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- Living With an Addict – Alcoholic - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2015 from Darlene LancerAlcohol Living with an addict can be a living hell. Unpredictable and dangerous, yet sometimes exciting and romantic. Never knowing when we’ll be blamed or accused. Not being able to dependably plan social events. As the addict becomes more irresponsible, we pick up the slack and do more, often ...
Views: 1199(1 vote) - Lone Worker Personal Safety Devices - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2018 from G WILLIAMSAccording to the lone worker estate mapping report in the UK, one of the key challenges highlighted in the NHS report is the low usage of lone worker safety devices. The challenge of course is to increase funding to further improve lone worker solutions for new and existing staff. The report ...
Views: 331(1 vote) - Love Is Not a Power Game - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2012 from Joanna WarwickI recently heard said that in relationships that all arguments, tensions and breakdowns are based on one thing’ Do I Matter to You?’ The western world seems fuelled by one up man ship; who has what, owns what, whose thinner,sexier, richer, more successful, more intelligent or more popular. ...
Views: 877(1 vote) - LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2011 from margareth garnier simonLove your neighbor as yourself Easier said than done! What exactly does it mean? Well, it seems simple. Basically, “yourself” comes first! So, you are expected to first love yourself and then love your neighbor. Does it mean that you cannot love another if you don’t love yourself? ...
Views: 989(1 vote) - Movies Can Make Domestic Violence Look Glamorous To Teens - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2011 from Instant Advice Network ianchat.comPopular films, particularly films that are geared at teenagers can have a major impact on emerging value systems and a teen's sense of what's proper and what's not. Unfortunately, movies like Twilight promote abusive relationships and even make them look glamorous. This is not only confusing to ...
Views: 2917(1 vote) - My Ex Boyfriend Is Still Sexually Attracted To Me: Why Is My Ex Boyfriend Flirting With Me Again - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2019 from Lyra NoaMy Ex Boyfriend Is Still Sexually Attracted To Me: Why Is My Ex Boyfriend Flirting With Me Again You hooked up. You fell in love. You dated for a while, but things started falling apart. One fight led to another and you broke up. Some time has passed and now you're finding that your ex ...
Views: 533(1 vote) - Narcissism and the Stepford Wife - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2011 from Lady SarcasmaWhen most people hear the word “abuse,” they think of bruises left from an angry person’s violent rage. Very few, though, understand the mental and emotional scars resulting from emotional abuse, and even fewer understand those which are caused by the lesser-known Narcissistic ...
Views: 5272(1 vote) - Narcissist in Your Life? Get The Support You Need.... - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2018 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachIf you have been dealing with an individual who has severe Narcissistic or Sociopathic Traits, your experience has probably left you reeling and searching for answers! I may be able to help you through your challenges. I am a sought after Relationship Coach and author that specializes ...
Views: 722(1 vote) - Narcissistic Personality Disorder in the DSM V - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2012 from Sam VakninThe DSM V re-defines personality disorders thus: at "The essential features of a personality disorder are impairments in personality (self and interpersonal) functioning and the presence of pathological personality traits." According to the June 2011 text of the DSM V, the following ...
Views: 5274(1 vote) - Narcissistic Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2016 from Darlene LancerSince writing Codependency for Dummies, countless people contact me about their unhappiness and difficulties in dealing with a difficult loved one, frequently a narcissistic partner or parent who is uncooperative, selfish, cold, and often abusive. Partners of narcissists feel torn between their ...
Views: 1168(2 votes) - Narcissists and Hotel Maids: The Strauss-Kahn Affair and Beyond - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2011 from Sam VakninDominique Staruss-Kahn, the scandal-ridden former head of the International Monetary Fund (IMF) is entitled to the presumption of innocence until proven guilty. But, if he did try to rape the hotel maid in New-York in May 2011, his behavior would conform to the type of misconduct common among ...
Views: 877(1 vote) - NARCISSISTS ARE CODEPENDENT, TOO - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2017 from Darlene LancerWriters often distinguish narcissists (someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and codependents as opposites, but surprisingly, though their outward behavior may differ, they share many psychological traits. In fact, narcissists exhibit core codependent symptoms of shame, denial, ...
Views: 531(3 votes) - On Changing - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2012 from Michael ClearmanThose darn treetops are at it again! Anyone who has taken the time to read a recent piece entitled “On Treetops” knows what I am alluding to. At a point along my daily jogging path, regally stand a dozen or so trees as silent witnesses to my labor. But are they really silent? You will ...
