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What someone may see, if they were to step back and reflect on how they experience life, is that they don’t have a strong connection with their feelings. They could find that, in general, they are not aware of how they feel. This is likely to show that they spend most of their life living in their head and don’t have a strong connection with their body. The reason for this is that, it is by being connected to their body, that they will be able to connect to how they feel. One Outcome

What can be normal is for a man to only have the desire to share his body with a woman, nothing more nothing less. Then again, he might have the need to share his mind with her, but that could be about it. Either way, this is likely to mean that he will only have casual encounters and will, at times, date. If he does date, though, it might not be much different to how it would be if he was only sharing his body. One Need

As an adult, a man is free to do what is right for him and live his own life. However, if he spends most of his life focused on and doing things for his mother, he is unlikely to realise this. In fact, he might not even realise that he is overly focused on his mother let alone that he has the right to live his own life. If this is the case, there will be no reason for him to change his behaviour. Two Stages

Even if someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will have actually had a childhood. Of course, there will have been a stage of their life when they were a child but this might have been a stage when they were rarely able to be a child. If so, throughout this stage of their life, they would have often focused on their parent or parent’s needs and been there for them. However, this might not be something that they are consciously aware of. Blocked Out

What someone may see, if they were to take a step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to fall into a deep hole when something doesn’t go as they want it to. Due to this, this will be a time when they will experience disempowering thoughts and feelings. Along with this, their body will become weak and it will be as though they have become lifeless. This will show that their parasympathetic nervous system has been activated, with them being in a state of despair. The Catalyst

Even though a man can have the desire to be with a woman who is available, he might not believe that this is possible. The reason for this is that he may have been with a number of women who were not available. In fact, he might have only been with women who were not available. Thanks to the experiences that he has had, then, it is to be expected that won’t believe that this area of his life will ever change. Another Part

After a man has come to see that his mother didn’t treat him very well during his formative years, he can have the need to talk to her about what took place. Based on what he experienced, he might have come to the conclusion that she hated him. Or, if he might have concluded that there were certain parts of him that she hated. But, if she often treated him as though he was nothing, this is not going to be a surprise. A Different Scenario

If a man is overly focused on his mother and neglects himself, it doesn’t mean that his mother will feel uncomfortable with what is going on. Instead, she can believe that he is behaving in the right way. What this can show is that she doesn’t realise that he has his own needs and is here to live his own life. Like an appliance that she has bought to meet one or a number of her needs, then, he will be here to serve her needs. One Function

If a man was to see that he is overly focused on his mother, he can wonder why he is this way. But, if he is behaving more like her parent than her son, it is to be expected he would be confused. He can spend a lot of time doing things for her and listening to her problems and providing emotional support. As a result of what he does for her, he is not going to have much time and energy for his own life. Self-Neglect

If a man is in a position where he is unable to live his own life due to how focused he is on his mother, it will be clear that he is out of balance. He will be acting more like an extension of his mother than a separate human being who has his own needs and feelings. If he didn’t have his own needs and feelings, behaving in this way wouldn’t have a negative effect on his life. But, as he does have his own needs and feelings, he will suffer. Unaware

Not only can a man’s mother expect him to be there for her, but she can also do what she can to make sure that he doesn’t separate from her and have his own life. One of the ways that this can take place is by doing what she can to push away any woman that he dates or has a relationship with. If so, he could have been with a number of women that he had a good connection with and even loved but he wasn’t with them for very long. She will then be his mother but she will behave more like his enemy. The Norm

If a man missed out on the support that he needed from his father throughout his formative years, it doesn’t mean that he will be aware of this. Furthermore, he might seldom if ever even think about this stage of his life. But, when it does come to this stage of his life, he could think about how he wasn’t abused and that he never went without food or the clothes that he needed, for instance. He may even say that some of his friends were not so lucky. One Parent

If a man acts like an extension of his mother and is not living his own life, it is likely to show that something is not right. As he is separate from her and has his own needs and life to lead, he shouldn’t be behaving in this way. One way of looking at this would be to say that he needs to implement boundaries with his mother and live his own life. It could even be said that he needs to “man up” and take control of his life. One Outlook

