Are You Doing The Right Stuff?

These days, it seems like we are being pulled in so many different directions. Priorities compete with each other, and it just seems like we can’t get everything done, doesn’t it?
What’s worse, it seems like our daily “to do” lists grow much faster than our abilities to check them off. No wonder the world is showing more stress.
Sometimes it is helpful to step back, and evaluate all those things we’re doing, to make sure that the important “stuff” is being addressed.
OK, so what’s the important “stuff?”
A lot of that is up to you to decide. I like to challenge my coaching clients to decide which “mountains they want to climb” (goals), and when they want to climb them. Then, we check their daily “to do” lists to see if their activities are related to climbing one of those mountains.
Funny thing about goals… You have a much better chance of achieving them when first, you HAVE them, and second, you write them down. And only 2% of the world has goals! Do you?
Let’s get back to those mountains you want to climb. Mountains are our analogy to life goals. If you picture a mountain climber, he or she doesn’t necessarily climb only one mountain in his or her lifetime, but several. And many of the preparations they make can keep them ready to climb any one of those mountains. So you can choose a number of mountains to climb over your lifetime, just as you can choose many life goals. They don’t necessarily compete when you spread them out over a reasonable time.
No, it is not all that easy to decide which mountains you plan to climb, or which things are most important in your life, but it is easier than you think.
Start with your roles.
When you write down all the roles you have, goals can naturally emanate from them. Examples of roles are parent, sister, son, soccer coach, community leader, musician, friend, nurse, etc. for instance, if one of your roles is parent, you can have goals related to the future of your children, or your relationships with them. You may have goals related to saving for college, or goals related to how much “alone time” you plan to spend with them each week.
Strive for Balance
Goals are lived best when you have balance in your life.  Fulfillment in one area fuels each other area.  Too much emphasis in one area can drain the others.  It’s important to assess your balance, from time to time, and to take steps to assure that your life is well rounded physically, emotionally, intellectually, attitudinally and purposefully. Staying in balance is a great strategy for fulfillment in life.
The mountains you want to climb should encompass each of the areas balancing your life. Goals around physical health, intellectual challenge, life purpose, and emotional satisfaction can form the base for you to climb those other mountains.
Do, Be or Have  
The next choice in goals surrounds things that you may want to do, be or have in your life. Whether you want to drive cross country, learn to play the guitar, or be a doctor, these are the “mountains” you can place in your plans.
Putting it all together…
Once you’ve settled in on which mountains you want to climb, set plans to do it. By proactively working toward those goals, you’ll feel more energy and excitement about your life. And as you plan your months, weeks and days, make sure the actions you are taking are going in the direction of one or more of those mountains.
It’s an interesting exercise to look at someone’s daily “to do” list to see whether their activities match those mountains they’re planning to climb. Many of us spend more time doing things that are helping others meet their goals, putting our own goals on the back burner for another day…
Attitude Plays a Part
When you believe that only YOU control your attitude, and you combine it with recognizing your ability to live in the moment, you can truly control your enjoyment of life. That means the moment you are in. Right now. Too many people live in the past or the future, which adds stress (what about all those things I’m not getting done!)and it inhibits their ability to enjoy the actual moment they’re experiencing.  You have a CHOICE to enjoy the moment, to be happy or sad,  a CHOICE to worry or anticipate, a CHOICE to be positive or negative.  You have a choice to believe that you are working on the right stuff. It lowers stress, knowing that you’re working on the right priorities, and enjoying what you’re working on.
After all, it's pretty exciting, thinking and planning for the next mountain you will climb!