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- People Pleasing: Does Low Self-Esteem Cause People To Please Others? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, one can pay attention to their own needs and do what they can to fulfilling them, and on the other hand, they can focus on others people’s needs and do what they can to fulfil them. If their life is a reflection of the former, it is likely to be far more fulfilling than if their ...
Views: 2456 - People Pleasing: Is It Possible To Always Please Other People? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can do everything they can do displease others, they can also have the opposite approach. In this case, it is going to be normal for them to overlook their own needs. Point of Focus One is then not going to pay attention to what is taking place within them, they are going to ...
Views: 1133 - People Pleasing: Is Someone More Likely To Please Others If They Are Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to live a fulfilling life, there are going to be at last two things that will need to be in place. On the one hand, they will need to be aware of their needs, and on the other; they will need to feel safe enough to fulfil them. From here, one will have the ability to ...
Views: 980 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Always Say That They Don't Care About What Other People Think? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can keep things to themselves, there are others who are far more vocal when it comes to their life. It might then not matter what is taking place, as they will feel the need to tell other people. Social Media Fortunately for them, they live in a time when this is ...
Views: 1364 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Always Try To Please Others? - by Submitted on May 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile trying to please others can be something everyone does from time to time, for others, it is the focus of their lives. What this person wants from life as whole or what they want to do from moment to moment is then secondary. The needs and wants of others are far more important than ...
Views: 2814 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Believe That They Need To Please Others In Order To Survive? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAt the start of someone’s life, their survival would have depended upon their caregivers. As a result of this, they wouldn’t have had much control during this stage of their life. A Different Scenario However, as the years passed and they grew into an adult, their survival would no longer ...
Views: 1186 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Believe That They Will Be Rejected If They Don’t Please Others? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone will have their own needs, it doesn’t mean that they will pay attention to them. Instead, they can have the tendency to do what other people want and what they think they want. As a result of this, their life is not going to be an expression of who they are. Living in this way ...
Views: 621 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Experience Anxiety When They Don't Please Others? - by Submitted on May 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that one’s life can be an expression of their own needs or it can be an expression of other people’s needs. When it comes to the former, one is pleasing themselves; whereas when it comes to the latter, they are pleasing others. True Fulfilment In order for one to live a ...
Views: 1200 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Only Feel Safe When They Are Pleasing Others? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to behaviours that will have a negative impact on one’s life, trying to please others is high on the list. And this doesn’t relate to pleasing others on the odd occasion, it relates to trying to please others all of the time. To set out to please people every now and then is ...
Views: 1771 - People-Pleasing: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be A People Pleaser? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has the need to please others, it can stop them from being able to live a life that is in alignment with their true-self. Through being this way, their priority will be to do what other people want and what they think they want. It is then going to be normal for them to be focused ...
Views: 474 - Perfection: Are We Perfect As We Are? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI recently had a dream and in that dream there was a situation where I paid 60 pounds for this diamond shaped stone. I was then told how it would be worth more if I got it valued. So once I had bought it I went to a jeweller to see if it was actually worth more or if I had just been taken for a ...
Views: 2038 - Perfection: Why Do Some People Try To Be Perfect? - by Submitted on May 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be seen as perfect is very much a part of the of the modern day world. And this doesn’t only relate to one’s ability in life; it also plays a part in how one looks and in how one feels. Clear examples of this can be found in the media and the fairly recent introduction of anti aging ...
Views: 5534 - Perfectionism: Can Someone Have The Need To Be Perfect If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is an imperfect human being, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Thus, they won’t be able to accept that making mistakes and getting things wrong is part of the human experience. Naturally, this is going to cause them to experience a lot of unnecessary pressure. ...
Views: 195 - Perfectionism: Can Toxic Shame Cause Perfectionism? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are things that are around today that are seen as being perfect but as time passes, they will be seen as imperfect. And this is how life has always been and something that will continue to take place. What this shows is how life doesn’t stand still and that there is always something ...
Views: 1755 - Perfume: Do Some People Use Perfume To Deceive Others? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was going out for the evening, there is a strong chance that they will end up using perfume. And while this could mean that they were going on a date, this might not be the case. There is the chance that they are simply going to spend time with a few friends, and this can then mean ...
Views: 1425 - Permission: Do We Need Permission In Life? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one may have the desire to act in a certain way or to achieve a certain goal, there can be challenges that get in the way. And one of those challenges is the need to gain permission from others. Now, this is not necessarily something that one looks for at a conscious level, it could be ...
Views: 1538 - Persistence: Is Persistence An Important Part Of Success? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who have the ability or the skill to do something and yet, that is as far as it goes. And this is going to mean that they end up wasting what they have and it will always be a mystery as to what they could have achieved. In other cases, there are going to be people who ...
