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- Social Media: Does Social Media Create Impossible Standards Of Beauty? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years now, the mainstream media has been criticised for editing pictures, and this is because of the effect this has on women. When they see these images, they are often unaware of what has been done, and they can come to believe that what they see is normal. If they were able to ...
Views: 2006 - False Self: Can Someone Use Self Development To Decorate Their False Self? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had a mark on a wall in their house they could find out why this mark has appeared or they could simply paint over it. What they decide to do can all depend on whether they know why the mark has appeared and/or if they are into home improvement. One may decide to just paint over the ...
Views: 1637 - Weight: Is It Good Or Bad To Comment On Someone's Weight? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, it was generally women who were concerned about their weight, and this is partly because of how much pressure they had to face. Men on the other hand, were not under the same amount of pressure. However, this has all changed, and while it could be said that the amount of ...
Views: 1336 - Crying: Is Having The Ability To Cry Important? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough life is made up of moments that are pleasurable and moments that are painful, it doesn’t mean that someone is able to accept each side. There are going to be people who do everything they can to embrace pleasure and avoid pain, and, there are going to be others who renounce pleasure and ...
Views: 1810 - Control: Is A Sense Of Control Important? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to hear the word ‘control’, there is a chance that something negative will come to mind. They may begin to think about someone who is ‘controlling’, or they may think about a situation in their life that is stopping them from being themselves. However, this might not take ...
Views: 1823 - Communication: Is Posture Important? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be some people who have always had good posture, and there will be others who have developed their posture during their adult years. However, there will also be people who had good posture at one point in time and then ended up going the other way, and others who haven’t taken ...
Views: 2487 - Social Media: Can Social Media Cause Someone To Be Addicted To Approval? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can do things because they want to do them, they can also do things because they want approval. When this happens, one is going to be focused on what other people think of them. If this is something that takes place from time to time, it might not have negative effect on their ...
Views: 1463 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperEven though one can have the need to be in a relationship with someone who is available, it doesn’t mean that this takes place. Instead, they can end up attracting people who unable to be there for them. If this was something that they could overlook it wouldn’t matter, but as this is not ...
Views: 1588 - Naive: Is It Good Or Bad To Be Naive? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to start something new, they might try to find out everything they can about it. In this case, they are not just going to start something and learn as they go along; they are going to do some serious research. Through taking this approach, they are going to be prepared, and ...
Views: 1804 - Social Media: Does Social Media Encourage Cheating? - by Submitted on May 31, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman has been with men who have cheated, she might come to the conclusion that all men are the same. And if a man has been with a number of women who have cheated, he could also come to the same conclusion. As a result of what they have been through, it would be normal for them to say ...
Views: 3763 - Social Media: Has Social Media Devalued Celebrity? - by Submitted on May 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile celebrities have always existed in some shape or form, it has never been as easy as it is today for someone to be famous. There is no need for someone to have achieved something significant; the only thing they need is an online presence. This is something that one can develop in a ...
Views: 1420 - Sayings: Does Everything Happen For A Reason? - by Submitted on May 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter where someone is from on this planet, there is a strong chance that they will have a few sayings. They may have picked these up from the people around them and/or they may have learned them through reading books. One may find that they use these sayings throughout their day, or ...
Views: 1405 - Love: Do Some People's childhoods Set Them Up To Reject Love? - by Submitted on May 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are able to receive, there are others who are unable to do so. What this means is that although someone needs something, it is not possible for them to have it. There are then going to be others who experience life differently, and it will be possible for them ...
Views: 2522 - Closing Westgate Hall: The Psychological Consequences - by Submitted on May 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThe fact that the Westgate Hall in Canterbury is under threat, is not news to me. I have known this to be the case for over 6 months or more, and I will admit that I didn’t think much of it at first. So, you may be wondering at this point, what has made me finally take notice and reflect on the ...
Views: 2118 - Anger: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Have Anger Problems? - by Submitted on May 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are able to express every emotion on the spectrum, there are others who are stuck on one end of the spectrum. When this happens, it is not going to be possible for someone to be a whole human being. This may mean that one is always ‘positive’, and that they ...
Views: 1935 - Inferiority Complex: Why Do Some People Have An Inferiority Complex? - by Submitted on May 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people on this planet who believe that they above others, there are also people who believe that they are below others. And this can be something that one is aware of or it could be an outlook that is outside of their awareness. However, regardless of whether one is ...
Views: 1713 - The Flow: Is It Good Or Bad To Go With The Flow? - by Submitted on May 21, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to watch a stream, they would see that it goes in one direction, and this will take place without too much force being utilized. This is because the water is going in the same direction and there is little, if any, resistance. However, this wouldn’t be possible if each drop of ...