Views: 1361(2 votes) - Personal Attack Alarms - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2018 from G WILLIAMSWalk Easy Alarm Deterrents Carrying a personal alarm is a convenient way to immediately improve your personal safety and you’ll feel a whole lot safer too. Although these alarms are loud, typically an ear piercing 130dB+ high pitched sound that will attract the attention of nearby public or ...
Views: 625(1 vote) - Preparing for Divorce in the Face of Emotional Abuse! (by: Dr. Anne Brown RNCS) - by Submitted on May 19, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownThe History For years women and children have been considered to be property of men. There were laws enabling men to punish their wives physically. By the 1920’s all states had made “wife beating” illegal, however it has only been since the 1970’s the courts have treated it as a serious crime ...
Views: 710(1 vote) - Putting Others First or showcasing our “Good” deeds? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2012 from Renee Richardson M.Ed.Article Renee L Richardson Putting Others First or showcasing our “Good” deeds? As I sit and reflect on my experiences with sexual relations, I have found that I have performed such more so for my partner than for myself. For instance, I enjoy the concept of having sex but the actual ...
Views: 2053(1 vote) - Relationship Killers: Anger and Resentment - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2017 from Darlene LancerAnger hurts. It’s a reaction to not getting what we want or need. Anger escalates to rage when we feel assaulted or threatened. It could be physical, emotional, or abstract, such as an attack on our reputation. When we react disproportionately to our present circumstance, it’s because we’re ...
Views: 944(2 votes) - Relationship Violence: You Don't Know Because She Hasn't Told You - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2012 from Anna MossAbusive relationships are largely invisible to the public, most of whom are illiterate about this realm of life. Acts of abuse mostly take place behind closed doors and can go on for some time before there is visual evidence. For example, you can’t tell by looking that: • A woman was ...
Views: 1434(2 votes) - Relationships: Does Someone Need To Warn Others If They Have Been With Someone Who Is Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone’s relationship comes to an end, they can have to the need to carry on with their life. There is then going to be no reason for them to spend time talking about the person they were with. The Reason If this is because it ended badly, it will be normal for them to want to put ...
Views: 881(1 vote) - Relationships: Should Someone Look At Their Childhood If They End Up In Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something works, there is generally going to be no reason for someone to take a closer look at it. One example of this is that when one has a car that works, they won’t need to take a look under the bonnet, for instance. Yet, this would change if their car was to no longer run as it ...
Views: 856(1 vote) - Romantic Jealousy - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2012 from Sam VakninPathological envy is not the same as romantic jealousy. These two emotions have little to do with each other. Romantic jealousy is the product of a violation of trust; a breach of romantic exclusivity of intimacy; and a denial of possession. It also involves damage to the self-esteem and ...
Views: 1394(1 vote) - Say NO To People Who Want To Sabotage Your Success! - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownPeople-pleasers are at risk in the domains of finance, love, sex, family, and friendship. How is it that we can manage a successful business but still have a failed personal life? Extending a hand to others after taking care of yourself is how we make the world a better place for our ...
Views: 304(1 vote) - Sex and Codependents: What Could Possibly Go Wrong? - by Submitted on May 01, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownSo many women I interviewed when writing my book reported saying yes to sex just to get the sex over with and have the person go away. Others reported saying yes to sex to have the person like them. Others reported gaining weight so they wouldn’t have to say no to dating and sex. Many reported ...
Views: 647(1 vote) - Should a Relationship End Even If You Still Love Each Other? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2011 from Joyce SorianoThere will always be a pain in 'goodbyes'. No matter how much we seem to understand everything, it breaks our hearts to ever see anything beautiful die. It seems we weren't really made for sad endings, or any kind of parting. And yet it is only by allowing some things to end could we ever ...
Views: 1810(1 vote) - SOCIOPATH OR NARCISSIST? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2016 from Darlene LancerIf you’re in an abusive relationship, you may wonder if your partner is a narcissist or sociopath and whether or not the relationship will improve. If so, or if you recently ended such a relationship, it can undermine your self-esteem and ability to trust yourself and others. The labels ...
