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- Co-dependency: Half a Loaf of Self - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2009 from Dr. Jane BoltonThe term 'co-dependency' was initially used to describe a person who was dependent on another person who was an alcoholic, or addicted to another substance. Over time, it has been discovered that co-dependents have common characteristics that have nothing to do with substance ...
Views: 2141(1 vote) - FOR VALENTINE’S DAY: The Gift of Self Exploration & Expression - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciOften times partners share their wondering about how exclusivity, monogamy, and fidelity is possible in a longterm relationship. It is usually the male partners who pose this question when their female counterpart is not present. I appreciate their honesty, risk and willingness to explore ...
Views: 1701(2 votes) - Hot and Cold Love Addicts: A Lethal Combination - by A lot has been written about love addiction and yet it is still a misunderstood disorder. For instance, many people believe that love addicts only run hot —passionately pursue someone who is unavailable like in the movie Fatal Attraction. However, many love addicts also run cold ? appear aloof ...
Views: 25410(3 votes) - Is Your Relationship in Trouble? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2013 from Darlene LancerGood relationships run smoothly and enable you to enjoy your life, work, and activities beyond the relationship. You’re not always worrying or talking about it. Like a smooth-running car, you don’t have to keep repairing it. You may have disagreements and get angry, but you still have goodwill ...
Views: 1376(2 votes) - On Being Normal - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2012 from Jay Tow, M. S. Counselor, Life Management and Relationship CoachHave you ever wondered if you are normal? Do you spend time comparing yourself to others? It is not uncommon to have these thoughts because we tend to judge many things as being normal or not normal. If people don’t perceive themselves as having “acceptable” thoughts, feelings, beliefs, or ...
Views: 3083(2 votes) - Restructuring: Are You In Your Partner’s Circle…? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciCouple relationships experiencing difficulties can be categorized into two broad styles of relating: temperamental or tenuous, and can fluctuate between these extremes. These relationships are not satisfying, and not likely to succeed – enjoy couples’ inherent synergy, as the partners are spent ...
Views: 1817(2 votes) - That Christmas Letter - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2003 from Michael RawlsThis is the time of year that we may get That Christmas Letter from someone who is so successful or seemingly perfect that you think they must have reached celebrity status by now. Do they ever tire of telling you how perfect their life is, how their absolutely perfect children are excelling in ...
Views: 2401(1 vote) - The Man who Kills You Softly - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2011 from Lita PernaThis man doesn’t make the headlines. He won’t steal your money or kill you and dump your body on the side of the road. But he can steal your heart, rob you of your time and kill you slowly from the inside out like radiation that eats at your heart and soul. Does Your Man Act Like ...
Views: 6652(1 vote) - War Buddies - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2010 from Stacey CurnowOne of my clients is haunted by the memory of a former lover. She wonders how she allowed such a "bad" relationship to go on for so long. Of course she did the best she could with the awareness she had at the time. But now she has 20/20 hindsight. We’ve all been in her shoes. We wish we ...
Views: 1573(1 vote) - Your Relationship is the Key to Your Success!! - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciOur relationship is one of the biggest, most powerful asset and gift we have in our life! It is a true treasure chest worth a fortune. It can deliver unimaginable heights of satisfaction, peace, joy, love, happiness and success!! To cash-in on this fortune we have to polish the gems on the ...
Views: 1744(2 votes) - ***Personal Empowerment: A Path to Joyful Creation - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Karen Mehringer, MARecently, I joined a group of women to journal, meditate and share about our intentions for the New Year. It was suggested that we come up with one or two words to describe our deepest intention underlying all of our desired outcomes. The words that I chose were…“Joyful Creation.” More than ...
Views: 3020(4 votes) - Tips to Stop Enabling - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2009 from Beverley GlazerThere are very fuzzy boundaries between helping and enabling. If you’re enabling, you think that you’re helping, but what you’re doing is anything but helpful. Here's some information so that you don't confuse the two. Helping When you help someone you are doing something that they cannot ...
Views: 15646(4 votes) - Are You an Enabler and What You Can Do about It. - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2013 from Darlene LancerEnabling is a term often used in the context of a relationship with an addict. It might be a drug addict (which includes an alcoholic), gambler, or compulsive shopper. Enablers suffer the effects of the addict’s behavior rather than the addict. Enabling “removes the natural consequences to the ...
