Relationship Advice Articles

IF BY NOW YOU: 1) Have enrolled with numerous on-line dating sites, shaped your profile, chatted with others, went on many dates, but was never able to develop a satisfying relationship; and 2) Have always blamed your partners (or dates) for the failure of a possible relationship; and 3) Have repeatedly claimed that you wish to find a suitable partner with whom to develop a satisfying relationship – but in vain, THEN

If you hate conflict, you could spend a long time stewing in your anger before you express it to the person who caused it. By then, your anger may have built to levels beyond reason. Or maybe you zipped off an e-mail, comforted by the fact that technology helped you avoid a face-to-face confrontation. But sometimes your relationships need that personal conversation to clear things up and move on to more enjoyable interaction. The trick is to do it without becoming so angry that you lash out and hurt the person you love.

We’ve all heard our friends talk about chemistry and connections. Rock stars sing about the “chemicals between us” and movies depict racing hearts, sweaty palms, and love at first sight. Have you wondered where all of these scientific, chemical, and physiological terms and ideas manifest in relation to love and attraction? It might surprise you to know just how much of your relationship is invested in hormones. Why do we even have “Chemistry” with other people?

Are you lonely? Do you believe you just need to learn to live with this? Recent research on loneliness indicates that almost half of Americans experience themselves as lonely, and, surprising, more young people are lonely than the elderly. (https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2018/05/01/606588504/americans-are-a-lonely-lot-and-young-people-bear-the-heaviest-burden)

Without their partner in the picture, people start planning their lives during the post-break up period. Since you have to reassess what you want and where you want to go, it's a very confusing time. If after weeks since the break up and your ex hasn't made a move, nevertheless, it's very hard if you say, 'I want my ex to want me back'. Here are some things you can do if you want to either speed up the process a bit or see if there's still a chance. The ability to press someo

At our recent retreat in Assisi, Italy, besides visiting powerful spiritual places, our group entered into an atmosphere of deep healing. Sometimes Joyce and I have the opportunity not only to lead the retreat, but also to participate in some of the exercises for our own continual healing, which is an ongoing lifetime adventure. One morning, all of us in the group revisited our childhoods to more closely examine those things that still have power over us. We did this in small groups of four persons and, when it was my turn, I revisited some physical violence from my parents.

As a psychologist and relationship counselor for over 25 years, I speak from experience when I say that love is an ocean of infinite depths: people are complex, riddled with flaws and hidden desires, seeking to be accepted and understood. Different partners draw different emotions out of us—some we didn't even know we had—and keeping up a happy relationship can become tedious. Yet human beings also possess an unyielding need to love and be loved. Some people need help releasing this love they hoard within.

If you are one of the many women underpaid for your work, it is your individual responsibility to make sure you do what you can to correct this situation. Sure, there are many exte al variables that prevent women from getting paid what they are worth, but each individual woman must handle her own situation and insist she earn the salary she deserves. (Leave it to the Sheryl Sandberg’s of the world to spearhead policy and legislative change to close the gender wage gap; but until these changes occur, you must take action into your hands.)

Dear Dr. Romance: I have been married to my wife for 19 years and I have ask her to tell me her fantasies for along time, she says she has none, Is this possible? She always wants oral sex buts never gives any back, Do you have anything I could try to open her up to new things? Dear Reader:

Each time we survive the loss of a love, any kind of love, life takes on new meaning. We hurt, we cry, we learn, we grow. We promise ourselves that the next time around, we will be smarter and wiser and we are. . . . . until the next time.

As friends of yours share their thoughts, feelings, fears and needs with you, keep in mind that it is impossible to truly understand what motivates people to behave, feel and think the way they do. The same might hold true to you: you yourself think, feel and behave with your partners and in your relationships according to your own interpretations of whatever situation you find yourself in. As you understand your reasoning for whatever situation you find yourself in, the more empowered you become to develop a successful intimate relationship.

Your spiritual guidance is always here for you, but you need to know how to access it. Connecting with Spirit is simple, but not always easy. ________________________________________ What if you knew that you are never alone - that you are always being guided by a personal source of spiritual guidance? If you knew and experienced this, you would undoubtedly feel safe and peaceful most of the time.

Being in a relationship can make a strong life, knowing that you have someone special, who will care for you. But at the same time, wrong or bad relationships can play the role of an unwanted drug; which must be left as soon as possible, only to gain a healthier relationship with yourself. Without any doubt, it must be ascertained that bad relationships can really have adverse effects on anyone’s health. So, if you too are confused if you should go for a break-up, here are some signs that will help you know that your relationship is over and that you need to split from your partner.

I know people in my life who when asked how are things going, will reply, “I’m living the dream.” Can you say the same? If you could, what would it mean? As far back as Sigmund Freud, psychologists have been saying that there are two major areas in a person’s life---love and work. When you are ...

Many singles find dating too difficult at times. Indeed, singles are “connected” with many others via social networks, but still find it difficult to find a suitable partner, develop and maintain a satisfying intimate relationship. Convincing themselves that they are just too busy to look, search and find a partner – rather than attempting to understand what it is that hinders their attempts! – many of them resort to hiring personal coaches, advisors or dating experts, hoping that these professionals will match them with the “right” person.

