Relationship Advice Articles

Dear Dr. Romance: I had two divorces, and both men turned out to be gay. By this time my self esteem was shattered, I felt there was something wrong with me. To make a long story short, I basically started dating and slept with men, just because they showed they desired me, for me. (Wrong thing to do).

Husband Refuses To Apologize: My Husband Never Apologizes For Hurting Me Is it difficult for your spouse to apologize and tell you that he (or she) is sorry? Or is it hard for you to offer an apology? Some individuals can say "I'm sorry" easily while others can't ever seem to choke the words out. When a spouse is reluctant to apologize, the partner inevitably ends up carrying emotional baggage from the resulting hurt feelings, resentment, and anger. It's often easier to offer

Is Your Relationship in Need of a Tune-Up? Finally, you found your soul mate. You laugh together, cry together, and cuddle in front of the TV as you watch your favorite romantic movie. Your entire world revolves around each other. Whenever you think of your soul mate, a tingling sensation runs up and down your spine. It's a beautiful thing. As time goes by life slowly creeps back in. Before you know it, you're giving air kisses as you pass through the hallway on your way to

Dear Dr. Romance: I am hoping you can help. I made a query about maintaining a marriage over long distance and noted your book The Commuter Marriage My wife and I have been married for 12 years and have had our ups and downs. We are both commited to our relationship. We lived in different states, but when we married, my wife moved here.

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Healing from infidelity might seem like an intimidating undertaking or even impossible. However, with professional support from a Relationship Specialist, nothing could be further from the truth. Yes, the road to recovery is both demanding and long. And yes, setbacks are to be expected along the way. Nevertheless, healing from infidelity is not just possible, many believe that it is often likely. Often couples who complete the healing journey even find that their relationship is stronger, more intimate, and more satisfying than before the affair.

In a previous article "From Struggling to Solving" I discussed how to get from arguing to solving problems. Getting into the right frame of mind is a great start, but many of my clients also need steps for how to solve problems. Here are three of my most effective tips. How to Have a State of the Union Meeting:

Anger is a natural emotion. However, there are those who, for one reason or another, don’t allow themselves to express it. By doing so they might harm their relationships. If you are a person who doesn’t express anger, you may want to understand why you don’t and teach yourself to express it when and if appropriate in your relationships. Are you a person who seldom expresses anger towards your partners? Do you often agree with whatever they want or do? Does it happen that when you disagree, you tend NOT to say so, in order to minimize conflicts?

At best, their behavior is dishonest. At worst, it’s abusive. But you may not have even noticed it. That’s because a passive-aggressive person can be so subtle you may not realize their supposed joke was really a hostile remark. Or their procrastination at getting something you need done is really their way of making you suffer. Or countless other covert behaviors.

Have you ever wondered why God allows so much abuse, so much pain, so much war? "God has no hands but these." - Mother Theresa I am often asked by my clients, "If God is all powerful, why didn't he stop my father (or mother, or brother, or babysitter, or uncle or a stranger) from abusing me? Why does he allow all this abuse to go on?"

As a counselor, I get a lot of clients who are worried about intimacy and sex. Romance books are a lovely escape from reality, and can help reduce your stress from daily frustrations. And, you can even learn a few tricks to enhance your relationship. The danger comes in if you begin to believe in the fantasy, compare your real-life partner to a fictional character, and become dissatisfied and feel unfulfilled. One of the attractive things about romance heroes is that they do all the work, but in a real-life rela

This Christian marriage help will show you how to face your fears in your difficult marriage. Fear is a natural response. It is a God-given basic survival mechanism to protect by enabling a person to heighten senses and attend to what is threatening by either fighting or fleeing. Some people "freeze" when they feel fearful and find themselves unable to do anything in response to the danger. It is the "freeze" that keeps you from facing your fears.

Save Your Relationship With 4 Easy Steps Dr. Romance’s four simple steps to create a successful marriage. 1. Talk frequently and honestly to each other.r

How To Show Husband That I've Changed In Order To Save My Marriage: How To Show Him I've Changed PICTURES ARE INCREDIBLY RICH AND CAPTIVATING. A family walks out of a takeaway restaurant. The father jumps straight into the driver's seat and leaves his wife to get the three very young children into the back of the family SUV - a process taking about a full minute. Is there anything wrong with this picture so far? Too many relationships feature one selfish partner where the oth

Meditation Transformation – What’s Stopping You? If you could change your brain for the better, would you? If you could increase your working memory and enhance your decision-making ability by meditating, would you give it a try? What if you could also: Slow down the natural decline of your brain as you age. Better regulate your emotions. Measurably reduce stress. Gain perspective and alleviate symptoms associated with depression, anxiety, pain and insomnia. Increase your empathy and compassion. Enhance your ability to concentrate.r

The occasional fantasy can mean a healthy sex drive, but what if it’s a habit?

