If you've been working on manifesting all your desires, then you have probably read The Secret and have been visualizing what you want to have in your life. Sometimes you think you have received or manifested what you asked for and then you discover that it isn't working out quite that way.

One of my friends recently met a wonderful man. He appeared to be everything she was looking for in partnership. There seemed to be interest on both sides to allow it to become something more than friendship. She quickly discovered that he wasn't "the one."

What was that about?

Another friend was presented with the opportunity to speak at a large national conference. She was both excited and nervous. It appeared that this could be a great turning point in her career. Her speech was carefully prepared. The day of the event, only a hand full of people attended the talk.

What was that about?

Years ago my husband, Raven, and I were camping on Palomar Mountain in Southern California. We had visited the only store on the mountain and seen an advertisement on the bulletin board about a house for rent. Raven made a comment that it would be great to live up there. It was everything we love in a location - a mountain top full of trees, a panoramic view of the ocean, and not many people. As we were driving back to our campsite, he suddenly stopped and said, "I wonder what's down there?" - pointing down a road. So we turned and took a beautiful drive.

As we came around a corner, there sat the little house for rent that we had read about at the store. Not only was it adorable, but the front door was slightly open. We both looked at each other and said, "Do we dare?"

We walked around admiring the sweet little log home and thought about how grand it would be to live there and hike in the woods. We excitedly drove back to the store to call the owner. He informed us that he had rented it just that morning.

What was that about?

In each case, it appeared that the Universe had magically opened a doorway that would bring the person something they truly desired. In each case the person was left feeling confused and wondering what it all meant when it didn't turn out the way they thought it was going to.

In moments like this, you have to wonder what the heck the Universe is trying to tell you.

Why on earth did you have that experience? You thought you were manifesting all your desires. Did you do something wrong to mess up the result? Were you not clear in telling the Universe what you were looking for? Is there a hidden message in the experience that you have not figured out?

I simply call it The Warm Up.

The Universe was warming you up to the possibility, allowing you to contemplate what it would be like to have what it was that you desired. You were getting to feel what it would feel like to have it. You know that is an important component of the manifesting formula.

After Raven got off the phone that day having been informed that the house was no longer available, he began to wonder if there was anything else for rent on the mountain.

Sure enough, there was one more notice on the bulletin board. It was for an old mobile home in the state park. It was not a cute little log home. But we went to see it anyway because we didn't know what else to do after hearing the other place was not to be.

After being shown around, seeing all the little quirks of the place, Raven asked me if I wanted to move there. I immediately responded with "Yes."

He couldn't believe it.

It was old. It wasn't very attractive. It had some pretty strange nuances about it. But it also had no neighbors. It was completely surrounded by trees. To me it felt like the most magical place in the universe. I felt good to be there.

Before we saw the notice and then turned down the road and "happened upon" the log home for rent, we had never considered moving to Palomar Mountain. As we walked around the little home that just "happened" to have the door open, we began to imagine what it would be like to live on the mountain. It was the warm up to what the Universe had magically arranged for our enjoyment.

It has been my observation that when it comes to manifesting, the hardest part for most people is the "allowing it in" piece. We carry around so much emotional and mental baggage about why something isn't possible, that when the Universe hands it to us on a silver platter, we either don't see it, or we look for the catch or what is wrong because it is just too good to be true. We don't BELIEVE, have enough FAITH, TRUST, and HOPE to allow it in.

These warm ups help us glimpse the truth of the possibility - so when the real deal comes, we can actually accept it. Manifesting all your desires is possible. You just have to follow all the steps of the manifestation process in order to make it happen.

The little house on Palomar turned out to be exactly the kind of magical place that I thought it was. Raven and I got married while living there. It is where I began my writing career. It is where our son, Jess, was conceived. It is where the first Dancing Dolphin Essences were made from the wildflowers growing on the mountain. (I'm the creator of Dancing Dolphin Flower & Gem Essences and Enchantment Aromatherapy Roll-Ons.)

One day we tracked a cougar that had walked through our yard after a snow fall. We could look outside the window and watch deer eating apples right off the tree. It was a heavenly place for us.

My friend that met the guy mentioned in the first paragraph had a further story to tell. She met another guy and within the course of a 20 minute conversation they were both practically in tears at the immensity of the energy between them. She hadn't even contemplated relationship until she met the first guy. When she shared the story about the second one with me, I just shook my head and said, "Oh girlfriend, you are in for the ride of your life."

For those of you who have read my ebook Manifesting Your Beloved, you know that my relationship with Raven started in a very similar fashion. I had begun dating a man who met all the things I had put on my list as requirements for the relationship I desired. He was wonderful. I loved him. Yet when I asked my inner guidance if he was "the one," I always got no.

And soon after starting to date the first guy, I met Raven. I could hardly breathe in his presence. Our first meeting was brief, maybe 15 minutes total, but it left an imprint on my heart that has lasted until now. It was one of those heart pounding, "Holy moly, who the heck was that?" kind of moments. There was an instant recognition.

Luckily the Universe had already put me through a warm up. I knew a great relationship with a wonderful man was possible because I was already in one. (Side note: There is a huge difference between "hoping" and "knowing" you've found what you are looking for.)

The friend who was to speak at the convention - we are still waiting to see what that was all about. I believe something truly wonderful is on its way.

If an opportunity has recently come your way and it didn't turn out the way you expected, perhaps you were also just being warmed up for something even more wonderful. Expect miracles. They happen every day.

Author's Bio: 

Debbie "Takara" Hicks is an author, speaker, and industrial engineer. She is recognized around the world as a personal growth and energy healing expert. If you want to manifest all your desires, then get her eBook Manifesting Your Beloved to understand the entire process. It was written with loving relationships in mind, but works for anything you desire to manifest. www.dolphinempowerment.com/manifestingbook.htm