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- Anxiety: What Causes Anxiety? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has anxiety problems, they may have a strong need to find a way to change their life. Then again, they could simply tolerate what is taking place and do the best that they can to keep it together. Undoubtedly, it is going to be far better if someone has a strong need to change ...
Views: 1347 - Appearance: Do Some People Focus On Their Appearance In Order To Receive Approval? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone spent a lot of time on their appearance in the past, there is the chance that it wouldn’t have been possible for them to go out without looking a certain way. And while they might have been able to let go when they were at home, this might not have been the case. As a result of ...
Views: 1902 - Appreciation: Can Suffering Lead to Greater Appreciation Of Life? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that it is human nature to only appreciate something when it is not longer available. So when one has something in their life, it is easy for them to take it for granted. Not only can this apply to ‘things’, it can also apply to the people who are in one’s life. In the ...
Views: 2342 - Approval Seeking: Can Someone’s Wounded Inner Child Cause Them To Be An Approval Seeker? - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that are at least two types of people; those who rarely seek approval and those who seek a lot of approval. When someone fits into the first category, it is going to be possible for them to live their own life. The reason for this is that they won’t need the all-clear or to ...
Views: 296 - Approval Seeking: Does Someone Need To Develop Their Adult Self If They Look To Others For Approval? - by Submitted on May 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThe great Lao Tzu once said, “Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” This was something that was said many, many years ago, but it is just as relevant today. However, while someone could read this quote and see how true it is, it doesn’t mean that it will ...
Views: 659 - Approval: Is It Good Or Bad To Care About What Other People Think? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is addicted to something, they can feel the need to go the other extreme and to cut it out all together. And while this can seem like the right idea, it might not have the desired effect. Another approach would be to cut down on the amount that one has of something; this will ...
Views: 1631 - Approval: Why Do Some People Need Approval? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo gain the approval from others is the ultimate achievement for some people. It’s as if this is the primary purpose that they have on this earth. And should they actually achieve this; their life will then be complete. This will mean that this person’s focus is more or less external. I say ...
Views: 5336 - Are Some People Slowly Killing Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about the amount of people who are ending their life as well as those who have thought about doing so. As a result of what has been going on, there is a strong chance that some people are ending their life right now and there are others who are thinking about ...
Views: 650 - Are You An Old Soul? - by Submitted on May 26, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, I have heard a number of people use the term ‘old soul’. Whenever this term has been used, it has been used to describe someone who is seemingly wise beyond their years, aware, a healer and/or someone who is ‘spiritual’, for instance. It hasn’t mattered if this person was at ...
Views: 444 - Are You As Curious As A Lamb? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was out walking the other day, I came across a load of lambs. Having said that, it might be more accurate to say that a lamb spotted me and after this, I saw the lamb and a number of other lambs. This lamb was looking at me through a fence and I even managed to take a few pictures. I ...
Views: 723 - Are You Buying Into Someone Else's Narrative? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to watch the news on TV or to read a paper, they are likely to hear about what is taking place in the world. It can seem as though the channel or paper is simply passing onto them what is taking place; nothing more, nothing less. This whole process will then be very similar to ...
Views: 680 - Are You Carrying Emotional Pain From Your Adult Life? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a child can disconnect from their feelings when they are too painful to handle, an adult can also do the same thing. In both cases, it can seem as though the feelings have disappeared. Even so, in both cases the feelings will have most likely been pushed down into their ...
Views: 636 - Are You Energetically Feeding Into What You Don’t Want? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf you were to take a step back and to reflect on your life, you may find that there are a number of things that you are not too happy about. In addition to this, you could find that you spend a fair amount of time thinking about these areas. What this is then going to mean is that a fair ...
Views: 520 - Are You Energetically Feeding Into What You Want Or What You Don't Want? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAt the end of last month, I wrote an article title ‘Are You Energetically Feeding Into What You Don’t Want?’ Since that time I have been thinking more about this topic and, as a result of this, I decided that I had more to share. This article could be seen as a follow-up or it could be seen ...
Views: 543 - Are You In A Relationship With Someone Who Is More Like Your Son/Daughter? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day I was thinking about how there were times when I had come across couples who appeared to be out of balance. When this was the case, it was as though it was more like a parent-child relationship and not an adult to adult relationship. One of them was more like a parent to the ...
Views: 925 - Are You Letting Society Define Whether You Are Successful Or Not? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago I was reading a story about someone in the public eye who felt a lot of pressure now that they had reached a certain age. This person said that there were a number of things that they should have achieved at their age. These were things that society told them that they needed ...
