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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Dr. Romance On Spreading Kindness - by Submitted on May 08, 2020 from Tina TessinaKindness is the lubrication for life, love and relationships. When you spread kindness, it comes back in many ways, and it’s the foundation of happiness. "Dr. Romance" shows how kindness works and why it’s important to learn to live kindly, even in today’s cynical ...
Views: 703(1 vote) - How Can I Make My Husband Understand My Feelings? These Tips Might Help - by Submitted on May 08, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from wives who feel as if they may as well be speaking a foreign language to their husbands because he doesn't seem to understand what they are saying, especially when it comes to their feelings. It's often a struggle to make their husband listen and understand, especially when ...
Views: 733 - My Husband Feels That Our Marriage is Not Workable - Tips and Advice That May Help When Your Spouse Feels Your Marriage Is Broken - by Submitted on May 08, 2020 from Leslie CaneThe other day, I received an email from a wife who said that no matter what she says or does, she can not convince her husband that their marriage can be made better or can be saved. She said in part: "I just can't get my husband to understand and believe that if we were both committed to doing ...
Views: 569 - How To Prepare For A Separation: 5 Things To Consider Or Think About Before You Begin A Martial Separation. - by Submitted on May 08, 2020 from Leslie CaneI suspect that many people reading this article are terrified. They're frightened because a trial or marital separation is in their near future and they are worried that is going to make things worse rather than better. They're concerned that the marital separation is going to set them on the ...
Views: 622 - A Trip to Niagara Falls to Revive Relationship with your Partner - by Submitted on May 08, 2020 from Ravi DashThe Niagara falls in Canada are one of the most beautiful natural wonders of the world. There is something about watching water fall from a height as you stand close and get drenched in the mist. It adds romance to the atmosphere and if you have your partner with you then you should enjoy the ...
Views: 606 - I Don't Care Enough About My Husband Or My Marriage Anymore. Is This A Phase? What To Consider Before You Think About Leaving. - by Submitted on May 07, 2020 from Leslie CaneI believe that most of us like to think that the deterioration of our marriage would be swift and noticeable. We like to think that it would be an obvious change that we would not only notice, but to which we would quickly react. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. Much of the time, the ...
Views: 634 - HOW TO MANAGE THE FATIGUE - by Submitted on May 07, 2020 from Emma ViglucciWe are slowly starting the reopening and easing up on the lockdown. Different areas have had different levels of lockdown, and people have taken it seriously to different degrees. Regardless, it’s been a long haul already managing the restrictions and their impact, and looking into what this ...
Views: 586 - I'm Bored With My Marriage And My Husband. What Can You Do When You're Tired Of Your Spouse? - by Submitted on May 07, 2020 from Leslie CaneI wish I could tell you that the vast majority of correspondence that I get are from people who are perfectly happy with their marriage and are incredibly content with their spouse. This isn't the case, though. Most of the time, I hear from people who feel as if their marriage, or their feelings ...
Views: 633 - My Husband Refuses To Grow Up. He Claims He'll Change And Act Like An Adult To Save Our Marriage, But I've Heard It Before - by Submitted on May 07, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany people are skeptical about their spouse's claims that they will make drastic changes in order to save their marriage. Often, this whole speech sounds very familiar because they have heard it all before. And this leaves them with more doubt than confidence. A wife might complain: "For the ...
Views: 1236 - I Don't Think I Love My Spouse Anymore. I Don't Feel Romantic Toward Him And Feel Numb When He Says 'I Love You.' Does This Mean My Marriage Is Over? - by Submitted on May 07, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from people who are alarmed to find that they no longer have any strong feelings for their spouse. Often, they wish that they did still have these feelings because that would make life a lot easier for themselves or for their families. But, when they are being honest, they have ...
Views: 636 - My Separated Husband Never Apologizes. He's Nasty And Rude To Me. Should I Be Mean To Him Or Demand An Apology In Response? - by Submitted on May 07, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany wives are very disappointed in the way that their husband is acting during a trial or marital separation. Often, the wives had hoped that the time apart would actually improve both people's behavior. But, much to their dismay, the opposite has happened. One might say: "things weren't ...
Views: 523 - Is It Normal To Second Guess Yourself Or Have Second Thoughts About Separating? I Thought I Wanted The Separation, But Now I Realize I Made A Mistake And Love My Spouse - by Submitted on May 07, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from spouses who, during a separation or break that they themselves had asked for, had the sudden realization as to what a huge mistake they made. I often hear comments like "I'm the one who pushed for the separation. I really thought I'd fallen out of love with my spouse. But, ...
