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What can be normal is for a man to be easy-going and ‘nice’, with him having the tendency to do what other people want. In general, he could act as though he is nothing more than an extension of others. By being this way, he is likely to often do things that he would rather not do and be walked over. This is not to say that he will consciously choose to be this way as this can just be what happens. The Priority

One way for a man to view his aggression would be to see it as both a source of fuel and as something that will keep him alive. This means that, inherently, this part of him is not bad or “negative”. This doesn’t mean that this part of him can’t be used in a destructive manner. The key will be for him to have a healthy relationship with this part of him and for it to be integrated with the rest of his being. The benefits

If a woman is with a man who is overly focused on his mother and is out of reach emotionally, she is likely to wonder why she is even with him. Ultimately, he won’t have much time for her and even when he is around, he is unlikely to be very present. Based on how he behaves, it will be clear that he has a number of issues and is not in a position to have an intimate relationship. She could believe that he needs to have months if not years of therapy before he is ready to start dating, let alone take the next time and have a relationship with a woman. For Example

After being with a man for a little while, a woman may see that he is being used by his mother. This is because he could spend a lot of time doing things for her and she could act as though he is responsible for her. To make matters worse, he might not realise that he is overly focused on his mother let alone that he is not responsible for her. But, instead of getting angry about what is going on and questioning if she should cut her ties, she could end up feeling sorry for him. The Next Step

If someone made a number of New Year’s resolutions, it doesn’t mean that they will have followed through with any of them. They could think about some if not all of the things that they planned to do every now and then but that could be about as far as it will go. Yet, even if they don’t have any New Year’s resolutions, there could still be a number of things that they want to do but don’t do. What is clear is that unless they take the next step, at least one area of their life is unlikely to change. Another Part

In the same way a fence protects a garden, boundaries protect a human being. Not only will they stop someone from taking on responsibilities that are not theirs but they will also stop them from being mistreated. Unlike walls, they will allow one to let the right people in and experience deeper connections with those who are healthy and trustworthy. Also, one will feel safe enough to express who they are, their true self, and make it clear when they don’t want to do something. Totally Essential

If someone was mistreated during their early years by one or both of their parents, it could be said that the ideal would be for what they went through to be acknowledged by them. What this would do is allow them to receive the validation that they deserve and play a part in them being able to heal. This would then be a time when they would be able to be seen and heard, and this is unlikely to be how they typically felt all those years ago. Naturally, this won’t make up for what they missed out on all those years ago or heal the damage that was done. A Big Difference

Having needs is part of the human experience but that doesn’t mean that everyone feels comfortable with their needs. When someone is in this position, it is likely to be normal for them to overlook their own needs. In fact, they might not even be aware of most of their needs and so they are unlikely to realise that they are neglecting themselves. In general, then, they will be there for others and do what they can to meet their needs. Positive Feedback

Someone doesn’t need to have read a book on psychology let alone be a psychologist to see that, if a man is overly focused on his mother, something is not right. What can be clear is that he is behaving more like his mother’s father or mother than her son. And, as he is this way, his own life is going to be overlooked. If there was more than one of him or he could be there for himself and his mother, how he is behaving wouldn’t be a problem. Reality

Naturally, in order for a man to live a life that is worth living, he will need to do what is right for him. For this to take place, he will need to be in tune with his needs and feelings and allow his inner world to impact his outer world. This is not to say that he won’t be able to be there for others but what it does mean is that, in general, he will need to put himself first. If he doesn’t do this and was to focus on the needs and feelings of others, he would neglect himself. How It Is

If someone is in a position where they typically give a lot but they rarely receive what they need, let alone what they want, they could struggle to understand what is going on. Naturally, as they are doing a lot of the right things, this is to be expected. One thing that they may have done to try to change what is going on is to give even more but this won’t have had much of an impact on their life. What it may have done is just caused them to feel more frustrated than they felt before and to be totally exhausted. Stepping Back

There are those who had a childhood that was very nurturing and then there are those that didn’t. Along with this, there are those that had a childhood that was in the middle; neither very nurturing nor overly depriving. When it comes to someone who had a very loving childhood, it can seem as though they were lucky. Yet, when it comes to someone who didn’t have a loving childhood, it can seem as though they were unlucky. A natural Outlook