Views: 2540(7 votes) - Is It Empathy Or Codependcy? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2008 from Deanna ReynoldsQuestion: “I’m very sensitive. I can easily feel other people emotions. But, often, it feels as though I’m just bombarded and sometimes I don’t know where my emotions stop and another’s begin. I just have strong empathy abilities, right?” Answer: Maybe. In ...
Views: 10115(2 votes) - Relationship Addiction and Co Dependency Counselling - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2008 from Rosemary Grace BrooksRelationship addiction is becoming recognised more and more as a serious problem requiring careful co-dependency counselling. Co-dependency in general terms means two parties in a relationship based on a mutual dependency. Most relationships have a mutual level of healthy dependency. However, ...
Views: 3200(2 votes) - The Newborn - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2011 from Womens Recreation, Inc.It was more than twenty five years ago, and it was a day that I will never forget. I had given birth to my second son in the beginning of September. I brought him home to a one bedroom apartment. The bedroom was big, both of my sons slept in there and my husband at the time and I slept on a ...
Views: 1589(4 votes) - The Human Magnet Syndrome – We are all Human Magnets (Excerpt from Book) - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2013 from Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed. LCPC CADCINTRODUCTION About 30 years ago, my dad joked (or so I thought was a joke): “The soul mate of your dreams is gonna become the cellmate of your nightmares.” It takes some of us decades to realize that our parents were actually a lot smarter than we gave them credit for. What I thought was just ...
Views: 2562(3 votes) - Break the Rules Preventing an Awesome Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciBreak the Rules Preventing an Awesome Relationship Do you experience déjà vu, broken records and same old stories in your disagreements with your partner? Do you feel stuck and find yourself repeating patterns and fights without knowing how to break the impasse? You are not alone … This is an ...
Views: 1895(1 vote) - How To Know What Boundaries Are? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from Mara FisherMany books have been written on the subject of boundaries. Is it possible to be an I and still be a We? Where do I end and my partner begin? Many of us have been pondering this notion. How do I get close without getting lost while in a committed relationship? Many believe that the lack of ...
Views: 2095(5 votes) - Stay Afloat with Healthy Boundaries - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2012 from Grace KerinaWhen folks around you make waves with their alien communication styles, fervent demands, or weird displays of power, you need healthy boundary skills that pop to the surface like a life preserver. Your imagination can roar to the rescue and save the day. To keep a grip on the real you when ...
Views: 1901(1 vote) - The healing power of beauty, nature and orderliness - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2008 from Cathy RoysJesus was always drawing attention to nature...because he saw a power for restoration and healing in it that humans have lost touch with. “Consider how the lilies grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you, not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of ...
Views: 2499(1 vote) - The Spark Remains - by Submitted on May 26, 2011 from Gail OKeeffeThroughout my childhood I received consistent messages that demonstrated the power of a dysfunctional family. The disease of my parents and abusers robbed me of my boundaries and individuality – the right to have a self. Remembering back now, through the years of oppression and sexual abuse, ...
Views: 1560(1 vote) - Children of Insanity - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2009 from Paul HoodI have been looking at a book by Claudia Black, “My Dad Loves Me, My Dad Has A Disease” (A Child’s View: Living With Addiction, full of pictures and writing by children), and remembering the children of addiction, and the mentally ill. I have seen five-year-olds acting like little adults, ...
Views: 1919(3 votes) - Ending Baby Boomer Burnout: How to Stop Parenting Our Adult Children and How to Start Reclaiming Our Own Lives - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2010 from Holli KenleyEnding Baby Boomer Burnout : How to Stop Parenting Our Adult Children and Start Reclaiming Our Own Lives Holli Kenley “Both my 23 year old daughter and my 29 year old son have moved back home. I find myself doing more for them than for myself. I am exhausted, but they seem to need ...
Views: 8174(2 votes) - ***The Secret to Increasing Attraction and Loving… - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2014 from Emma ViglucciWhen we are “too close”, whether we are getting along or not … , we can’t see each other. If we can’t see each other, how can we possibly decide if we like each other and feel attraction? This concept is confusing to most, when we live in a society where relationships ...