Views: 450 - How to Boost Libido: 5 Methods That Work - by Submitted on May 07, 2020 from Alex NickLibido is unique to each person and most people will experience fluctuations in libido over time. Luckily, there are many ways to reclaim your sex drive. If you need advice, check out these five methods that work to boost libido. 1. Emphasize Foreplay The longer you are in a ...
Views: 546 - My Husband Never Initiates Affection: Why Wouldn't A Husband Want To Show His Wife Affection? - by Submitted on May 06, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from married folks who are quite distressed by the lack of affection in their marriage. Many want to understand why this pattern may exist so that they can come up with a plan to change it. A wife might say: "for the last five years or so, my husband hasn't wanted to show me ...
Views: 658 - My Separated Husband Never Comforts Me When I'm Upset. Should He Still Care For Me Emotionally? Tips For Improving His Emotional Intelligence. - by Submitted on May 06, 2020 from Leslie CaneIt's common for wives to feel that their husband is not as emotionally connected as they are. This can be true whether you are currently separated or not. (A separation does add another complication to the mix, but most wives have wondered if their husband is as emotionally invested as he should ...
Views: 1164 - My Husband Has Emotionally Checked Out And Is Cold And Distant. How Can I Make Him Love Me Again When He's Emotionally Detached? - by Submitted on May 06, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany of the women who visit my blog can literally feel their husband or their boyfriend slipping away from them. The distance is a feeling that has become so real that you can almost touch it. I often hear things like "our relationship today is just so different. He's cold, indifferent, and ...
Views: 472 - My Husband Sabotages My Happiness: He Could Care Less Whether I'm Happy Or Not. - by Submitted on May 06, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from folks who think that things are lopsided in their marriage. One example is the spouse who thinks that although she values her husband's happiness above her own, he doesn't return the favor. And over time, she has come to believe that he could care less whether her happiness ...
Views: 755 - My Husband And I Never Have Fun Anymore: He Says I'm No Fun And Boring So He Wants A Separation - by Submitted on May 06, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from people who are facing a separation and who don't necessarily agree with the reasoning that their spouse is offering up. And even if they do see some validity to their reasoning, they often just don't how to change who or what they already are. Here's just one example. I ...
Views: 552 - My Husband Is Never Satisfied With Me. I'm Never Enough. How Do I Make Him Want What He Has? - by Submitted on May 06, 2020 from Leslie CaneIn a perfect world, your spouse would be your biggest cheerleader. He is the one who should lift you up and defend you against all others. When you're feeling bad about yourself or have doubts, he is the one who should tell you that you are more than fine just the way you are - or at the very ...
Views: 584 - My Husband Is Unhappy With Family Life: He No Longer Wants The Responsibility Of A Wife, Marriage, And Family - by Submitted on May 06, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from wives who honestly believe that they are losing their husbands due to a situation that is very difficult to change. Many people believe that if you know why your spouse isn't happy, then the logical thing to do would be to fix the problem causing the unhappiness and then to ...
Views: 411 - How to Be Gently Assertive - by Submitted on May 06, 2020 from Chris HamiltonAre you someone who faces a problem in saying no? Or you think that people do not listen when you speak? If yes, then there is a lack of confidence. If you are here, you are surely trying to change this scenario. Putting a point and standing up for what you believe in is right, of course. ...
Views: 771 - How To Save A Marriage When The Trust Is Gone. Rebuilding The Trust In A Troubled Or Separated Marriage - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from people who are very clear (and remorseful) about the fact that the big contributing factor to them separating from their spouse is a lack of trust. Often, one spouse has done something unfortunate and significant enough for the other to lose trust in them, which has led to ...
Views: 439 - My Husband Always Leaves When We Fight. He Has Left Me Multiple Times. Should I Just Give Up And Divorce Him? - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneWhen you are newly separated, things can feel so dire. There is a lot of shock and also a great sense of urgency. But what happens if you have been through a separation multiple times? What if your spouse makes a habit of leaving you at the first sign of a fight? Well, then the shock can ...
Views: 610 - How Do I Reconcile With My Husband After A Separation When He Says He's Not Ready For A Reconciliation? - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneMany wives are crushed that their husband will not agree to a reconciliation. Sometimes, they are separated. And other times, they are just living separate lives within the same house. Often, the wives aren't sure how to best address this, especially when the two seem so far apart, with no ...
Views: 493 - For How Long Should A Trial Separation Last? What Is The Average Time For A Separation Before Reconciliation? - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from folks who are getting ready to separate from their spouse. Many never wanted the separation to begin with and they are dreading it now. So, they want to know what they are up against and how long they must endure it. Some of them are dealing with spouses who are insinuating or ...