If someone doesn’t have a strong connection with their true self, it is going to mean that they are rarely going to be aware of how they feel and a number of their needs will typically be a mystery. In general, then, they are going to live in their head and be out of touch with their body. Therefore, when it comes to how they live their life, they are seldom going to be guided by their feelings. Still, what is taking place down below is still going to have an impact on their life, it’s just that it will do so without them being aware of it. Outer Directed

What someone could struggle to get their head around, if they were abused as a child, is why their parent treated them in this way. The person who was supposed to love and cherish them wouldn’t have done so. If they had been harmed by someone at school or a stranger, for instance, it would probably be easier for them to come to terms with what happened. First, this person wouldn’t have lived with them and, second, they would have been able to talk to their parent or parents about what was going on. Isolated

Even if someone was brought up by at least one parent who was unable to truly see them and is still unable to do so, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to accept this. Due to this, now that they are an adult, they could spend a lot of their time and energy trying to be seen by this parent. In fact, they might not even be aware that they are trying to be seen by this parent. How they behave is then just going to be what is normal and there will be no reason for them to change their behaviour. A Strong Need

Along with someone’s physical needs, they will also have emotional needs. However, even though this is the case, they can be out of touch with their emotional needs. If so, although these needs will be outside of their conscious awareness, they will still have an effect on how they behave. When it comes to their emotional needs, this will relate to their need to be seen and heard, valued and loved. Hidden

If a man is highly driven, he could often be seen as someone that has high self-esteem. Along with all the things that he has achieved, then, can be all of the positive feedback that he receives from others. However, although he may have high self-esteem, it doesn’t mean that he is being driven by a sense of wholeness. In fact, deep down, he could feel very empty and just about everything that he does can be a way for him to avoid the deep hole that is inside him. Doing Mode

Over the years, a man may have been with a number of women who were anything but loving. When he was with these women, he might have often been verbally put down, emotionally deprived and even physically harmed. Thanks to this, he might not have a strong desire to be in another relationship. But, based on how he has been treated by the women that he has been with, this is not going to be much of a surprise. Inner Conflict

Even though a man has his own needs and feelings and life to lead, he can act as if he is merely an extension of his mother. Due to this, he is going to neglect himself and his life won’t be very fulfilling. However, this can just be what is normal, which means that he might not be aware of what is going on. If he is not aware of what is going on, he will suffer but he won’t be able to join the dots, so to speak. The Next Stage

After a man, who is emotionally entangled with his mother, comes to see what is going on, he could end up having the need to change his life. Before this takes place, though, he could feel deeply frustrated and totally helpless. However, after a while, assuming that this doesn’t take place more or less straight away, he could end up looking for a way to change his life. This will show that part of him believes that his life doesn’t have to stay this way forever and that there is a way forward. A Rush

If a woman is with a man who is overly focused on his mother’s needs and neglects himself, she is likely to wonder why he doesn’t take care of his needs. Furthermore, she is likely to wonder why he doesn’t stand up to his mother and make it clear that he is not responsible for her. Therefore, what will be clear is that he finds it hard to assert himself, with this being why he is not there himself and is there for his mother. The other part of this, of course, is that he won’t be there for the woman that he is with. The Same Experience

If someone is in a position where they are finding it hard to handle life, they could believe that there is something inherently wrong with them. They could often see themselves as useless, incapable and even stupid. Unlike perhaps the people in their life, who have it together or at the very least appear to, they won’t have been able to get together. This can mean that they will also have moments when they will see themselves as a failure and lack what others have. One Area

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they find it hard to believe in themselves. By being this way, it is not going to matter if they are good at something as they won’t be able to accept it. Along with this, if they have made a plan to do something, they could spend a lot of time wondering if it will work out. Ultimately, they simply won’t be able to accept that it will work out and, if it doesn’t, they will be able to handle it. One Consequence

Even though someone is a separate being that has their own needs and feelings, based on how they typically behave, it can be as though they are merely an extension of others. They are then going to be focused on other people’s needs. Due to how caught up they are in other people’s lives, they might not realise that they are focused on them and that they are out of touch with a number of their own needs. Other people’s needs can be seen as their own needs and behaving in this way is likely to be will feel comfortable. The centre of their life

