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- True-Self: Is Your Life Being Controlled By Your Split-Off Parts? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who are generally able to achieve what they set their mind on and there are others who aren’t. When it comes to the former, it is going to be a lot easier for them to make progress and to move forward with their life. Their life will change as the years go by - stopping ...
Views: 766 - Disconnected: Do Some People's Childhoods Cause Them To Disconnect From Their Body? - by Submitted on May 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that the ideal will be someone to spend most of their time living in their body. There will then be times when their awareness leaves their body and goes into their head, but this won’t be the norm. When this does happen, it could be because they are using some kind of ...
Views: 765(1 vote) - Smartphone’s Are Stopping Us From Living In The Moment! - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperRegardless of whether I walk through a shopping area or go into a coffee shop, I see people who are glued to their Smartphone’s. One of the reasons why this stands out is because I usually leave mine at home. If I didn’t do this, I would probably be too busy looking down to really notice ...
Views: 765 - Self-Righteousness: Can Someone Become Self-Righteous If They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust as there are many ways in which someone can respond when they get to another country, there are also a number of ways in which someone can respond when they feel worthless. In the same way that going to a new country can have a big effect on someone, feeling worthless can have an even ...
Views: 764 - Emotional Self: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up Disconnect From Their Emotional Self? - by Submitted on May 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough human beings are made up of many different selves, such as an intellectual and an emotional self, it doesn’t mean that everyone on this planet is in touch with each of these selves. If someone is in touch with each part of themselves, it could be said that they will be operating as a ...
Views: 763 - False-Self: Can ‘Spirituality’ Cause Someone To Develop A Superiority Complex? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is spiritual, it can mean that they are ‘in this world but not of this world’ and have a deeper connection to themselves and nature. They will know that there is more to life than what their five senses would have them believe. So, while their mind, along with their eyes, will ...
Views: 763 - Receiving: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty When They Receive? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, there is receiving, and, on the other, there is giving. Now, although it would be easy to say that each of these elements is as important as each other, this is not the case. One of these things is more important than the other and this is because if one of them doesn’t take ...
Views: 763 - “A Relationship Shouldn’t Stop Us From Realising We Are Alone” - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI have often thought that even though I can say something to someone, it doesn’t mean that they will actually hear what I’m saying. Or to be more precise, they can hear the words that come out of my mouth, but that might be as far as it will go. Due to the experiences they have had on this ...
Views: 763 - Neglect: What Can Happen If Someone Was Neglected As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, it might be possible for them to see that their childhood was anything but nurturing. However, if they were neglected during this stage of their life, this might not be possible. The reason for this is that when it comes to abuse, someone might be able to see ...
Views: 762 - Child Abuse: Is Child Abuse A Form Of Indirect Revenge? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused by one or both of their caregivers during their early years, it can be hard for them to understand why this was. One question that can enter their mind is: why would the people who were supposed to love and care for me treat me so badly? This can be a question that they ...
Views: 761 - Relationships: Are Some People Addicted To Feeling Rejected? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that although rejection is part of life, there are some people who experience it more than others. Now, at times this will be due to how someone lives their life. For example, let’s say that someone is an entrepreneur, who is constantly putting their ideas in front of ...
Views: 761 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their Own Existence If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, it may have stopped them from realising that they deserve to be here. As a result of what took place, it can be as if they have no right to be on this planet. What took place at this stage of their life will then define how they experience ...
Views: 760 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Attracted To People Who Are Emotionally Unstable? - by Submitted on May 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, being in a relationship with someone who is unreliable, unpredictable and who has the need to keep them on edge and in a place of uncertainty is not going to interest them. If they were in this position, it might only be a matter of time before they walk away. Being with ...
Views: 760 - Survival Mode: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Live In Survival Mode? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone heard a loud bang, they could end up experiencing a strong reaction. Their whole body could end up freezing and they could stop breathing, that’s if their breathing doesn’t become very shallow. Before long, they could end up getting out of this state and going to see what exactly ...
Views: 760 - Intimacy: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Have A Fear Of Intimacy? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that human beings have a strong need to form deep and meaningful connections. These are then not the type of connections where only surface level things are spoken about and an emotional distance is kept. With this type of connection, someone will share what is taking place ...
Views: 759 - Creativity: Does The Modern-Day World Make It Hard For Someone To Be Creative? - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the moment one wakes up, their senses can be end up being bombarded with stimuli. This is something that can take place if they look at their Smartphone shortly after they wake up. Their mind can end up being stuffed with information that is both useful and useless. After this, they may ...
Views: 758 - Inner Child: Can Someone Feel Powerless When They Merge With Their Wounded Inner Child? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are people that generally feel strong and as though they have control over their life, there are others that don’t. Consequently, these people are likely to have a very different experience on this earth. Not only will their inner world be different, their outer world is also ...
