: 1565 - Relationships: Do Some People Avoid Relationships In Order To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on May 11, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come across two people who want to be in a relationship, it would be easy for them to assume that they are both in the same position. On one level, it could be said that this is the case; however, if they were to look a little deeper, they might find that there is more to ...
Views: 1561 - Relationships: Does Rescuing Others Keep Them Stuck? - by Submitted on May 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAt times, one is going to feel the need to help another; either through someone asking for help or as a result of one offering their hand without being asked. And as human beings need help from time to time, it is good thing that there are people like this in the world. To help another ...
Views: 1561(1 vote) - Compassion: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To Compassion? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile being compassionate can be seen as the right way to be, it is not always the easiest option. What can be easier is to go to the other extreme and to become indifferent to other people’s problems and the suffering they are going through or have gone through. And not only can one be this ...
Views: 1560 - Therapy: Is Your Therapist Invalidating Your Experiences? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is suffering from mental and emotional problems and/or has relationship problems, they can end up looking for a therapist to assist them. This could be because they have taken this approach in the past, or it may be due to other reasons. If it relates to other reasons, it could be a ...
Views: 1560 - Anger: What Can Happen When Someone Disconnects From Their Anger? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for something to grow and develop, it will be important for the right conditions to be in place. This is something gardeners understand and as a result of this, they are able to create the right conditions for seeds to grow, among other things. Without this understanding, it ...
Views: 1559 - Online Dating: Why Are We Not Attracted To Someone When We Meet Them In Person? - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one meets someone from an online dating site, they can end up having a strong connection with them. As a result of this, the time that they spent talking to them online would have been time well spent. An Investment One way of looking at this would be to say that they were putting ...
Views: 1557 - Customer Service: Is Customer Service Important? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAll businesses, no matter how big or small, need customers, and this is because they depend on their custom. If this custom was to disappear, it is not going to be long until a business goes out of business. Based on this, it is clear to see how important good customer service is, and no ...
Views: 1556 - Relationships: Where Does Someone’s Idea Of The Perfect Partner Come From? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to attracting someone for a relationship or something that involves less commitment, there is the chance that someone can have a certain type that they go for. And then for others, this is not always the case; with them having no set idea of what another needs to be like. ...
Views: 1556 - Disrespect: Do Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Have A Low Tolerance For Disrespect? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is shown respect, they are likely to respond in a certain way, whereas, if they are not respected, they are likely to respond in another way. However, this is not to say that everyone feels they deserve the same level of respect. But when someone doesn’t get the level of respect ...
Views: 1555 - Posture: Can Trapped Grief Affect Someone's Posture? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has good posture it not only creates a good impression, it also has a positive effect on their health. There is then an external reason and an internal reason for one to pay attention to how they hold themselves. Therefore, if two people had bad posture, their reason for wanting ...
Views: 1555 - Reality: Can Trapped Emotions Create Our Reality? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what one attracts and doesn’t attract into their life, thoughts are often the primary focus. And when someone has this point of view, they are seen as the key to one attracting what they want and repelling what they don’t want. So here, one needs to become hyper vigilant ...
Views: 1555 - Relationships: Does Someone Need To Be Careful Who They Let Into Their Life If They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that it is important for someone to make sure that they don’t allow ‘toxic’ people into their life. And upon reflection, it doesn’t take much thought to see why this is the case. Interdependent In a way, this is no different to one being told that they shouldn’t eat food ...
Views: 1555(1 vote) - Words: Do Words Create Our Experience Of Life? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe power that words have cannot be denied or dismissed. And there are many points and areas to look at when it comes to words. However, the primary focus of this article is going to be the role that the ego mind plays. Words have certain meanings in the dictionary and socially for example; ...
Views: 1555 - Self Worth: Do You Let Your Experiences Define Your Self Worth? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be times in one’s life where their external reality mirrors back to them exactly what they want to experience and then there are going to be times when this doesn’t happen. And these experiences can end up defining not only how one feels, but also what they believe about ...
Views: 1554 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Have Affairs? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there have always been people who have had affairs, it is probably easier than ever before to have one. This is because of modern-day technology and how the internet has given people the chance to find someone without even leaving their home. One can then use their phone to keep in ...
