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- Child Abuse: Is It A Surprise That Some Parents Deny They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone comes to see that their early years were a time when they were not treated very well, there are a number of things that can take place. Firstly, they can start to think about what they can do to heal the damage that was caused, and, secondly, they can have the need to talk about what ...
Views: 975 - Critical Thinking: Why Do We Keep Electing Idiots? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn America, it is not hard to find someone who doesn’t like Donald Trump, or anywhere else in the world for that matter. Also, the mainstream media typically only has bad things to say about him. Compared with the last president, Barack Obama, Trump is often seen as being a poor ...
Views: 974 - You Don't Need Anyone To Love You! - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt’s not uncommon for someone to say that they want someone to love them, and this is what will motivate them to look for another person to be with. They might believe that everything will be fine after they have found someone like this. At an emotional level, they are likely to feel empty, ...
Views: 974 - Self-Worth: Can Someone Be An Underachiever When They Don't Value Themselves? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone values themselves, they can do what it takes to achieve their goals. Quite simply, they are not going to be willing to settle in life, and this will be what pushes them forward. As a result of this, they could be in a position where they have achieved a number of their goals. ...
Views: 973 - Terrorism: Why Are People Told Not To Get Angry When It Comes To Terrorism? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, terrorist attacks have become a regular occurrence in the west. But while the majority of people who live in this part of the world are going to remember what it was like before, there are going to be others who will have been brought up in an country where this was a normal ...
Views: 973 - “I Want To Be With Someone Who Makes Me Look Good!” - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years I have heard people say that they want to be with someone who will make them look good. Additionally, there have been people who have wanted to take their partner out to “show them off”. There have even been moments in my own life when I have thought that being with woman ...
Views: 973 - “This Woman Is An Inspiration!” - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA few weeks ago, I was doing a bit of research online for an article that I was going to put together. I was going to write an article about how women are being conditioned to see themselves as victims. During this time, I came across an article titled: 'Victimhood narrative' taught in ...
Views: 973 - Relationships: Do Some Men's Childhoods Set Them Up To Please Women? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOn the one hand, there are men who do what they can to fulfil their own needs and, on the other, there are men who do what they can to please others. What this can bring to mind is someone who doesn’t give a damn about others, or someone who cares too much about others. More Than Two ...
Views: 970 - “You Are Always Happy!” - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperDuring the time when my father was in hospital, towards the end of 2011, I did my best to carry on as normal. This would typically mean that I would act as though I was happy and that everything was fine. But as I had been this way for most of my life, it wasn’t as if I was doing anything ...
Views: 970 - Social Media: Is A Tragedy Another Way For Someone To Gain Attention Online? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something bad takes place in today’s world, it might not be long until millions of people know about it. This is because something can be shared on a social media site, and within a matter of minutes, it can be seen by people from all over the world. In the past, people would have had ...
Views: 969 - The Healing Power Of Presence - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on, whilst I was out running, I was reflecting on how important presence is when it comes to healing. It is important in all areas, of course, but this was the area that I primarily thought about. For example, when a healer has been able to let in a certain amount of presence (I say ...
Views: 969 - Authority Figures: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Have Trouble With Authority Figures? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to reflect on how they behave when they are in the presence of an authority figure, they may find that they are typically able to hold their own. This will mean that, in general, they won’t retract and neither will they have the need to take up too much space. In other words, ...
Views: 968 - Emotionally Dependent: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Emotionally Dependent On Others? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to be able to express their true-self, it will be essential for them to be an integrated human being. What this means is that their mind (thoughts), heart (emotions) and body (instincts) will generally work together. Through being this way, they will be in touch with ...
Views: 968 - Offended: Can Being Sensitive Set Someone Up To Be Offended By Just About Everything? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOn the one hand, there are people who are rarely, if ever, offended, and on the other, there are people who are offended by just about everything. This is something that is going to have a big effect on how they experience life. One Side When one can relate to the former, it is going to ...
Views: 968 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Cause Them To Close Their Heart? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that while there are people who are in touch with how they feel, there are those who are not. As a result of this, there is going to be a big difference when it comes to how they experience life. A Whole Human Being When one is in touch with how they feel, it is likely ...
Views: 968 - Success: Is It a Good Idea For Someone To Ask Themselves Why They Want To Achieve Something? - by Submitted on May 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are happy to go through the motions in life, there are others who take life by the horns, so to speak. What this shows is that not everyone has the same level of motivation. One Experience If one is in a position where they are not too bothered about ...
Views: 968 - Trauma: Is It Important For Someone To Spend Time In Nature If They Have Experienced Trauma? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a rupture can severely weaken a tyre, trauma can also severely weaken a human being. But even though a broken type can be replaced by a brand new one, a human being won’t be able to find a another suit to replace the one that is not in a good way. As a result of this, ...
