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This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat ... Views: 3
Are you someone who would give all your water away to take care of someone else?
What takes place when you give all your water away?
What do you do when you’re in need of water to keep yourself hydrated and you don’t have any water left because you gave it all away?
Since you don’t have ... Views: 2
No one enjoys losing control, but that's what you have to look forward to if you give in to anger. Rage takes over, blowing situations out of perspective. A red mist of unreasoning fury drops across your vision, leading to explosive rage spirals. Break the cycle and cut your short fuse by ... Views: 16
Some people are naturally drawn to high-risk behaviors. This may involve taking drugs or alcohol, engaging in promiscuous sex, gambling or getting into physical altercations. There are many different ways this tendency can manifest, but all can be dangerous. In some cases, such actions can have ... Views: 29
Development as a Workplace Objective.
By focusing on development, entire environments come together. This is because development is such an inspiring, satisfying, growth oriented, and positive directional principle. One of the greatest assets is how it brings people together. This common ... Views: 70
THE PROCRASTINATION TRAP: ENEMY OF PERSISTENCE, THIEF OF TIME
To many people, it's a mystery "why" they're stuck in the procrastination trap. They realize that it makes no sense to berate themselves endlessly for repeating the same tired, old avoidance behaviors, nor does it make sense to ... Views: 54
Anger can be one of the most destructive emotions of all. It can be harmful to your health, relationships and well-being. Taken to an extreme, it can cause you to do things you later regret or that have legal consequences. Fortunately, there are effective ways to manage and reduce your anger. If ... Views: 55
It may be common to have low energy, get sick a few times a year, and be five to ten lbs. over weight, but please don't make the mistake of thinking these symptoms of an unhealthy lifestyle are normal… because they simply are not!
Sadly, most people fall into the category of “not really ... Views: 66
#2: Learn-to-Learn (Part 1 – Active and Reflective Learning Techniques)
After figuring out your learning-style last week, it’s time to learn the different techniques that work best for you.
*Note – Techniques used by each style can work and be useful to the other styles. Just because one ... Views: 125
A Quick Preamble:
It really is – like every aspect or category of your life – an out-and-out“mindset” thing…if you want to be wealthy, then simply “think” like the stinking-rich think…
…rich people build big wealth before they spend…they don’t actually spend money at the outset, just ... Views: 129
Problems are like the little paddles in a pin ball machine, that influence and guide the ball one way or the other. If the paddle hits the ball just right, it can propel the ball in an advantageous direction. You’re the little ball, and your problems are the paddles that guide you one way or the ... Views: 105
Education is becoming very, very expensive.
Even worse, it is not actually teaching any viable job skills that the workplace wants.
As for most jobs you’re hired for; require on the job training and have nothing to do with the degree you have.
A good example is my friend, Mike. Mike ... Views: 137
They can either free you or enslave you.
Nagging thoughts, self-deprecating thoughts, fearful thoughts, all enslave you and keep you locked in a prison of your own making. Try as you might, you can't get out. If you feel this way, it's because you're giving too much energy to those particular ... Views: 144
Thought is the limitation within which I have this human experience. At first, that may be a slippery concept to grasp. Beyond the understanding that I can think, and fall immersed into thought, is the concept that I can step out of thought.
As long as I’m experiencing life from inside the ... Views: 128
As a board certified neurofeedback practitioner, I've helped clients make significant changes in their lives for the past 5 years using the tool of neurofeedback.
Recently, with publication of Bessel van der Kolk's new book, The Body Keeps the Score, my office has been getting a flurry of ... Views: 95
Have you ever asked yourself why you are getting so defensive? ME? DEFENSIVE? I’m not defensive!
See! You are getting defensive.
I’ll share with you the key reasons why you get defensive and how you can leverage your defensiveness to accelerate your own personal growth.