If a man has recently become aware of how caught up he is in his mother’s world and has a rough idea of what happened during his formative years, he could often experience a fair amount of anger, rage and hate. This is how he can feel whenever he is around his mother and when he thinks about how he was treated by her. However, before long, he can come to believe that he needs to forgive her and live his own life. This can be something that takes place after he has spoken to a friend or even a therapist. It Makes Sense

It has been said that when there is a will, there is a way. What this illustrates is how important willpower is when it comes to achieving something. This is then an inner source of power that will allow someone to get from where they are, to where they want to be. Along with this, it is this source that will also allow them to stand up for themselves and say no. A Key Part When it comes to their will, they are likely to find that this is located just above their stomach. This is an area of the body that is associated with personal power, sense of self and confidence.

If a man was to take a step back and reflect on how he sees himself, what could soon stand out is that he doesn’t have a very positive view. He could find that he feels worthless and unlovable. After coming to see this, he could soon start to think about how this is impacting his life. So, he could find that this is having a negative impact on his career and love life, for instance. One Area When it comes to what he does for a living, he could do something that is soul-destroying. He is then likely to dread going into work and be happy when it is time for him to go home.

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they tend to hide their needs and how they feel. Along with this, there might also be parts of themselves and interests that they keep hidden. Due to this, most, if not all, of the people in their life are not going to know who they really are. It then might not matter if they have a few friends or a number of friends as they are likely to often feel disconnected and lonely. The Norm

If a man is overly focused on his mother and he is fed up with behaving in this way, he could talk to a friend or his girlfriend about what is going on. This can be a time when he will talk about how frustrated and drained he feels. After this, the person he talks to can be understanding and supportive. They could say that his mother appears to be caught up with herself and is not interested in his needs or how he feels. One Response

Even though a man will be free to live his own life, it doesn’t mean that he will feel this way. Instead, he can feel as though his mother owns him and is then in control of what he does or doesn’t do. From this, it will be clear that he doesn’t feel loved and supported by his mother. She is then going to be someone who is having a negative impact on his life, as opposed to a positive impact. Stepping Back

If a man is caught up in his mother’s world, he might not have the time or energy to be in a relationship with a woman. Then again, he might have had a number of relationships over the years. So, if he is not in a relationship, it might not be long until he is in one. After speaking to a woman for a little while on a dating app or in the real world that he is attracted to, he could go on a date and it might not be long until he is seeing the woman. The Next Phase

If a man were to take a step back and reflect on his life, he may see that he is more like his mothers parent than her son. The reason for this is that he could spend a lot of time doing things for her. Yet, even when he is not doing anything for her, he could still spend a lot of time thinking about what he can do and worrying about her. Unsurprisingly, this is going to undermine his ability to have his own life, let alone live his own life. Resistance

Even if someone fears that they are going to die, it doesn’t mean that they will generally be aware of this. Now, there will be a time when their life will come to an end; of course, death is part of life. However, the difference here is that when it comes to the former, this will be something that has a negative impact on their life. Yet, when it comes to the latter, this can be something that they just accept as part of life. Hidden

If a man was to see that he is overly focused on his mother and doesn’t have much of a life himself, there are a number of things that could take place. He could feel deeply frustrated and helpless and believe that his life will always be this way. Alte atively, he could feel deeply frustrated but experience a strong need to find out what is going on and change his life. Naturally, the former won’t allow him to change his life while the latter will. A number of factors

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they behave in a way that doesn’t serve them when they experience a lot of stress. So, they can see that they have the tendency to withdraw physically. Along with this, they can lose touch with their emotional self and become emotionally disconnected. When both of these things take place, they will be physically and emotionally unavailable. Exte al Feedback

If a man was brought up by a mother who lacked empathy, he might not be consciously aware of this. Even so, it doesn’t mean that he will have truly moved on from this stage of his life. Therefore, if he were to remember some of the things that took place and how this impacted him, he might see that he was still caught up in this stage of his life. However, thanks to his brain’s ability to repress pain and memories, he won’t be able to join the dots, so to speak. One part