Views: 3170 - Personal Power: Can A Man Reject His Power If He Was Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to be walked over by others and to do what other people want. He is then not going to stand up for himself and he will act as though he is an extension of others. As a result of this, he is likely to often be in a very low place and experience a fair amount of ...
Views: 242 - Personal Power: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Developing Personal Power? - by Submitted on May 31, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a sense of personal power, they are likely to experience life in a certain way. For one thing, they will feel powerful and know that they have an effect on their life. As a result of this, they are not going to have a problem with saying no and asserting themselves. If they ...
Views: 547 - Personal Power: Can Someone Feel Powerless If Their Lower Body Is Shut Down? - by Submitted on May 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a sense of personal power, they will most likely feel as though they have control over their life. This doesn’t mean that everything will go how they want it to go, though; far from it. But, even when something doesn’t go to plan, it doesn’t mean that this will cause them to ...
Views: 644 - Personal Power: Can Someone Feel Powerless If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that the more in control someone feels, the better their mental and emotional health will be. This is not to say that someone needs to be a total control freak and to control everyone and everything in order to be in a good place. What it comes down to is that when one has a ...
Views: 665 - Personal Power: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They Have No Control Over Their Life? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one feels as though they have control over their life, it will have a positive effect on their well-being. This is because it will be possible for them to fulfil their needs and this will allow them to grow. Alternatively, when one feels as though they don’t have control over their ...
Views: 1353 - Personal Power: Do Some Peoples Childhood Set Them Up Believe That They Are Powerless? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperHaving a sense of personal power will be the only thing that some people have ever known; while there will be others who will only know what it feels like to feel totally powerless. Therefore, even though both types of people will live on the same planet, it will be as if they live on separate ...
Views: 824 - Personal Power: Does Someone Need To Face Their Darkness If They Want Embrace Their Personal Power? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, there are feelings that are seen as “good” and feelings that are seen as being “bad”. As a result of this, it can be normal for someone to deny certain feelings and to embrace others. To go one step further, they could view themselves as a “good” person who only experiences “good” ...
Views: 297 - Personal Power: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Embrace Their Personal Power? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in touch with and is able to express their personal power, there will be no need for them to control others. They will have control over themselves and their own life, which will take away their desire to infringe on another person’s boundaries. Through being this way, they ...
Views: 594 - Personal Power: What Happens When Someone Rejects Their Personal Power? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt doesn’t take much effort to notice that some people are more empowered than others. But while it may appear that empowered people have something empowered people don’t, inherently we all have the same power. The defining factor is that some people are in touch with and connected to this ...
Views: 1604 - Personal Power: Why Do Some People Believe They Have No Effect On Their Environment? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile having complete control of one’s environment would be practically impossible, what is possible is for one to have some control over their environment. And in some ways, the more control one has, the more empowered they will feel. Control is often seen as something negative and as ...
Views: 1519 - Personal Reality: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their Personal Reality? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though human beings live on the same planet, what is clear is that they are not all having the same experience. Not only are there going to be different experiences that some people have in one country and some people have in another, but there will be differences that people experience in ...
Views: 382 - Personality: Can Developmental Trauma Define What Someone’s Personality Is Like? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about what they are like, a number of things could come to mind. For example, they could say that they are often anxious and fearful, easy-going, a follower and do what they can to please others. This could be how they have been this way for as long as they can ...
Views: 418 - Pet Loss: Is It Normal To Experience Loss When A Pet Dies? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to lose a family member or a close friend, it can be seen as something that will have a bigger impact on them than if they were to lose a pet. Based on this, if they were to experience life differently it could be said that something isn’t right. Loss Thus, if one was to ...
Views: 1471 - Physical Pain: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Physical Pain? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one experiences some kind of physical pain or tension it can be normal to just see it as the body reacting to something and that some kind of external solution is needed to deal with the pain. And this is a natural consequence of seeing the body as separate from the mind and something ...
Views: 1788 - Politics: Does Someone Need To Have A Short-Term Memory In Order to Vote For A Certain Party/Politician? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of countries around the world that have a general election every few years; that is, of course, unless a snap election takes place. When an election take place, the general public will have the chance to vote for part that they believe will lead the country in the right ...
Views: 1103 - Porn: Does Porn Have A Negative Effect On Men And Women? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to relieve themselves sexually in the past, they may have had a magazine or a paper to look through. This probably would have meant that at least one person would have seen them buy it. There is the chance that this was not something that bothered them, or it might not ...