What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they typically need to be by themselves in order to feel settled and at ease. Along with this, this can be when they generally experience a sense of freedom and are able to be themselves. On the other hand, when they are around others, they can often experience a lot of pressure and feel as though they have no control over themselves. By being this way, it is likely to mean that they will often say yes when they would rather say no and do things that they won’t want to do. A Possession

From the outside, a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother is likely to look as free as just about anyone else. He will then have the ability to behave however he wants to behave and to live the life that he wants to live. At times, it could even appear as though he is in control of how he behaves and is happy with the life that he is living. Yet, even if this is the impression that he creates, it will be nothing more than an illusion. A Compulsion

What can be normal is for a man to be out of touch with how he feels and to be in a collapsed physical state. Due to this, he can typically go through the motions in life, not feeling alive or as though his life has much meaning. But, if he has been this way for a very long time, he might not realise that he doesn’t have a strong connection with his feelings or that he is generally in a low place. Yet, if this is just what is normal, why would it stand out? One Area

Over two thousand years ago, in a place called Sparta, males were trained from a young age to fight. As part of their training, they went through numerous challenges in order for them to be moulded into warriors. It then didn’t matter what any of these males wanted to do with their life as their path had been laid out for them before they were even born. And, of course, their fathers probably went through the same thing. One Purpose

In the article that I wrote about Yellowstone titled, ‘Can Someone Learn About Enmeshment By Watching Yellowstone?’, I briefly spoke about John’s youngest son, Kayce. I said that he was a loose cannon, and, in addition to the drama in his life, he was inches away from being killed or ending up in prison. Additionally, I said, amongst other things, that the endless fights and dramas that he has are no doubt a partly replay of how it was for him as a child. This was the conclusio I came to after having watched eight episodes of the first season. A Deeper Look

If someone has just gone through a breakup and even if this took place a few weeks or a number of months ago, they could be in a bad way. This could show that they were with their ex for a number of years, or it might not have been this long. Additionally, this might have been a relationship that was going well or it might not have been going well. But, regardless of how long it lasted or how well it was going, they are now going to be in a very low place. Totally Defeated

After going through a breakup, a man could decide to take his time before he dates or merely share his body with another woman. If so, this can show that he has been greatly affected by what has happened. Then again, this might not be the case but he might just want to take a break and focus on other areas of his life. This may show that certain areas of his life had been neglected. One Scenario If he has been greatly affected by what has happened, he won’t be in a position to simply ‘move on’. He can be in a lot of pain and it could be hard for him to carry on as normal.

If someone’s life is not very fulfilling and they were to take a step back and reflect, a number of things could enter their mind. So, they could see that their relationships are not very nurturing and that it is normal for them to be ignored, put down and treated badly. Due to this, they are likely to often feel worthless, unloved and invisible. Additionally, they could often feel anxious, fearful and as though their life is going to come to an end. A Bleak Existence

After suffering for many, many years, someone may have come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years. Therefore, it is not that they were born this way and/or simply can’t get it together. No, it is that they were deprived of the love that they needed in order to grow and develop in the right way. One thing that they could struggle to understand, though, is why they were treated so badly. Two Parts

So, shortly after I had written the previous article about Yellowstone, titled, ‘Can Someone Learn About Enmeshment By Watching Yellowstone?’, I thought about how I had more to say. In this article, I spoke about how Jamie, John’s second youngest son, is very sensible and reserved and how different he is from his other siblings. In a way, apart from mentioning that at an emotional level, he is still a boy who craves his father’s acceptance, I created the impression that he is a well-adjusted man. But, although he is more grounded than they are, he is not in touch with his power.

If a man is finding it hard to move forward in life, he might find it hard to believe that this could be due to what took place during his early years. As far as he is conce ed, what took place at this stage of his life could be in the past and that’s the end of it. The reason why his life is the way it is could be put down to what is going on exte ally. Consequently, what is taking place “out there’ will be seen as what is holding him back, not what is taking place within him. A Closer Look

In general, a man could be easy-going, needless and do his best to please others. He is then rarely if ever going to assert himself, express his needs or disagree with what another person says. But, although how he comes across won’t be a reflection of who he really is; he could believe that it is who he is. What this comes down to is that he is an individual with his own needs and feelings. An Act

