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Although a woman will be made up of many different sides such as a sexual side, an emotional side and an intellectual side, it doesn’t mean that a man will always be able to truly accept this. Thus, when he sees a woman to who he is attracted, he could simply see her as someone who could please him sexually. Other parts of her being are then not even going to enter his mind, let alone be something that he chooses to ignore. Due to how he sees her then, he is going to have one thing on his mind and one thing only; the need to gratify his sexual needs. The Next Stage

If a man is in a position where he is overly involved with his mother and neglects his own life, it could be said that while one of them will be getting something from this arrangement the other person won’t be. The man’s mother will have someone there to take care of her needs and her son, the man, will overlook most of his needs.

If a man is overly focused on his mother and neglects himself, it might appear as though he has chosen to be with way. After all, he will be an adult so it’s not as if he won’t have a choice when it comes to how he behaves. Not only this, but if he was asked about this, he could also say that he wants to be there for his mother and that he is not being forced. At this point, someone on the outside could wonder what is going on. A Strange Scenario

If a woman is in a relationship with a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother, she is naturally going to have a strong need for him to change. This is partly because he will spend a lot of time being there for his mother and very little, if any, time being there for his partner. Thanks to this, the sooner he changes his behaviour, the better their relationship will be. Or, to be more accurate the sooner he changes, the sooner they will be able to have a real relationship. More to Give

Although someone can lack a felt sense of worth, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Even so, they may be aware of the impact of not having this in place. The reason they may be aware as opposed to will be aware of this is because how they experience life could just be what is normal. If this is the case, how they experience life, as bleak as it is, won’t be something that stands out. Day To Day Life

When someone experiences stress, they could soon feel the need to get away from everyone and everything. As a result of this, they end up pulling themselves away from life. This could mean that they will spend a lot of time at home and only go out when they need to. They might rarely answer their phone or reply to messages during this time, preferring to keep as much distance as possible from others. The Reason

In today’s world, it is typically as though someone begins and ends with their conscious mind. Not only this, it is as though what is taking place inside their inner world has very little if any effect on their outer world. When it comes to the self-development world, however, it is often said that someone’s thoughts create their life. Therefore, what is taking place in their conscious mind is seen as having a big impact on their reality. One Difference

After coming to the conclusion that the mainstream media, along with other sources, is not there to actually inform, someone can end up looking towards alte ative sources for information. Fortunately, there is far more information available than there was in the past and so it is far easier for someone to gain a better understanding of what is going on.

If someone was to take a step back and reflect on how they behave, what could stand out is that they spend a lot of time doing what other people want. Consequently, they are likely to find that they often feel drained and even exhausted. Additionally, they can experience a fair amount of frustration and anger. But, while it will be clear that they are not living in a way that is serving them, they might not be fully aware of how they want to behave. Confused

There is a source of energy or fuel that exists in each person on this planet, and this can be seen as their fight instinct. Another way of looking at this part of someone would be to say that it is their aggression. In addition to giving them the energy that they need to take action and to get stuff done, it will also allow them to stand their ground and to say “no” when it is necessary. Considering all this, it is perfectly clear how important this part of them is. The Missing Piece

Just because someone acts as though they are an extension of others, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Furthermore, even if they were to become aware of this, it doesn’t mean that they would be able to simply change their behaviour. Through being in this position, their life is going to have very little to do with most of their needs and feelings. Instead, it will have a lot to do with the needs and feelings of others or perhaps one person in particular. Exte al Focus

Now that a man is in a relationship, he may find that he has the tendency to swallow his words and not to express how he really feels when he is with his partner. In fact, he might not even be aware of how he feels a lot of the time. As a result of this, it is not going to be possible for him to fully show up and his true self will spend a lot of time in hiding. This could mean that he will spend a lot of time feeling frustrated and helpless. Covered up

Although someone can have the need to grow and develop, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to do so. One could find that they have been working hard and doing the “right” things but that they haven’t been able to get very far. As a result of this, they could believe that, unlike others, they have very little control over their life. In fact, it could be as though someone or something “out there” is in control of what does or doesn’t happen to them. Reaching Out