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Long-distance relationships are not easy, but this doesn’t mean that they are not worthwhile. In fact, if you are considering not getting into a long-distance relationship because you think it will be too difficult, don’t say “no” without giving it a lot of consideration. You could be giving up a relationship with a potential soulmate, just because you are afraid of a bit of work. The biggest thing to get over is insecurity. Trust is important in any r

In part one we discussed Nietzches’ three stages of consciousness: the Camel, the Lion and the Child. If we look around at our world today there may be a significant number of individuals who are indeed waking up and walking their own individualized spiritual path, but there are an even greater number of ‘Camels’, who still follow the herd, follow the group, want to belong, be in a gang, go along with the family, ‘toe the Corporate line’, want to ‘fit in’, not ‘make waves’, follow the latest fashion, drop out and use drugs, alcohol, TV and many forms of Piscean-type escapism.

“I can’t help losing my temper, everyone in my family is that way, deal with it!” “You’ve tried everything under the sun, but you’re still fat!” “I hate when you do that, you make me sick!” “I’m just sick and tired of your ...

Your heart's desire -- what could it be? So many people, including many of my clients, are searching to know what it is would satisfy them, to give their lives focus and direction.

She was an Italian immigrant in New Jersey, a hard-working, frugal, Catholic single mother who lost her husband in WWII. She spent most days of her life as a “spooler” in a thread factory, retiring just before her job was automated. Her English was good, but she didn’t always catch the finer points. She sang Italian opera arias just for pleasure.

Are you arguing with your partner about what cheating actually is? Not sure what's considered to be infidelity? Having trouble defining infidelity with your spouse? Here you will infidelity definition and how to define cheating in your relationship - so you don't have to doubt yourself about your partner's actions and behavior. Why is Infidelity Definition so Blurry Sometimes? Is talking on the phone with a coworker after working hours considered cheating? Is going out cl

Many of us are enjoying great moments of reflection during this time of year. Reflection is like healing water Flowing through your spirit. Energizing you and giving you a new direction and purpose for the upcoming year. It is a time to gain power in your mind and in your spirit and you prepare with great leaps of faith to embrace the new year. Here are some guidelines that may help you while you reflect.. Let gentle thoughts run through your head.r

Signs That My Husband Is No Longer Interested In Me: Signs Your Husband Hates You Nothing has happened to change your mind about your husband - you still treasure his company and love him like before. Yet you have a nagging doubt that your husband does not love you anymore, or at least his love for you has weakened. They say a woman is naturally intuitive and chances are that you are perhaps right. Unless you take some proactive steps to reverse the situation, such things can

I want my ex boyfriend back so bad; What's the best relationship advice you can get? Obviously it is that which stops your break up from happening or helps g you get your ex back. How you get advice can be bad or tricky sometimes, especially when you are seeking it from your friends or family. They may have loads of advice for you but where does their experience come from. I don't want to break up with my boyfriend; A complete solution to get your ex back into your life is provided at the end of this write-up (Author's Bio), meanwhile let's build the foundation.

Don't you just love advice that you can really use? Sound relationship advice is truly priceless because it steers us in the direction of love. Relationship advice based on how relationships really work can help you to avoid, and help you to heal from, a broken heart; it can lead you more quickly and easily to your heart's fulfillment There are definite universal principles at work in every relationship. Advice that proves reliable needs to be based on these principles. One

EXERCISE: MIRRORS AND TEACHERS 1. List problem people: Make a list of people with whom you have had problems in the recent past. You can use the list from the exercise for reviewing your family map in the last chapter, choose the family members who are still presenting problems, and add to it other people who are difficult, but aren’t related. 2. Choose a mirror:

You're one of the good guys, aren't you? So why did she decide to leave you? Maybe you thought you've been doing good so far or at least believed that the relationship is still going strong despite the faults. Here I'll tell you the shocking secret of why women leave men. 1 - You're Boring

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Self Deprecating Comments Have No Place in Your Head On the path to the heart it is important to love yourself. Loving yourself is more than saying “I love you” in front of a mirror. Loving yourself provides a deep feeling of being grounded and inner peace.

It’s no big deal, you tell yourself. You’ve started dating a guy you really like. He’s perfect in almost every way, but there have been a few signs that he’s got a bit of a temper. Just two or three minor episodes that showed you he can get pretty aggressive and impatient. You, however, ...

Do you judge yourself for the past? Discover why and what to do about it. Brianna wrote to me, asking:

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. February 29, 2016 Are there people in your life and wounded parts of yourself who want to limit you from being in your personal power? How many of you had the experience growing up of being told in various ways to not claim your personal power and instead limit yourselves from being all you can be? Do you remember the cartoon movie "The Incredibles"? This older movie is a wonderful metaphor for this. In The Incredibles, the superheroes - those with extraordinary powers - are restricted from using their powers.

COMMUNICATION Overview rnI think that effective communication is among the most important skill needed for relationships to function well. Learning effective communication skills helps couples to learn to talk politely, to better understand each other, to care for one another, to help each person to feel more connected to the other person and to deal effectively with problem solving a variety of issues. Effective communication that helps around supporting feelings and caring

In my past relationships I was often so frustrated with my partner she never seemed to want to do things the way I wanted to do them, she always wanted things to go her way - have you ever experienced that? Oh my, the pain, the anguish; in the end I gave up and just did it all her way, well no ...

