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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- How Do I Make My Husband Love Me Back? These Advice and Tips May Help You Figure Out The Best Approach - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2020 from Leslie CaneIt's hard to ignore the signs that your husband has checked out of the marriage or is pulling away from you. I get many emails from wives who outline several different behaviors - lack of physical affection, spending less time at home, distancing themselves from the family, being overly critical ...
Views: 410 - Is My Marriage Worth Saving Quiz: True Or False Questions To Help You Decide - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2020 from Leslie CaneI hear from a lot of folks who are trying to decide if their marriage is worth saving. They often want to tell me the details of their marriage and then get my opinion as to whether they should fight for their marriage or just give in and call it quits. The thing is, I never feel that I'm really ...
Views: 586 - Husband Says He Wants a Trial Separation, But You Don't? These Tips Might Help. - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2020 from Leslie CaneI'm often contacted by panicked wives who tell me that their husband is pushing for a trial separation and they want to know how to change his mind before he walks out the door. Their thinking is that, once their husband has actually left, it's going to be harder to get him to come back than it ...
Views: 508 - Want To Ask For A Second Chance In Your Marriage? Tips For Avoiding Harmful Mistakes. - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2020 from Leslie CanePerhaps your spouse is only frustrated in the marriage. Perhaps he or she has taken it further already asked for a divorce or break. Maybe you've simply made a mistake and want to ask your husband and wife for forgiveness, to start over, or for another chance. Whatever your circumstances, I ...
Views: 497 - How to Reconcile Your Marriage: Tips On Where To Place Your Focus - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2020 from Leslie CaneIf you've found this article, I know that there is one person in your marriage who is at least willing to consider reconciling. This is good news because I am living proof that repairing a marriage only takes one person who wants to, at least initially. This article is based on my personal ...
Views: 461 - Want to Win Your Husband Back? Here's How to Get Started - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2020 from Leslie CaneIf you're researching how to win your husband back, then you are probably where I was a few years ago - either your marriage isn't as stable as you'd like, or your husband has mentioned leaving or divorcing, or you feel that you're relationship is headed in a dangerous direction. I have no way ...
Views: 519 - Tips to Save a Marriage - My Top Three and My Best Advice - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2020 from Leslie CaneThe following tips may seem counterintuitive at times, but please bear with me. They are based on my personal experience and the endless research I conducted when I was trying to save my own marriage. Your success will depend on how well you play them and the state of your relationship today, ...
Views: 481 - Ways to Make Someone Fall Back in Love With You - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2020 from Leslie CaneIf you're reading this article, chances are you've just been through a breakup or separation of some kind and you want to repair the relationship or get back together. Perhaps your ex just wants a break, cooling-off period, separation, or he or she is not receptive to you at all. Whatever the ...
Views: 630 - Saving Your Marriage by Understanding and Correctly Addressing the True Causes of Divorce - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2020 from Leslie CaneAsk any five random people "what causes a divorce?" and you may hear a few different answers, but most people will likely answer with either "money," "infidelity," or "sex." These factors are indeed thought to be the most common causes of divorce, but they're only precursors to the number one ...
Views: 420 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm having major anxiety about the guy I'm dating - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm having major anxiety about the guy I'm dating. I wanted to talk with him, but I lost my strength when I asked about his ex and he gave me an answer like, "There are things you need to know and things you don't need to know and when things don't affect ...
Views: 715(1 vote) - My Husband Wants Out. Should I Let Him Go? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneI am asked this question a lot. Most times, I find that the person asking it doesn't really want to let her husband go (deep down) and wants to know something else. What most people are asking is: "Can one person save a relationship?" or "Can I change my husband's mind and save the marriage?" In ...
Views: 682 - Steps to Repair a Marriage: Three Steps You Can Take Right Now - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from people who want step-by-step instructions on how to repair their marriage. Often, they know that some change needs to happen, but they just don't know where to start. And, they are afraid of doing something that is only going to make matters worse. Many tell me they think that ...