Views: 1553 - Helpless: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Helpless? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one is constantly having an effect on their environment, it doesn’t mean that they are able to accept this. Some people will be able to see that this is the case and there are going to be others who believe they have no effect whosever. And when someone experiences life in a way that ...
Views: 1552 - Relationships: How Can Someone Know When A Relationship Is Over? - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne could be in a relationship that is going extremely well and out of nowhere, it could end up being on the rocks; leaving one in a place of uncertainty as to whether it will last or not. It could also be a relationship that is not going to well either. However, just because something seems ...
Views: 1552 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Take Advantage Of People Who Are Kind? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had the chance to get something for free, they could either take what they need or they could take as much as they could. Another way of looking at this would be to say that they can act with grace or they can act with greed. Two Outlooks When one only takes what they need, it ...
Views: 1550 - Self Awareness: How Can Someone Develop Self Awareness? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it can be relatively easy to notice how another person behaves and how this affects their life, the same cant always be said about how one behaves and how this affects their life. And a big part of this comes down to how the modern day world is; with people generally being taught to ...
Views: 1549 - Bad Dreams: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Bad Dreams? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people will be familiar with their dreams, other people won’t be. When some people wake up it is going to be easy for them to remember what took place in most cases and they could keep their dreams alive by writing about what happened. And for others, they might remember what took ...
Views: 1547 - Emotional Awareness: Is Emotional Awareness An Important Part of Self Control? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile what is taking place externally is relatively easy to notice, the same can’t always be said when it comes to what is taking place internally. Here, one might not be aware of what is going on within them and yet, their actions are still going to be defined by what is taking place there. ...
Views: 1546 - Social Media: Is Social Media Creating Your View Of Reality? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperLong before the internet was available; people could watch TV, listen to the radio or read a paper in order to find out what was taking place around them. As a result of this, people were able to find out about things that they wouldn’t have known about before these options were available. ...
Views: 1546(1 vote) - Victim Mentality: Why Do Some People Always Act Like Victims? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one gets to the end of their day, they might look back on what has happened, and this could be a time when they will see what good and bad things have taken place. Even so, they could believe that this is simply part of life. One Step Further If they were to engage in this process ...
Views: 1546 - Human Chameleon: Does The Fear Of Being Abandoned Cause You To Be A Human Chameleon? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are able to be themselves, and while they can adapt, this is not something that always takes place. Not only do they have a sense of themselves, but more importantly, they will feel that it is safe for them to be themselves. At times, they’re going to understand the ...
Views: 1545 - Reality: Do We All Have Our Own Reality? - by Submitted on May 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWe all live on a planet called earth and are all effected by the natural laws of this earth. And while there are some things such as these that we can all relate to, when it comes to our own lives, there can be radical differences. How people experience and perceive life can vary from person ...
Views: 1545 - Social Media: Can Social Media Make People Flaky? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is now easier than ever before for people to stay in contact with each other, and this can happen through words being exchanged on a screen or through a conversation taking place with a camera. The only piece of equipment someone needs, in order for this to occur, is a Smartphone. For ...
Views: 1543 - The Media: Does The Media Create Discontentment? - by Submitted on May 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are so many things that can take place through exposing oneself to the mainstream media. And let’s face it, due to the power and influence that it has, it is more or less impossible to not be affected by it. For some people, their whole meaning of life, what’s going on in the world and ...
Views: 1543(1 vote) - Negative Thoughts: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Negative Thoughts? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe term ‘negative thoughts’ has become very well known in today’s world and this is true for people who are into self development and people who are not. Thoughts are generally the primary focus in the area of change and personal transformation. These are said to control how one behaves, ...
Views: 1542 - Boundaries: What Stops People From Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people have boundaries and are therefore able to stand their ground, there are other people who don’t. For them, having boundaries is a challenge and this could relate to a certain area of their life or every area. Standing their ground may be something they do at times, but it ...
Views: 1541 - Inferiority Complex: Why Do Some People Have An Inferiority Complex? - by Submitted on May 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people on this planet who believe that they above others, there are also people who believe that they are below others. And this can be something that one is aware of or it could be an outlook that is outside of their awareness. However, regardless of whether one is ...
Views: 1541 - Offended: Does Being Offended Make Someone Right? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one spends time around people there are likely to be moments when they agree with what they hear. Along with this, there are also likely to be moments when this isn’t the case. It could be said that this is part of life, and this is partly because they will have their own views. If they ...