Views: 1251(1 vote) - Praise, Acknowledgement & More! - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciOne of the love languages is Words of Affirmation (book referenced above). Words of affirmation come in many forms including praise, acknowledgement, credit, recognition, validation, compliments, and appreciation. Each of these are a gift in and of themselves. When you use these, you show your ...
Views: 1944(1 vote) - Exploring Timeless Elegance: Brands Famous for Leather Jackets - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2023 from Wajahat AliIntroduction Leather jackets have long been https://leatherjacketsales.com/ a symbol of rugged style, rebellious spirit, and timeless elegance. From movie icons to rock stars, leather jackets have adorned the backs of some of the most legendary figures in history. When it comes to owning a ...
Views: 389 - "Crying" Gets Your Needs Met! - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2015 from Emma ViglucciWhen we are babies we learn to get our needs met by alerting our parents of a poopie diaper, hungry belly, or an ouchie with our crying. As adults, we continue to try to get our needs met with our �crying�. Our crying has become more sophisticated over time and now takes the form of criticism, ...
Views: 1164 - "I Admire and Support him and He Abuses Me!" - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2013 from Sam Vaknin“I admire and support him. I am his biggest fan. I am his right hand and one woman audience. I am his best friend and his only source of succor. Yet, he constantly humiliates and berates me and abuses me in subtle and not-so-subtle ways. What gives?” He may be a narcissist. The narcissist ...
Views: 2280 - ***Are You Conniving in Your Relating? - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciPartners love telling each other what to do, how to behave, how to be, what to think, how to feel, and even things like what to eat and how to dress! They are on a mission to change their partner, consciously or not. This is a sign of lack of boundaries and personal ...
Views: 1307 - ***Are You Tapping Into Your Partnership Synergy? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2014 from Emma ViglucciPeople usually marry for love. A new phenomenon, only a couple of centuries old, in the history of the institution of marriage and in this culture. I say “usually” because sometimes people just get married because that is the thing to do, again speaking from today’s and ...
Views: 1135 - ***Choose Intentions Over Resolutions… - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2015 from Emma ViglucciWe are what we think. We create what we think. What we resist persists. What we focus on expands. We are super powerful creating creatures… Our mind is a honing device for creating, a GPS for getting places… We create what we think whether intentionally or not. Left to its own untrained ...
Views: 1105 - ***Detoxing for Relationship Success! - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2015 from Emma ViglucciThere is more to us than meets the eyes… We have an internal world operating at all times that we are vaguely aware of. Some people are totally out of touch with theirs… The more we become acquainted with our own Self and all it’s aspects, needs and desires the more we can be our Authentic Self ...
Views: 1219 - ***Do You Know How to “Clean” Your Energy? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Emma ViglucciShare Good Vibes With Your Partner We are energy. We look like solid entities in our human form only because of our limited human faculties. We are energetic beings with vibrational frequencies. Imagine us as energy waves, reaching further than apparent by the illusion of our human ...
Views: 1269 - ***From Desperate Anger to Blooming Passion - by Submitted on May 02, 2014 from Emma ViglucciThe season of renewal is finally here and with it comes an invitation to awaken to life. Note the blue skies, the sun shining, birds chirping, flowers blooming. What an enchanting time to be alive. The possibilities are countless. As we are coming out of hibernation, it is time to look around ...
Views: 1989 - ***How to Have a Successful Relationship… - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciAttune to Your Partner! What is a Successful Relationship? Is being with your spouse, partner, for decades the definition of a successful relationship? Is it raising awesome children? Is it having financial resources, a beautiful home? Is it having our partner do stuff for us? Is it having ...
Views: 1462 - ***Is Lack of Trust Affecting Your Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2015 from Emma ViglucciIs lack of trust undermining your connection with your partner and wreaking havoc in your relationship? Lack of trust might extend to beliefs that your partner is cheating. Or it can be as simple as not trusting your partner to be there, follow through, keep their word, be accountable, get your ...
Views: 1530 - ***Is Your Partner Your Life Partner? - by Submitted on May 09, 2014 from Emma ViglucciHonor your Self. What does that mean? In my book, it means getting in touch with our Core, True, Authentic Self, our Soul, and operating from it in all we do. This means being in connection with our Self, knowing our Self. Most of the time we are in a fog and cacophony of daily minutiae, ...
