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- Relationships: Why Would Someone Feel Smothered Whenever Their Partner Expresses Their Needs? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a relationship, there are going to be needs that they will want their partner to meet and there will be needs that their partner will want them to meet. And while some of their needs will be different, a number of their needs will most likely be the same. They will probably ...
Views: 709 - Child Abuse: Can Someone’s Need To Protect Their Parents Stop Them From Being Able To Heal From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had a harrowing experience as a child, the best thing will be for them to reach out for support now that they are adult. At the same time, it could seem as though what they went through as a child is all in the past, so there is no need for them to worry about what ...
Views: 708 - Meditation Will Help You To Become More Aware - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere is so much going on in today’s world that it can be easy for someone to lose touch with what is taking place within them. Regardless of whether they are around others or by themselves, there can be at least one thing that will consume their attention. One can then be drawn this way or ...
Views: 708 - Relationships: Do Some Men’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Walk On Eggshells Around Women? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a man may typically feel comfortable enough to be himself when he is around another man, this might rarely be the case when he is around a woman. When he is around a woman, he could have the tendency to become someone else entirely. During this time, then, he is not going to behave how ...
Views: 708 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Live In Fight Mode As An Adult? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone could live in an area that is relatively safe, they could behave as though their life is constantly under threat. What this means is that they could have the tendency to be aggressive. As a result of this, they could routinely get into heated arguments and even fights. So no ...
Views: 707 - Self-Sabotage: Can Someone’s Fear Of Overshadowing Their Parents Cause Them To Sabotage Their Life? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone can have the desire to move forward in their life, it doesn’t mean that they have been able to get very far. Now, this could be because they simply haven’t taken action. Thus, their desire to change their life will be there, but they won’t have taken the time to do ...
Views: 707 - Do You Feel Stuck? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperPerhaps, after not being in a good way for a little while or quite some time, you ended up reaching out for external support. Yet, although your intention was to change your life, you may find that this hasn’t really taken place. You may have read a number of books and even had a few ...
Views: 705 - Therapy: Can Someone Look Towards A Therapist To Fulfil The Needs That Their Friends/Family Should Fulfil? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to reach out to a therapist if they have inner problems. This can be seen as a good thing as it is far better for someone to ask for help than it is for them to suffer in silence. If they have a relatively minor problem, they may find that they only ...
Views: 705 - Victim Mentality: What Beliefs Can Someone Have If They Have A Victim Mentality? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is unable to see that they have an effect on their life, they can have what is often described as a ‘victim mentality’. Other people are then going to being in control of what does or doesn’t happen to them. Through experiencing life in this way, it is likely to mean that their ...
Views: 705 - Are Your Possessions Holding You Back? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt can be easy for someone to ignore the effect that their belongings are having on their life. Instead, they can spend a lot of time thinking about the effect that their beliefs and the people in their life are having on them. Consequently, the stuff that they own can end up owning them, ...
Views: 704 - Is Social Media Making You Do Things That You Wouldn't Usually Do? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on, whilst I was reading a paper, I came across a story about someone who said that they became a sex addict thanks to social media. This person said that they had got sucked into a social media site and this caused them to go down a path that they wouldn’t have gone down ...
Views: 704 - Relationships: Why Would Someone Try To Make Their Ex Look Bad? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOnce a relationship has come to an end, it could result in two people going their own way. This will then be a clean break, meaning that both of them will be happy to move on with their life. What this could illustrate is that they gradually grew apart, with there being nothing to keep ...
Views: 704 - Boundaries: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOn the one hand, there are boundaries and, on the other hand, there are walls. To gain an understanding of what the difference is, someone could think about these two things in a slightly different context. When it comes to a property, a boundary will let other people know where the property ...
Views: 703 - Drama: Are Some People Addicted To Drama? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people in the world that almost always have something taking place that prevents them from living a peaceful and harmonious existence. For these people, their life can have a lot in common with a soap opera. Now, unlike soap operas, these people might not have people in their life ...
Views: 703 - Success: Why Do Some People Get Anxious When Their Life Is Going Well? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has spent a lot of time and effort building up their own life, it can be hard for them to understand why they would feel uncomfortable now that their life is going in the right direction. Yet, even if only one area of their life is going as they would like it to go, they could still ...
Views: 703 - Critical Thinking: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Drawn To Conspiracy Theories? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are those that more or less believe everything they hear from the mainstream media and the authority figures that are in the public eye, and then there are those that are the complete opposite. The former can view the latter as being ‘conspiracy theorists’, while the latter can view the ...
