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Strength Of The Circle
By Karel Murray
My breath exploded from my chest when I listened to my husband’s voice telling me of the sudden death of his oldest brother, Chris. There is just no other way to explain it. First I was breathing normally, enjoying the drive down a four lane highway ... Views: 1399
There are certain things that people talk openly about in today’s world that wouldn’t have been spoken about openly in the past and what is being spoken about can define whether progress is being made. However, there are many things that people talk about that show how far humanity has come.
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Death due to suicide is probably the most complex grieving experience we ever have to deal with. When a loved one commits suicide we are left wondering Why? Over and over that simple question just keeps coming up – Why?
Why would someone we love do that to themselves? What was going on in ... Views: 914
A miscarriage or a death of an infant is very sad. And though receiving condolences and support is so significant to the grieving process, most of the time it is difficult to know what not to say at all. Oftentimes, these worries keep people from supporting friends and reaching out to our loved ... Views: 2331
Three months after my brother died, I bumped into a friend I hadn’t seen in about six weeks. When she asked how I was doing, I naturally assumed she was concerned about how I was handling the grief. (This particular friend sent me a lovely condolence letter a few days after my brother’s ... Views: 8447
The words to the song “it’s the most wonderful time of the year” don’t ring true for everyone. If you’ve recently suffered the loss of a loved one, the holidays can bring sadness and dread to an otherwise cheerful season.
As a funeral service veteran, I’ve ... Views: 1961
Here I was again. From the time I was nine each time my mom went to the hospital I would wonder "Is this it?". "Will she survive?". My mother is now ninety-two and has been the victim of fifteen strokes, seventeen heart attacks and Parkinsons. She also suffers severe and sudden changes in ... Views: 1614
They say the death of a child is the greatest loss. I would say that I believe that. I lost two. If you're a mother I think you'd tend to agree. If you're not you can't vote on this one because only a mother can know the severe pain and grief that comes with the death of her child. Surviving the ... Views: 1831
The Suicide of a Loved One
How to resolve the feelings of guilt and regret
If only I had made more of an effort to engage my brother Henry more at our family Thanksgiving get-together. If only I had called him more often. If only I could have understood what was going on in his ... Views: 2211
When I was a counsellor with the UK Charity ChildLine, I spoke to children of all ages about many things that worried them, including the loss of a beloved pet, and grief in general.
I was trained to talk to children and not to 'bandage' a child's deep pain over the loss of a loved one. I ... Views: 2017
When a child has died, friends and relatives often have no idea how to provide support to the family during the stressful holiday season.
Following are 10 ways The Compassionate Friends, the world's largest self-help support organization for bereaved families, suggests for you to help families ... Views: 940
There are 6 fundamentals of grief recovery, which are very important to the grieving process. Most people try to avoid them not knowing that they are delaying their healing and advancement to the future.
Let us discuss them and evaluate your situation if you are grieving to see if you are or ... Views: 2014
The Art of Letting Go
People often find themselves irritated, operating at their max capacity, or weighed down. Perhaps some feel as if they are gripping on tightly to certain aspects in their life and cannot let go, or simply feeling sad. Many individuals can identify the feeling, but have ... Views: 2048
After my husband passed, a whirl of past and future danced in my mind. The sad movie of every memory we shared played endlessly: there he was on the night we met, the wildly handsome young man with a heavy mustache. Then we were waltzing on the dance floor of the restaurant he owned, stepping ... Views: 1373
Grief is a profound and intricate emotional journey that can impact every facet of our being, from our mental and emotional state to our physical well-being. While the process of grieving is deeply personal and can vary greatly from person to person, many individuals find solace and support in ... Views: 322
Recently I made a trip to the supermarket, and was delighted to be able to help an elderly couple with some of shopping’s little snags such as pulling the trolley out and reaching for higher goods. They reminded me of my parents, and I so wanted to go home with them. As we chatted, the woman ... Views: 1879
For some of us, mother’s day was wonderful and beautiful. Hopefully we can give thanks today for the wonderful times we shared yesterday with our families.
For others, mother’s day was tearful and sad. My thoughts go out to all those in grief who no longer have mothers who are living in the ... Views: 937
Nine months after the death of my mother I was finally able to cry.
To say that I was not grieving would have been an understatement. You just would not have seen it on the outside. Nevertheless, my inner turmoil was real.
It happened unintentionally and unexpectedly. I was just listening to ... Views: 621
If you have lost a loved one, or if someone you know is grieving, you might find yourself wondering ‘What are these five stages of grief I keep hearing about?’ and how they relate to you. Let me explain a little more about the five stages.
Author Elisabeth Kübler-Ross – a much respected grief ... Views: 3639
Where do we start? Should I tell you about the time my husband had to restrain me from punching a lady at the Comfort Inn? How about the time I spent an hour going through the yellow pages looking for psychics who communicate with the deceased? A more recent time was when I locked my keys in ... Views: 1365
The Grieving of America
We plan our lives according to a dream that came to us in childhood, and we find that life alters our plans.