When you get ... Views: 129
Trust is what allows us to believe in ourselves, in others, and in situations. When put into action, it looks like our being confident and knowing that all will be okay no matter what. Liberator of the constraints of our fears and anxiety, from a trusting place, we feel spacious, light, and more ... Views: 210
Music is KEY to Good Health after Crisis
As a native of the South, I wanted to make a contribution to the field of Psychology through my research on the Katrina survivors in Mississippi and Louisiana. Another reason, was I wanted to identify if individuals who experienced crisis became ... Views: 143
We all have a ‘dark side’ though most of us are afraid to admit to it. We prefer to think of ourselves of good people. That means that most of us are in, what is called by the experts, a state of denial. It is a state that the human race can no longer ignore, for we all can be murderers if we ... Views: 219
Imagine for a moment, a pie chart.
Now imagine (for the sake of this example) that pie chart represents objective, external reality.
Now imagine that your beliefs are the mechanism through which you gradually unveil and fill in more and more of the pie chart.
As you become more ... Views: 180
"The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude about the problem. Do you understand?”-Captain Jack Sparrow
Have you ever been really excited and passionate while contemplating a big life change, or something new for yourself in general?
How often are your considerations met ... Views: 231
II dislike using the word cure when it comes to Tinnitus. I think it’s misleading and somewhat cruel. Cure tends to conjure up an image of a magic pill or an elixir where one day you have Tinnitus, the next day just like magic, it has vanished. As you probably already know, there are literally ... Views: 198
A habit is formed in approximately 20 days, whether it is a good habit or a bad habit. Therefore, if a person repeats an act over and over again it will result in a habit that is difficult to modify. A habit can be, let’s say eating ice cream for a week straight every night. The subconscious ... Views: 187
A habit is formed in approximately 20 days, whether it is a good habit or a bad habit. Therefore, if a person repeats an act over and over again it will result in a habit that is difficult to modify. A habit can be, let’s say eating ice cream for a week straight every night. The subconscious ... Views: 166
Life is full of opportunities. There’s work of course, or school if you’re a student. There are chores, and errands, but also workout time, evenings with your family, organizations you want to support…so many things you can take part in.
But if you end up saying yes to all of it, then before ... Views: 227
When we were born, we arrived with a list of things that we needed. Many of our needs were provided for by our parents to one degree or another. Many needs got added to our list as we matured into adulthood. I’d like you to think about what you may need in the following categories. Are you ... Views: 155
Lies come in all different shapes and sizes. The more we tell them, the more difficult they become to distinguish from the truth. People lie for a variety of reasons, but more often than not, they lie to try to avoid the pain of the truth.
The truth of the matter is that covering up or ... Views: 163
Depression is chemical imbalance in your brain but chemical imbalance is not from your birth. There was a time when you were not depressed rather you were happy and peaceful but over a period of time you developed a few habits consciously or unconsciously which led you to depression. Now those ... Views: 243
I have to be honest about how I typically deal with my distaste for winter - I get the heck out and go somewhere warm! While I will be making some trips to warmer climates this winter, I still try to find ways to be happier and more at peace when I find myself wishing I had three jackets on ... Views: 260
We human beings are social creatures who are high wired for connection with other human beings. Connection with what is alive, in other words what is real, true and genuine in others with that what is real, true and genuine in us is one of our deepest basic needs and it is universal which means ... Views: 152
We human beings are social creatures who are high wired for connection with other human beings. Connection with what is alive, in other words what is real, true and genuine in others with that what is real, true and genuine in us is one of our deepest basic needs and it is universal which means ... Views: 160
To be honest, there are no clear cut signs when it comes to having self-sabotaging behavior. Although a lot has been said about the most common indicators of this particular behavior, it will still vary from one person to another.
However, if we talk about the disadvantages of having this ... Views: 258
Just like there is no action possible without first the idea or thought; there is no great achievement possible without the desire to achieve it. The intensity of your desire is directly proportional to the rate of which any achievement is realised.
If you are able to transform your desire ... Views: 404
‘Had a great day?’