Views: 553 - Are You Playing A Role In Life? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperSince I did the Hoffman process introduction day, I have been thinking about the roles that I used to play as a child. The reason for this is that this one was one of the things that we looked into. I came to see that I was often the peacemaker, the helper, the responsible one, and the ...
Views: 887 - Are You Relying On Luck To Get What You Want? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I used to go to different bars and clubs on a regular basis many, many years ago, there were often men who would talk about how they hoped to ‘get lucky’. Sometimes I knew the people who would say this and, at other times, this was something that I would overhear. To these men, it was ...
Views: 791 - Are You Sabotaging Yourself? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone has the desire to achieve something it doesn’t mean that they won’t also do things to hold themselves back. The trouble is that they might not be aware of the things that they are doing to undermine themselves. As a result of this, they can end up blaming other people for ...
Views: 616 - Are You Suffering From Information Overload? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear about today’s world is that there is no shortage of information; if anything, there is far too much. The trouble is that while the amount of information that is available has rapidly increased over the years, our brains haven’t really changed. Therefore, in the same way that an ...
Views: 715 - Are You Using Social Media To Deceive Others? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, I have written a number of articles that go into the affect that social media is having on the world, and one of the affects that came to my mind again recently was how easy it was for someone to deceive their so-called ‘friends’. This can take place by only uploading certain ...
Views: 768 - Are You Victimising Yourself? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperQuite some time ago I came across a post on social media where someone was basically lamenting the fact that although they were there for their friends during tough times, their friends were not there for them when they were going through a tough time. From what they said, it would be easy to ...
Views: 654 - Are You Wasting Your Attention? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there are so many things to focus on; in both the real world and the virtual world. If someone lives in a big city, practically as soon as they leave their house their senses could be overloaded. There can be adverts on the side of taxis, buses, above buildings and on billboards. ...
Views: 533 - Are You Wasting Your Life On Social Media? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was walking past a few shops a number of weeks ago, I saw that there were plenty of people on their Smartphone’s. As it wasn’t busy, these people were busy using their Smartphone’s. I ended up wondering how many books people like this could read if they didn’t use their phones as ...
Views: 685 - Are Your Dreams Trying To Tell You Something? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone gets out of bed in the morning, their mind can end up being consumed by a dream that they had whilst they were asleep. There is also the chance that they woke up in the middle of the night due to a dream that they were having. One could think about what took place and then, ...
Views: 487 - Are Your Intentions Pure? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I have spoken my friend Wain about what I was working on in the past, he has often asked me what I was trying to achieve. Additionally, he has asked me what I was looking to receive after I had done something. These questions had a big effect on me, and I wasn’t quite sure how to ...
Views: 1047 - Are Your Possessions Holding You Back? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt can be easy for someone to ignore the effect that their belongings are having on their life. Instead, they can spend a lot of time thinking about the effect that their beliefs and the people in their life are having on them. Consequently, the stuff that they own can end up owning them, ...
Views: 534 - Assertive: Can The Fear Of Being Abandoned Stop Someone From Being Assertive? - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, knowing when to speak up or to keep quiet is something that comes naturally. And while they might not get this right all the time, it is not going to be something that they need to focus on. At certain times, they might speak up when they should have kept quiet or kept quit ...
Views: 2279 - Assertiveness: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Stop Them From Being Able To Assert Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon to come across information about how to be assertive, and this surely shows how much of a challenge this is for so many people. If someone was to read a book on this subject, it could be for one of two reasons. Two Experiences On the one hand, it could be a sign that ...
Views: 1006 - Assertiveness: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Assert Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to living a fulfilling life, it is going to be vital for someone to be able to listen to their own needs. The other part of this will be for them to feel comfortable enough to fulfil them. A Life worth Living This is not to say that they will always be able to fulfil their ...
Views: 937 - Associations: Do Our Associations Create Our Reality? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAssociations have incredible power and they are occurring in many areas of life. Ones relationships with: family, friends, lovers and professional relationships are all being affected by associations. As well as ones experience with the world and to material things. Brands rely heavily on the ...
Views: 2166 - Assumptions: Are Assumptions Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperChange is part of life, and what was acceptable at one point in time, is not necessarily acceptable at another. And while this can be a sign of growth, it can also be a sign that opinions have changed and therefore mean very little in terms of social evolution. The fact that women are ...
Views: 5747 - Astrology: What Does Astrology Mean To You? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI do not claim to be an expert on astrology or someone that see's astrology as the be and end all. For me, it is another point of interest and something that can be used as a mirror; to assist in self awareness and awareness of others. What I am going to take a closer look at here is how the ...