Views: 3174 - Always Right: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Believe They Are Always Right? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be times in someone’s life where they are right and there are going to be times when they are wrong. If human beings were all-knowing, then this wouldn’t be something that would occur. However, as it is not possible for someone to know everything there is to know, there ...
Views: 1726 - Projection: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Project Their Issues Onto Others? - by Submitted on May 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone doesn’t face what is within them, there is the chance that it will end up being projected onto others. This is not bad per se, as this is a way for someone to realise what they need to work on. Another way of looking at this would be to imagine other people as the white screen ...
Views: 5255 - Social Media: Can Social Media Cause People To Have An Entitlement Mentality? - by Submitted on May 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone wants to achieve something, there is the chance that they will have a number of people who inspire them. These could be people who they know personally or it may relate to people they know from a distance. However, regardless of whether they know them or not, they will be having ...
Views: 2053 - Relationships: Can Trapped Grief Stop Someone From Starting A New Relationship? - by Submitted on May 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that when one door closes, another door opens, and what this shows is that the end of one thing can be the beginning of another. However, in order for someone to walk through a new door, they will need to walk away from the old door. Yet, even though the old door has closed, ...
Views: 3026 - Social Media: Can Social Media Cause Depression? - by Submitted on May 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is easy for someone to end up being obsessed when it comes to their appearance. The need to look good is nothing new, but what is new is the pressure that someone can experience through using social media. They no longer need to be around people; the only thing they need ...
Views: 1498 - Relationships: Can Toxic Shame Make Someone Feel Lonely? - by Submitted on May 09, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can be by themselves, it doesn't mean they will end up feeling lonely. This is similar how someone can be around others and still end up feeling as though they are by themselves. What this shows is that it can all depend on how one feels in their own company, and how they feel ...
Views: 1607 - Relationships: Can Trapped Grief Make Breakups Harder To Handle? - by Submitted on May 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to spend their time around people who have just experienced a breakup, they are unlikely to have the same experience with each person. They could find that although one person is in a bad way, another could come across though they haven’t been affected. And they could also ...
Views: 1347 - Constructive Criticism: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone From Being Able To Accept Constructive Criticism? - by Submitted on May 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOne person could watch a film and think it’s one of the best films ever, and another could watch the same film and believe it is one of the worst. What this shows is how people have different outlooks, and just because one person likes something, it doesn’t me another person will. Now, this ...
Views: 1789 - Indecisive: Can Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Indecisive? - by Submitted on May 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to moving forward in life, it is going to be important for someone to be able to make decisions. This doesn’t mean that this will allow them to always make the right decisions, but it will give them the chance to make the right ones. If, on the other hand, they didn’t make any ...
Views: 1641 - Fear: Is Fear All In The Mind? - by Submitted on May 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings can allow their life to be defined by love or fear, and while one is often seen as destructive and the other is often seen as constructive, they both have a purpose. However, problems will arise when someone allows their life to be defined by fear. Another ...
Views: 1717 - Posture: Can Trapped Grief Affect Someone's Posture? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has good posture it not only creates a good impression, it also has a positive effect on their health. There is then an external reason and an internal reason for one to pay attention to how they hold themselves. Therefore, if two people had bad posture, their reason for wanting ...
Views: 1742 - Relationships: Do You Expect The Same Person To Meet All Your Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one thinks about their ideal partner, they may imagine someone who can fulfil all of their needs. They may even describe this person as their ‘soul mate’; with this being someone who will end up transforming their whole life. There is then the chance that they will have been with a ...
Views: 2897 - Needs: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Focus On Other People's Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there will be times where will be important for someone to focus on the needs of others, there will also be times when this isn’t the case. This is not to say that one will need to spend half of their time being focused on other people’s needs and half of their time being focused on their ...
Views: 1446 - Powerless: Can Trapped Grief Make Someone Feel Powerless? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to experiencing mental and emotional wellbeing, having a sense of personal power is important. This doesn’t mean that this will allow someone’s life to always go how they want it to go, but what it does mean is that they won’t feel like a victim. They will know that they are ...
Views: 1757 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Other People's Problems? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone only focused on themselves and didn’t take the time to see how other people are, there is a strong chance that they will be seen as self-absorbed. Not only that, they might not have many friends either. This is going to cause them to feel isolated from others, and their existence ...
Views: 4773 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are able to set boundaries, and there are others who are find it incredibly difficult. It wouldn’t matter whether one was able to set them if they were not important, but as they are a vital part of life, it is essential that one is able to. One may be in a position ...
