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At times, someone is going to need to stand their ground and not tolerate something. By doing this, they will be paying attention to their own needs and looking after their own well-being in the process. At other times, they will need to go after what it is that they desire. This will also allow them to fulfil their needs and, thus, to live a life that is fulfilling. It’s missing

What can be normal is for a man to feel angry and this could be something that the people in his life are only too aware of. The reason for this is that he could often come across as intense and rude. It might go further, though, as there could be moments when he is violent and destroys things. But, even if he doesn’t go this far, the people in his life could find it hard to feel at ease around him. Nothing New

What someone may find, if they were able to detach from how they experience life, is that they have the tendency to feel low. This can mean that they will often feel depressed and they may even have moments when they think about ending their life. They may find that this is how they have been for as long as they can remember. So, if they do feel good about themselves, it could be because they have consumed something or have engaged in some kind of activity. Hidden

After suffering for many, many years, someone may come to see that they were mistreated during their early years. Through having this understanding, it will start to become clear why they are experiencing life in this way. Now, while having this understanding won’t mean that their life will automatically change, it will allow them to take the next step. Without this understanding, they would have continued to suffer. Moving Forward

When someone is born, they are going to be an embodied human being. That is, of course, unless their time in their mother’s womb and their birth was not traumatic. By receiving the right attunement and care throughout this time, their connection to themselves will be supported and strengthened and they will be able to develop a strong sense of self. This shows the importance of having at least one parent who is emotionally available and is able to love. The Outcome

Even though a man’s childhood will be behind him, it doesn’t mean that he has fully moved on from this stage of his life. A big part of him can be anchored to this stage of his life. The reason for this is that this might have been a time when he missed out on what he needed from his father and perhaps his mother. If so, it wouldn’t have been possible for all of him to forward. Three Parts His physical and mental self would then have grown, but his emotional self would have stayed frozen in time. However, thanks to repression, this might not be something that he is aware of.

If someone feels happy, they could soon feel uncomfortable and their inner state could change thereafter. This could be something that is the rule as opposed to the exception. But, if this is something that is normal, it might not be something that stands out. As a result of this, they are going to find it hard to be happy but this won’t be something that they are consciously aware of. One Step Further

Even if a man fears women, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. If so, being this way will have a big impact on his life but he won’t realise what is going on. But, while he won’t be aware of this, a friend or family member, for instance, could be aware of this. It might then seem strange as to how another person could see this but he himself is unable to. Self-Deception

If a man were to connect with how he feels, he could find that he feels as though he is missing something. It is then going to be as if there is a hole inside him that needs to be filled. And, if he were to go deeper into this inner emptiness, he could come into contact with a lot of pain. He could find that he feels rejected, abandoned, worthless, helpless and hopeless. Two Levels

If a man were to think about the experiences that he has had with women over the years, he might soon experience a number of ‘negative’ feelings. This is because he may have been with a number of women who were not very loving. So, these women might not have typically been interested in his needs or how he felt and the challenges that he had. These women would then have been very self-absorbed and he would have been greatly deprived as a result. The Other Side

While there is a time to be and a time to do, someone could be in a position where they find it hard to get things done. It could take a lot for them to get moving and when they do move, it could typically be because they have to. For example, if they didn’t have to go to work, they could simply stay in bed, and if they were not hungry, they could stay sitting down. What is clear is that they won’t have much energy or drive. Another Area

For as long as a man can remember, he might have had the need to be there for his mother. He may find that this is generally something that he doesn’t have to think about doing as being there for her is something that just happens. But, as time has passed, he might have started to experience resistance when it comes to behaving in this way. He may realise that behaving in this way is not serving him, so part of him no longer wants to behave in this way. It’s Grown

At first, a man who is entangled with his mother might have focused on the impact that she is having and had on him. The reason for this is that it would have been clear that she is having and did have a big effect on him. But, as time has passed, it might have become clear that there is the impact that his father is having and/or did have. He will then know that how both of his parents behaved during his formative years played a big part in the experiences that he had and is now having. Black and white