Views: 1043(1 vote) - Somatization: The Secrets Our Bodies Hold - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossOur bodies cry out in two ways - either through emotion or illness. When we understand our body's pain we articulate it. When we can't understand it, we are overwhelmed by emotional and/or physical sensations. And we feel powerless. While we need to understand what is happening to us, we may ...
Views: 1374(1 vote) - Sons of Narcissistic Fathers - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2016 from Darlene LancerSons of narcissistic fathers are driven by lack of confidence. Raised by a self-centered, competitive, arrogant father, they feel like they can never measure up or be enough to garner their father’s approval. Their father may be absent or critical and controlling. He may belittle and shame his ...
Views: 1183(1 vote) - STEPS TO BE EMPOWERED AND NOT A VICTIM - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2016 from Darlene LancerIn recovery circles, being a “victim” is frowned upon. Decades ago, when I heard people say they were no longer a victim, I had no idea what they meant. Actually, a victim is an individual who has been fooled, hurt, or harmed, due to his or her own emotions or ignorance, an unfortunate event, or ...
Views: 1111(1 vote) - Stop the Cycle of Abuse! - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2013 from Heather WattersConstantly leaving and being persuaded back into the trap of an abusive relationship is a cycle that needs to stop, and you can stop right now. This cycle will not end until you completely end all contact with your partner. Do not under estimate the power they have over you, and stop ...
Views: 799(1 vote) - Surviving Your Divorce when the Courts are New to Emotional Abuse! (by: Dr. Anne Brown RNCS) - by Submitted on May 19, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownPrepare to Fight When one person only wants to control and sabotage during the divorce, mediation is usually not an option and a waste of money. I have seen victims of emotional abuse in their marriage be victims of mediation because they are the only person bringing adult behavior to the ...
Views: 737(1 vote) - Tall, Dark and Dangerous - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2010 from Susan GreenI remember the first time I saw him. I had just turned 18 and was at my first, yes my first, boy girl party. He was tall dark and very handsome and he oozed confidence. I was shy and a bit of a wallflower, but he wandered over and asked me my name. From that day on we would be inseparable. My ...
Views: 1810(1 vote) - The ABC's of Healing From Abuse or Trauma - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2011 from Laura Bonetzky-JosephA - Acknowledge your tragedy and the truth surrounding it so healing may begin. Without acknowledgment, you can't begin to heal no matter what you try. B - Be gentle with yourself when you come to a speed bump in your road called "life". This is the universes way to force you to slow down and ...
Views: 5462(4 votes) - The Five Best Friends of the Abusive Man - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2012 from Gary DirenfeldThe Five Best Friends of the Abusive Man Truly abusive men are out for themselves. These are the narcissists and sociopaths who walk among us in plain clothes. Abusive men rely on these five strategies to gratify their needs ahead of or at the expense of their partner: 1. Denial Even with ...
Views: 2135(1 vote) - The Secret Life of a Feminist - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2013 from Lisa RaphaelThe Secret Life of a Feminist By Lisa Raphael The story of O was my bedside companion from the time of my first sexual encounters until I left my husband, thirty-five years later. A liberated woman, I never understood my fascination with the book. The story of O describes the ...
Views: 668(1 vote) - The Truth about Abusive Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2012 from Darlene LancerOver three million incidents of domestic violence are reported each year, and that includes men as well as women. One-fourth of U.S. women and one-third of women worldwide will experience violence in her lifetime. What isn’t talked about, but is serious, is emotional abuse that ranges from ...
Views: 1322(2 votes) - The Way I Made It Through Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Dan WooledgeThis story began when I flew from California to see a good friend that moved to Houston. He and I went out one night and all of a sudden, standing right in front of me, appeared the man of my dreams! This guy was captivating and exceedingly attractive. About six weeks down the line, I left my ...
Views: 472(1 vote) - THINKIATRY & LIFE WITHOUT NEGATIVE THOUGHTS - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2011 from John O'Brien, Ph.D.THINKIATRY & “LIFE WITHOUT NEGATIVE THOUGHTS” Posted on Thursday, January 6th, 2011 at 9:43 am THINKIATRY & LIFE WITHOUT NEGATIVE THOUGHTS - CLICK THIS LINK TO VIEW VIDEO. If you value the quality of your mental health and want a happier life, please make the time to try this simple ...