Views: 968 - Being Seen: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They Have To Hide In Order To Survive? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that can cause someone to get into self-development is if their life is not very fulfilling. What this can mean is that they haven’t been able to make much progress in life or perhaps they have made progress, but they have only been able to get so far. Either way, they will be ...
Views: 967 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone Fall Apart During Their Adult Years If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone can come across as strong and together, it doesn’t mean that they have a strong core and that their sense of self is built on firm foundations. However, not only can this be something that other people are unaware of, one could also be unaware of it. If the people in their ...
Views: 967 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Think That People Are Too Stupid To Think For Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNot too long ago, a lot was said about “fake news”, and how this was causing all kinds of problems. Along with blaming the Russians, “fake news” has been seen as one of the reason why Trump won and Brexit took place. Based on how the mainstream media and certain politicians have responded ...
Views: 967 - Fathers: Does A Father Play An Important Role In A Child's Development? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been widely reported that a lot of children are now growing up without a father, and this is in addition to the adults who also grew up without one. There are, of course, a number of reasons as to why this is the case. Firstly, moral decay has led to an increase in hedonism, which has ...
Views: 967 - Relationships: Is It Normal For Someone To Shut Down If Their Partner Is Not Responsive? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAt the start of a relationship, one may find that their partner is fairly or even extremely responsive. What this means is that this person will listen to what they have to say, stop doing certain things if they have negative effect on them, and be open to feedback, amongst other things. In ...
Views: 967 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some People Swallow Everything The Mainstream Media Comes Out With? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, the mainstream media’s power has waned but that doesn’t mean that there are not a lot of people who still pay attention to this source of information. Some of the people who look towards this source to tell what is going on will be in the latter stages of their life, while there ...
Views: 966 - “You Need Therapy!” - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperShorty after I left where I was working in 2012, I felt overwhelmed with stress and emotional pain. Due to this, I head back to the spiritual shop where I had had a reading a little while before, and I spoke to the owner. Her name was Sheila, and she was down to earth, genuine and ...
Views: 966 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Believe That They Always Need To Be On Guard If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of being abused and/or neglected as a child, someone may find it hard to let go and to relax now that they are an adult. Thanks to this, they can have the need to always be in control and on the go. Now, there could be moments when one thinks about how their early years are still ...
Views: 965 - Communication: Where Can Someone Improve Their Conversational Skills? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may have the desire to improve their conversational skills, it doesn’t mean that they will know what to do next. If they were to think about what they can do to make progress in this area of their life, their mind could end up going blank. One thing that they could do is to ...
Views: 965 - Living In The Mind Leads To A Very Unstable Existence - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a conversation I had with someone the other day, it made me think about how different it is to live in the body compared with the mind. In a way, living in the mind is similar to being on a bouncy castle, while living in the body is similar to being a tree. The reason for this is that ...
Views: 963 - Relationships: Is Our Life Defined By The Inner Models That Other People Have Of Us? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one meets someone for the first time, they might not know anything about them. However, once they have spent a little while in their company, they will start to construct an inner model of what they are like. This inner model is then going to define how they interpret just about ...
Views: 962 - Are You Relying On Luck To Get What You Want? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I used to go to different bars and clubs on a regular basis many, many years ago, there were often men who would talk about how they hoped to ‘get lucky’. Sometimes I knew the people who would say this and, at other times, this was something that I would overhear. To these men, it was ...
Views: 960 - Don’t Make Another Person The Centre Of Your World - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was reading the book, ‘Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway’, there was a chapter that went into how important it was to have many different areas of interest in life, and not to put all our eggs in one basket, so to speak. The author, Susan Jeffers, pointed out that a lot of people make their ...
Views: 959 - Relationships: Can Shame Stop Someone From Reaching Out To Others? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can’t be denied is that no one is their own island; human beings need each other. This is why it has been said that although some people say that they are independent, this is nothing more than an illusion. Therefore, while it might be hard for them to accept it, it doesn’t change the ...
Views: 959 - Critical Thinking: Why Do So Many Men Follow Female Models Online? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are quite possibly hundreds, if not thousands, of female models who share pictures of themselves online. And just as there are a number of these models online, there are also going to be a number of reasons as to why a woman would want to live her life in this way. For one woman, this ...
Views: 957 - Relationships: Can Someone’s Unmet Childhood Needs Cause Them To Expect Too Much From Others? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperBefore one gets into a relationship, they can have a rough idea about the kind of person who they want to be with. Along with this, there can be what they expect to receive when they are with them. If this is the case, there can be what they would like someone to look like and there can be ...
Views: 957 - Critical Thinking: Does Someone Suffer From Xenophobia If They Are Against Open Borders? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperDue to the fact that a number of countries in Middle East have been disrupted by the establishment, it has meant that a lot of people have been displaced. Before this happened, people were told that these countries were basically a threat to their survival, which meant that something needed to ...