Views: 766 - The Most Effective Ways To Save Your Marriage Despite A Trial Separation - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneI find that very few people go into a separation thinking that it is going to improve their marriage. Very few people are excited about it. But many feel that it might be their only hope if they want to avoid a divorce. And, since its natural to try to look on the bright side, many of us hope ...
Views: 418 - My Husband Says He Doesn't Love Me Anymore and Wants a Divorce - How Do I Cope With This? - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneI recently heard from a wife who was devastated and not sure that she could cope. Her husband had just dropped a huge bombshell when he announced that he no longer loved her and wanted a divorce. She was highly emotional, understandably, and she didn't know how to begin to process this (much ...
Views: 654 - My Husband Wants To Leave Me But I Still Love Him. What Can I Do? - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from wives who are fairly certain that their husband is going to leave them. Some of them just have a strong feeling or suspicion that their husband is unhappy. Others have husbands who have been very honest about the fact that he is considering moving out. Many of the wives do ...
Views: 611 - Signs Your Husband Doesn't Want to Be Married to You Anymore (And What You Can Begin To Do About It) - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often get emails from wives who suspect that their husband no longer wants to be in the relationship. Often, people ask me for "signs that a husband doesn't want to be married or in the marriage anymore." And, I often will respond with a list of danger signs to watch for, but I also typically ...
Views: 561 - How to Reconnect With Your Husband During A Separation Through Gradual, Increasingly Meaningful Conversations - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneWhen you are reluctantly separated and want to save your marriage, you often intuitively know that communication is vitally important. Saving your marriage means that you are going to eventually need to overcome what drove you apart in the first place and then re-create the intimacy that will ...
Views: 1073 - How Do I Make My Husband Love Me Again During Our Separation? How To Pull Him Closer When You Feel Him Pulling Away. - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneIf the martial or trial separation was never your choice, then the chances are good that you are looking for any way to end it and to carry on with your marriage. Many people suspect that one very efficient and effective way to end the separation is for their spouse to come to the realization ...
Views: 1070 - Trial Separation Statistics: What Are The Odds Of Getting Back Together After A Separation? What Are The Chances Of Reconciling? - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneIt's not uncommon for people facing a trial separation to seek out statistics on the same. It's normal to want to know what you are up against. People want to know if separation is usually a precursor to divorce or if the process actually helps most of the couples who attempt it. Before I go ...
Views: 533 - How To Avoid A Separation In Your Marriage (Without Trying To Talk, Pressure, Or Scare Your Spouse Out Of It.) - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from people whose spouse has announced that he wants to separate or divorce. Most of the people I hear from do not agree to this. But of course, there are two people in any marriage. So just one person wanting to remain together does not necessarily mean that it is going to ...
Views: 1032 - Relationships: Can Someone Project Their Parent/s Onto Other People? - by Submitted on May 05, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone perceives another person and the experiences that they have with them, it might not seem as though they are having much of an effect. One is then just aware of what this person is like and when they spend time with them, they won’t be playing a part, ...
Views: 729 - Ways To Get The Spark Back In Your Marriage When All the Love Has Been Lost And The Chemistry Is Gone - by Submitted on May 04, 2020 from Leslie CaneI get this question quite often from folks who feel that their marriage has reached the point of no return. They feel as if they and their spouse have become strangers and while they may not be actively fighting, they are not actively loving either. The spark is gone. The chemistry is off. The ...
Views: 366 - My Husband Straight Up Told Me He Doesn't Love Me Anymore - by Submitted on May 04, 2020 from Leslie CaneI recently heard from a wife who recently had a very upsetting exchange with her husband. They had recently exchanged some pretty heated words and the husband threw up his hands and said their whole marriage was a "farce and a joke." This stopped the wife cold in her tracks because normally when ...
Views: 912 - How To Reconcile With Your Husband After A Separation By Understanding (And Acting On) The Power Of Distance - by Submitted on May 04, 2020 from Leslie CaneIt would be nice if reconciling a marriage was an easy task, with both parties committed and confident that it is possible to work things out. But, this isn't always the case. Most people who visit my site are wives (and sometimes husbands) who are either trying to save the marriage alone, or ...
Views: 480 - My Husband Gets Angry When I Try To Talk To Him About Our Trial Separation: I Just Want To Know How It Would Work And He's Evasive. Why? - by Submitted on May 04, 2020 from Leslie CaneWhen your spouse starts talking about a trial separation, it is perfectly natural, (and understandable,) to want as many details as you can possibly get. After all, it is pretty obvious that your life is going to change dramatically. Because of that, you want specific details, so that you can ...