Views: 702 - True-Self: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Stop Someone From Being Able To Express Who They Are? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat allows one to have their own life on this planet is not just their physical body; it is also the fact that they have their own needs and feelings. If they didn’t have their own needs and feelings, it wouldn’t matter if they had their own body – or vehicle. The reason for this is that ...
Views: 701 - Your Body Is Not A Dustbin! - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that the body is a temple, but while this is the case, it could be said that there are plenty of people that don’t view their body in this way. For some people, their body is basically a dustbin. Now, this can mean that someone will put just about anything into their body - ...
Views: 701 - Emotional Support: Why Are Some People Out Of Touch With Their Own Emotional Support? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a rocket won’t go anywhere without fuel, the same could be said when it comes to a human being. Without energy, they won’t be able to even lift a finger, let alone take action. Howerver, while a rocket will just need one type of fuel to get moving, a human being will ...
Views: 700 - Relationships: Can Someone Unconsciously Recreate Abusive Situations From Their Childhood In Order To Try To Be Loved? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has been in a number of relationships that were somewhat or extremely abusive, they might have decided to stay single for a little while. Then again, they might not want to be in another relationship. But, taking into account what they have been through, this could be seen as a ...
Views: 700 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their Own Worth If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the effects of early abuse and/or neglect is that one can have no sense of their own value as an adult. Deep down, they can feel as though they have absolutely no value whatsoever. As a result of this, it will probably be hard for them to feel comfortable in their own skin and they ...
Views: 699 - Critical Thinking: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That The World Is Going To End? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperUnless someone lives in a cave and has very little connection with the outside world, there is a strong chance that they will have heard a lot of people talk about the environment recently. In addition to this, they may have also heard about what needs to happen in order for the planet to be ...
Views: 698 - Disconnected: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Separate From Their Body? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will have a head and a body, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with both parts of their being. Instead, they could be connected to what is taking place in their head and very rarely be connected to what is taking place in their body. Still, it doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 698 - Self-Expression: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Hide Their Truth? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to someone’s truth, this could be seen as their thoughts, beliefs, feelings and what they sense, among other things. It is then something that relates to what is actually taking place inside them. In other words, this will include the things that are part of their own experience ...
Views: 698 - Emotionally Stuck: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Stuck? - by Submitted on May 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf a being from another planet was to look at a human being, it might seem as though they are only made up of one part: a physical body. However, if they were able to look through their physical body, they would soon see that they also have what could be described as a mental and emotional ...
Views: 697 - Emotionally Disconnected: Can Self-Development Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of reasons as to why someone would end up getting into self-development. One reason that this can take place is because their emotions are rarely under control. Having an emotional self that is often out of control is going to make it hard for them to experience a sense of ...
Views: 696 - Relationships: Can Someone’s Inner Critic Cause Them To Put Up With Abusive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is used to spending time around people who are abusive, they can come to the conclusion that they are a victim. It is then not that one is playing a part in what is taking place; it is that this is just how their life is. So, while these people will have control over their own life, ...
Views: 696 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their Survival If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that child abuse and/or neglect can do is stop someone from developing in the right way. The years will then pass and there will come a point in time when they will look like an adult, but that can be as far as it will go. Behind their appearance can be someone who feels more ...
Views: 694 - Do You Find It Hard to Handle Setbacks? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf you were to look back on your life, you may find that it hasn’t been easy for you to handle setbacks. It might not matter if it has related to a big or a small setback, as you could have a very similar experience. At the same time, perhaps you have just experienced a setback and don’t need ...
Views: 693 - Healing Journey: Do We Repeat The Past Until We Heal It? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn the world of self-development, it has been said that there is no such thing as a new problem; it is just an old problem that is being played out again. Upon hearing this, someone could find it hard to understand how this is so. One could have a number of challenges in their life and these ...
Views: 693 - Relationships: Do Some Women’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Attracted To Abusive Men? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing a woman may find, when it comes to her relationships, is that she has the tendency to be drawn to men who are not very pleasant. As a result of this, she could struggle to understand what is going on. Due to the experiences that she has had with a number of different men, she may ...
Views: 693 - Are You Letting Society Define Whether You Are Successful Or Not? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago I was reading a story about someone in the public eye who felt a lot of pressure now that they had reached a certain age. This person said that there were a number of things that they should have achieved at their age. These were things that society told them that they needed ...
Views: 692 - Denial Is Like A Parasite That Takes Over Someone's Mind - by Submitted on May 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperLike most defence mechanisms that can be utilised, denial can make it easier for someone to function on this planet. By denying something, it can stop them from having to feel bad about themselves, allowing them to avoid pain. Their view of themselves will then be protected and this will ...
