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- Disconnected: Can Womb Trauma Cause Someone To Be Disconnected From Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have both a head and a body and will, therefore, experience both thoughts and feelings, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to relate to this. In general, they could live up top and only be aware of their thoughts and perhaps different sensations. They are then going ...
Views: 58 - Emotional Wounds: Can Someone Unconsciously Look For Love If They Were Neglected As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone’s early years were a time when their developmental needs were rarely if ever met, it doesn’t mean that they have well and truly put this stage of their life behind them. Nonetheless, there is the chance that they have completely forgotten about this stage of their life. Or ...
Views: 58 - Critical Thinking: Is The Coronavirus Being Used To Divide People? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperBefore the contagion came onto the scene, it wouldn’t be right to say that, as a whole, there was harmony on earth. There were numerous things that a number of people were fighting over. For example, there was the battle between some men and women and between those who belong to one religion ...
Views: 57 - Self-Ownership: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Developing A Sense Of Sovereignty? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that someone would say that they own their phone or their shoes, for instance, they could also say the same thing about themselves. When it comes to who they are, this will be their mind and body. By owing themselves, no one else will have the right to use their mind or body. ...
Views: 57 - Boundaries: Can Someone Be In A Boundaryless State If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have the tendency to isolate themselves. At other times, when they are around others, they could lose themselves and end up going along with things that are not in alignment with who they ...
Views: 56 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Trust If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a man to go to sleep at night and to leave his bed in the morning, he will need to have a sense of trust. Without this, he won’t be able to let go and fall asleep and he won’t be willing to leave his home and go out into the world. However, although he might be able to do this, ...
Views: 56 - Happiness: Can Someone Find It Hard To Be Happy If They Had An Emotionally Unstable Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life is that it is incredibly difficult for them to be truly happy. In general, this can be seen as something that is just outside of their reach. And, if they are happy, it might not be long until they go back to how they were before. ...
Views: 56 - Receiving: Can Someone Find It Hard To Receive If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that it is often hard for them to receive what they need to survive, let alone thrive. So, when it comes to money, they may rarely have enough. Keeping a roof over their head is then going to be a challenge ...
Views: 56 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Carry Lot Of Repressed Anger If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to describe himself, he could say that he is easy-going, tolerant, and laid-back. When it comes to his mood, he could find that he often feels flat and sometimes he feels very low. As a result of this, he is not going to spend a lot of time feeling energised and alive. If he ...
Views: 55 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Lose The Will To Live If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man has been given the gift of life, it doesn’t mean that he sees life as a gift. If he was asked to share his thoughts on life, he could say that it is more like a curse than a gift. But, even if this was not something that was to come out of his mouth, it could be what would come ...
Views: 55 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Believe That A Woman Will Complete Him If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA man could often spend time thinking about what it would be like to be in a relationship, with this being a time when he feels good. This is not to say that he hasn’t been in one before, though. If he has, he could see that when he has been in a relationship, he has felt whole and complete. ...
Views: 55 - Rescued: Can Someone Have The Need To Be Rescued If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may not realise that they have the need to be rescued, this is something that they would soon see if they were able to reflect on their life. By doing this, the evidence would start to appear. Now, it could seem strange how someone could be in this position and not be aware ...
Views: 55 - Inner Feminine: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Reject Their Feminine Aspect? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperOne way of looking at someone’s development would be to say that at the beginning of their life, they only had a feminine aspect, and, as time passed, their masculine aspect was built on top of it. They were then not born with both aspects and this will be the case regardless of whether they are ...
Views: 54 - True Self: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone’s True Self To Be Imprisoned By Their False Self? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, someone can appear to be free to express who they are. However, although this may appear to be the case, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they can actually relate to. And, to make matters worse, there is the chance that they are not fully aware of the fact that ...
Views: 54 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Regularly Humiliated During Their Childhood? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the challenges with early abuse and neglect is that by the time someone is an adult, they can have no recollection of what took place at this stage of their life. This is not to say that once they get to this stage of their life, they will have chosen to block it out. No, what it comes ...
Views: 53 - Emotionally Empty: Can Someone Feel Emotionally Empty If They Were Neglected During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that they often feel flat and as though they are missing something. During these moments, they are not going to be filled with energy or feel alive. When this happens, they could feel the need to do something, which could soon allow them to change what is going on for ...
Views: 53 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Feel Helpless If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find is that he has the tendency to feel helpless and as though he has no control over his life. By being this way, his life is likely to be far harder than it needs to be and it is unlikely to be very enjoyable. However, although simply being aware of this is not going to ...