For someone to live a fulfilling life, they will need to be connected to their body and be in touch with their needs and feelings. The reason for this is that by being connected to themselves, they will be able to take life in, and this connection will provide them with the guidance that they need. However, although this is the optimal way to experience life, it doesn’t mean that someone will be in this position. Instead, they can be disconnected from their body and out of touch with most of their needs and feelings. A Way of Life

What can be normal is for someone to be there for others and to ignore a number of their own needs and feelings. But, although they will have abandoned themselves, it doesn’t mean that this will stand out. However, even if what is going on doesn’t stand out, living in this way is still going to have a negative impact on them. Ultimately, they will be missing out on a lot of what they need, so this is to be expected. For Example

After suffering for many, many years, someone may come to see that they were mistreated during their early years. Through having this understanding, it will start to become clear why they are experiencing life in this way. Now, while having this understanding won’t mean that their life will automatically change, it will allow them to take the next step. Without this understanding, they would have continued to suffer. Moving Forward

When it comes to someone’s sexual side, it can be like another food that they have as part of a meal or it can be something that they have late at night. In other words, it can be something that is just part of a relationship that they are in or it can be something that they engage in with another person who they have very little connection with.

Most if not all of the experiences that a man had during his formative years might have been forgotten about by his conscious mind. Therefore, most of what took place during this stage of his life could be a mystery. Nevertheless, while this might be the case, it doesn’t mean that what took place will be well and truly in the past. In so many ways, his adult life could be a continuation of what it was like for him as a boy. One Area

If a man’s life revolves around his mother, what will stand out is that he is going to act more like an extension of her than a separate being that has his own needs and life to lead. At this point, it could be said that he just needs to implement boundaries with her and live his own life. Not doing this, of course, is going to cause his own life to pass by and he won’t be able to get this time back. If it was possible for him to go back in time, this wouldn’t be the case. One Hurdle

If a man is in a position where he is seldom there for himself and spends a lot of time doing things for his mother, he is going to be depriving himself of what he needs. Based on how he behaves, it will be as though he doesn’t have many needs. However, although this is something that may stand out to the outside observer, it doesn’t mean that this is something that he will be aware of. The reason for this is that he might not be aware of a number of his needs, and thus, he won’t realise that he is neglecting himself. Missing Out

After being with a number of men who were overly focused on their mothers, a woman could question if she will ever meet a man who is actually available. To say that she will feel pretty hopeless when it comes to this area of her life could be an understatement. But, as she has gone through the same experience with a number of men, this is to be expected. She could even believe that all men are the same and that this area of her life will only change if they change. In The Beginning

If someone was to look back on the relationships that they have been in, they could experience a fair amount of anger and frustration. As opposed to this being a time when they will feel good, then, it will be a time when they feel bad. Then again, they might be able to remember some good moments but these moments could be overshadowed by the moments that were not good. Either way, they might not have the desire to start another relationship. Another Go

Even though someone is an individual, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. In general, they could act as though they are nothing more than an extension of others. As a result of this, it will be normal for them to please others and to ignore their own needs. But, if this is just what is normal, they might not realise what is taking place. Feedback Still, this doesn’t mean that part of them won’t be aware of what is going on. Deep down, part of them is likely to be aware of the fact that they are not living a life that is in alignment with who they are.

Even though someone is a separate human being, who has their own needs and feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. What can be normal is for them to focus on others and to do what they can to please them. As a result of this, they will typically act as though they are merely an extension of others. They are then not going to know, deep down, where they begin and end and where others begin and end. An Exte al Focus

Although a man will be an adult, it doesn’t mean that he will typically feel strong and capable. Instead, he could typically feel weak and incapable, which is likely to mean that his life will often be too much for him to handle. In general, it could be as though his circumstances are greater than he is. Therefore, it will be normal for him to feel weighed down by life and he could simply do his best to keep going. A Strong Need

During the beginning of a relationship, a man can look forward to spending time with his partner. So, when he is not with her, he can spend a fair amount of time thinking about her and the moments that they have shared and will share in the future. This will be a time when he experiences positive feelings and thoughts. Then, when he is actually with her, he is likely to effortlessly experience more positive thoughts and feelings. A Gradual Shift