Dear Dr. Romance:

SENSUALITY! Do you have an idea of what sensuality entails, or what it means? Everyone has that smirk on their face, contemplating their last sexually fulfilled experience. Wait, that may be partially true. However, are you sensual outside of the sexual realm? Are you confusion now? Yes, sexual should definitely include and even enhance the sensual realm! Though sensual needs to be clearly defined and examined and I will break it down into two parts: 1) emotional and 2) physical

Remember getting through a breakup listening to music that defined your situation the best? And running a car on the highway listening to music that created an environment? I definitely do. All of us do. But why is it said how does music affect teenagers’ emotions and behavior when we choose to listen to it accordingly?

I was born in early Spring, between March 20th and 19th April, when the Sun was in Aries, the Sign of the Ram. Aries is the first sign of the zodiac, beginning at the Spring Equinox. From this point onwards (in the northern hemisphere) the days are longer than the nights. Spring has sprung! Aries is the cardinal fire sign. Cardinal signs show an equal balance of power and adaptability, whereas Fixed signs like Taurus are more powerful than adaptable, and Mutable signs like Pi

There is so much talk these days in our personal and professional lives about the importance of people ‘connecting’. Business networking is about connecting, good personal relationships need connection between two people, therapists ask couples, ‘do you feel connected?’ And the current mother of all connecting species: “friending” on Facebook! So what’s all this connecting business about?

The pain of failing to find and cultivate a successful intimate relationship must be horrible to endure. Especially if you have been trying for quite some time to find a partner and develop a lasting bond. Maybe the time has come for you to stop the excessive dating-rush and take the time to learn about yourself and the ways in which you shoot yourself in the foot. The “long” way is sometimes the short one. YET YOU KEEP RUNNING, RUSHING, HURRYING: * You go on as many blind dates as possible on any given week.r

How are you limiting yourself to limit your partner? What are the consequences of this? "As long as you keep a person down, some part of you has to be down there to hold him down, so it means you cannot soar as you otherwise might." ~Marian Anderson 1902-1993, Concert and Opera Singer "I've always wanted to take flying lessons," Ginnie told me in our phone session.

Are you looking for Christian relationship help because you struggle with speaking the truth in your relationships? Then, this biblical truth and tip will help you. It is especially problematic to communicate your perceptions, feelings, choices, needs, and beliefs to difficult people. One of the misconceptions we have is thinking that we have to get the other person to agree with our truth. This keeps us in a place where we are stuck and unable to move on when the person doesn't agree with us. We react by arguing, nagging, threatening, lecturing, and re-explaining.

Dear Dr. Romance:

When you get into an argument with a loved one, there are good and bad ways to handle it. A major argument can escalate into something worse, leading to saying or doing things that you will regret. You will want to avoid an argument that can develop into a physical altercation. Here are some tips for getting through a rough patch with your significant other. Walk Away to Calm down While some experts say that you shouldn’t walk away in anger from an argument with a significa

Healing a broken heart is paramount for those living in broken relationships. People settle in bad relationships and are unwilling to move forward to a place of peace and healing for various reasons.

At some point after a breakup, this line would most likely cross the mind of one of the wounded parties: “I want my ex back.” While there are some who would dismiss this thought after giving themselves some time for healing and closure, there are also some who persistently cling to the hope that perhaps they should give the relationship a second chance. In case the latter happens to you, here are some tips and tricks on how you could win back your former significant other

Welcome to summer! Okay, so it’s hot. We all know that. Make yourself some lemonade and USE the heat to your romantic advantage. Get creative – what did you enjoy, way-back-when, when you had more unstructured time available to you? So you need a jump start on this one? Well, here are some suggestions: • Go for a walk in the park as it starts to cool off in the afte oon/evening. C’mon, clown around and go for a ride on the swings! - Watch a gorgeous sunset together. - Go o

“I slept and dreamt that life was joy. I awoke and saw that life was service. I acted and behold, service was joy.” --Rabindranath Tagore

By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. ________________________________________ The disturbing lack of a personal spiritual connection that many experience has huge ramifications for our planet. ________________________________________

I have a confession: I was confronted by a friend recently. She suggested that I might possibly be living more from my head than my heart. She wanted to know where all the successful relationships were and was asking me, since I am THE REALationship Coach (That's pretty much the way she said it, too!) to show her evidence that these happy and successful relationships really existed. She was angry. She was hurt.

When we enter relationships, we do so with the knowledge that we will be providing the person with emotional commodities and that they will be doing the same for us. Every relationship is filled with needs. Each individual will have different needs, and each relationship will provide different solutions for meeting them.

Dear Dr. Romance: Is it possible to love someone without ever dating them? If so, how can you tell that you are in love? Dear Reader:

Energy is physical and emotional and both your physical and emotional energy affect each other. Have you ever been through a difficult emotional time – a break-up or divorce, or a difficult financial situation? It drains your physical energy doesn’t it? And when you are physically exhausted it affects your mood and impacts how things can grate on you that normally might not. My children have often said to me how much older I looked when I was coming out of a very difficult relationship. It drained me physically and emotionally and it showed in my looks and my attitude to life.