Views: 552 - My Husband Lies All The Time. I Feel Like I Can't Trust Him And This Is Hurting Our Marriage - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany wives struggle with how to address their husband's lies. Sometimes, these lies have to do with very important things like money, fidelity, and the marriage itself. Other times, the lies themselves aren't about serious or deal-breaking topics, but the fact that he continuously lies to you ...
Views: 602 - Should I Go Back To My Husband To Try To Save My Family? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneFamily can be a huge contributing factor in whether you attempt to save your marriage or not. Many people confess to me that were it not for their children, the decision of whether or not to end their marriage would probably be a lot easier. Children can even factor into the equation once the ...
Views: 478 - I Want To Save My Marriage, But I Think My Husband Is Seeing Someone Else While We're Separated. - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from people (usually wives) who would very much like to save their marriage while they are separated, but they wonder if this will be possible because they suspect (or know for sure) that their husband is seeing someone else. It's hard enough to save your marriage together as a ...
Views: 506 - How Long Before My Husband Comes Home So We Can Try To Work Things Out And Save Our Marriage? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from wives who are practically pacing a trail on their floors as they are waiting for their husbands to decide to come back home and work things out. Sometimes, their husband is gone for much longer than they thought or would have hoped. Many times, he won't give them a straight ...
Views: 452 - I Don't Know If I'm Ready To End My Marriage: Tips And Advice That Might Help - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from people who just aren't sure if they are truly ready to walk away from their spouse and their marriage. Sometimes, they themselves are the ones who initiated the separation, divorce, or thoughts of giving up. Other times, they are responding to (and are at the mercy of) a ...
Views: 524 - My Husband Hasn't Talked About The Divorce In Months. Does This Mean I'm In The Clear? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2020 from Leslie CaneI speak with wives who know that their husband wants a divorce because he has either told them of his intentions directly or filed divorce papers. Sometimes though, the panic that they feel about this (especially when they don't want a divorce) gets a reprieve because the husband one day just ...
Views: 564 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man’s Relationships With Women Improve If He Heals His Mother Wounds? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to think about what his relationships have been like with women over the years, he may find that they have generally been good. On the other hand, he may find that this has been a challenging area of his life. This could be an area of his life that been full of conflict for as ...
Views: 541 - How Do I Give My Husband What He Needs To Save Our Marriage? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany wives who feel as if their marriage is in trouble suspect that they aren't giving their husband what he needs to feel completely happy in the marriage. Sometimes, these unsatisfied husbands will tell their wives exactly why they are so unhappy with complaints like: “I just don't feel like ...
Views: 584 - My Separated Husband Says He's Hurt Me Too Much To Come Home. What Now? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from wives whose husband is telling them that he isn't ready to come home or commit to the marriage because he fears that he's done something that has hurt her or his marriage too much. I might hear: “my husband left home about six weeks ago. He admitted to having an affair ...
Views: 518 - We’re Trying To Save Our Marriage, But Things Feel Forced - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from people who are trying to save their marriages, but who aren't sure if things are going as well as they had hoped. Many people tell me that things feel very awkward or “forced” and they are worried that this means that they are just not going to make it. A wife might say, ...
Views: 408 - My Separated Husband Says If He Comes Home Now, It Will Only Be Out Of Guilt - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2020 from Leslie CaneI hear from wives who are trying everything in their power to get their husbands to come back home. And some of the husbands will give the wives every reason under the sun why he can't come home. Sometimes, these reasons sound a lot like excuses and the wife can begin to wonder if he will ever ...
Views: 623 - For How Long Should I Hold On To My Marriage If My Separated Husband Has Feelings For Someone Else? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from wives who are well aware that their marriage is only hanging by a thread. Many feel as if they are barely hanging on. Sometimes, it's pretty clear that the husband's heart isn't fully in it, although perhaps he has made a commitment to you and your marriage. Sometimes, ...
Views: 456 - My Husband Will Not Even Talk About Saving Our Marriage. And He Won't Listen Either - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from wives who want to know how to broach the conversation about saving their marriage. And, they want to make sure that when they are having this discussion, their husband is agreeable to what they are saying. No one wants to feel as though they're speaking to a brick wall. Some ...