Now that someone is a man and no longer a boy, it could be said that his childhood will be behind him. This stage of his life will be well and truly over, so it won’t matter what took place during this time. However, while this may appear to be the case, it doesn’t mean that this stage of his life has truly been put behind him. What took place during his early years could be preventing him from living a fulfilling life. Missing the Connection

Before long, a woman may find that she is with a man who has two women in his life; his mother and her. He won’t just have a normal relationship with his mother, though, as she will be his main focus. The woman, who should be his primary relationship, is then going to be like a woman that he is seeing on the side. As a result of this, most of the man’s time and energy will be directed toward his mother. The Priority

If a man spends most of his life doing things for his mother and overlooking his own life as a result, he is unlikely to have much of a life himself. He will be an individual with his own life to lead but that will be as far as it will go. So, as opposed to being the leading character in his own story, known as his life, he will be nothing more than a supporting character. His mother, on the other hand, will be the main character in his story. The Centre of His World

As someone is an individual with their own needs and feelings, they are not always going to want to do what another person wants them to do or suggests. If, on the other hand, they were merely an extension of others, this wouldn’t be the case. Another person could want them to do something or suggest something and they would go along with whatever has been put forward. There would be no resistance and once they have done something, how the other person feels would define how they feel. Standing Their Ground

If on one side, there are those who believe just about everything the media says, on the other, there are those who believe very little of what this source says. As a result of this, when it comes to how the former see the world, it is going to be very different to how the latter see the world. This is, of course, a very black and white way of looking at things, and there are going to be many different views on both sides of the spectrum. However, when someone doesn’t look towards the system to inform them, they are more likely to have views that are seen as being crazy. Way Out Therer

If someone finds it hard to be seen and they were to share this, another person might find it hard to understand. They could say that they can see them, so there is no way that this could be an issue for them. However, being physically seen is unlikely to be the real issue; what they will struggle with is being seen for who they are. So, this will relate to having their feelings and needs recognised by another and being treated like an individual. A Big Difference

Right now, a man could be in a relationship with a woman who is not really interested in him. Or, if he is not in a relationship with a woman like this, he could be dating or seeing a woman who is. Consequently, he is going to be into or really into her but she is not going to feel the same way towards him. He might have been trying to change what is going on for a number of years, months or weeks. A Waste of Time

If a man has spent most if not all of his life focusing on and doing things for his mother, he is unlikely to have a very empowering view of himself. Even so, this doesn’t mean that he will be aware of this. But, if he has been this way for a very long time, why would he be aware of this? How he is will just be what is normal, so it is to be expected that it won’t be something that will stand out. Looking Closer

Earlier on, it occurred to me that when it comes to working through emotional wounds, it is very similar to weeding a garden. At this point, you might wonder how the former has got anything to do with the latter. Perhaps the reason why I was able to see this connection is that I have removed a lot of weeds over the years. Many years ago, I worked at a crematorium and I also took care of a few gardens. Moving On

During someone’s early years, they might have had at least one parent who didn’t treat them very well. If they did, this parent would have often been very cruel and, as a result, this would have deeply wounded them. Still, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to acknowledge how cruel this parent was. So, when they do think about them, what could enter their mind is how this parent not only did the best that they could but also did a good job overall. The Other Part

If the average person was asked to explain what it means to be human, they could say that it involves having a physical body and an intellect or something similar. Therefore, who they are will be a combination of what is going on in their head and what keeps this part of them in place.

Before the contagion came onto the scene, it wouldn’t be right to say that, as a whole, there was harmony on earth. There were numerous things that a number of people were fighting over. For example, there was the battle between some men and women and between those who belong to one religion and another. However, fairly recently, a new battle has arisen between some of those who are vaccinated and some of those who are not. Nothing New

It has been said that someone’s ego allows them to have their own experience on this earth, among other things. Therefore, this part of them causes them to see themselves as separate from everyone and everything. So, while this will allow them to have their own experience, which can be seen as a ‘positive thing, it also leads to a number of ‘negative’ things. For example, this sense of separation can cause them to feel disconnected, alone and isolated. The Antidote

If someone was able to step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have the tendency to elevate others. As a result of this, seeing another person as more knowing, more powerful and more capable will be normal. They are then going to be at one level and the average person will be on a level that is much higher. What might stand out is that it typically doesn’t matter what this person is actually like as they could see them as being superior to them. One Outcome