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In order for a man to live a life that a worth living, he will need to be in tune with his own needs and feelings. Along with this, what is going on inside him will largely need to define how he behaves. Being this way will allow him to live in a way that is in alignment with who he is. This doesn’t mean that he will constantly be walking around with a smile on his face and always feel alive and empowered; no, it means that he will know that he is living in the right way. Another Reality

After a man has come to see that he is overly focused on his mother and her needs, he could wonder what is going on. Also, what could soon stand out is that he has been this way for as long as he can remember. He will see that he has his own life to live and needs to meet but he will have acted and continue to act as though this is not the case. At this point, he might have had enough of behaving in this way and watching his life pass him by. Conflict

In the previous articles that I have written about Yellowstone, I haven’t mentioned Jimmy. However, in the beginning, Jimmy works on the ranch and lives in the bunkhouse, but, as time passes, he ends up going to the 6666 ranch to learn how to be a cowboy. Now, moving from one ranch to another is not the only change that he experiences as he becomes a very different person over time. One way of looking at his transition would be to say that he goes from a boy to a man At First

Not too long ago, a man may have experienced a breakup. Then again, this might not be something that took place recently, with his relationship having ended a number of months or years ago. However, irrespective of how long ago this took place, he could now be in a very bad way and find it hard to function. As a result of this, he is likely to be radically different to how he was before. A Struggle So, it could be difficult for him to get out of bed each morning and he could find it hard to get to sleep at night. During the day, he might typically only do what he has to do.

Although someone can be carrying a lot of pain, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. The reason for this is that their brain can generally keep this pain out of their conscious awareness. Along with this, there can be a number of things that they will do, secondary defences, to keep this pain at bay. When it comes to what they do, these can be things that typically take place automatically and without them realising what is going on. Held In Place

If someone was mistreated during their early years, they are likely to carry a lot of anger, rage, and hate. These feelings will be a natural consequence of having been violated throughout this stage of their life. However, although this is the case, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of how they feel. The reason for this is that they could be in a shut down state, which will stop them from being able to connect with how they feel. Another Scenario

In the same way that someone can live in a building that has many levels and spend most of their time on the top floor, they can also inhabit a body and spend most of their time up top. As a result of this, they will generally be unaware of what is taking place in their body. The outcome of this is that they will typically be out of touch with their feelings and a number of their needs. In other words, they will seldom if ever operate as a whole human being. The Norm

If someone was mistreated during their formative years, they might soon find out that the parent that abused them is not willing to acknowledge what took place. Assuming it was one parent, they might have been told, on numerous occasions, that what they say happened didn’t happen. It then won’t just be a case of this parent saying that certain things they remember didn’t happen and/or certain things were different to how they remember. No, all of their memories will be dismissed. A Strange Response

In today’s world, there are a number of different views when it comes to what it means to be a man. For some, being a man will involve being highly masculine and not very feminine. This is likely to mean that he will need to have a muscular physique, be mentally strong, be able to lead himself and others, get things done, and be courageous and stoic. Having a fair amount of money and certain material possessions can also be seen as being important. The Other Side

Nowadays, there is less pressure on people to have a traditional relationship and even to get married. Thanks to this, people have far more freedom to express themselves and experience something that is actually right for them. So, for a while now, casual encounters have been an option, and, more recently, there is the option to have an open relationship. Both of these options are also offered on different dating apps, making it easier for someone to find exactly what they are looking for. The Difference

What someone may see, if they were to step back and reflect on their early years, is that they were often treated as though they had no value and were worthless. So, they might have often been physically harmed and verbally put down and largely been deprived of the emotional nutrients that they needed. Being treated in this way and missing out on what they needed would have greatly wounded them. In fact, the damage that was done could have been so severe that even though many decades have passed since they were treated in this way, they are still in a bad way. A Big Impact

If someone has watched many films over the years and even if they rarely watch films, they are likely to be familiar with the good vs. bad scenario. There will then be one person or a group of people that are good, against one person or a group of people that are ‘bad’. However, without even going into a common theme when it comes to films, they could live in a society where there are those that are seen as being ‘good’ and those that are seen as being ‘bad’. For example, certain politicians and those that are at the top, so to speak, are often seen as being ‘bad’. It’s clear