If a man typically acts as though he is an extension of his mother, behaving in this way is likely to allow him to avoid certain feelings. Thus, as deprived as he is likely to be by living in this way, it will allow him to keep it together and function. This is not to say that he won’t experience ‘negative’ feelings; no, what it means is that these feelings won’t undermine his sense of self. So, he can often feel frustrated and dissatisfied, for instance, but he will be able to handle these feelings. Kept At bay

If someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what could soon stand out is that they often feel cut off from others and alone. They could see that this is how they have been for most of their life. What could enter their mind is that this is just how their life is and that there is very little that they can do. Along with this, part of them can believe that people simply don’t like them and this is why they are often isolated. More to it

What will be clear is that, if a man is caught up in his mother’s life, he won’t be able to be there for himself. He will be acting more than an extension of her than a separate human being. From the outside, it can seem as though he is simply giving and is not receiving anything in return. However, although it can seem as if he is not benefitting from behaving in this way, this is unlikely to be the case. Avoidance

Right now, a woman can be with a man who is anything but available. Yet, even though he is this way now, he might not have been this way at the beginning and may have created the impression that he was available. Due to how much time he spends doing things for his mother, he may have very little time left for himself, let alone his partner or anyone else. When he is available, he could be mentally and emotionally somewhere else, with it not being possible for her to connect to him. Deeply Deprived

Nowadays, there are numerous phobias that someone can have, and some of these are more well-known than others. Furthermore, while some of these phobias can stop them from being able to live a full and rich life, others can typically be put to one side and not trouble them. If, then, they were to see that their ability to freely express themselves is being undermined by their ‘irrational fears’, they could end up reaching out for support. This can be a time when they will work with a cognitive behavioural therapist. The Focus

Although a man has an intellectual, emotional and sexual side, it doesn’t mean that he is comfortable with all of these sides. Thus, when he is in a relationship, a big part of him could end up being overlooked. So, in the beginning, he could be sexually attracted to the woman and have feelings for her. However, as time passes, he might find it hard to be both sexually attracted to her and have feelings for her. One Outcome

If someone were to come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years, they might have the need to talk to their abusive parent or parents about what happened. Now, assuming that it was one parent who mistreated them or that one of their parents has passed on, they might not get very far. This parent could deny what they say and make out that they are making it all up. As a result of this, they are not going to be able to receive the validation and support that they desire. A Continuation

Although someone will have a mental and an emotional self, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with both of these selves. What can be normal is for them to be connected to their mental self but disconnected from their emotional self. But, due to how normal this is, they might not be consciously aware of the fact that they don’t have a good connection with this other part of them. However, even if this is the case, it doesn’t mean that being this way won’t undermine them. A Big Impact

If a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time doing things for his mother and neglects himself, he could believe that his mother is the problem. Therefore, if it wasn’t for her, he would be able to live his own life. Due to this, he could come to the conclusion that until she changes, his life will stay the same. What might also cross his mind is that he needs to find a way to change her behaviour. It’s clear

If someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, they may find that they have the tendency to behave in ways that don’t serve them. This can take place in both big and small ways. So, they might have been in at least one relationship that was going well and then, they ended up doing something that gradually or instantly destroyed it. When it comes to the former, they might have treated their partner badly and not shown them the level of appreciation and respect that they deserved. The Same Area

For some people, therapy is seen as something that is essential when it comes to dealing with mental and emotional issues. For others, it is seen as a waste of time and money. When it comes to the former, it is not uncommon for a woman to have this view and when it comes to the latter, it is not uncommon for a man to have this view. This may show that if a woman has inner challenges she is more likely to have therapy than a man. One Outlook

If a man is in a position where he is typically focused on a number of his mother’s needs and typically overlooks a number of his own, it can be hard for someone on the outside to understand why he is this way. To them, it can be clear that he is living in the wrong way. However, if they were to share their thoughts with him, they may find that he is not aware of the fact that he is neglecting himself. He could then dismiss what they say and make out that they are just being critical or negative, for instance. A Brick Wall