Dealing a really painful separation isn't easy. Listed here are tips to help you recover quickly. Falling in love is probably the most beautiful thing in this world, and in fact, most people see it as the most wonderful experience in their lifetime. But then again, the pain of breaking up is also the worst experience that a person will have to go through in his life. Yet, after all the pain and miseries, bear in mind that your life should not end here, you should be able to m

Okay so, my boyfriend and I dated for a long time and his friend like me and I thought it was him but wasn’t so I kind of went for it. than a few days later my ex told me he didn’t love me he loves his boyfriend I told him I love him I’m lost without him its true I am..so now he like I have a boyfriend i don’t care about you anymore he already had sex with her and I’m like really jealous so I don’t know what to I’m in love with him...can anyone help me?

If you’re really into the new guy you just met, you might have some questions about how to show him you like him without being needy, clingy or freaking him out in a way that causes him to head for the hills. How much do you reveal and when? First you’ll need to decide if you’re in one of two categories of people. Some of you Dignity Daters out there are naturally born with skills in the art of flirting.r

Last week I was noticing who has expressed conce about my behavior and the recognition of when my life is unmanageable. This week I’m addressing how I’ve sought approval and affirmation from others. Then – 3/27/2004 “journal question – How have I sought approval and affirmations from others?

It happens to the best of us. No matter how passionate and exciting the first few months may have been, everyone falls into a rut. If you notice that your relationship has lately been lacking that spark and your partner is losing interest, then you’re in the right place. The beginnings are always fairy-tale like; you’re getting to know each other and that thrill on its own causes an attraction. But what about afterwards? What happens when he starts losing interest?rnIt’

What is a REALationship? A REALationship is one in which you have openness, honesty, integrity, individuality, growth, passion, and intimacy. This begins with the relationship you have with yourself. Start by answering the following: • Do you know and live your life purpose? • Do you know and live by your core values? • Do you know the “deal-makers” and “deal-breakers” in your life? It is easy to march to the beat of other’s drums or perhaps to go along with the trends of the masses.

Do you ever avoid talking about the impact of wars around the world or the economic situation for fear it may turn into a debate, or even a full blown argument? If so, it's time for you to take back the power to have meaningful, enjoyable conversations with your friends. If you're like most people, listening to the news these days can be quite stressful. It's hard not to worry about the impact of wars around the world, and the constant anxiety about the economic situation is bound to fill your mind with images of doom and gloom.

In talking to clients I often hear them share that they don’t like dating because they feel awkward. One client mentioned that it feels like being back in High School. Thinking back of High School I remember worrying about what my date is thinking about how I look, what I say, or what I do – and that was exhausting. Today 15 years later I’m glad I’m not in High School anymore and I’m in relationship with a wonderful man. One of the things I love most about the relationship is who I am. I’m being authentic. It wasn’t always like that.

A friend’s husband told her early in their relationship that there was no need to fight. He said, “Everyone tells you to learn to fight fair. But I say, we don’t fight at all.” Always a coward in the face of conflict, she thought that was great. And they don’t fight, meaning they don’t throw things, dredge up old hurts from the past, or raise their voices to ear-splitting decibels. But they do fight, meaning they disagree. It would be tough to exist as an individual entity without feeling differently from your spouse every once and awhile.

Take a minute to think about what you expect from a loving relationship with a partner. Does your list contain any of the following common expectations? o Healing past wounds o Meeting all of your current emotional needs o Fulfilling fantasies and idealizations of how life should berno Making up for other less rewarding aspects of life / making your life "whole"

One of the most common traps I see couples fall into when they are upset with each other is the… “A, but B, but A, but B”… conversations. These conversations are characterized by their repetitive nature in which each person continues to make the same point over and over again. What’s happening here is that both people have fallen into a mindset in which they feel the overwhelming need for the other to hear and truly understand them. Each gets fixated on getting through to the

Ever had one of those days? You know . . . a day where everything seems to go wrong? You break the coffee pot, step on a piece of glass while cleaning it up; are late for work because of the huge line at the gas station; hit every red light, and miss the green one because the driver in front of you was too busy texting. We've all had one of those days. And when we do, our attention seems to stay fixated on whatever bad is going on—a stubbed toe, a rude comment, a fearful thought, etc. Yes, these are all inconveniences, even painful at times. But there is good news!

The next 'Love Yourself' Course starts February 21, 2018. Are you ready to learn how to love yourself? Love Yourself: A 30-Day Home-Study Inner Bonding Experience with Dr. Margaret Paul, to self-heal anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, addictions and relationships. "I feel like I have finally found what I have been searching for, for decades....I believe this is equivalent to spending decades in traditional therapy." ~ Marge Skinnerr

Discover some of the underlying causes of racism and what is necessary to heal this scourge of our society. I do not pretend to be an expert on what causes a person to be a racist, but I would like to explore some ideas based on the principles of Inner Bonding.