—Ben Oki
We have seen and heard of job losses within our economy. As a result, individuals have lost their homes, status/lifestyle, dreams, and ... Views: 2250
Contrary to some skeptics’ assessment, the near death experiences carry profound spiritual messages to humanity that can transform the individual and the collective. In this article, we see their implications to people who have different dispositions in life.
General
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Often, I have been asked why I wrote my book, Farewell, My Friend (FMF), so I have decided to tell you.
My husband’s battle with lung cancer was an arduous journey for both Rick and I. It is a journey that many other caretakers have or will have to take during their lifetime. FMF is ... Views: 1740
Whenever an infant is born into the world of form, it is expected to perform its very first karma or action. That is the action of crying or wailing. If it does not wail, the doctors, parents and friends present get worried; they think something is wrong with the baby. They do everything they ... Views: 1643
Grieving is a process that starts at different points for different people after encountering a tragedy. Some start straight away while others lay dormant in shock until the reality of the situation hits home. Either way there is a large part of grieving that is unexpected and unexplained. It’s ... Views: 5493
The other day, I had a conversation with someone who was looking to do something meaningful to honor a loved one who had passed away, particularly due to unresolved emotions stemming from the relative's funeral. I've put together a list of ideas that I really felt compelled to share with ... Views: 317
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We’ve all watched in shock the news reports of the tragedy in Arizona, and this causes us once again to dig deep into our souls to search for meaning. Why would someone do this?
Let me start by saying that I am not a ... Views: 1376
Life moves along in flows and eddies. The more you attend to your inner world and heal the long-standing and deep-seated pain and trauma that live at the root of intrusive thoughts, the longer the stretches of eddies and the time you’ll stand amongst the reeds, flowing with the small moments of ... Views: 1109
Here I am sixty years old, without parents, without accountability to anyone but myself, staring at mortality and a member of the orphan club.
This is a club I or others do not aspire to belong. There is no age limit, no occupation restrictions, no ethnic or gender requirements, no time limit, ... Views: 2171
Whether it’s bipolar, depression, dementia or any other horrible mental disease, I don’t believe (at least in my findings) that many families can miss the boat.
Do you remember that new baby doll smell? I smelled it this morning when I was in the shower (A really good time for spirit ... Views: 1617
Poverty
Wore goggles, the writer was sitting alone in the dhoti-kurta that suddenly his mind goes towards the poor villages. He is whispering in mind about poverty. What is the poverty?. How does the poverty increase?. How to finish it?. He lost his two hours for it. He comes out of his ... Views: 1589
One of the saddest days of my life was the day that my father ended his struggle with cancer. Initially there was the relief that he would no longer suffer, followed by the acceptance that there was no other answer for him, they had done all that they could, and his life cycle was complete. But ... Views: 1288
Your tears have not yet dried. You haven't had time to experience your deep feelings about your loved one's suicide. In many ways, you're still in shock. Nevertheless, death, like anything else, has its own practicalities that must be accomplished. You, your family members and your loved one's ... Views: 3345
We are all connected. A tragedy such as this is proof that though we may not know any of those who have passed personally (or their family members and friends), the experience nonetheless hits a core in all of us.
Death — especially one of this magnitude — awakens the fragility of life. Most ... Views: 2185
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The River - by Kasia Jarosinska (www.spiritualshifts.com)
On a recent Big Sur backpacking trip, my boyfriend and I trekked about 6 miles out to a free flowing river. We were both in desperate need for recalibration, fresh air and clean mountain water. As we rock hopped down the river bend to find the perfect camping spot, we were graced with a nice ... Views: 1884
A lot of people have "heard" that you can make a lot of money by being a recruiter, however there are some personal downsides to the industry which have a more personal perspective. If you decide to enter the employment / recruitment field, here is what you are bound to see - especially in this ... Views: 1055
Being asked to give a eulogy can be a daunting occasion to rise to for a countless number of possible reasons. Giving a eulogy for those that meant the most to us means trying to come to terms with our loss enough in order to even be coherent and to also fulfill our deep need to do them ... Views: 6287
Grief is an integral part of life and living. Everyone grieves, although not everyone mourns. That is, not everyone goes public with their grief. They have been taught to keep it to themselves because it is much too personal.
Consequently, silent or suppressed grief tends to perpetuate many ... Views: 1422
Helen Keller has said that “the only way to get to the other side is to go through the door.” This is certainly true in the work of transforming grief into healing and growth. This process involves allowing ourselves to feel the intense emotions of grief – sadness, anger, ... Views: 2012
The thought and feeling that our loved one is going to die is never a consoling fact. Hence, anticipating grief is not an easy thing to do for everyone else involved. Anticipating grief is the period during which a family member or a patient is expected to die. This sorrow is somewhat the same ... Views: 849
If one had their eye on a new car and they were to take it for a drive, they are likely to find out that it drives well. Along with how it drives, it is also likely to be a comfortable experience.
So if they are currently driving a car that is on its way out, this experience is going to be ... Views: 1601
There IS light at the end of the tunnel!
Feel like you are suffocating in the darkness of your pain? Don’t think there’s any hope?
When you are in the midst of despair, I want you to know there IS light at the end of your tunnel. You may not think so right now, but it’s there. Many have ... Views: 1609