Views: 1774 - Relationships: Can Toxic Shame Make Someone Feel Unattractive? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can look attractive, it doesn’t mean they feel attractive or that their self-image matches up with how they look. In this case, the impression that they have on others doesn’t match up with what is taking place within them. However, this is not to say that whether one is ...
Views: 1426 - Instant Gratification: Is Your Need For Instant Gratification Sabotaging Your Success? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, people not only want to have something straight away, they are also encouraged to have this outlook. It would be easy to see these two aspects as being separate, but part of the reason why people have this outlook is because of the society they live in. When it comes to ...
Views: 1502 - Pranks: Do Pranks Violate People's Boundaries? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThrough the help of the internet, it doesn’t take long for things to spread rapidly in today’s day and age. When this happens, a video or an article will have gone ‘viral', and what started out being known by only a few people, will soon end up being known by millions of people from all over the ...
Views: 1569 - Vulnerability: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone From Being Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings are inherently vulnerable, and this is something that can’t be denied. Yet, this doesn’t mean that one is able to embrace this; as they can end up doing everything they can to come across as though they are invulnerable. The image that they present to the ...
Views: 1493 - Success: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone From Being Successful? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to ask a group of people what their favourite country is, they are unlikely to hear the same answer over and over again. One person might enjoy going to Australia, while another may enjoy going to Mexico, for instance. What this partly shows is how different people are, and how ...
Views: 1394 - Happiness: Why Do Some People Believe That They Don't Deserve To Be Happy? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhat makes one person happy is not necessarily going to be the same as what makes another person happy, but while their requirements may be different, they both have the need to be happy. This is something that most people on the planet want to experience; with their being many ways in which one ...
Views: 4256 - Idealisation: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Idealise Others? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst there are some people who are in the public eye, there are others who are behind the scenes. One could be in the public eye because of what they do or it could be because they just wanted to be famous. Therefore, it is something that takes place directly or it is something that takes ...
Views: 1557 - Fear Of Failure: Can Toxic Shame Cause The Fear Of Failure? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone has the desire to do something, it doesn’t mean they will take action. Instead of doing what they need to do to fulfil their desire, they might end up doing nothing. In this case, it is not going to be possible for one to move forward; they are going to stay where they ...
Views: 1916 - Addiction: Can Toxic Shame Lead To Addiction? - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to hear the word ‘addiction’, there is a strong chance they would start to think about an alcoholic or a drug addict. This is not because it is impossible to be addicted to anything else; it is because of how addiction is often portrayed in today’s world. As a result of this, it ...
Views: 1912 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Be Serious? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are times in life where it will be important for one to be serious and then there will be times when this is not the case. If one was to come across as one way all the time, they are going to be out of balance. However, this doesn’t mean that one is going to spend half of each day ...
Views: 1873 - Communication: Is It Important To Respect Other People's Personal Space? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperDuring those moments when one is in a crowded place, it is not going to be possible for them to maintain their personal space. The space that they need in order to feel comfortable is not going to exist. This could be something that one experiences everyday or it could be something that ...
Views: 4692 - Self-Made: Is Anyone Self-Made? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one may have only heard the term 'self-made' recently, that doesn't mean it is something that has been created within the past few years. It is a term that has been around for many, many years and the word 'man' is often added at the end. In today's world, it not just something a man ...
Views: 1599 - Anxiety: Can Toxic Shame Cause Anxiety? - by Submitted on May 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough feeling anxious from time to time is a normal part of life, if this is something one suffers from on a regular basis it is likely to mean that something isn’t right. Now, this is not to say that one has to be in a constant state of anxiety for there to be problem; as it could also be ...
Views: 1968 - Boundaries: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone feels safe in their own body it is going to make their life a lot easier. But while this is the ideal, this is not something that everyone on this planet can relate to. If one doesn’t feel safe in their own body it will be normal for them to be walked over and/or for them to ...
Views: 1762 - Stubborn: Is It Good Or Bad To Be Stubborn? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about a quality that is generally seen in a negative light, the word ‘stubborn may come to mind. This could be a word that one uses on a regular basis and/or it could be something they are used to hearing from other people. There is also the chance that this is not only a ...
Views: 2388 - Corrective Experience: What Is A Corrective Experience? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are likely to be parts of someone’s life that are going to plan, there may be other parts that are not. When something is going the way one wants it to go, it is not going to have the same effect on their life. As it is going well, one might not even think about and it could be ...
Views: 1743 - Relationships: Is Being Responsive To Another Person’s Self-Disclosure An Important Part Of A Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one feels close to someone, there are likely to be a number of reasons why. One may know what these reasons are, or it may take them a while to realise why they feel the way they do. The connection they feel with the other person is likely to have built up over time. This is not to say ...
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