Views: 1920 - ***It’s Time for Love! - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2015 from Emma ViglucciIt’s amazing how many partners know their partner loves them, but they still don’t feel loved… This is actually kind of an epidemic… Couples struggle because they get stuck in power struggles. They let their Ego get in the way. They approach their situation from a reactive and self-preservation ...
Views: 1368 - ***It’s Time for Passion! - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2015 from Emma ViglucciIn my recent reading I have come across a piece of writing that has made me think of sexuality and physical intimacy from a different angle. I love when that happens! Give me material that sparks my creative juices and that I can integrate into my work for greater impact, and I’m a very happy ...
Views: 1110 - ***It’s Time for Romance! - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2015 from Emma ViglucciI think romance is underrated… I hear couples express they want romance and to be romanced, but they state it with a sense of shame, wishful thinking and as an unattainable outcome. They off-handedly claim their wish in the same sentence that dismisses it with the practicality of everyday life. ...
Views: 1125 - ***Learn to Set Healthy Boundaries for Relationship Success! - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciMind Your Own Side of the Fence! We hear all the time that having boundaries is a must for healthy living and happiness in relationship. The only glitch is that a lot of people don’t have the slightest idea about boundaries, never mind about setting them appropriately. I find that ...
Views: 1418 - ***What Makes a Truly Holistic Recovery Program? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2016 from Dean TaraborelliWe Have Living Proof that You Can Re-write, Re-experience and Re-create Your Life The Sanctuary at Sedona is a non-12 Step holistic addiction recovery program. We were founded by Dean Taraborelli who was a self-proclaimed ‘chronic relapser’, unsuccessfully seeking addiction recovery for 30 ...
Views: 3120 - ***Would You Like to Experience Greater Desire and Passion? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2014 from Emma ViglucciCouples usually end up accepting the lack of desire and passion in their relationship as a fact of life for a longterm relationship. They are not happy or satisfied with this, but their attempts at remedying their lack of (passionate) physical intimacy don’t usually succeed. The reason ...
Views: 1102 - 20 Do's & Don'ts Of A Functional Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2012 from Eve BernshawFrom TheTransitionProcessTM Interactive Lecture HOW TO ATTRACT EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY PEOPLE The following is a list of The 20 Do's and Don'ts of A Functional Relationship. It has been an effective tool and starting point for individuals and couples who are serious about creating more joy, ...
Views: 2213 - 2020 WNAAD Survivor Empowerment Telesummit Free Event - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2020 from Dr. Anne BrownTake Your Recovery From Narcissistic Abuse To The Next Level! From the safety of your home learn trauma-transforming steps to not only empower you but also make notable reductions in the vast array of trauma symptoms. What would it be like to have an action-oriented roadmap for recovery ...
Views: 829 - 3 steps to keep tiles and grout clean - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2020 from Wajahat AliYou should follow these simple steps to keep your tile and grout clean at all times. Keeping things clean is not rocket science, if you didn't clean up for a week you'd be dirty too. You may also need an additional scrub to clean yourself, as dirt builds up in dirt and makes things harder to ...
Views: 695 - 6 Scriptural Misunderstandings of Christian Codependency - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2012 from Karla DowningThe following 6 Scriptural misunderstandings form the basis of Christian codependency. They show how inaccurate Scriptural understandings contribute to Christian codependency. The cure is an accurate understanding of what the Bible says about ourselves and how we are to value ourselves compared ...
Views: 1954 - A Very Annoying Habit - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2020 from William CottringerA VERY ANNOYING HABIT by Bill Cottringer “I personally believe we developed language because of our deep inner need to complain.” ~Jane Wagner. What could anyone complain about regarding this beautiful day? Oh, I imagine we can find something: The inconvenient travel and other ...
Views: 848 - Adults Abused as Children - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Licia GinneDr. Jasquith says that tyranny is sometimes expression of the maternal instinct. If that's a mother's love, I want no part of it. -- Bette Davis as Charlotte Vale in "Now Voyager" The experience of having lived (or living) in trauma is probably the number one reason that brings people to ...
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