How many times have you thought or said this to you or someone else? A day becomes great by great moments of experience. Experience will depend on the circumstances and your actions. We have limited control over our circumstances but can have full control over actions. I wish ... Views: 304
Ask many people to define the word habit and they give a negative definition. There is plenty of evidence that a habit can be bad; the habit of smoking, overeating, drinking, watching television and on and on. On the flip side, there are beneficial habits. The habit of exercising, eating ... Views: 259
For years I “pounded the pavement” looking for opportunity. I tried just about everything; except one thing; being myself.
What I discovered was this; as long as I tried to be someone other than who I am, my success was always an arms distance away.
Are you trying to be someone you’re not? ... Views: 258
Consider this... when you do a kind deed, do you need to get credit for the action or do you take action simply because the task needed to get done? Your initial reaction may be that you took action on something because it needed to get done. Yet, many people (on a hidden level) can't stand the ... Views: 301
Stress has a bad rap.
Stress can create problems, to be sure. Some of the more common ones are include difficulty concentrating, trouble with focus and memory, moodiness, frustration and overwhelm.
There are physical symptoms as well – low energy, headaches, trouble with digestion, aches ... Views: 292
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
The narcissist cursed - or blessed - with mental X-ray vision. He sees through people's emotional shields, their petty lies, their pitiable defences, their grandiose fantasies. He knows when they deviate from the truth and ... Views: 379
"Life is supposed to be fun", says some great people. And I totally agree with that, life is more fun than you think it is. We all want a happy life, and we all know that having a positive attitude feels better than a negative one. But for some reason, we are all attracted to and can be easily ... Views: 375
ABC approach is a methodology adopted to study the behavior patterns of a person. ABC relates to Antecedents, Behavior and Consequences. The three words may look very simple, but the complexities involved in this study are exceptionally high. Understanding the ABC's of behavior enables one to ... Views: 406
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
The narcissist can get better, but rarely does he get well ("heal"). The reason is the narcissist's enormous life-long, irreplaceable and indispensable emotional investment in his disorder. It serves two critical functions, ... Views: 352
One of the companies I worked for brought in external consultants to assist us in shaping a new strategy to grow the business. One of the exercises we undertook was to get an understanding of what drives us to ... Views: 458
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
Positive feelings (about oneself or pertaining to one's accomplishments, assets, etc.) – are never gained merely through conscious endeavor. They are the outcome of insight. A cognitive component (factual knowledge regarding ... Views: 360
The achievement made in the field of medicine and science in the last century would be dwarfed by the achievements occurred in this century. The advancement in technology would make practicing medicine faster, cheaper and better. And the best part is that patients would be benefited a lot from ... Views: 341
Bibliotherapy for social-emotional learning experience. Or in other words, reaching your child‘s inner-world by joining him for the ride with stories, toys and games. By Educational Toys And Children Books For Character Education.
An iceberg floating peacefully in the ocean or a majestic tree ... Views: 396
Most people have heard the phrase "random acts of kindness", which refers to a selfless act of giving resulting in the happiness of another person. Terms like this are increasing in popularity around the world, as more people identify a deficiency in their lives that can only be fulfilled by ... Views: 370
This past weekend, while we were away for the 4th of July holiday, I had a profound realization of how addicted I've become to my iPhone. While I love many aspects of how technology enhances our lives and allows us to connect with one another in some very cool ways, I'm also aware of the ... Views: 483
You hear about it all the time. First impressions are lasting impressions, you only get one chance to make a good first impression. Nobody will know how good you are unless you make a good first impression on them.
Unfortunately most people see themselves as not good at making a first ... Views: 711
Celebrating Mother's Day and mom's birthday at the beach was a gift my mom, my sister, and I gave ourselves each year. It was a Mother's Day tradition for many more years than I can remember.In 2001 we started a new tradition.
Mom’s three year journey with lung cancer had taken a toll on ... Views: 649