Irrespective of whether someone pays attention to the mainstream media or the alte ative media, they are going to be aware of things that are taking place in the world that are bad. Perhaps the main difference, if they pay attention to the latter, is that they can be aware of things that are far worse. One of the reasons for this is that the mainstream media only covers certain topics. The alte ative media, on the other hand, doesn’t have the same restrictions and often goes far deeper into things. Far Worse

Up until recently, someone may have typically been full of life and taken life by the horns, to so speak. But, after something has taken place, they could have very little if any energy and have just about lost all their drive to do anything. As a result of this, if they were to reach out for support, they could end up being described as depressed. However, even if they were to simply talk to a friend or family member about what is going on, the same thing could take place. The Cause

Although someone will have a number of different needs, it doesn’t mean that they will act like it. When it comes to how they live, it could be as though they only have a few needs. There will be their survival needs and then there can be the other needs that they take care of. When it comes to the former, this will include their need for food, shelter and clothing and when it comes to the latter, this can include their need for entertainment, to learn, and be creative. Independent

If someone believes that they are unlovable, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. But, even if this is not something that they are aware of, it is still going to have a big impact on their life. So, a lot of their time and energy could be spent doing things to make themselves more appealing. For example, they could put a lot of effort into their appearance, with them spending a lot of money on clothes. More to it

If someone was to look back on their early years, what could soon stand out is that they grew up in a family that was very close. Therefore, if it was put forward to them that they were neglected, they are likely to dismiss what is said. They could say that this is not true as their family did just about everything together. There is then likely to have typically always been someone around and, if they did do something, at least one other family member might have been there. Not Alone

Although someone may have attained a certain level of success, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable with it. Based on how they often feel, it could be as if they have stolen this success from someone else. They could be doing well in their career and a number of other areas of their life could also be going well. To get to where they are, they may have worked extremely hard over the years. A Mismatch

After coming to see that he is overly focused on his mother, a man could believe that he would be different if his mother hadn’t used him during his early years. This could show that he has thought a lot about what took place when he was a boy. He will then have come to see that he was forced to be there for his mother and deprived of what he needed in the process. Naturally, he will be angry about what took place and he might even feel betrayed. A Half-Life

After a man has come to see that he is focused on his mother and is abandoning himself in the process, he could experience a fair amount of anger and frustration. Nonetheless, as his life is not going to be very fulfilling, it is to be expected that he would feel this way. Along with this, his mother could simply expect him to be there for her and not encourage him to live his own life. He can then be annoyed that she is using him and is unable to look beyond her own needs. A Continuation

What can be normal is for a man to be walked over by others and to do what other people want. He is then not going to stand up for himself and he will act as though he is an extension of others. As a result of this, he is likely to often be in a very low place and experience a fair amount of frustration. But, as he is often treated badly and is not meeting a number of his needs, this is to be expected. Exte al Feedback

Although someone will have the need to be seen, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable being seen. This might be something that they are not consciously aware of or this might not be the case. If this is something that they are not consciously aware of, they could often feel ignored and invisible. They are then going to physically exist but it will be as though they are missing something. A Confusing Scenario

What can be normal is for someone to spend most of their waking hours on the go. So, from morning until night, they are seldom going to just be, and, even if they were to sit down, they might not be able to simply relax. To settle themselves down, they might need to have something to drink or even take something. By drinking alcohol or taking some kind of medication, they will be able to relax. General Outlook

If a man is out with his friends, he can typically be easy-going and happy to go along with whatever another person wants to do. He is then going to go along to get along and he will rarely assert himself. It might not be much different when he is at work, as he could be just as compliant and seldom stand up for himself. And, when it comes to what he does for a living, this could be something that he more or less fell into as opposed to something that he consciously chose to do. The Same Story

