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- Trust: Do Some People's Childhoods Make It Hard For Them To Trust? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take action there is no guarantee that everything would go to plan; in fact, everything could go wrong. This is why a certain amount of trust will be needed for them to take the first step. Without this, it would be a challenge for them to take action. They might not do ...
Views: 793 - Critical Thinking: Is The Term 'Manspreading' An Example Of The Misandry That Exists In The World? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman came across a man who is taking up two seats on a bus or a train, for instance, she could end up saying to herself that this is an example of ‘manspreading’. What this is likely to show is that she is a feminist, or she may just have been conditioned by feminism to see the world ...
Views: 792 - Critical Thinking: Do We Need To Stop Using The Term ‘Mental Illness’? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where their inner world is generally out of control, for instance, they may believe that they have mental health problems. This could have taken place after they did some research online, or it could be the result of what their doctor has said to them. Then again, ...
Views: 791 - Mother Wounds: Does A Man Re-experience The Issues That He Had With His Mother When He’s In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is currently in a relationship, he could be with a woman who is often cold, distant and dismissive of his feelings. As a result of this, he could often feel angry and even hateful and low, invisible and worthless. Now, this might not be the first time he has been with a woman like ...
Views: 791 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Developing Self-Awareness? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had a traumatic childhood, they may be in a very bad way now that they are an adult. Their early years would then have been incredibly difficult and now that they are an adult their life won’t be much better. What this could mean is that this was a time in their life when they ...
Views: 790 - What Did Your Parents Teach You About Men And Women? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI remember reading ‘Family Secrets’ by John Bradshaw and in this book he said, “it was and is your parents’ actually lives that educated you: not what they said, but what they did”. I took this to mean that what my parents did was far more important than what came out of their mouth. This ...
Views: 790 - You Are Depressed Because Your Life Lacks Meaning! - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years I have heard a number of people say that the only reason someone would be depressed is because their life lacks meaning. I even heard a yoga teacher come out with the same view. But before I go into what my thoughts are on this, I will go along with what these people ...
Views: 790 - “What You Resist, Persists” - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, I heard the saying, ‘what you resist, persists’. When I first heard it stood out but it didn’t really mean much, but as time has gone by and my understanding of it has changed, it has gradually come to mean a lot. Anyway, a few days ago I came across this quote whilst I ...
Views: 790 - You Can Make The Impossible Possible - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf you were to think about what is impossible for you to achieve or attain, certain things could come to mind. Therefore, it will seem as though this is something that is fixed and there is nothing that you can do about it. However, while this may be so, it doesn’t mean that what you believe ...
Views: 789 - Let Your Feelings Guide You - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was reading ‘The Integrity Of Personality’ by Anthony Storr, there were a lot of things that stood out. This is a book that came out a few decades ago, but it is full of great information. And one of the things that stood out was when he basically said that a therapist can’t make a ...
Views: 788 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some People Believe In Conspiracy Theories? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThanks to the internet, it is easier than ever before for people to not only get hold of information, but to also disseminate it. What this has meant is that no matter what someone wants to know, there is a strong chance that they will be able to find out about it online. And, someone is ...
Views: 787 - Emotional Expression: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Hide How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is not in a good place emotionally, they could end up talking to a friend about how they feel. Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean that they will want this person to do anything; simply sharing what is going on for them could be enough. Opening up about what is going on for them ...
Views: 787(1 vote) - How To Take Action And Live Without Regrets - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could find is that when they look back on their day or their week, there are a number of things that they wished they had done. They could spend hours wondering why they didn’t do something and beat themselves up in the process. The months are then going to go by and one is not ...
Views: 787 - Needs: Can Someone Disconnect From Their Needs If They Experienced Trauma As A Child? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to someone’s needs, these are one of the things that allow them to have their own experience on this earth. This is not to say that they, unlike others, are the only ones with needs; it is that in each moment they will have their own set of needs. At times, what they need will ...
Views: 786 - Are You Sabotaging Yourself? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone has the desire to achieve something it doesn’t mean that they won’t also do things to hold themselves back. The trouble is that they might not be aware of the things that they are doing to undermine themselves. As a result of this, they can end up blaming other people for ...
Views: 785 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Want To Destroy The Western World? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor at least a number of decades, people in the west have been told that they need to stop having as many children due to ‘overpopulation’. This is a message that has been expressed directly and indirectly. Over the years, there have been plenty of people in the west that have heeded this ...
Views: 785 - Therapy: Can Someone Become More Attached To Their Story If They Have Therapy? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s life is not how they want it to be, they could end up reaching out for external support. Naturally, this is going to be far better than simply tolerating what is going on and suffering in silence. This could be a time when they reach out for the support of a therapist or healer. ...
