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How do you identify a toxic relationship? Here is a list of ways to tell if something might possibly be wrong in your personal relationship with your significant other. Just answer these questions truthfully.
• Does your significant other verbally abuse you?
• Does your significant other say ... Views: 2218
When we fall in love, it’s natural to become attached and form a romantic bond. But once in love with a narcissist, it’s not easy to leave, despite the abuse. Although you're unhappy, you may be ambivalent about leaving because you still love your partner, have young children, lack resources, ... Views: 593
How To Reconnect With Husband During Separation: How To Communicate With Husband During Separation
Marriage is a lifetime process that takes work. So if you want to learn how to save your marriage after separation, you should know that thousands of couples experience the same problem. That ... Views: 2725
Healing from an abusive relationship is one of the hardest things to do. Many people never truly heal, and thus stay a victim for the rest of their life. Learn how you can start the healing process to become a better you! Healing from an abusive relationship is one of the hardest things to ... Views: 1003
I Hurt My Husband Feelings: With This Secret You Can Win Back His Love
If you are a woman frustrated that the love is gone from your marriage then it makes sense for you to wonder "will my husband ever love me again", you are certainly not the first to ask that.
Perhaps your marriage has ... Views: 1478
Many people have had the experience of anger that goes out of control. What mechanisms are at work when anger turns to blinding rage? Researchers have termed this kind of response as reactive aggression and discovered that when one is engulfed in a rage reaction, the thinking part of the brain ... Views: 2280
I Still Find My Ex Attractive: Still Attracted To My Ex
If you find yourself saying, "I'm still in love with my ex" and yet you have this feeling that you ex does not feel the same way, then that surely is a difficult situation. To begin with, you can't really be sure that your ex is no ... Views: 462
If you and the woman you love aren't together anymore you are either feeling one of two things. You may be feeling as though the weight of the world has been lifted off your shoulders because the relationship was incredibly difficult and tense. On the other hand you may be saying to yourself I ... Views: 9510
"Two things define you; your patience when you have nothing, and your attitude when you have everything."
In my article on March 2, 2014 and chapter two in my book Backbone Power The Science of Saying No, I speak about the importance of being able to say No when you mean No. After listening ... Views: 1015
Narcissist, Psychopath or Sociopath?
Excerpt from Randi Fine's Upcoming Groundbreaking New Book,
Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivors Guide to Healing
There is a great deal of false information on the internet about narcissistic personality disorder and its ... Views: 1513
Is Your Child a Bully? Aggressive Behavior to Watch For in Kids.
Does your child manipulate others for favors, and never make an effort to reciprocate? Do they have a lack of concern for the feelings and well being of others? Do they fight, steal, vandalize or set fires?
What do you do ... Views: 802
Passive-aggressive people act passive, but are covertly aggressive. They’re basically obstructionist, and try to block whatever it is you want. Their unconscious anger gets transferred onto you, and you become frustrated and furious. Your fury is theirs, while they may calmly ask, “Why are you ... Views: 1243
Alcohol Living with an addict can be a living hell. Unpredictable and dangerous, yet sometimes exciting and romantic. Never knowing when we’ll be blamed or accused. Not being able to dependably plan social events. As the addict becomes more irresponsible, we pick up the slack and do more, often ... Views: 1377
According to the lone worker estate mapping report in the UK, one of the key challenges highlighted in the NHS report is the low usage of lone worker safety devices. The challenge of course is to increase funding to further improve lone worker solutions for new and existing staff.
The report ... Views: 535
I recently heard said that in relationships that all arguments, tensions and breakdowns are based on one thing’ Do I Matter to You?’
The western world seems fuelled by one up man ship; who has what, owns what, whose thinner,sexier, richer, more successful, more intelligent or more popular. ... Views: 973
Love your neighbor as yourself
Easier said than done!
What exactly does it mean?
Well, it seems simple. Basically, “yourself” comes first! So, you are expected to first love yourself and then love your neighbor.