Is my ex over me; Experiencing a break up does not have to be the end of the world. It also does not mean it has to be the end of your relationship either. Many times a break up will help a person to realize just how much they loved the person they were with and what a great relationship they had. If you have found yourself in this position and want to know the best way to get your ex back read below. Signs your ex isn't over you; A complete solution to get your ex back into your life is provided at the end of this write-up (Author's Bio), meanwhile let's build the foundation.

So, you have a crush on a friend; most of us have at one point or another. But how can you get out of it? Staying hooked into the fantasy or hope that one day he’ll “wake up” to your sexy awesome-ness is just that: a fantasy. Instead, take action now to preserve your great friendship AND open up to being found by that man who wants to be your partner. Dating with Dignity has five foolproof ways to get yourself out of the friend zone ASAP. 1. Shift your focus.r

In the throes of a new romance, when dating and getting to know each other are going well, it’s easy to make a big decision from all the energy, or for the wrong reasons. Moving in together for the wrong reasons, or without advance planning, can jeopardize the whole relationship; so do it thoughtfully. 1. Make sure you know what your agreement is.

INTRODUCTION If you have been failing in your relationships time and again, you might have resorted to self-manipulations to justify to yourself why you fail. Instead of doing so, become aware of the true reasons behind your failures – and learn how to succeed! JUSTIFICATION YOU USE If you have been on the dating scene for quite a long time and haven’t yet had success in developing a satisfying relationship, it is very likely that you find different ways to justify it. You might be telling yourself that: * “It is all because of him/her”;

The best reason for Recharging your Life comes from Oliver Wendell Holmes, one of our eminent Supreme Court Justices. He said “Most people go to their graves with their music still inside them.” When I first read this quote I actually got the shivers because it frightened me. I didn’t want to leave all my music inside. I felt that there were parts of me that I had suppressed, neglected, squelched, things that I still wanted to do but wasn’t doing. This sense of time being limited confronts all of us when we enter the second half of life.

________________________________________ Many of us know that we need to be loving to ourselves, but what does this actually mean? ________________________________________ Since most of us had little or no role modeling regarding loving ourselves when we were growing up, it's often challenging to know what loving ourselves looks like. It's through my work with my inner child and my spiritual Guidance that I've discovered what loving myself really means for me. Sarah asks:

The promise of mindfulness meditation is that it can help you become more aware of who you are without the sting of judgment. Unlike some other forms of meditation, mindfulness meditation is not directed toward getting you to think differently. Its goal is to help you become aware of what is already true in the moment. To accept that truth without trying to change it. For people involved in therapy, mindfulness meditation can help them tolerate very strong emotions, and thus advance their healing.

Is your sex life like McDonalds? Filling, but full of empty calories? Satisfying, but nothing special? Let's face it, we all go to McDonalds occasionally, but if you eat nothing but a plain hamburger every day, you probably need to branch out to something more appetizing, like a Double McRib sometimes. If your sex life also seems like an old, stale cheeseburger, maybe it's time for you to review what's going on in your relationship sexually. Here are a few questions to ask yourself:

Robin Williams’ recent death left many of us, who didn’t even know him, feeling bereft. How could he, who was loved by millions, take his own life? How could his life have been so unbearable that he had to end it? And how do we cope with the aftermath?

The Greeks had five words to describe the different levels of love: eros, passionate love, essential desire and longing, romantic love; philia, friendship, loyalty; storge, natural affection; agape, selfless giving; and thelema, desire or will to do something. In the English language we have many states of feeling that describe different elements of love: idolization, affection, devotion, worship, infatuation, lust, passion and rapture. None of which are synonyms for love, as we only have the one word for that, love itself.

Though not all women have a relationship with God those who do are much more open to worshiping him than men. In churches everywhere one is more likely to see women moved by the spirit of God more then men. And when it comes to relationships women are more likely to look for a man who has a relationship with God. If you are lucky, you will meet one. Maybe you will meet him at church. Maybe you will meet him on the job. Or maybe you won’t meet him at all.

Dear Dr. Romance: I am a divorced father of 3. I am remarried. My 11 year old daughter is very upset about her mother's new boyfriend that is also still married. He was first introduced as a friend but she doesn't understand why he is always at the house and stays till late at night. My daughter has asked her mother if this is her boyfriend and the mother tells her no.

Relationships bring so many liabilities and amongst them is an addition that is added subconsciously - dependency. Independence comes with a price tag but so does depending on someone. With dependency comes a whole lot of baggage that contains expectations in various modes of intensity. Although I would refrain from placing relationships under a negative scanner in most circumstances, the reason why I have made the choice to do so today is merely to point out to people who a

An office reports that they have an answering machine that instructsncallers to leave their name and address, and to spell any difficultnwords.nnEarly one Monday when the secretary was reviewing the weekendnmessages, she heard an enthusiastic young woman recite her name andnaddress and then confidently say, "My difficult word isnreconciliation. R-E-C-O-N-C-I-L-I-A-T-I-O-N."nnEveryone's a comic! But in another sense, reconciliation IS andifficult word. If not difficult to spel