Ideally, someone will have received the love that they needed during their formative years in order to experience an emotional birth. In other words, they will have been able to form a strong sense of self and develop a felt sense of enoughness, worthiness and being lovable. Thanks to this, when they broke away from their family unit and created their own life, they will have felt whole and complete. By being this way, they will be able to freely express themselves as they won’t have a strong need to please others. In Balance

During a man’s developmental years, he may have not only had a mother who was abusive, but his father may have also been abusive. In this case, both of his parents would have played a part in undermining him. A stage of his life, then, when he needed his mother's and father's love would have been a time when he was treated like he was nothing. This would have meant that he was deeply deprived. The Past Is Present

A man could put a lot of effort into his appearance, with this being a way for him to receive a woman’s attention. This can mean that he spends a lot of time exercising, a lot of his money on clothes and is often at bars and clubs. When he receives attention from a woman who he finds desirable, this can be a time when he feels good about himself. He could feel even better if he talks to her and ends up taking things further with her. One Scenario

If a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time focusing on his mother’s needs and neglects his own, it can be clear to the outsider that something is not right. After all, he will be an individual with his own life to lead; he won’t be here to act as an extension of his mother or anyone else for that matter. Nonetheless, although this is the truth, the man might not even realise that he is living in the wrong way. How he lives could just be what is normal, meaning that it won’t even stand out. The Outcome

What should be normal is for a man to be there for himself and take care of his own needs. By being this way, he will be able to live a life that is worth living. However, while putting himself first should be normal, this could be something that rarely takes place. Instead, he can typically ignore himself and focus on his mother’s needs. No Life As a result of this, a number of his own needs are going to be overlooked and he is unlikely to have a life that is fulfilling. The time and energy that would allow him to elevate his own life will be directed toward his mother.

What can be hard for someone to comprehend is why a man wouldn’t be able to see that he is focused on his mother and is neglecting himself. Now, the impact that his behaviour has on them is likely to depend on the type of relationship that they have with him. Naturally, if this relates to a woman who is in a relationship with him, this is likely to lead to a lot of problems. But, if this relates to a friend of his, his behaviour is unlikely to have the same impact on them. The Difference

In order for someone to both survive and thrive, it will be essential for them to have the ability to stand up for themselves and make it clear when something isn’t acceptable. This will allow them to protect their physical, mental and emotional self. There will be moments when they will need to be assertive when they are around people they know and people they don’t know. In other words, this will be something that they need to do regardless of who they are with. It’s Missing

If someone was able to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that they spend a lot of time trying to settle themselves down. This is going to show that they find it hard to feel at ease. But, even if this is not something that they are aware of, what is taking place inside them is still going to define their life. It might be hard, at this point, to accept that someone could live in this way and not be aware of it. A Way of Life

If a woman is with a man who is overly focused on his mother, she could be totally fed up and wonder if she should cut her ties with him. She might have been with him for a few weeks, months or even a number of years. Now, this might be the first time she has been in this position or she might have been in this position before. If she has been in this position before, she could struggle to understand why this has taken place. A Strange Scenario

Although there are some men who are able to put themselves first and live their own life, there are others who are unable to do so. When it comes to the former, a man will be making the most of the life that he has been given, but, when it comes to the latter, he won’t be. However, if a man is making the most of his life, it doesn’t mean that he has chosen to be this way. Not only this, but he may have been this way for most if not all of his life. Two Experiences

If a man is in a position where he was in a relationship and this relationship largely came to an end because he was too focused on his mother, he could now be looking into what he can do to change his life. This relationship may have finished a few weeks ago or might have ended a number of months ago. Either way, he will have been able to face up to what is going on and to take an important step. Of course, if this hadn’t taken place and he had just carried on as normal; his life would have continued to go in the same direction. Bitter Sweet

If someone was to step back and reflect on their relationships, what might soon stand out is that they have pushed at least one person away. They could find that this person was warm and that the relationship was going well and then, before long, it ended. Being in a relationship that was like this won’t have felt comfortable and so it won’t have been possible for them to sustain it. However, what might soon stand out is that, at the time, it seemed as though something ‘out there’ was behind what was going on. Two Levels