If someone where to step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that they try to do just about everything by themselves. They could see that this is how they have been for as long as they can remember. But, while living in this way will make their life harder than it needs to be, it doesn’t mean that they will have a strong need to change their behaviour. A big part of them is likely to feel comfortable living it this way; while another, smaller part of them is unlikely to feel comfortable with what is going on. Inner Conflict

Irrespective of whether someone is in a relationship or not, they could spend a fair amount of time thinking about sex. This can also mean that they will have sex at least once a day or a few times a week. From this, it could be said that this is something that is an important part of their life as opposed to just another thing that they experience. But, as it is likely to bring them a lot of pleasure and have a positive impact on their wellbeing, this is to be expected. The Other Side

If someone is suffering both mentally and emotionally, and certain areas of their life are not going in the right direction, they can end up reaching out for support. Assuming that this takes place, they can find a therapist or healer to work with. What this will show is that they no longer want to experience life in this way and want to move forward. Now, when they work with someone, this can be a time when they will change what is going on in their mind. Another Level

If someone is physically attractive, it can be normal for some people to have an idealised view of them. They are then going to be a human being but they can be seen as being perfect and even godlike. When this takes place, it won’t be possible for another person to see them clearly. In addition to what they look like, they could be emotionally developed, morally upright and have developed a number of skills. A key Point However, even if this is the case, they are still going to have their faults. Conversely, apart from their looks, they might not have a lot going for them.

If a man has come to see that he is not living his own life due to how much he does for his mother, he can have the need to speak to her about what he is going through. He can hope that if he talks to her, she will be understanding and supportive. Naturally, her responding in this way will make it easier for him to change his behaviour and do what is right for him. Now, if this does happen, he could be relieved and grateful. Another Scenario

Naturally, if a man is focused on his mother and does what he can to meet her needs, it is going to take a lot of his time and energy. This will then mean that he will have less time and energy for himself. Now, if he did things for his mother from time to time, whilst primarily focusing on his own life, it would be different. But, as he is in a position where he is neglecting himself, he is going to be depriving himself. A Different Scenario

If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they often fear that they will be left and end up alone. It could go further than this, though, as they may have the sense that they will die. This can show that they have a number of close friends and are in a romantic relationship. If what they fear were to take place, then, it would involve them being left by their friends and partner and their life coming to an end. Exte al Feedback

If a man focuses on his mother and ignores his own needs, it is likely to show that something is not right. The reason for this is that he has his own needs and life to lead and is not merely an extension of his mother. The trouble is that although he will be living in a way that is not serving him, he could be oblivious to this. Still, as he is living in the wrong way, it is going to take its toll on him. A Strange Scenario

After a man has experienced a breakup, he can experience a number of different feelings. For example, he can feel angry, sad, helpless, and hopeless and be full of regret. If so, what this can show is that he was with a woman who he was very fond of and perhaps loved. Perhaps he was with her for a number of months or it might have been even longer. The Reason Now, what this can illustrate is that she ended the relationship. He might not have treated her very well at times or he might have cheated on her.

One thing that a man could wonder, if he has spent most of his life focused on his mother and pleasing her, is why his father didn’t do anything about this during his formative years. So, he could see that his mother saw him as a parental figure during this stage of his life and essentially used him but he could struggle to understand why his father didn’t step in and put an end to what was going on.

What a woman may find, if she were to step back and reflect on her life, is that even though she is a grown woman, she doesn’t act like one. Instead, she is more like a little girl who is dependent on her mother and incapable of living her own life. This could mean that she still lives with her mother or it might not, but, either way, she won’t be able to freely express herself and live her own life. She is likely to find that she has a strong need to please her mother. One Focus

If someone were to take a step back and reflect on how they behave, what might stand out is that they don’t act like an individual who has their own needs and feelings. Instead, they act like an object that exists to meet other people’s needs. So, what can be normal is for them to be focused on others and to do what they can to meet their needs. They can then meet their basic needs but they can typically overlook their other needs. One Area

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