Does it mean that you cannot love another if you don’t love yourself? ... Views: 1118
Popular films, particularly films that are geared at teenagers can have a major impact on emerging value systems and a teen's sense of what's proper and what's not. Unfortunately, movies like Twilight promote abusive relationships and even make them look glamorous. This is not only confusing to ... Views: 3123
My Ex Boyfriend Is Still Sexually Attracted To Me: Why Is My Ex Boyfriend Flirting With Me Again
You hooked up. You fell in love. You dated for a while, but things started falling apart. One fight led to another and you broke up. Some time has passed and now you're finding that your ex ... Views: 1600
When most people hear the word “abuse,” they think of bruises left from an angry person’s violent rage. Very few, though, understand the mental and emotional scars resulting from emotional abuse, and even fewer understand those which are caused by the lesser-known Narcissistic ... Views: 5833
If you have been dealing with an individual who has severe Narcissistic or Sociopathic Traits, your experience has probably left you reeling and searching for answers! I may be able to help you through your challenges.
I am a sought after Relationship Coach and author that specializes ... Views: 921
The DSM V re-defines personality disorders thus:
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"The essential features of a personality disorder are impairments in personality (self and interpersonal) functioning and the presence of pathological personality traits."
According to the June 2011 text of the DSM V, the following ... Views: 6559
Since writing Codependency for Dummies, countless people contact me about their unhappiness and difficulties in dealing with a difficult loved one, frequently a narcissistic partner or parent who is uncooperative, selfish, cold, and often abusive. Partners of narcissists feel torn between their ... Views: 1403
Dominique Staruss-Kahn, the scandal-ridden former head of the International Monetary Fund (IMF) is entitled to the presumption of innocence until proven guilty. But, if he did try to rape the hotel maid in New-York in May 2011, his behavior would conform to the type of misconduct common among ... Views: 990
Writers often distinguish narcissists (someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and codependents as opposites, but surprisingly, though their outward behavior may differ, they share many psychological traits. In fact, narcissists exhibit core codependent symptoms of shame, denial, ... Views: 755
Those darn treetops are at it again! Anyone who has taken the time to read a recent piece entitled “On Treetops” knows what I am alluding to. At a point along my daily jogging path, regally stand a dozen or so trees as silent witnesses to my labor. But are they really silent?
You will ... Views: 1509
Walk Easy Alarm Deterrents Carrying a personal alarm is a convenient way to immediately improve your personal safety and you’ll feel a whole lot safer too. Although these alarms are loud, typically an ear piercing 130dB+ high pitched sound that will attract the attention of nearby public or ... Views: 893
The History
For years women and children have been considered to be property of men. There were laws enabling men to punish their wives physically. By the 1920’s all states had made “wife beating” illegal, however it has only been since the 1970’s the courts have treated it as a serious crime ... Views: 940
Article
Renee L Richardson
Putting Others First or showcasing our “Good” deeds?
As I sit and reflect on my experiences with sexual relations, I have found that I have performed such more so for my partner than for myself. For instance, I enjoy the concept of having sex but the actual ... Views: 2243
Anger hurts. It’s a reaction to not getting what we want or need. Anger escalates to rage when we feel assaulted or threatened. It could be physical, emotional, or abstract, such as an attack on our reputation. When we react disproportionately to our present circumstance, it’s because we’re ... Views: 1149
Abusive relationships are largely invisible to the public, most of whom are illiterate about this realm of life. Acts of abuse mostly take place behind closed doors and can go on for some time before there is visual evidence. For example, you can’t tell by looking that:
• A woman was ... Views: 1572
When someone’s relationship comes to an end, they can have to the need to carry on with their life. There is then going to be no reason for them to spend time talking about the person they were with.
The Reason
If this is because it ended badly, it will be normal for them to want to put ... Views: 1081
When something works, there is generally going to be no reason for someone to take a closer look at it. One example of this is that when one has a car that works, they won’t need to take a look under the bonnet, for instance.
Yet, this would change if their car was to no longer run as it ... Views: 1086
Pathological envy is not the same as romantic jealousy. These two emotions have little to do with each other.
Romantic jealousy is the product of a violation of trust; a breach of romantic exclusivity of intimacy; and a denial of possession. It also involves damage to the self-esteem and ... Views: 1522
People-pleasers are at risk in the domains of finance, love, sex, family, and friendship.