Views: 53 - Parentification: What Can Happen If Someone Had To Meet Their Caregivers Needs? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to look back on their life, they might wonder what happened to their childhood. The reason for this is that this may have been a stage when they had to act like an adult. Instead of being able to have fun, to play and have very few, if any, responsibilities, they may have been ...
Views: 53 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Find It Hard To Relax If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man could find that it is hard for him to relax and just be. As a result of this, he is going to spend a lot of time on the go and this is going to mean that he is often in doing mode. Now, this could mean that he is a workaholic but there is also the chance that this is not the ...
Views: 52 - Personality: Can Developmental Trauma Define What Someone’s Personality Is Like? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about what they are like, a number of things could come to mind. For example, they could say that they are often anxious and fearful, easy-going, a follower and do what they can to please others. This could be how they have been this way for as long as they can ...
Views: 52 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Lack A Sense Of Safety If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man has a felt sense of safety, he will be able to be in his body and to freely express himself. As a result of this, his body will be his home and he won’t need to live in his head. By being this way, he will be able to feel at ease and experience inner peace. In other words, his ...
Views: 51 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Engaging In Repetition Compulsion If She Is With A Mother-Enmeshed Man? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being with a man for a little while, a woman may have come to see that he is overly focused on his mother. Consequently, he is not only going to neglect her but he will also neglect himself. But, if most of his time and his energy are being directed towards his mother, he is not going ...
Views: 51 - Self-Worth: Can Someone Find It Hard To Accept That They Have Inherent Worth If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was told that they have inherent worth, it might be something that sounds good but that could be about as far as it will go. If they were to think deeply about this, they could question how this is so. This could be due to the fact that they don’t feel good about themselves or ...
Views: 51 - Withdrawal: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Withdraw Under Stress? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone experiences stress, they could soon feel the need to get away from everyone and everything. As a result of this, they end up pulling themselves away from life. This could mean that they will spend a lot of time at home and only go out when they need to. They might rarely answer ...
Views: 51 - Boundaries: Can Someone Find It Hard To Say No If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were able to reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to do what they don’t want to do. They may see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Thus, instead of asserting themselves and saying no when they don’t want to do ...
Views: 50 - Emotional Pain: Can Someone Spend Their Whole Life Unconsciously Trying To Avoid Pain If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to someone’s life, there can be areas that are going well and areas that are not. If the areas of their life that are not going well have been this way for as long as they can remember, they could believe that there is very little that they can do. This is likely to mean that ...
Views: 50 - Needs: Can Someone See Their Needs As A Burden If They Were Neglected During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could come across as though they are needless and this could take place without them being consciously aware of it. Therefore, they won’t choose to hide their needs from others, this will just be what typically happens. What this is also likely to mean is that they will ...
Views: 50 - Emotionally Shut Down: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Shut Down? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could find that it is a challenge for them to connect to their needs and feelings. Along with this, they could find that they often feel numb and don’t have a great deal of energy. By being this way, it is going to be a challenge for them to live a life that is deeply ...
Views: 49 - Mother Wounds: Can Someone Find It Hard To Trust If They Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s developmental needs were rarely if ever met during their early years, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Thanks to how painful this stage of their life would have been, their brain would have ended up blocking out what took place. This would have been something that ...
Views: 49 - Needless: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Be Needless? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNow, although someone is interdependent and therefore needs others, it doesn’t mean that they realise this. If they were told this, they could say that they don’t need others and are happy being by themselves. So, by being this way, they are going to see themselves as being independent and ...
Views: 49 - Rescued: Can Someone Have The Need To Be Rescued If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may not realise that they have the need to be rescued, this is something that they would soon see if they were able to reflect on their life. By doing this, the evidence would start to appear. Now, it could seem strange how someone could be in this position and not be aware ...
Views: 49 - Critical Thinking: Is It Easier Than Ever Before For The Mainstream Media To Deceive Humanity? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to go back in time a few hundred years, the only way that they would be able to find out about what is going on in the world is by reading a newspaper and speaking to others. Now, if they were to go forward in time, they would soon have a radio to inform them and then a bit ...
Views: 48 - Inner Strength: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That Life Is Too Much To Handle? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that they often end up being knocked down by life and feel helpless as a result. When this does take place, it could take a while for them to get back on their feet. This could be something that takes place on a regular basis. Due to how often it takes place, they ...
Views: 48 - Manifestation: Can The Law Of Attraction Allow Someone To Avoid Their Emotional Wounds? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter living a life that is anything but fulfilling, someone could end up coming across the law of attraction. Thanks to this, they could soon come to the conclusion that this law will allow them to finally live a life that is worth living. It could be as though their luck has finally ...