Views: 758 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Have Trouble Moving Forward If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the human body, it could be said that it is designed to take someone forward. Of course, they can walk back but it is not as easy as it is for them to walk forward. Now, although going forward, not backwards is what is supposed to take place, it doesn’t mean that someone will ...
Views: 757 - Law Of Resonance: Does Someone Need To Let Go Of Their Resistance If They Want To Manifest Something? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to spend a lot of their time and energy focusing on what they don’t want. This can be something that just happens and it can be seen as a result of what their ancestors when through a long time ago. Ages ago, when human beings had to fight off predators to ...
Views: 757 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Fall Apart When A Relationship Comes To An End? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has just gone through a break up, they may find that it is hard for them to focus on other areas of their life. Due to how much pain they are in, everything else could fade into the background. Perhaps they were with someone for a long time and they may have even had a strong ...
Views: 757(1 vote) - Emotionally Stunted: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Stunted? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNow, while someone’s early years may have been a time when they received what they needed in order to grow and develop, there is also the chance that this wasn’t the case. As a result of this, they would have been deeply traumatised at this stage of their life. However, even though this took ...
Views: 756 - Manifestation: Can Someone's Early Years Define What Their Resonance/Vibration Is Like As An Adult? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAccording to the law of attraction, positive thoughts attract positive things and negative thoughts attract negative things. There are those that believe this and there are those that believe that this is load of rubbish. This doesn’t mean that there are only two type of people, though, as ...
Views: 756 - Relationships: Can A Relationship Bring Up Emotions That Were Frozen? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is not in a relationship, they may find that they are generally settled. What this can mean is that they are rarely emotionally flat and are rarely overwhelmed by their emotions. Being this way is naturally going to make it easier for them to function at their best and to enjoy ...
Views: 756 - Relationships: Can A Relationship Bring Up Someone’s Attachment Trauma? - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone gets into a relationship, they may believe that they have finally met their match. What they have been through in the past, when it comes to this area of their life, is then going to be well and truly over. At one point, it will have been as though they were on a stormy sea and ...
Views: 756 - Do You Want To Understand Yourself Or To Simply Feel Better? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they experience a fair amount of anxiety or don’t feel good about themselves, they can go one of two ways. Either they can look for a way to change how they feel or they can look into why they experience life in this way and what they can do once they have found ...
Views: 755 - Being Present: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Be Present? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that is often spoken about in self-development is the importance of being present. In some cases, this is seen as the answer to every problem and, in others, it is just seen as something that will allow someone to function better. So when someone is present, they won’t be caught up ...
Views: 754 - Self-Image: Is Our Life Defined By How We See Ourselves? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to a car, for instance, there is only going to be such much that it can do. So, how fast it can go or where it can be driven will all depend on what type of car it is. If someone wanted to change how fast a car can go or where it can go, it would need to undergo a number of ...
Views: 754 - Don’t Waste Your Time Tearing People Down! - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that social media has given people is somewhere where they can share their thoughts on just about anything. For some people, this is somewhere where they can tear other people down. Someone like this can pull another person down and they won’t need to worry about getting into ...
Views: 752 - External Support Will Allow You To Go Where You Wouldn’t Go By Yourself - by Submitted on May 22, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is carrying a lot of emotional pain, they may do just about everything that they can to keep it at bay. This could take place by taking things, doing things, and focusing on things. What this will typically do is stop them from having to come into contact with what is taking ...
Views: 752 - False Self: Is The Need To Rescue Others Part Of The False-Self? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor as far back as one can remember, they may see that they have had the inclination to save or rescue others. As a result of this, they will be used to being there for others and doing what they can to ‘help’ them. For so long, it would have seemed as though they were doing the right thing, ...
Views: 752 - How Do You Develop Courage? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day I was looking through a book called, ‘How to Survive Without Psychotherapy’ by David Smail. From what I read, it was clear that this was someone who was not too keen on the type of approach that is often taken when it comes to mental and emotional problems. He didn’t like the ...
Views: 752 - Love Bombing: Are Some People Easy Targets For 'Love Bombers'? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was single and they were to meet someone who showed a lot of interest in them, they could find that they end up being drawn to them. And what might also play a part here is that one may be physically attracted to them. Through being in this person’s presence, one could start to ...
Views: 752 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their True-Self If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that can happen, that’s if one was abused and/or neglected as a child, is that they may have disconnected from their true-self. Due to what took place, they can believe that they have to hide who they are. Therefore, while living in this way will stop them from being able to be an ...