How is it that we can manage a successful business but still have a failed personal life? Extending a hand to others after taking care of yourself is how we make the world a better place for our ... Views: 572
So many women I interviewed when writing my book reported saying yes to sex just to get the sex over with and have the person go away. Others reported saying yes to sex to have the person like them. Others reported gaining weight so they wouldn’t have to say no to dating and sex. Many reported ... Views: 1132
There will always be a pain in 'goodbyes'. No matter how much we seem to understand everything, it breaks our hearts to ever see anything beautiful die.
It seems we weren't really made for sad endings, or any kind of parting. And yet it is only by allowing some things to end could we ever ... Views: 1918
If you’re in an abusive relationship, you may wonder if your partner is a narcissist or sociopath and whether or not the relationship will improve. If so, or if you recently ended such a relationship, it can undermine your self-esteem and ability to trust yourself and others.
The labels ... Views: 1244
Our bodies cry out in two ways - either through emotion or illness. When we understand our body's pain we articulate it. When we can't understand it, we are overwhelmed by emotional and/or physical sensations. And we feel powerless. While we need to understand what is happening to us, we may ... Views: 1517
Sons of narcissistic fathers are driven by lack of confidence. Raised by a self-centered, competitive, arrogant father, they feel like they can never measure up or be enough to garner their father’s approval. Their father may be absent or critical and controlling. He may belittle and shame his ... Views: 1355
In recovery circles, being a “victim” is frowned upon. Decades ago, when I heard people say they were no longer a victim, I had no idea what they meant. Actually, a victim is an individual who has been fooled, hurt, or harmed, due to his or her own emotions or ignorance, an unfortunate event, or ... Views: 1298
Constantly leaving and being persuaded back into the trap of an abusive relationship is a cycle that needs to stop, and you can stop right now. This cycle will not end until you completely end all contact with your partner. Do not under estimate the power they have over you, and stop ... Views: 949
Prepare to Fight
When one person only wants to control and sabotage during the divorce, mediation is usually not an option and a waste of money. I have seen victims of emotional abuse in their marriage be victims of mediation because they are the only person bringing adult behavior to the ... Views: 936
I remember the first time I saw him. I had just turned 18 and was at my first, yes my first, boy girl party. He was tall dark and very handsome and he oozed confidence. I was shy and a bit of a wallflower, but he wandered over and asked me my name. From that day on we would be inseparable. My ... Views: 1972
A - Acknowledge your tragedy and the truth surrounding it so healing may begin. Without acknowledgment, you can't begin to heal no matter what you try.
B - Be gentle with yourself when you come to a speed bump in your road called "life". This is the universes way to force you to slow down and ... Views: 6835
The Five Best Friends of the Abusive Man
Truly abusive men are out for themselves. These are the narcissists and sociopaths who walk among us in plain clothes. Abusive men rely on these five strategies to gratify their needs ahead of or at the expense of their partner:
1. Denial
Even with ... Views: 2303
The Secret Life of a Feminist
By
Lisa Raphael
The story of O was my bedside companion from the time of my first sexual encounters until I left my husband, thirty-five years later. A liberated woman, I never understood my fascination with the book.
The story of O describes the ... Views: 796
Over three million incidents of domestic violence are reported each year, and that includes men as well as women. One-fourth of U.S. women and one-third of women worldwide will experience violence in her lifetime.
What isn’t talked about, but is serious, is emotional abuse that ranges from ... Views: 1451
This story began when I flew from California to see a good friend that moved to Houston. He and I went out one night and all of a sudden, standing right in front of me, appeared the man of my dreams!
This guy was captivating and exceedingly attractive. About six weeks down the line, I left my ... Views: 521
THINKIATRY & “LIFE WITHOUT NEGATIVE THOUGHTS”
Posted on Thursday, January 6th, 2011 at 9:43 am
THINKIATRY & LIFE WITHOUT NEGATIVE THOUGHTS - CLICK THIS LINK TO VIEW VIDEO.
If you value the quality of your mental health and want a happier life, please make the time to try this simple ... Views: 914
Q. Would narcissists often try to restrict their partner's independence by reducing their access to shared family finances? Why?
A. Narcissists are control freaks, paranoid, jealous, possessive, and envious. They are the sad products of early childhood abandonment by parents, caregivers, role ... Views: 1537