If someone was to become aware of the fact that they were mistreated during their early years, they can have a strong need to find out why this took place. Along with this, a big part of them can feel as though they deserved to be treated badly. However, the reason that they can also feel this way is that they would have been egocentric during their formative years. Therefore, what took place ended up being personalised. Underdeveloped

If someone is in a position where one area of their life is not going as they want it to go and they experience a lot of “negative” feelings, they can end up doing what they can to change their life. This can be seen as the right approach to take; after all, simply putting up with what is going on is not going to solve anything. The only thing that this will do is cause them to suffer and this area of their life will probably get worse over time. Thus, by drawing the line and taking action, they will be taking their life into their own hands. A Few Examples

Although someone is likely to be born with the need to both receive and give love, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with these needs now that they are an adult. In fact, they could be unaware of both of these needs. However, even if they are not aware of these needs, a lot of what they do can be a way for them to fulfil one if not both of these needs. What this will show is that even if they are outside of their conscious awareness, it doesn’t mean that they won’t have an impact on their life. An Indirect Approach

What a man could find, if he was able to take a step back and reflect on his life, is that he has the tendency to end up with women who are unhealthy. There is the chance that he is currently with a woman who is like this. If he isn’t, it might be easier for him to realise what it was about these women that was unhealthy. Then again, he might not be able to clearly describe what wasn’t right about these women but he could end up feeling drained just thinking about them. A Closer Look

What could stand out, that’s if someone was to step back and reflect on their life, is that they give a lot but they don’t receive much back. After this, they could find that they don’t believe that they deserve to have what they need and want. Due to this, it is not going to matter how much they give, as it won’t change how they feel. Upon realising this, they could wonder why they are this way and if their life will ever change. Missing Out

In order for a man to deal with an issue that he has, he will need to be aware of the issue; naturally, if he is not aware of it, it won’t be possible for him to do anything about it. The first step, then, if a man is emotionally entangled with his mother, will be for him to realise that this is so. Becoming aware of this won’t change his life per se, but what it will do is allow him to do something about it. Thus, unless this takes place, he will continue to think, feel and to behave in the same way. The Norm

Although a man will look like an adult, if his mother used him to meet some of her adult and unmet childhood needs during his early years, he is unlikely to feel like one. Instead, he is likely to feel like a boy. However, he is unlikely to feel like a boy who has been treated well; he is likely to feel like a boy that has been greatly undermined. Naturally, by not having received what he needed in order to grow and develop, he will be in a bad way. Blocked Off

Although someone might have been able to handle life before, they could now be in a position where they are finding it hard to function. Then again, they might have been this way for a little while. When it comes to what is going on for them, their thoughts could be all over the place and they could experience a fair amount of fear and anxiety, for instance. This is then going to make it hard for them to concentrate, feel at ease and sleep at night. A Big Effect

At this point in time, someone may be working towards something, and this could be something that they hope to achieve in a few months or it could be slightly longer. And, due to how important it is to them, it could also consume a lot of their attention. So, throughout the day and when they go to bed at night, they will be thinking about it. What might also often cross their mind is how they will feel once this has taken place and how different their life will be. One Example

With what is taking place in Ukraine and the damage that is being done, it can seem as though the main problem is the president of Russia – Vladimir Putin. The reason for this is that he is at the forefront of what is taking place. So, if he was to change his mind and put an end to what is going on, the war would soon come to an end. Most importantly, this would save lives and, along with this, it would stop infrastructure from being destroyed and allow the people of Ukraine to begin to mou what has taken place and start to rebuild their lives. Back and White

What a man may find, that’s if he was able to step back and reflect on his life, is that he has the inclination to feel bad. When this is the case, he is likely to feel very low and worthless and he might, at times, even contemplate ending his life. Therefore, even if he doesn’t feel this way, it is probably not going to be long until he does. If he doesn’t succumb to how he feels, he could end up consuming something or engaging in some kind of activity to change how he feels. The First

After getting to the stage where they can see that they are not in a good way, someone can look for a way to change their life. There is a chance that they have been this way for quite some time. Either way, they will have taken a big step by becoming aware of what is going as if this hasn’t taken place, they would have continued to go down the same path. At first, they could end up looking for a book or they could search online for information. Another Option

