We all want to have what it takes to succeed. But actually having what it takes to succeed is often much more involved than we know. When we do not or are not willing to look at ourselves objectively we often overestimate how far we are willing to go to reach our dreams. By not looking at our own behavior long and hard with honest eyes it becomes very difficult to be able to see ourselves and our behavior objectively.

How many times have you encountered someone that feels like they are contributing much more than they actually are or someone that says they will tow the line but when the chips are down they are the first to leave you high and dry? Many people believe they are doing more than they actually are but they cannot see it because they cannot look at their behavior objectively or be honest with themselves. Those that succeed are the ones that are able to see themselves objectively and actually see their efforts as they truly are. That is why it is very important to be absolutely honest with yourself about how far you are willing to go to reach your dreams. Self deception has no place in a success mindset only honesty and a clear vision of your behavior, habits and beliefs will help you to achieve your goals.

When you want to achieve your ultimate vision you need a blueprint or a life plan to help you get there. When you have a life plan you can easily break down the steps you need to take to reach your goals. It guides you into making goals that are SMART or specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time set. By taking steps to ensure that you have a good plan to guide you in achieving your goals you can effectively break them down into manageable tasks that you can realistically set timelines for. If you do not view your abilities and resolve accurately and objectively you will not be able to create a realistic plan. That will hinder you in reaching your goals and cause you to feel discouraged when things don´t happen in the timeframe you were hoping for.

If you want to have what it takes to succeed you need to create feelings that support you in your goals .In order to do this you need to be ok with who you are and the extent of your commitment. By being honest with yourself you are halfway there toward reaching your goals. In order to achieve any goal you need to be focused and have an almost single minded determination. You also need to make sure that you are supporting yourself through action and thought. You can do that by asking yourself, does my behavior, my habits and my routine support me in my goals? If they do not then you can take the opportunity to change that now so that your chance for success increases.

You need to have a vision and be willing to everything you can to support that vision with your beliefs, behaviors and habits. High achievers that succeed understand and see how much they actually contribute to their success and do so willingly and with purpose. The people that do not succeed often feel that they are putting in more effort than they actually are. Therefore it is important to take responsibility for your behavior and your effort if you want to succeed. It is up to you to create the life that you want by focusing on the goal at hand, creating a realistic plan and keeping your goals smart. Become used to getting out of your comfort zone. Let security go and have an abundance mentality. Live your life out of love and focus on being in the moment and you will achieve more in life.

You are not a victim, you are responsible for your life, so take control, be grateful for what you have and achieve your goals. It is time to take off running.

Author's Bio: 

Drifa Ulfarsdottir is a work life balance expert coach and the founder and CEO of Balanced Mompreneur, she is a Certified Professional Coach, a premier coach at Coaching Cognition and a member of the International Coaching Federation. She helps busy mompreneurs stop the tug of war between their families. By using her simple solutions mompreneurs can find more time for themselves, their families and their business so they become better mothers, wives, sisters,daughters friends and business owners

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