Views: 975 - I Lied To My Husband And Now He Wants A Divorce: How To Save Your Marriage When You've Lied To Your Husband - by Submitted on May 04, 2020 from Leslie CaneI recently heard from a wife who told me that her husband had firmly told her that he was "sick of" her lies and was considering a divorce. The wife had to admit that the husband was extremely justified in his frustration. In truth, the wife had lied to him early in their relationship. And, to ...
Views: 539 - When a person should consult with a psychologist? - by Submitted on May 04, 2020 from Dinesh KumarAs per the American Psychological Association, psychology is the study of human mind behavior. It tells about the secrets of how the mind works and how does it affect the behavior of a person. Psychology covers all aspects of the human experience-from functions of the brain to the actions of the ...
Views: 588 - Love Advice from the Divine May 2020 - by Submitted on May 28, 2020 from Tanisha Snipes-DixonThis is the month of detachment and letting things go. You’ve been holding on to this pain and confusion for too long and now is the time to release and let go. There are times when we must remove ourselves from a situation to see the bigger picture. This person has left you depleted and has ...
Views: 795 - Everything you need to Know about Grief Counseling and Counselor - by Submitted on May 03, 2020 from Ella RichWhat is grief counseling? Grief is a feeling that is very common in humans, and possibly even in some animals. This feeling is often associated with catastrophic loss, such as the death of a loved one. However, as humans we can feel grief after the loss of almost anything, including our ...
Views: 623 - How to Handle your Relationship with a Gamer Partner - by Submitted on May 02, 2020 from Ravi DashGamers are slightly different from others. They are very passionate about playing virtual games. I mean it isn’t easy sitting at one place and playing for hours and hours. Some may get restless in such conditions, being stuck inside. Gamers present an interesting challenge to relationships. So ...
Views: 648 - ARE YOU ON THE SAME PAGE ABOUT MONEY? - by Submitted on May 02, 2020 from Emma ViglucciAs there has been so much talk of doom and gloom about the economy and everything economy related, crashing oil prices, recession in line with the Great Depression, major layoffs and furloughs, businesses closing down and the rest of it, finances are on our minds more than ever. This is ...
Views: 622 - I Left My Husband But It Was A Mistake. I Miss Him And Feel Guilty. Should I Go Back To Try To Save My Family? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2020 from Leslie CaneFamily can be a huge contributing factor in whether you attempt to save your marriage or not. Many people confess to me that were it not for their children, the decision of whether or not to end their marriage would probably be a lot easier. Children can even factor into the equation once the ...
Views: 488 - How To Talk To Your Husband To Save Your Marriage: Is There Anything That You Do Or Say To Change His Mind? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2020 from Leslie CaneNot only is it very painful when your spouse starts talking about being unhappy in your marriage, but it's also panic-inducing. We often begin to picture the worst-case scenario almost immediately and some of us have an almost instant need to attempt to change his mind. To demonstrate, I ...
Views: 1032 - When Is It Time To Stop Trying To Save Your Marriage If You're Miserable And Unhappy? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes get correspondence from people who confess that their marriage has been "unhappy," "stale," or "unfulfilling" for quite a while. And, most have hung in there because they had hoped things would get better or because they were opposed to a separation or divorce. But after a while of ...
Views: 501 - My Husband Says It's Too Little Too Late To Save Our Marriage. How Do I Change His Mind? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2020 from Leslie CaneI sometimes hear from wives who are desperately trying to convince their husbands that it's possible to save their marriage. Sometimes, the husband remains firm in his belief that the marriage is too far gone to save. I recently heard from a wife in this situation. She said, in part: "I'm pretty ...
Views: 1034 - How Do I Make My Husband Value And Respect Me More? How Do I Make Him Realize My Worth? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2020 from Leslie CaneI often hear from people who don't feel completely appreciated by their spouse. And, this complaint can come from both a husband and a wife. It is not limited to one particular sex or gender. However, I find that women tend to feel unappreciated a bit more since household and child-rearing ...
Views: 489 - My Husband And I Don't Talk Anymore. What Does This Mean? What Can I Do About It? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2020 from Leslie CaneI strongly believe that one early indication that your marriage might be in trouble is the fact that you and your spouse rarely talk anymore. This was one warning sign that I missed, assuming that my husband and I had just hit a "comfortable phase" where we were mostly just reading one another's ...
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