Although a man might not be consciously aware of this, his main priority could be to make sure that his mother is ok. Then again, there could be times when it goes further than this, with him having the need to make sure that she is happy. As a result of this, it is likely to be normal for him to neglect a number of his own needs if not his whole life. A lot of his time and energy is going to be directed towards his mother’s life, so it is to be expected that his own life wouldn’t be what it could be. Hidden

After coming to see that he is acting like an extension of his mother and is ignoring himself, a man can look into what he can do to change his life. Still, he might see that this is not going to happen ove ight. But, after he has looked into what he can do to start acting like an individual who has his own needs and feelings and has taken the first step, he can experience resistance. He can see that a big part of him doesn’t want to change his behaviour. Inner Conflict

What someone could find, if they were to reflect on how they see themselves, is that they don’t have a very empowering view of themselves. They might find that they see themselves as worthless, unlovable and even useless. Having this view is likely to mean that they will have suffered over the years and continue to do. If so, their life is going to be anything but fulfilling and they might often question why they are even alive. A Battle

In general, someone could spend most of their life doing things, and this can mean that they are fairly ‘successful’. So, they could have a well-paid job, an expensive car, and a big house and they could have a desirable partner. If this is the case, they will look as though they have it all together and they will be seen as having made it. However, there is the chance that although their life looks whole and complete on the outside, they don’t feel whole and complete on the inside. Slightly Different

If someone is in touch with their own needs and does what they can to fulfil them, it will probably be hard for them to comprehend why a man would be so focused on his mother and her needs. To them, it will be clear that he is neglecting his own needs and living a very watered down life as a result. Nevertheless, if they were to point this out to him, it doesn’t mean that the message would get through. Instead, he could end up dismissing what they say and even accuse them of something. Resistance

After coming to see that their early years were anything but nurturing, someone could spend a fair amount of time trying to get through to their parent/parents. This could be something that hasn’t been going on for very long. Then again, this could be something that has been taking place for a number of years. If it has been going on for quite some time, it will mean that they have spent a lot of their time and energy trying to make headway. A Dead End

If a man is in a position where he is focused on his mother’s needs and does what he can to please her, it is likely to show that he is emotionally entangled with her. This will mean that although he is physically separate from her, he won’t be emotionally separate from her. At an emotional level, then, he won’t know the difference between his needs and his mother’s needs, or where he begins and ends or where his mother begins and ends. As a result of this, his survival will be attached to his mother. It’s Clear

If a man is in a position where he is overly caught up in his mother’s life and neglects his own life as a result, he is unlikely to have much of a life. This is because most of his time and energy will be directed towards his mother. However, although his life is unlikely to be very fulfilling and his self is likely to be very watered down, he might not realise that he is living in the wrong way. Yet, due to the fact that living in this way is likely to be what is normal, this is to be expected. Unseen

What could stand out, if a man was to take a step back and reflect on his life, is that he has felt responsible for his mother for as long as he can remember. He could see that this doesn’t just relate to her physical wellbeing but also relates to her happiness. Therefore, he will feel the need to make sure that she is in a good place physically and mentally and emotionally. By being this way, a lot of his energy is going to be directed towards her. One Focus

Although a man may have the desire to be in a loving relationship, it doesn’t mean that he will believe that this is possible. The reason for this is that he might have had this desire for quite some time and not been able to make much progress. He could look back on his life and see that he has been with a number of women who were not very loving. If he has been with at least one woman who was like this, this would have been a time when he wasn’t treated well. A Hopeless Place

If a man is overly preoccupied with his mother’s needs and just about his whole life revolves around her, he is going to be more like her parent than her son. But, although he will be neglecting himself, he can believe that he is doing the right thing. Along with this, there will be the people who believe that he is behaving in the right way by being there for his mother. This can relate to family members and friends, with these people describing him as a selfless human being. A Very Different View

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that at least one area of their life is not going as they would like it to go. This could be an area of their life that they have tried to change for a very long time. But, no matter what they have done, they might not have been able to make a great deal of progress. Or, they could see that there have been moments when they have been able to move forward only to end up back where they started, or close to it. A Strange Scenario