Views: 692 - Reach Out For Support If You Need It - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many books and films that talk about how important it is for someone to keep going and to keep getting back up, no matter what happens. This is something that is often mentioned when it comes to being successful and being able to overcome challenges. Another ability that is often ...
Views: 692 - Did You Have To Give Up Parts Of Yourself To Be Accepted As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s early years, they may have generally been able to express themselves. So, while they may have had to lose touch with certain parts of themselves, they won’t have had to completely lose themselves. Alternatively, this may have been a time when they were generally unable to ...
Views: 691 - Inner Feminine: What Can Happen If A Man Is In Conflict With His Own Feminine Aspect? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf the average man was told that he has an inner feminine, a big frown might appear on his face. After this, he could make it clear that this is not something that he possesses and that there is nothing feminine about him. He could even say that this is something that is airy-fairy and only ...
Views: 691 - Relationships: Can A Relationship Allow Someone To Become More Integrated? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone first starts to spend time with another person, they may find that they only experience good feelings. If there are moments when they don’t, these moments may soon pass. The same could also apply when they are not in the other persons company, with this being a time when they ...
Views: 691(1 vote) - Unmet Childhood Needs: Can Someone Spend Their Adult Life Trying To Receive What They Didn’t Receive As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is an adult, it could be said that their childhood is firmly behind them. Along with looking different, they won’t have the same needs as they had when they were younger. That doesn’t mean that some of their needs won’t be the same, but a lot of them will be different. With this ...
Views: 691 - Intimacy: Can Childhood Trauma Set Someone Up To Have A Fear Of Intimacy? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for the term ‘fear of intimacy’ to be thrown around. In general, it is more likely that someone will use this term to describe another person than to describe themselves. One reason for this is that it is usually easier for someone to spot this in other than it is ...
Views: 690 - Child Abuse: What Expectations Can Someone Have If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, it doesn’t mean that their suffering will be over now that they are an adult. The reason for this is that while what took place will be over, what took place during this period of their life may have had a massive impact on them. Many years ...
Views: 689 - Coronavirus: Will It Be Harder For Someone To Handle What Is Going On If Their Emotions Are Out Of Control? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperDue to the contagion, there is what is taking place externally and then, there is what is taking place internally. Also, in the same way that there will be people that are more affected by what is taking place externally than others; there will also be people that are more affected by what is ...
Views: 689 - The Media: Can The Mainstream Media Teach Someone A Lot About Defence Mechanisms? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to explaining something it can be hard to explain it directly, which is why analogies can be so effective. Using an analogy can allow someone to get their point over a lot faster than they would otherwise. Through thinking about something that is not related to the topic at ...
Views: 689 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their Needs If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne outcome of early abuse and/or neglected is that someone may find that it is hard for them to fulfil their needs now that they are an adult. What could be normal for them is taking care of other people’s needs. As a result of this, they are going to spend a lot of time being there for ...
Views: 688 - Music Can Help You To Grieve Your Unmet Childhood Needs - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt is well known that it is important to grieve after a loved one has passed on, but what is not as well known is that it is also important for someone to grieve their unmet childhood needs. However, in the same way that someone can lose touch with the pain that is within them after another ...
Views: 688 - Personal Power: Can Someone Feel Powerless If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that the more in control someone feels, the better their mental and emotional health will be. This is not to say that someone needs to be a total control freak and to control everyone and everything in order to be in a good place. What it comes down to is that when one has a ...
Views: 687 - Relationships: Can A Past Life Connection Cause Someone To Stay In A Dysfunctional Relationship? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come to the conclusion that they are in a relationship that is not very healthy, they could look into what they could do to change it. Through taking this approach, it will give them the chance to see if anything can be done. There will most likely be what they will need to ...
Views: 686 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Feel As Though Death Is Imminent If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can’t be denied is that everyone on this planet is going to die at one point or another. Thus, to say this is not being ‘negative’, it is simply stating something that is part of the human experience. This doesn’t mean that someone should endlessly think about the fact that they will ...
Views: 685 - Trauma: Can Mind-Based Trauma Approaches Do More Harm Than Good? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has experienced trauma, either as an adult or as a child, they may end up suffering in silence. This is not to say that they will consciously choose to suffer as this is something that can just take place. What took place will have had a big effect on them and it will be a ...
Views: 685 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Body? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has a strong connection with their body, they will generally be in touch with their needs and feelings. Through having this connection, they will be able to fulfil their needs and to listen to their feelings. This will make it easier for them to live a fulfilling life and to have ...
Views: 685 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Being Assertive If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone may find, that’s if they were abused and/or neglected as a child, is that it is hard for them to stand their ground. In other words, it will be a challenge for them to be assertive. As a result of this, it will be normal for other people to walk over them and for them ...
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