If a man is in touch with his power, he will be able to be assertive, take action, and to stand up for himself. This will show that he has a strong connection with his body as this is where his power will be found. Of course, his mind will provide him with a certain level of power but the power that this part of him gives him will pale in comprising to the power that is found in his lower body. One way of looking at it will be to say that this mind will give him the ability to plan his life while his body will give him the power to make these plans a reality. Connected

Experiencing loss is part of the human experience but that doesn’t mean that someone will grieve after they have experienced a loss. As a result of this, they can do their best to carry on as normal. Still, this is not to say that they will consciously avoid how they feel as this can be something that will happen automatically. So, as the days, weeks, and months pass, what took place could be a distant memory. Exte al Feedback

Nowadays, a lot is often said about having the ‘right mindset’ and being mentally strong. By having the right mindset and being mentally strong, someone will be more likely to achieve their goals and handle the challenges that come their way. Naturally, if someone sees themselves and the world in a certain way, they are going to be more likely to do well in life. And, when they have the ability to handle different setbacks, challenges and stressors, they will have what it takes to overcome the hurdles that arise and keep going. The Priority

If a man is seeing or is in a relationship with a woman, he might not feel at ease and be able to let his guard down. This might not be because she has done something to make him question whether or not he can trust her, though. No, he could just expect her to do something that will validate what is going on for him. Then again, he might believe that she is already doing something that validates his inner experience. Looking Back

Right now, someone could have a strong need to be successful. In fact, this could be something that they have wanted for as long as they can remember. If they were to think about why they want to be successful, they could think about how fulfilling their life will be. What could also enter their mind is that the purpose of life is to be successful. An Example At this point in time, they could live a life that is anything but fulfilling and they could often be down and depressed. Still, they could have at least one friend or know someone who is very successful.

Based on how someone typically behaves, it can be as though they are wearing a straight jacket and don’t have a voice. The reason for this is that it can be normal for them to go along with what others want and not to speak up when they need to. They are then going to be an individual, who has their own feelings, needs and preferences, but, they will seldom act like one. Consequently, the life that they lead won’t be in alignment with who they really are. The Norm

Although someone’s body is part of them and is, therefore, not something that they can get rid of, it doesn’t mean that they have embraced it. As a result of this, they may overlook this part of them or they could do just about everything that they can to change it. What this will illustrate is that they don’t feel comfortable with this part of themselves and are unable to accept it. And, as this is a big part of who they are, it is naturally going to cause them problems. The First Experience

What someone may find, if they were to spend time by themselves, is that they feel deeply alone. This is then not going to be a time when they are able to enjoy their own company; it will be a time when they have a strong need to be around another or others.

It is part of the human experience for someone to spend time asleep and time awake. One way of looking at this would be to say that they will then spend part of their life being and part of their life doing. At the same time, this wouldn’t be completely accurate as there will need to be moments when they are able to just be when they are awake. By being able to do this, they will be able to relax and recharge. The Main Point

What can be normal is for someone to feel all at sea internally or to be in a shut down state and unable to feel anything. Experiencing life in this way is likely to make it hard for them to appreciate their time on this planet. Due to how unstable they often feel, then, their need to feel stable could just about consume their life. As a result of this, a number of their needs are likely to end up being overlooked. The Priority

A man could put a lot of effort into his appearance, with this being a way for him to receive a woman’s attention. This can mean that he spends a lot of time exercising, a lot of his money on clothes and is often at bars and clubs. When he receives attention from a woman who he finds desirable, this can be a time when he feels good about himself. He could feel even better if he talks to her and ends up taking things further with her. One Scenario

After someone was born, it simply wasn’t possible for them to break away from their mother after a number of weeks had passed and to live their own life. Unlike a rabbit, for instance, they needed to be able to attach to their mother, receive the right attunement and love and gradually develop a strong sense of self. This is a process that would have taken many, many years. If they had been born with a fully formed sense of self, they wouldn’t have been in a dependent state for very long and would have soon been able to live their own life. Back To Reality

If during a man’s early years, his father was rarely available and thus, seldom if ever provided him with the love, support, encouragement and acceptance that he needed, it doesn’t mean that he is no longer looking for his father to meet these needs now that he is an adult. However, if he is still looking for his father to meet these needs, he might not be aware of it.