Views: 48 - Sibling Wounds: Can Someone Sabotage Their Life To Please Their Sibling? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is finding it hard to move forward and this is how their life has been for as long as they can remember, the last thing on their mind could be that this has got anything to do with their sibling. This is assuming that they have one, of course, and are not simply an only child. As ...
Views: 48 - Workaholic: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Become A Workaholic? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people work to live, there are others that live to work. Naturally, these people are going to have a radically different experience on planet earth. When it comes to the former, someone’s life won’t revolve around their work and they will typically only work at certain times. ...
Views: 48 - Boundaries: Can Someone Build Walls Around Themselves If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life, is that it is hard for them to get close to others. In general, they may prefer to keep their distance and only have surface-level connections. Due to this, they could often feel lonely and yearn to have closer connections with ...
Views: 47 - Intimacy: Can Someone Have A Dysfunctional View Of Intimacy If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about the relationships that they have been in, they may find that they have generally not been very nurturing or full of love. In most of their relationships, they may have experienced a lot of pain and might not have been long before they felt the need to cut their ties ...
Views: 47 - First Chakra: Can Developmental Trauma Mess Up Someone’s First Chakra? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlong with having a physical body, someone also has an energy body, and this part of them contains seven energy centres. The first one can be found at the bottom of their body, while the last one can be found at the top of their head. When each of these centres is in balance, they are likely ...
Views: 46 - Repressed Pain: Does Someone’s Pain Disappear Once It Has Been Removed From Their Conscious Awareness? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, someone is often thought to begin and end with their conscious mind. Other than their physical body, then, this will be seen as who they are and there won’t be another part of them. Due to this, if someone’s “mental health” is not in a good way and they were to reach out to ...
Views: 46 - Disembodied: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Themselves? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperFor someone to be able to take life in, to receive, they will need to be able to inhabit their body. This will allow them to be in the part of their being that truly experiences life as opposed to the part that simply observes it. To use an analogy: it will be the difference between someone ...
Views: 45 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Like An Extension Of His Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to come to see that he is in a position where he is overly preoccupied with his mother’s needs, he is like to wonder what is going on. He could also see that he has been this way for as long as he can remember. This will also mean that he is unlikely to have much of a life ...
Views: 45 - Sense Of Safety: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Believe That It Is Not Safe Enough For Them To Exist? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone could live somewhere that is relatively safe and they are therefore free to express themselves, it doesn’t mean that this will take place. They could often isolate themselves from others. When they are around others they could typically do what they can please them, ...
Views: 45 - Critical Thinking: Does Humanity Need To Change Their Inner World In Order To Change Their Outer World? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about changing the world, what could come to mind are all the things that they could do. This could be seen as the only way for them to have an impact on what is taking place out there. Sitting around and waiting for things to change could be seen as the only other ...
Views: 43 - Emotionally Stuck: Can Development Trauma Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Stuck? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will physically look like an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will feel like one. Consequently, how they look won’t match up with what is taking place inside them. By being this way, their life is likely to be far harder than it would be otherwise. In fact, just about ...
Views: 43 - Repetition Compulsion: Can Someone Engage In Repetition Compulsion If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about their life, they may see that there is what they want to experience in one area of it and what they actually experience. Due to this, this area of their life is likely to cause them to experience a number of ’negative’ feelings and thoughts. Then again, this ...
Views: 43 - Self Worth: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Feel Totally Worthless? - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can lack a felt sense of worth, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Even so, they may be aware of the impact of not having this in place. The reason they may be aware as opposed to will be aware of this is because how they experience life could just ...
Views: 42 - Self-Worth: Can Someone Feel Worthless If They Were Neglected As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone feels worthless, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. However, by not having a felt sense of worth, their life is likely to be anything but fulfilling. In general, they could have the tendency to please others and ignore their own needs and feelings as ...
Views: 42 - Sense Of Deserving: Can Developmental Trauma Stop Someone From Developing A Sense Of Deserving? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, there is the ability to give, and, on the other, there is the ability to receive. When someone has the ability to both give and receive, it could be said that they will be in balance. The reason for this is that they will be playing their part by giving or contributing to the ...
Views: 42 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Feel Worthless If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to step back and reflect on his life, he may find that he often feels worthless and as though he is bad. Due to this, he may find that it is a challenge for him to embrace good things as he won’t feel worthy of them. As a result of this, he may see that he has pushed a lot of ...
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