Views: 445 - My Husband Says He Wants To See Where Our Relationship Leads As Friends - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneOne thing that frustrates many wives who are newly separated or taking a husband initiated "break" from their marriage is the husband's lack of clarity about how things are going to work. The wife often wishes that he could be specific about how things are going to unfold in the days and weeks ...
Views: 468 - My Husband Says Our Marriage Is Not What He Wants Anymore And Insists He Won't Change His Mind. What Now? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneKnowing the couple I'm about to describe as I already do, I can pretty much picture the scene in my mind. And since I myself went through the same scene in what seems like another lifetime ago, I've felt what I know that the wife is feeling right now. I can literally not only see what probably ...
Views: 573 - Can My Marriage Be Saved When My Husband Wants A Separation? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from panicked wives whose husbands have just or recently told them that he wants a separation. For many wives, the "s word" is often akin to proclaiming that the marriage is most definitely over, at least in her eyes. Many people associate a separation with an eventual divorce and ...
Views: 460 - My Husband Says He's Leaving Me "To Think." What In The World Does He Need To Think About? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from wives whose husband has left them "because he needs some time to think." That's pretty much the extent of what he tells the wife. Rarely does he go a little deeper and offer up an explanation as to just what "thinking" actually means. Understandably, the wives are not ...
Views: 482 - Can My Marriage Be Saved When My Husband Wants A Separation? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from panicked wives whose husbands have just or recently told them that he wants a separation. For many wives, the "s word" is often akin to proclaiming that the marriage is most definitely over, at least in her eyes. Many people associate a separation with an eventual divorce and ...
Views: 505 - Is It Just A Cop-Out When Your Husband Says He Loves You But Is Not "In Love" With You? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from wives who have been fed the "I love you but I'm not in love with you" line that many husbands will give when they aren't sure if they want to be married anymore. This is a very common topic that comes up time and time again. Many of the wives have trouble understanding what ...
Views: 503 - 6 RULES LEARNED FROM HARRY AND MEGHAN ON SETTING BOUNDARIES - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2020 from James Mapes“Boundaries define us. They define what is me and what is not me. A boundary shows me where I end and someone else begins, leading me to a sense of ownership. Knowing what I am to own and take responsibility for gives me freedom.” – Henry Cloud, American author Do you set boundaries ...
Views: 890 - I Wasn't A Good Wife In The Past, But I've Changed. How Can I Get My Husband Back? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany of the wives who contact me about finding a way to save their marriages realize that they had some part in the marital collapse. I often hear comments like: "we grew apart," or "we didn't make an effort to stay connected." Another example is "things just changed between us and the spark ...
Views: 624 - Should I Try To Make My Husband Feel Guilty For Wanting A Divorce? How? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from wives who are scrambling to come up with the best course of action after their husband tells them that he wants a divorce. Many of them are looking for a way to make their husbands either regret the decision to divorce or to see that it is the wrong decision in the first ...
Views: 497 - I Want To Make My Marriage Work, But I'm Not Sure If It's Possible Anymore. - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany wives who contact me are going through some serious turmoil within their marriage. Some are just beginning a separation and some have even been served with divorce papers. Others just know that their marriage is in serious trouble. Despite all of the drama going on their lives, many of ...
Views: 539 - Having Trouble Making or Keeping a Relationship? 4 Professionals to Consult - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2020 from Meghan BelnapSomeone once said that 90 percent of your joy or misery comes from the person that you marry. This means that you need to choose the right person and find ways to resolve any disagreements or problems that won’t damage their relationship. Fortunately, there are professionals who can help people ...
Views: 676 - READY FOR POSITIVENESS YET? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2020 from Emma ViglucciAfter large numbers of deaths in NY/NJ, the outbreak seems to be slowing down and the curve flattening a bit in this area. Yay! This is just the beginning of seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Hey, I’ll take ANY good news. Focusing on the good is Good… What insights have you gotten ...
