All Is Well Until You Know Differently

The first time I heard this statement was when I was newly in the post-divorce dating stage. After numerous dates and very short relationships I met someone I connected with. He was charismatic, funny, loved doing anything and everything, loved his children, showed an interest in mine and even talked about us getting married. It seemed like everything was great but……..I just couldn’t put my finger on it. I didn’t trust my intuition because I was previously married to an alcoholic who lied and manipulated in a way that had me thinking I couldn’t be feeling and thinking the things I felt and thought. As far as my intuition was concerned, I felt that I could not trust it.

The man I started this new relationship with was in the military, an Iraq war veteran and a police officer. What could I be concerned about? I kept wondering if I was crazy because certain people, places and things weren’t making sense in regards to him but I just didn’t know what to believe. I grappled with wanting to find things out and not wanting to look like a crazy woman. I talked to a close friend about the things that bothered me. The saving grace at that time was something she told me to alleviate my stress and paranoia. She kept telling me over and over:

“All is well until you know differently”

I wrote that quote in my journal and I asked to be revealed whatever I needed to know in due time or to be relieved of these nagging suspicions. I repeated that quote whenever I felt like I was being drawn into the drama in my head. I decided to finally just let things unfold as they were meant to unfold, continuing to live as if “all was well until I knew differently”. After months of letting things unfold, my patience paid off and what I needed to know was shown to me one night in the most powerfully spiritual way I have ever experienced (I’ll save that story for another time).

What I learned during that relationship was that each time I applied the statement “All is well until I know differently”, I was at peace, I was completely present in the moment and I gave myself permission to have fun. This saying did not prevent me from finding out the truth about this man’s indiscretions, but it did allow me to be at peace until I discovered the truth. The relationship ended but my use of this saying had only just begun.

This saying has been a gift in so many situations since that man was in my life but I will always be grateful for the lessons I learned about myself during that time. Worrying about things that were out of my control would have made me miss the gratitude for the positive things that surrounded me; the rest of my life.

• How can you use this saying in an area or situation in your life?
• How has assuming the worst helped your state of mind?
• What if acting as if “all is well until you know differently” would actually open up space for the universe to show you what you need to know?