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the inclination to hide themselves. As a result of this, how they generally come across won’t reflect who they truly are. This will mean that a number of their needs and feelings will rarely influence their behaviour with them largely being driven by the needs and feelings of others. Still, although they will be this way, this is not to say that the average person will realise this. Two Experiences

Just because someone has the need to be seen, it doesn’t mean that they will generally be able to fulfil this need. They could often feel invisible and as though they don’t even exist. But, if this is just what is normal, it is unlikely to be something that will stand out. This is then just going to be how their life is and they are likely to lead a miserable life, with them often feeling hopeless and helpless. Stepping Back

If a man spends a lot of his time and energy doing things for his mother, it will be pretty clear to the outside observer that he is out of balance. That is, of course, unless he is seen as living in the right way. If he is seen as living in the right way, it could show that this person believes that a man should be there for his mother. According to this person, a man’s purpose will be to take of his mother and put his own life to one side. The Reality

After being able to see that his mother used him during his early years to meet some of her adult and unmet childhood needs, a man can end up experiencing a lot of anger and rage towards her. What can make this even worse is that this can be what has also taken place throughout his adult years. As a result of this, he will have suffered greatly as a child and his suffering will have continued. The person, who was supposed to build him up and help prepare him for the real world, will have done the complete opposite. One Outlook

In general, someone can find that they are easy-going and rarely if ever assert themselves. They are then going to typically go with the flow and not act like a separate individual who has their own needs and feelings. It could be as though their own will is not very strong and even non-existent at times, as they will allow themselves to be easily influenced and directed by others. So, as opposed to being an adult, they can be more like a child in a lot of cases. One Area

In general, someone could have the tendency to overlook their own needs and to be there for others. Naturally, this is not going to allow them to lead a fulfilling life but it can just be what feels comfortable. By behaving in this way, they may find that it is not difficult for them to receive approval and attention from others. Along with this, it will probably allow them to receive enough money to survive. One Big Act

Although someone is a human being, based on how they typically behave, they could be described as a human doing. The reason for this is that they could practically always be on the go. And, if they were to sit still for a short moment, they could soon end up feeling deeply irritated and end up doing something before long. Based on how they live their life, it will be as though they are being drip-fed an energy drink. One outcome

Just because someone is now an adult and their developmental years are thing of the past, it doesn’t mean that they have truly moved on from this stage of their life. However, if this is the case, they might not be consciously aware of it. The signs that reflect that they haven’t moved on from this stage of their life are then going to be outside of their conscious awareness. As a result of this, they can end up suffering in silence. Completely Helpless

Even though someone will have their own life to lead, it doesn’t mean that it will be normal for them to focus on their own life. What could be normal is for them to spend a lot of time doing things for others. Not only this, but when they are not doing things for others, they could spend a lot of time thinking about what is going on for others. It might not stop there, though, as when it comes to what they do for themselves, this might not have a lot to do with what is in alignment with their true self. Invisible

Due to the mask that a mother-enmeshed man is likely to wear, he can create the impression that he is happy and is pleased with his life. Behind the facade that he presents to the world, though, will be what is actually going on for him. If he was to be with himself and embraced how he really felt, he could soon feel down and deeply depressed. The experience that he has is then going to be radically different to the one that he typically has around others. Two Extremes

What someone may see, if they were able to step back and reflect on their life, is that they rarely reveal themselves. This is going to mean that their true self, so their needs and feelings, will typically be covered up. When they are around others, then, they are largely going to put on an act, and, if they are not hiding around others, they could be hiding away from others. Either way, it is going to be the exception as opposed to the rule for who they are to see the light of day. It’s Automatic

A lot has been said in recent years about the number of people who are taking their own life and how this has got worse over time. Along with this, there are the people who often think about calling it a day. With this in mind, it would be easy to assume that if someone wants their life to end, they will either end it or they will often think about taking this step. Thus, if someone doesn’t do the former or think about doing the latter, they won’t want their life to end. Two Levels

If one was to hear about someone who is in an abusive relationship, they could wonder why they haven’t walked away from their partner. This could be seen as not just what is right but also what is logical. Now, this could be someone they know, or it could be someone who they have heard about through another. What could confuse them, even more, is if they were to hear that this person has been in this relationship for a number of months, if not years. One Level