Winning Child Custody for Fathers

The typical assumption with child custody battles is that the mother always wins. While statistics might show this to often be the case, it is not always set in stone. If you are a father and are about to begin the proceedings to win custody over your child or children, here are five tips that may assist you in accomplishing your goal.

Custody battles are decided by the judge presiding over your case, and for this reason, it is imperative that you know your place in the courtroom. The first step is to maintain appropriate courtroom dress. Simple rules apply here: dress to impress. Use the sort of mentality you might have going into an interview, and know that you likely cannot overdress for the occasion. A suit is very appropriate for the court scene, accompanied with a proper tie and dress shoes. Casual dress—especially street clothing—will prove detrimental to your effort.

To accompany the courtroom dress, proper courtroom etiquette will also carry a lot of water when it comes to impressing the judge, but can ruin the effort if overlooked. A father hoping to win custody should, at all cost, avoid any display of anger or outburst in the courtroom. Remain composed, and always speak to the judge with respect. Refer to him as, “your honor,” and do not speak unless you are asked to contribute. Remain alert and attentive during the entire proceeding.

The third element key to your case will be proper documentation. The father should prepare all documents regarding visitation schedules and child support payments prior to the hearing. It is advisable to seek the help of your lawyer in the preparation of these documents, and to be sure they will meet the standard of the court.

Fourth, always work for the best interest of the child involved. Remember that this whole proceeding is about this issue, and not your own, personal desires. The father should also be prepared to share in for the court specific reasons why sharing custody with the mother would not be in the best interest of the child. Remember, again, to remain rational and calm during these explanations.

Fifth, keep in mind other parties involved. Look to what the child wants, there is a good chance the court will want to know the child’s wishes prior to custody being awarded. If a custody battle exists between a you and a party with whom you were never married, be prepared to prove paternity in the event this issue is brought into question with the court.

Keeping these tactics in mind will help you in the effort to win custody over your child. As with any legal proceeding, it is very advisable to have a divorce attorney to give you counsel. Always keep your end goal in mind, and remember to work for the best interest of all parties involved.