Views: 1541 - Needy: Can Trapped Emotions Make Someone Needy? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo have needs is part of being human and this is something that cannot be changed. One might pretend that they don’t have any and yet this is nothing more than a facade and an act of self denial. And then there can be other people who come across as extremely needy and there is no confusion ...
Views: 1540 - Expectations: Do The Expectations Of Others Define How We See Ourselves? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people like to view themselves as being independent and that other people have no affect on who they are, this is nothing more than an illusion. Human beings are interdependent and this means that one’s self image is influenced by other people. One might not be aware of this ...
Views: 1539 - Free Speech: Do People Need To Be Protected From Other People's Views? - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it is not as if people have just started sharing their views, there is a difference when it comes to how things used to be. For one thing, the internet has given people a platform to do so. Restricted In the past, someone would have generally shared their views with their friends ...
Views: 1537 - Relationships: Why Would Someone Accuse Their Partner Of Cheating? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a relationship, they could begin to wonder what has happened to it. This could be a sign that it is no longer having the same effect on them as it used to have. What this could show is that they haven’t been putting in as much effort as they did in the past. Perhaps they have ...
Views: 1537 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Need Others To Tell Them What To Do? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough each and every one of us is physically separate and therefore has our own needs and wants, it doesn’t mean that one is always aware of what these are. So instead of one looking within for guidance and a sense of purpose, they can end up looking to other people. This is what will be ...
Views: 1536 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Blame Men/Women? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something goes wrong, one can either look into what took place, or they can simply find someone to blame. If they were to look into what happened, it would give them the chance to make a difference. For example, they could see if they have played a part in what took place and if so, ...
Views: 1536 - Shame: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Shame? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be human means that we are emotional beings and there are many emotions that we can have. Shame is one of them and this can stop one from acting in ways that are inappropriate for example. And yet this emotion can also end up taking over one’s life. It is then no longer something that is ...
Views: 1534 - The Media: Does The Media Destroy Women’s Self Esteem? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what the media focuses on, there are many things that are positive and constructive and then there are also numerous things that are negative and destructive. This is to be expected, as there are pros and cons to most things in this world. And with that in mind, it is ...
Views: 1534 - Intimacy: Can Trapped Grief Stop Someone From Being Able To Experience Intimacy? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it is relatively easy for someone to share their body with another person, the same can’t be said about their heart. This means that although the need is there for someone to share how they feel with another person, it is not something that always feels comfortable. However, just ...
Views: 1533 - The Media: Are People Crazy If They Don't Believe What The Mainstream Media Tells Them? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone sees the world, there is a strong chance that it has been heavily influenced by the mainstream media. The reason for this is that a lot of people look towards this source of information to tell them about what is taking place around them. Normal Therefore, in ...
Views: 1531 - Boundaries: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Walked Over? - by Submitted on May 01, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile boundaries are essential, it doesn’t mean that they are going to be the same for everyone. One person could feel infringed upon when another person does something, and if this was to happen to someone else, it might not cause any problems. But although there will be differences in what ...
Views: 1530 - Relationships: What Happens When Someone Is Always Told What To Do? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what one has achieved or how old they are, they are going to times when they need another person’s guidance. And through another person’s guidance, one will learn about what they need to do in order to move forward in life or to undertake a certain task for instance. This can take ...
Views: 1530 - Always Right: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Believe They Are Always Right? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be times in someone’s life where they are right and there are going to be times when they are wrong. If human beings were all-knowing, then this wouldn’t be something that would occur. However, as it is not possible for someone to know everything there is to know, there ...
Views: 1529 - Boundaries: Why Do Some Therapists Take On Their Clients Problems? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile people often do everything they can to protect their property, the same can’t always be said about themselves. In the collective consciousness, there is a general understanding that one needs to protect their property. And this is not because people can’t be trusted or that everyone ...
Views: 1529 - Free Speech: Do Some People Try To Silence Others Because They Can't Handle Their Own Emotions? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone could experience a negative reaction if another person was to say something bad about them, this could also take place if they were to express their views. As a result of this, it could be a challenge for them to feel at peace within. No Escape One could then spend time with ...
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