Views: 1473 - Positive Feedback: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone From Being Able To Accept Positive Feedback? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one gets to a point in their life when they have achieved something significant, there will be everything they have done in order for this to take place. Therefore, this wouldn’t have been something that just happened. Looking Back One could find that it has taken them a number of ...
Views: 1123 - Positive Thinking: Can Positive Thinking Cause Someone To Become Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is into self-development, positive thinking is going to be something they are familiar with. But even if this isn’t the case, this is still likely to be something that one is familiar with. It could be something they have heard of and that’s about as far as it goes, or it could be ...
Views: 1880 - Positive Thinking: Can Positive Thinking Create Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOn one level, it could be said that there is the intellect, and on another level, it could be said that there is the emotional body. However, although these are two aspects that all human beings have, it doesn’t mean that everyone embraces both sides. There are going to be some people who ...
Views: 1505 - Positive Thinking: Can Positive Thinking Stop Someone From Being Able To Accept Feedback From Others? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to developing self-awareness, it could be said that it is not possible for this to happen directly. But this is not to say that one has to do something that is completely unrelated. For example, if one entered a room that had a certain smell, it might only be a matter of time ...
Views: 1322 - Positive Thinking: Can Positive Thinking Stop Someone From Being Able To Grieve? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone experiences loss, their whole experience of life can change, and when this happens, it is not going to be possible for them to carry on as normal. The thoughts in their mind and the emotions in their body can be different, and the meaning of their life could also have altered. ...
Views: 1659 - Positive Thinking: Can Positive Thinking Stop Someone From Finding Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, positive thinking will be seen as something that can be used from time to time, and then for others, it will be seen as something that will need to be used all the time. It is then similar to someone who puts salt on everything they eat and someone who only puts it on certain ...
Views: 1244 - Positive Thinking: Can Positive Thinking Stop Someone From Having Empathy? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is into self-development, they are likely to be familiar with 'positive thinking'. This is something that is generally encouraged when it comes to living a better life. Here, one will need to create thoughts that are 'positive' and do to everything they can to stop themselves from ...
Views: 1448 - Positive Thinking: Can Positive Thinking Stop Someone From Taking Action? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has the need to achieve something, there are a number of different approaches that they can take. And what they do can all depend whether they like to think and then act, or whether they like to act and then think later. When one prefers to think before they act, it might take them a ...
Views: 1304 - Positive Thinking: Can The Need To Be Positive F**k Up Someone's Life? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the world of self-development, positive thinking is often seen as an essential tool when it comes to living a good life. It doesn’t stop there, though, as this is an outlook that has permeated mainstream society. With this in mind, this is likely to be something that the ...
Views: 567 - Positive Thinking: Is Positive Thinking Dangerous? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has read anything do with self help or come across one of the primary figures in the industry, they will have heard of the term ‘Positive Thinking’. This is nothing new and has been around for many years. In 1952, Norman Vincent Peale published the book - The Power Of Positive ...
Views: 1745 - Positive Thinking: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Being Positive? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was given the option of experiencing extreme joy or extreme sadness, there is the chance that they would go for the former. It feels good to feel good; whereas it feels bad to feel bad. Based on this, it could be said that it is easy to see why someone would want to feel good all ...
Views: 980 - Posture: Can Trapped Grief Affect Someone's Posture? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has good posture it not only creates a good impression, it also has a positive effect on their health. There is then an external reason and an internal reason for one to pay attention to how they hold themselves. Therefore, if two people had bad posture, their reason for wanting ...
Views: 1748 - Power Struggles: Can Someone’s Life Be Full Of Power Struggles If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperInstead of having the odd moment when they end up in a situation where another person is trying to cross their boundaries and control them, one could continually end up in this position. For example, they could be in a relationship with someone who is like this and they might work with some ...
Views: 265 - Power: How Do We Give Our Power Away? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor each one of us power can mean something different. It can have both positive and negative connotations. On the positive side, there is the power to have an effect on one’s life and on the negative side it can mean being controlled. The meaning of power here is; the ability to have an ...
Views: 2367 - Power: Why Do Some People Feel Powerless? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThe power that I am talking about here is personal power. And this is more about the power that one has over oneself than it is about having power over others. Another term that is often used for this is self control. And although having power can lead to having influence over others, this is ...
Views: 12333 - Powerless: Are Some People Addicted To Feeling Powerless? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the reasons why someone would get into self-development is because they feel powerless. As a result of this, they are going to be looking for a way to change how they feel so that they can change their life. Part of them, then, is going to realise that they are not powerless, which is ...
Views: 732 - Powerless: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Powerless? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAfter living a pretty miserable existence for many, many years, someone may come to see that feeling powerless is a normal part of their life. This means that they are unlikely to feel this way from time to time, they can more or less always feel this way. If they don’t feel this way, based ...
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