When it comes to living a fulfilling life, one thing that is often mentioned is having an open heart. Or, perhaps to be more accurate, this is what is often mentioned in the world of self-development and spirituality. What this typically relates to is someone being connected to how they feel and allowing their feelings to guide them. Therefore, instead of being directed by their mind and their thoughts, they will be directed by their heart and their feelings. Another Element

From the outside, it can seem as though a mother enmeshed man just needs to stop focusing on his mother’s life and to focus on his own. By doing this, he will be able to slowly transform his life and live a life that is worth living. With this in mind, it will be up to him to draw the line with his mother and to make it clear that he doesn’t want to live this way anymore. Or, if this doesn’t take place, it will be up to his mother to encourage him to live his own life. From The Top

If a man has the tendency to be there for his mother, it is going to mean that he will also have the tendency to overlook a number of his own needs. Quite simply, it is not going to be possible for him to be there for both his mother and himself. So, when he is not at work, assuming that he generally works during the week, he could spend a lot of time doing things for his mother. For example, he could go shopping with and/or for her, do jobs for her and listen to her problems. Role Reversal

If someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they have the tendency to ignore their own needs. In fact, they could find that, in general, they are not even aware of their needs. Apart from their basic needs, then, such as their need to eat and drink, sleep, have adequate clothing and perhaps to exercise, most of their needs will be overlooked. Naturally, by living in this way, they are going to deprive themselves of a lot of the things that they need. Super-Independent

One thing that could cause someone to reach out for support is if they suffer from anxiety and/or often feel low. They could soon read or be told, depending on what approach they take, is that they need to look into and change what is taking place in their mind. What is going on up top, so to speak, is then going to be the area of focus. For their life to change, then, it will be essential for them to be ‘mindful’ of what is taking place in their mind and to replace their negative thoughts with positive thoughts. Powerful Things

What someone could find, if they were to speak to the parent who mistreated them during their formative years – assuming it was only one - is that they are unable to make much headway. Based on how this parent responds, it could be as if they are talking to someone who wasn’t actually there throughout this stage of their life. They are then likely to have expected one thing, only to experience something that was radically different. Now, this is something that could take place again and again for many, many years. The Same Story

In today’s world, the general view is that the citizenry is being victimised by those at the top. For some, this relates to the government and for others, this relates to those that live in the shadows. If, then, it wasn’t for what these people have done and are doing, the world would be a very different place. Another way of looking at this would be to say that the average person has no power, while this small group of people at the top have all the power. Two Options

Based on how someone typically comes across, they can appear to be a together human being. However, beyond the impression that they create can be someone who doesn’t have firm foundations. Thanks to how they live their life, though this could be something that they are not fully aware of. Therefore, when they do come into contact with what is really going on for them, they might not be able to join the dots, so to speak. Self-protection

What someone may see, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they have been with a number of people who more or less showered them with love, practically as soon as they met them, and then, before long, they changed. It would then have been as though they were the centre of the other person’s world at one point in time and at another, they were a mere afterthought.

Now that someone is an adult, they can have the tendency to feel bad about themselves. And, it might not matter what they do or how they live their life, as it might not change the sense of badness that they often experience. Along with this, they can have an overly developed sense of responsibility and believe that they are more or less always to blame whenever something goes wrong. Thus, they will end up feeling worse during the moments when they hold themselves accountable for something that hasn’t got anything to do with them. Weighed Down

Although having needs and feelings is part of the human experience, it doesn’t mean that a man will feel comfortable with them. As a result of this, it could be normal for him to overlook them. There can be moments when this is something that he is aware of and moments when this is something that he is unaware of. In general, this could be something that takes place just outside of his awareness. Out of Touch

There are numerous articles, videos and books available that go into how important it is for someone to protect themselves from ‘negative’ energy. Furthermore, there is a lot of information that goes into how this can be done. When someone does this, they will create a strong energetic boundary around themselves. What this will do is stop another person’s negativity from being able to affect them. The Same

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