Views: 808(1 vote) - TIPS: How to Cope with Financial Abuse - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2013 from Sam VakninQ. Would narcissists often try to restrict their partner's independence by reducing their access to shared family finances? Why? A. Narcissists are control freaks, paranoid, jealous, possessive, and envious. They are the sad products of early childhood abandonment by parents, caregivers, role ...
Views: 1316(1 vote) - To Forgive Or NOT To Forgive Your Abuser or Offender? 3 Benefits of Forgiving And 3 Dangers of Not Forgiving - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2011 from Felicity OkoloForgiveness is a topic that is hard for people to come to terms with. Many people have their own views and opinions about forgiveness. Whether you choose to forgive your abuser or offender or you choose not to forgive, the choice is yours. Forgiveness is a choice. But before you decide whether ...
Views: 2175(2 votes) - Toxic People or Situation? LEAVE IT IN THE 'MYSTERY' - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2011 from Chelle ThompsonAll of us will encounter toxic individuals and circumstances in our lives at one time or another. During those experiences we need to use whatever helpful tools we can find to stay balanced and clear about "who we are." One of the methods I use to maintain perspective is to create a "healthy ...
Views: 1086(1 vote) - Toxic Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2012 from Michael ClearmanToxic Relationships Every person reading this piece is either in, has been in, or knows someone who has been in, a toxic relationship. The term is self-descriptive, the relationship is poisonous, and it is deadly. Remaining in this type of relationship may or may not lead to physical death ...
Views: 2247(3 votes) - Twenty Questions Identify Codependency Issues - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineIs Codependency a Problem in Your Life and in Your Relationships? Take the Quiz To find out if codependency is a problem in your life, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions: Do you put others’ feelings, desires and needs before your own? Are you drawn to ...
Views: 1124(1 vote) - Unexpected Trauma after Abuse - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2019 from Darlene LancerCodependency robs us of a self and self-love. We’ve learned to conceal who we really are, because we grew up pleasing, rebelling against, or withdrawing from dysfunctional parents. This sets us up for trauma. As adults, even if we’re successful in some areas, our emotional life isn’t easy. ...
Views: 99(2 votes) - Violence Against Women - Healing and Realization of the Good Within - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2011 from Cindy L. HerbThere is an enormous amount of violence against women. After such trauma, many of these women may feel there is no good within them. Therefore, healing from abuse may be necessary. Specifically, rape victims, sexual abuse survivors and/or domestic violence victims may require help to improve ...
Views: 946(1 vote) - Warning! Bad Boys may be dangerous to your emotional health! - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship Coach(Note: Bad Boys is a metaphor for toxic partners. Just flip the pronoun to female depending on your relationship). Bad Boys are everywhere. The corporate office, the gym, your neighborhood, a charity gala or the backyard bbq. Before they end up in your heart and in your bed, it will be in ...
Views: 1038(1 vote) - Warriors say No With Dignity, NOT With Excuses! - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownPeople-pleasers are at risk in the domains of finance, love, sex, family, and friendship. How is it that we can manage a successful business but still have a failed personal life? Extending a hand to others after taking care of yourself is how we make the world a better place for our children ...
Views: 283(1 vote) - WHAT IN THE WORLD IS A LIFE COACH? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2013 from Marina RatmanskyMany people have no idea what or who is a life coach and why in the world would they need one? OK, I will attempt to explain it to you. A life coaching is the relationship based on trust. The life coaching process helps people to identify what makes them frustrated and unhappy in their ...
Views: 501(1 vote) - What is Narcissistic Abuse? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2016 from Darlene LancerNarcissists don’t really love themselves. Actually, they’re driven by shame. It’s the idealized image of themselves, which they convince themselves they embody, that they admire. But deep down, narcissists feel the gap between the façade they show the world and their shame-based self. They work ...
Views: 1911(1 vote) - What's Behind Your Anger? - by Submitted on May 25, 2013 from Zarla LeahThe majority of people on the planet have had some sort of problem with anger and with people doing things that make them feel angry. People have looked at and dealt with anger in a variety of ways. I want to speak about anger today and what I have learned about it over the years. For a few ...
Views: 817(1 vote) - When the Abused Becomes the Abuser - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossIt doesn't always happen. But it happens to a large enough degree that it can be referred to as commonplace. A number of studies indicate that between 30 - 70% of young abusers (physical or sexual) have been sexually abused themselves. Statistics on adult abusers who were sexually abused as ...
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