Views: 785 - Critical Thinking: Is Being Able To Cause Offence Part Of Free Speech? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe mainstream media often talks about people who have caused offence and how these people need to apologise for what they have done. Additionally, it is not uncommon for people in the public eye also say this. Based on this, offending someone is tantamount to physically harming them. So, in ...
Views: 783 - Is Dubai A Physical Representation Of The Conscious And Unconscious Mind? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, I have come across a number of people who will be moving to Dubai, and this has made me think about the place. I have never been there, but I have seen pictures, videos and heard stories about it. On the surface, it seems as though it is paradise on earth; everything looks perfect ...
Views: 783 - My Journey From Self-Hate To Self-Love - by Submitted on May 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago, I was thinking about how I felt about myself at the beginning of my journey and how I feel about myself now. What this made me think about are the different stages that I have gone through. Earlier on, I didn’t have much love for myself and, as the years passed, this ...
Views: 782 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause Someone To Be Controlling? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone starts to spend time with another person, they might not even think about trying to control what they can or can’t do. In fact, this could be the last thing that is on their mind. What could primarily interest them is getting to know the other person and enjoying the time that ...
Views: 782(1 vote) - Self-Image: Why Do Some People Believe That They Don't Deserve To Exist? - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people feel safe in their body and as though they deserve to exist, there are others that don’t experience life in this way. However, regardless of whether someone fits into the first category or the second, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of it. Yet, even ...
Views: 782 - Critical Thinking: Is It Easy For The Media To Manipulate People's Emotions? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that the mainstream media doesn’t need to prove that what they sell is the truth in order to influence people; the only thing that it needs to do is to make sure that people see the information. What this comes down to is that once someone has been exposed to a certain view, it ...
Views: 781 - Critical Thinking: Should Germans Feel Guilty For What Happened In The Past? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAfter the first and second world war, Germany had to pay back a lot of money in reparations. According to some accounts, this money has now been paid off, but there are other voices out there who claim that more money still needs to be paid. Along with the price that Germany has had to pay ...
Views: 781 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Rescue Others Instead Of Rescuing Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is experiencing some kind of inner pain or drama, they can take a closer look at what is taking place and start to look for solutions, or they can focus on what is taking place around them. Through placing their attention on something or someone else, it can allow them to avoid ...
Views: 781(1 vote) - Emotional Flashback: What Is An Emotional Flashback? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, that’s if they were to take a step back and to reflect on their life, is that there are moments when they end up feeling completely overwhelmed by how they feel. When this takes place, it could seem as though they have absolutely no reason to feel as they do. However, ...
Views: 780 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Aggression? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that everyone on this planet has a part of them that provides them with aggression. This part of someone will provide them with energy, drive, enthusiasm and the ability to stand their ground. Of course, it can also be something that can cause them to cause destruction, not ...
Views: 779 - Critical Thinking: Why Would Someone Believe That Another Person Has All The Answers? - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come across someone that had a deeper understanding of something, it doesn’t mean that they would end up putting this person on a pedestal. As a result of this, the other person will be seen as knowledgeable but one won’t perceive them as being better than they themselves ...
Views: 778 - Meditation Can Help You To Develop Self-Control - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne way of looking at the current age would be to describe it as the age of impulsivity. Unlike the past, there is less pressure on people to keep things in and to control their thoughts and feelings. Nowadays, people are often encouraged to express how they feel and to allow their inner ...
Views: 777 - “I’m Being Ignored!” - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on I was waiting in line for something and the person in front of me asked the cashier a question. They didn’t receive an answer, though, and this made them turn to me and say that they were being ignored. A few seconds later, this person asked the cashier the same question and once ...
Views: 777 - Relationships: Can Someone Be Emotionally Unavailable Even Though They’re In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt would be easy to believe that the people who are emotionally unavailable are single and the ones who aren’t are in a relationship. Or, if someone is emotionally available and single, it could just show that they are taking a break after going through a breakup, for instance. This is then ...
Views: 776 - Critical Thinking: Would Most Religions Die Out If It Wasn't For The Indoctrination Of Children? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are children who, practically from the moment they were born, were made to support a certain sports team. This is likely to be a team that one of their family members also supports. Perhaps this family member ended up supporting this team because one of their family members behaved in ...
Views: 775 - Relationships: Why Do Some Intellectually Developed People End Up With People Who Are Emotionally Undeveloped? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn a relationship, it is not uncommon for one person to be logical and the other to be emotional. It can then seem as though one person provides what the other is lacking, thereby balancing each other out. By themselves they are out of balance, but together, they end up becoming the ultimate ...