Views: 956 - “I Thought I Just Lacked Confidence!” - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was younger, I often found it hard to behave how I wanted to behave, and I was often described as being ‘shy’. This was something my mother would say, and there were moments when other people would say the same thing. During this time in my life, my emotions were frequently out of ...
Views: 956 - Depression: Can Someone’s Inner Critic Cause Them To Feel Depressed? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a child will most likely perform a task better if their parent is speaking to them in a supportive manner, an adult is also likely to be able to perform a task better if they are talking themselves in a supportive manner. Not only this, it will be a lot easier for them to do ...
Views: 954 - Emotionally Disconnected: Can Someone Disconnect From Their Emotions If They Have Experienced Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn addition to a physical and mental self, someone also has an emotional self. Nonetheless, just because they will have at least three parts to their being, it doesn’t mean that they will always be in touch with each of these parts. What one may find, that’s if they were to reflect on how ...
Views: 954 - Relationships: Why Would Someone Act Really Interested? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere could be moments in one’s life when they come into contact with people who don’t act all that interested, whilst there could be others moments when this is not the case. Here, another person could act as though one is the most important person on the planet. A Gradual Transition ...
Views: 953 - Masculinity: Does A Man Need To Heal His Father Wounds If He Is Out Of Touch With His Masculinity? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, that’s if he was to take a step back and to reflect on his life, is that it is a challenge for him to assert himself. As a result of this, it can be normal for other people to walk over him. It is then not that other people will physically walk over him; it is that they ...
Views: 952 - Critical Thinking: Is It Easy For Someone To Project Their Issues Onto Trump? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has anything good to say about president Trump, there are least two things that can happen, and what happens will most likely depend on who is around them. One could end up receiving positive feedback or they could end up receiving negative feedback. There is the chance that one ...
Views: 951 - Energetic Abuse: Can Someone Energetically Abuse Another Person? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was asked to talk about what abuse looks like, they may say that this is what happens when someone is put down, hit, sexually taken advantage of, or emotionally invalidated. When something like this takes place, it will be clear that someone is not being treated in the right way. At ...
Views: 951 - Social Media: Can Social Media Cause Someone To Experience Anxiety? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a knife is neither good nor bad, it could also be said that social media is the same. With this in mind, if the former causes harm it will show that it is being used in the wrong way, and, if the later causes harm it will also show that it is being used in the wrong way. ...
Views: 951 - Self-Worth: It Is Harder For Someone To Make Mistakes When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on May 29, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to get something wrong, they may find that this is not something that will end up derailing them. They might need a little while to pull themselves together, so to speak, but that will be as far as it will go. Going Back And, if they were to look back on how they have been ...
Views: 951 - “We Were Together In A Past Life!” - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I had been on the path for a number of years, I ended up doing a fair amount of healing work around my own path lives. At the time, this appeared to be something that would allow me to make progress. Once I stopped doing this, I rarely thought about past lives. This all changed many ...
Views: 951 - Relationships: Can Smartphone’s Destroy Relationships? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that it is easy for someone not embrace each day of the week due to being completely absorbed in what will happen at the weekend, it is also just as easy for them to ignore the people in their life due to being completely absorbed in their Smartphone. In each of these cases, the ...
Views: 950 - Relationships: Do We Judge Others In The Same Way That We Judge Ourselves? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that just about everyone on this planet judges others from time to time. However, one of the main differences is that some people are more judgmental than others. The Difference Along with this, not everyone judges others in the same way. What this means is that one ...
Views: 949 - ”You Have To Be Careful What You Focus On!” - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was with a friend last year, I remember touching upon what was going on with the presidential election in America. I had been paying attention to this, but this friend hadn’t been doing the same thing. I said that it was hard to work out what was going on and he said that there was no ...
Views: 948 - Critical Thinking: Is Being Offended A Way For Someone To Feel Significant? - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNot a day goes by where hundreds, if not thousands, of people are not offended about something. This is something that can happen after they have watched a video or read something, for instance. And in addition to being offended themselves, they can also end up being offended on behalf of ...
Views: 946 - “I Couldn't Believe That He Wasn't Sharing His Views With The World!” - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I met Wain in 2015, I thought that our paths had crossed in order for us to make videos together. For a little while before this, I had been looking for someone who made videos. Not just anyone would do, though, as I was looking for someone who would be able to relate to where I was ...
Views: 945 - I Believe In You - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperPerhaps you are going through a challenging time right now or maybe your life has been tough for a while. Either way, a big part of you may wonder if you have what it takes to move forward. So even if a small part of you believes that you do have what it takes, this part of you won’t exert ...
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