Views: 2106 - Astrology: Why Do Some People Judge Others Based On Their Star Sign? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are lots of ways for people to define themselves and to give their life meaning. And one of the ways that this can be done is for someone to get into astrology. In the western world, this will often involve someone finding out about their star sign and then seeing how they match up with ...
Views: 2258 - Attachment: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Attachment? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that attachment creates suffering and this is one of the foundations of Buddhism. And when it comes to attracting something into one’s life, attachment is said to be the very thing that will sabotage its arrival. One only has to look at what they are attached to and what ...
Views: 1729 - Attachment: What Causes Attachment Problems? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe term attachment is often used in the area of relationships and to describe what kind of relationship one had with their primary caregiver as a child. This first attachment plays a massive role in our development as a child and in how we are as adults. A General View So here I will give ...
Views: 2299 - Attention Seeking Behaviour: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Attention Seeking Behaviour? - by Submitted on May 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperTo be seen and recognised is something that most human beings want to experience. And while this is part of being human and nothing to feel ashamed of, these needs are going to vary from person to person. For some people, receiving a moderate amount of attention will be enough to enhance ...
Views: 3830 - Attention Seeking Behaviour: What Causes it? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be acknowledged, mirrored and validated are psychological needs that we all have. This is a perfectly normal and natural part of being human and something that is vital for mental and emotionally stability. And like most things in life, there can be extremes and when this healthy requirement ...
Views: 17001 - Attention Seeking: Does Someone Need To Develop Their Adult Self If They Constantly Seek Attention? - by Submitted on May 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough attention is something that everyone needs, there are some people who need more attention than others. As a result of this, the amount of attention that will be enough for one person won’t be enough for another. And what has made it easier for someone to receive attention is social ...
Views: 657 - Attention: Can Someone Believe That There Is Not Enough Attention If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to be in the background and not stand out. So, when they are with a friend, they can do a lot of listening and not a great deal of talking. And, if they were to go to an event or out shopping with them, once again, their friend could take the lead and be the ...
Views: 13 - Attention: Why Do Some People Avoid Attention? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is wide spread exposure when it comes to people who are attention seekers and these people can be labelled as having certain unhealthy narcissistic traits. One can come into contact with people who are like this in their local area and as well as in the mainstream media. It is only ...
Views: 6647 - Attraction: Are We Attracted To What Is Familiar? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to romantic attraction, it is often said that one is attracted to someone who matches their facial feature in some way. And while there will be couples who do look like each other either in the beginning of the relationship or whose faces will grow to mimic each other’s over time, ...
Views: 2605 - Attraction: Can Trapped Emotions Define Who We Are Attracted To? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to who one is attracted to and attracts, it can appear to be a random process. And that one has no control over who they attract or are attracted to. Certain physical traits are often cited as being the reason why one is or was attracted to someone. And physical characteristics ...
Views: 1834 - Attraction: What Do People Find Attractive? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe definition of what it means to be attractive is not always the same for one person as it is for another. There are general things that are recognised as being attractive in women and attractive in a man. Science often comes up with what these qualities are. However, what is found to be ...
Views: 1990 - Authority Figures: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Have Trouble With Authority Figures? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to reflect on how they behave when they are in the presence of an authority figure, they may find that they are typically able to hold their own. This will mean that, in general, they won’t retract and neither will they have the need to take up too much space. In other words, ...
Views: 776 - Avatar 2: The Way of Water - ‘I See You’ - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperThe other night, I ended up watching the new avatar film with a few friends, and I must say, that it was spectacular. I watched it in 3D but I think that it would be even better if I had watched it in 4DX. Throughout the film, a number of parts stood out and had a strong emotional impact on ...
Views: 24 - Avoidance Mode: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Be In Avoidance Mode? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf the time had come for someone to make a big decision, what they may find is that they end up following their heart. In other words, they will go with what they feel called to do as opposed to doing something out of fear. This could typically be how they operate during their day-to-day ...
Views: 650 - Back Pain: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Back Pain? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is the potential for one to experience pain in all areas of their body. These can relate to one having a headache, stomach problems, tension in their shoulders and/or their lower back for instance. With it being highly likely one has experienced at least one of the above this year, let ...
Views: 2038 - Bad Behaviour: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Put Up With Bad Behaviour? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to bad behaviour, there are some people who put up with it and then there are others who have a very low tolerance for it. This is not to say that this is always black and white; as there are going people who alternate between the two. Ideally, one will be in a position where ...
Views: 1591 - Bad Dreams: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Bad Dreams? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people will be familiar with their dreams, other people won’t be. When some people wake up it is going to be easy for them to remember what took place in most cases and they could keep their dreams alive by writing about what happened. And for others, they might remember what took ...
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