Views: 775 - True-Self: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Disconnect From Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone can look like a whole human being on the outside, meaning that they have a head and a body, it doesn’t mean that they are in touch with the totality of their being. There is the chance that they are aware of what is going on up top, but are unaware of what is going on down ...
Views: 775 - You Don't Come Through The World, The World Comes Through You - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was speaking to Ben Ralston a number of weeks ago, he mentioned something that really made me think. Ben is a therapist and trainer of therapists, healer, advanced Sivananda Yoga teacher, and writer. We were talking about the self-image and he ended up touching upon a book that he had ...
Views: 775 - Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Stay In Their Body? - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in their body and feels connected to it, they will experience life in a certain way. For one thing, they will be aware of what their feelings and needs are, and this will mean that they will be in touch with their true-self. Along with this, they will probably find that they ...
Views: 774 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother Raise Her Son To Be A Surrogate Spouse? - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some men are able to form healthy relationships with women, there are others that are unable to do so. There are, of course, a numbers of reasons as to why this is. For those that are unable to do so, it can be because they lack confidence or are emotionally disconnected. Then again, ...
Views: 773 - Shame: Can Someone Hide Themselves When They Are Carrying Shame? - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that the only way that someone can hide from others is if they isolate themselves. Therefore, if they are around other people, it won’t be possible for this to take place. Nevertheless, while this might sound accurate, it is something that has very little basis in reality. ...
Views: 773 - Conflict: Can The Fear Of Being Harmed Cause Someone To Avoid Conflict? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that it is not possible for someone to always agree with another person or to go along with the ideas that they put forward, for instance. With this in mind, it is going to be essential for them to be able to speak up when they disagree with something and to stand their ground ...
Views: 772 - Critical Thinking: Is It Wrong For A Man To Approach A Woman? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a brand released a short film a little while ago focusing on ‘Toxic masculinity’, a lot was said about how it demonized men in general. One part of the short film that stood out for a lot of people was where men were lined up in front of BBQs, with this being a clear example of men who had ...
Views: 772 - I Can’t Live Without You! - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA number of months ago, I heard someone say that they couldn’t live without their partner. Now, this wasn’t because this person was disabled and therefore, needed this person in order to be able to handle life. No, this was someone who was perfectly capable of handling life by themselves. ...
Views: 772(1 vote) - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Other People If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, they might not have a favourable view of their fellow human beings. As a result of this, they will be part of the human race but they can feel the need to keep their distance from others. Through being this way, their life is likely to be far ...
Views: 771 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Verbally Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, it could be something that they are only too aware of. Many years will have passed since they were a small child, but it could seem as though very little has actually changed. They would have gone through hell during this part of their life and they could ...
Views: 771 - Depression: Why Do Some People Get Depressed When They Give Up Extreme Sports? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about mental and emotional health and how so many people are not in a good way. Largely, the focus has been on the inner challenges that the average person is trying to deal with. Along with this, there have been times when different celebrities have come ...
Views: 770 - Inner Conflict: Can Someone’s Split-Off Parts Cause Them To Experience Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe ideal would be for someone to get a clear idea about what they want to achieve and then to go about achieving it, without there being anything within them that would hold them back. After all, they will have enough to deal with externally without there being anything internally to ...
Views: 770 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Hide Themselves? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of being abused and/or neglected as a child, someone may find it hard to fully show up in life. What could be normal is for them to hide when they are around others or to hide away from others. Still, regardless of what takes place, the outcome will be the same. If they do hide ...
Views: 769 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Affect Someone’s Life Even If They Can’t Remember What Happened? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone was abused as a child, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this now that they are an adult. What happened during their early years could be a mystery to them or they could make out that their childhood wasn’t that bad. Still, while they won’t remember much of what actually ...
Views: 768 - Emotional Support: Does Someone Want To Have Their Problems Solved If They Are Emotional? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s emotions are not settled and they are all at sea, so to speak, there is the chance that they are going through a challenging time. Or, it could show that something in their life has had a big impact on them. The next step might be for them to reach out to a friend or a family ...
Views: 767 - There Is Nothing Wrong With You! - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of reasons as to why someone would get into self-development or try to change themselves. One reason that this can take place is because they believe that there is something wrong with them. Now, this is not to say that one will be aware of this belief, as is it can be a ...
Views: 767 - Belonging: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They Don’t Belong? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that when someone feels as though they belong to something else, it will have a positive effect on their mental, emotional and physical health. When it comes to what they belong to, this could involve being part of a family, a group of friends or to a religious group. This ...
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