Views: 751 - Online Dating: Should Both Men And Women Be Careful What They Reveal If They Want A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to use an online dating app to try to find a mate, it is naturally going to be different to how it would be if they were to try to find a mate in the real world. For one thing, there will be only so much information available to them online. When they are looking at another ...
Views: 751 - Anger: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Anger? - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOne way to look at anger would be to say that it is something that someone experiences when they feel violated in some way. Therefore, to say that anger is bad wouldn’t be accurate. Nonetheless, if they were to become consumed by their anger and lost the ability to behave in a conscious ...
Views: 750 - Avoidance Mode: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Be In Avoidance Mode? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf the time had come for someone to make a big decision, what they may find is that they end up following their heart. In other words, they will go with what they feel called to do as opposed to doing something out of fear. This could typically be how they operate during their day-to-day ...
Views: 750 - Past Lives: Can 'Past Lives' Allow Someone To Avoid How They Feel? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who believe that they only have one life, and, once our current life is over, that will be it. If someone has this view, they can believe that someone would need to be crazy to believe anything else. They will have made their mind up and there is not going to be much ...
Views: 750 - Critical Thinking: Does The Government Create Problems To Justify Its Own Existence? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt can be normal for one to assume that the government is there to make their life easier. Whether it relates to their own safety, happiness or health, this entity is there to make sure that they are looked after. Thus, even if one is not religious, they will have something out there that is ...
Views: 749 - Relationships: What Can Someone Do If They Are Triggered In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has only just started to spend time with someone, they can find that just about everything runs smoothly. So whenever they are with the other person, they can feel good and even relaxed. During this stage, they could believe that this is how it will always be and that they won’t ever ...
Views: 748 - Critical Chinking: Does The Education System Turn People Into Narcissists? - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, there were only a small percentage of people who went to university and only a few subjects were taught. Nowadays, it is often a case of who hasn’t been and numerous subjects are now taught at these institutions. One way of looking at this would be to say that it is a good thing ...
Views: 747 - Critical Thinking: Why Can Mindfulness Be Dangerous? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years now, mindfulness, like yoga, has been the in-thing, and it can seem as though just about everyone is using this technique. In some cases, it is basically seen as a panacea; something that will solve every ill under the sun. Some people use this technique at home, while others ...
Views: 747 - Do Your Emotions Control You Or Are You Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, it is a challenge for them to handle how they feel. As a result of this, it can be normal for someone like this to be overwhelmed by their emotional self and to lose their ability to think clearly. This could be how they have been for as long as they can remember. If this is ...
Views: 747 - Emotional Development: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Put People On A Pedestal? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might appreciate what another person does, it doesn’t mean that they will end up elevating them to a high position. One might realise that no matter what they can do, they are still a human being. Therefore, this person might be able to do something that they themselves can’t ...
Views: 747 - Relationships: Can Someone Look Towards Others To Fulfil Their Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is an adult, it could be said that they won’t need the same things that they needed when they were a child. This comes down to the fact that they will have grown out of a number of these needs. As a result of this, what they look for from others is going to be different to what ...
Views: 747 - ‘Men have a Strong Aversion To Shame’ - by Submitted on May 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn the book ‘Manhood’ by Steve Biddulph, there is a section where he says that “a deep aversion to shame has become wired in to male biology.” The reason that is put forward for is that “throughout history, women are most sexually attracted to high-status males”. What this means is that if a ...
Views: 746 - Child Abuse: How Can Someone Move On If They Have An Emotionally Unavailable Parent? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat one may have come to see is that their parent wasn’t emotionally available during early years and, now that they are adult, this parent is no different. As a result of this, the pain that they experienced as a child could continue to this day. It then won’t be a case of what took place ...
Views: 745 - Your Inner Critic Is A Liar - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperPerhaps you can you set your mind on achieving something and you soon take the next step. During this time, you may find that you have a supportive voice inside you that allows you to keep going when different hurdles arise. Furthermore, this supportive voice could typically be there ...
Views: 745 - How To Develop Self-Compassion - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat you may find is that although it is relatively easy for you to be compassionate towards others, it is not as easy for you to be compassionate towards yourself. So if another person makes a mistake, you could offer words of support; but if you were to make a mistake, it could be a very ...
Views: 744 - Just Be: Do Some People Need To Learn How To Just Be? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that it is hard for them to take action, with this being something that they need to work on. At the same time, they may find that they are able to take action when it comes to certain areas, yet struggle in others. Either way, it will be vital for them to do what ...
Views: 744 - Relationships: Can Someone End Up With Deeply Wounded People If They Are Out Of Touch With Their Wounds? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one sees themselves as someone who has got it altogether, or is just in a good place, it can be hard for them to understand why they would end up with someone who is not in a good way. This person is then not just going to have a different personality to them; they won’t be as well ...
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