If one spends most of their time on this planet living in their head, it will naturally mean that they will rarely inhabit their body. In general, then, what is taking place in his part of their being will be a complete mystery. As a result of this, they are not going to have a good connection with their needs and feelings. This is not to say that they won’t be in touch with certain needs, such as their need for food. Pushed Away

Even though someone will exist and, thus, will be able to be seen and heard by others, it doesn’t mean that they will typically feel seen and heard. If they were to think about how they generally experience life, it could be as if they are not real. When they are around others, then, it could be normal for them to not be looked at and what they say might seldom have much of an impact either. Having these experiences is naturally going to be very frustrating. Emotional State

Based on how a man comes across, he might appear to have more in common with a superhero than a human being. The reason for this is that he might not just be somewhat masculine, he could be exceptionally masculine. Due to this, it might not matter where he is or who he is with, as he could stand out. There is going to be how he looks and how he behaves, with both of these elements playing a key part in the image that he projects. The First Part

Even though a man will be an interdependent human being, it doesn’t mean that he will be able to act like one. The reason for this is that he might not be able to spend much time by himself. When he is by himself, he could soon feel very uncomfortable and end up doing whatever he can to find someone to be with. Due to this, he will act more like a dependent human being. Plenty of options

Even though a man’s childhood is well and truly behind him, it doesn’t mean that every part of him has moved on from this stage of his life. A big part of him can be frozen in time and still trying to receive what was not provided all those years ago. Assuming that this is the case, this may have been a time when his mother was unable to provide him with what he needed to grow and develop in the right way. Therefore, on one level, he will be an adult, but, at a deeper level, he won’t feel like one. Hidden

At the beginning of a man’s life, so his formative years, he may have been treated more like an object than a being that had his own needs, feelings and rights and had inherent value. Once, he was born then, his mother and perhaps father may have created the impression that they were happy but, even if this did take place, their behaviour, either straight away or as time passed, wouldn’t have backed this up.

As one is an individual that has their own needs and feelings, there will be moments when they don’t want to do what another person wants them to do or agree with what they say. During such moments, it will be in their best interest to do something else or express a different viewpoint. If this is what usually takes place, they are going to live a far more fulfilling life than they would otherwise. They won’t have the tendency to abandon themselves and this will have a positive effect on their well-being. The norm

Someone could spend a lot of time doing things and very little if any time relaxing and taking it easy. This could be how they have been for most of their life, though, so it might not be something that stands out. Nonetheless, if they live in a society that is generally focused on the doing and the being is generally overlooked, why would they? How they behave is then going to be supported by most of the people they come into contact with and be a reflection of how these people behave. Slowing Down

Even though someone can live a life where they often feel as though they are going to die, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. However, if they are not aware of this, they are still likely to suffer. What can be normal is for them to experience a lot of anxiety and fear, making it hard for them to feel at ease. But, if this is just what is normal, there will be no reason for them to do anything about it. Holding On

What can be normal is for someone to spend a lot of time by themselves, away from others. When they are by themselves, they could typically feel comfortable and at ease. This can also be a time when they will be connected to what is taking place inside them, too. When they are around others, though, this could be a time when they often feel uncomfortable and lose touch with their inner world. A Very Different Experience

If someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they might find is that they find it hard to feel good about themselves. What could stand out, if they were to take a closer look at how they feel during these moments, is that they feel worthless, unlovable and deeply ashamed. If they don’t feel very low, it could be because they are doing something that allows them to avoid how they feel. This can mean that they will have the tendency to be in doing mode and will rarely take the time to just be. A Natural outcome

After being in a position where he has wanted to be in an intimate relationship and to be loved for a little while, a man could end up sabotaging the very thing that he has wanted for all this time. Still, this is not to say that this is something that he will be consciously aware of. The days, weeks and perhaps even the months will go by and he will end up pushing away the women (or man) that he is with. Consequently, he could come to the conclusion that he has no control over this area of his life and even believe that he is being punished. A Life-Affirming Experience