Views: 592 - Easy Tips To Prevent Your Husband From Divorcing You - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2020 from Leslie CaneMost of the people who contact me are willing to do just about anything to save their marriage and prevent a divorce. Sometimes, their spouse doesn't want a divorce either, but this isn't always the case. The situation that I most often see is that one spouse is considering a divorce, while the ...
Views: 540 - I Just Don't Feel That My Husband Loves Me - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2020 from Leslie CaneI recently heard from a wife who felt strongly that her husband no longer loved her. For the past couple of years, she had noticed a shift in her marriage. He no longer lit up when he looked at her. He no longer listened intently when she talked. He no longer spontaneously touched her or showed ...
Views: 526 - Dr. Romance: 3 Ways to Ruin Your Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2020 from Tina TessinaEspecially during trying times like isolation, relationships can be devastated by simple, thoughtless things. Bad behavior will ruin your marriage faster than any temptation from the outside. Dr. Romance points out the worst mistakes to make in a marriage. Dr. Romance's 3 ways to ...
Views: 769(1 vote) - I Want My Husband Even More Now That He's Left Me. Is This Normal? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2020 from Leslie CaneI recently heard from a wife who wasn't sure why she felt the way that she did. Her husband of five years had decided that he wasn't happy being married and he felt that he should explore life on his own to see if it would make him happier. He didn't give the wife much warning about this. He ...
Views: 493 - I'd Do Anything To Get My Husband To Stay. What Can I Do? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from wives who are desperate for some sort of plan to make their husbands stay with them. Often, the husband has suggested a break, separation, or divorce. This is usually the last thing that the wives who write to me want. A wife might say, in part: "I would do absolutely ...
Views: 489 - My Separated Husband Is Nice To Everyone Except Me. Why? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany separated wives notice a transformation in their separated husband. They can't deny that he's actually a more pleasant person than he was before the separation. This would almost seem like a positive transformation - if the wife herself could enjoy it. You see, often the wife can't help but ...
Views: 702 - How to Have Meaningful Conversations With Your Separated Spouse - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2020 from Leslie CaneWhen you are reluctantly separated and want to save your marriage, you often intuitively know that communication is vitally important. Saving your marriage means that you are going to eventually need to overcome what drove you apart in the first place and then re-create the intimacy that will ...
Views: 592 - How Do I Convince My Separated Husband To Communicate With Me? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany wives are very upset during their marital separation because their worst fear is literally coming true. Although their husband may have reassured them that they would stay in constant contact, once the separation begins, he can go silent. Many of the wives intuitively realize the inherent ...
Views: 634 - Father Wounds: Will A Woman Come Into Contact With Men That Remind Her Of Her Father? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman was to talk about what her father was like when she was growing up, she may say that he was very loving and supportive or she could say the complete opposite. Having said that, she may say something in between; saying something that is neither positive nor negative. However, as she ...
Views: 824 - FOCUS ON BUILDING STAMINA AND RESILIENCE - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2020 from Emma ViglucciAs the saga of Covid-19 continues and the outbreak is expected to peak in our area this coming week, now is the time to generate as much mental strength and fortitude as we can muster. It is not easy witnessing so much illness and death. Other parts of the country are trailing behind us, so ...
Views: 649 - Dear Dr. Romance: I would be honored and privileged if I could end up marrying her. - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently read your article "The Challenges of Blended Families" focused on interfaith couples and their impact on raising children. I wanted to reach out to you as a last resort to saving my relationship. My girlfriend and i have been together for three ...
Views: 823(1 vote) - Adult Video Games Can Lead To Poor Relations With Family And Friends - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2020 from Mike MedsenAnother investigation interfaces youthful grown-ups' utilization of computer games to less fortunate associations with loved ones – and the understudy co-creator communicates disillusionment at his own discoveries. Brigham Young University student Alex Jensen and his workforce guide, Laura ...
Views: 832 - Get the sympathy gifts you want - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2020 from Marina PalThe death of a loved one can cause serious emotional turmoil and upheaval in a person’s life. If someone close to you has recently lost a loved one, you may be at a loss for how to express your sympathy for them. Any combination of words you come up with may sound weak and insufficient. It ...
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