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A Quick Preamble:
I’ll start with, a confession…I’ve been around for more than half a century now, over 54 years in fact – not something i’d often admit to, and i’ve travelled half of our beautiful planet (well ok, there are some parts i’ve been to that are not quite so “beautiful”), by ... Views: 46
There is a lot of confusion and lack of care in the world today leading to human unhappiness. Though many explanations are given for that state of affairs, the messages from Near Death Experiences provide a gateway to radical transformation.
Human society has been in turmoil for thousands of ... Views: 61
Heretofore, suicide has been a taboo topic. Now, it is so headline-making and societally embarrassing that clinicians and researchers are madly looking for answers and trying to quantify criteria. Why has suicide become so rampant?
There are those that end their life by suicide from hearing ... Views: 30
Losing a spouse at an older age is extremely difficult. The grief involved and the feeling of being alone can creep in, causing the widower to feel at a loss for life. If you have a parent or know somebody who just recently became a widower, you really need to help them grieve with these five ... Views: 43
When narcissists fall victim to chronic or acute diseases, or survive a traffic accident, they react in either of four typical ways, depending on the type of narcissist:
1. The schizotypal reaction: the belief that the narcissist's predicament is a part of a larger, cosmic plan, or of a ... Views: 109
We all carry a lot of unfinished business along with us all the time. The more we accept death, the more in the moment we are. Accepting death is possible, for it makes us reject the parts of us not living in the moment. That is a spiritual gift. If you looked at your life imagining you are ... Views: 99
With the weather changing and the days getting longer, it is easier to get outside and get some fresh air. Shortly after my heart surgery the weather turned cold and it was hard to get out. I remember one morning going to get some groceries and I forgot to wear a hat. My head got cold and I ... Views: 97
Accepting your own mortality with grace and dignity can be a difficult process. Many people are left with scant little time to accept their own mortality, and you must prepare as best you can for the inevitable. This article explains four methods that allow you to find peace when you know that ... Views: 79
“Learn the art of taking your stand on the Truth within. When you live in this Truth, the result is a fusion of the mind and the heart and the end of all fears and sorrows. It is not a dry attainment of mere power or intellectual knowledge. A love which is illumined by the intuitive wisdom of ... Views: 131
Over 90% of deaths are preceded by an illness. After first diagnosis of a serious illness, but when death is not yet a threat, you can develop habits to make that time in your life have quality. Living a quality life to your final breath is something we all can do, if we consciously prepare to ... Views: 139
People fall prey to conditioned responses unknowingly. As a result, their reactions to others become robotic. They can release themselves from this sad state of affairs through transcendence brought about by simple self-awareness towards inner freedom. That would lead to discovering natural ... Views: 225
I am in my own state of shock. My friend, Marsha, called this morning to tell me that her daughter, Lauren, had committed suicide. She was 34 years old, the same age as my oldest daughter, Alicia. I’ve known Marsha since we attended Kino Junior High together. Some 15 years later Marsha, our ... Views: 201
Have you ever thought why there is cancer related to blood, brain, bones, lungs and various other body parts besides the heart? Most of us have never heard about heart cancer or tumors and most of us simply assume that it maybe because the heart is the symbol of emotion and maybe it is something ... Views: 202
Many of us have lived a life where we have become proficient in accomplishing goals; we live our lives in that state of mind. When we are close to the end of life, what is our goal? In our lives, we have been "the Doer," where we do things by focusing on our thoughts. Preparing for death ... Views: 175
The essence in all beings is a spark of the Divine and so, it is the same in all. It is not identified with any nation, race or religion. Thus, it is anonymous, like a tree in a forest. The awareness of this fact brings in universal love in human beings.
The Ego-self and The True Self
We ... Views: 257
Some of my biggest teachers have been in the form of animals.
Back in November, we lost a dear member of our family. Our 12 year old cat Bucky fought a long battle with intestinal cancer. He taught me a lot during his battle about acceptance, compassion, perseverance, and gratitude. ... Views: 211
If you have experienced the loss of a loved one by suicide, you have a challenging journey ahead of you. Not only do you suffer heart wrenching grief from your loss, but also from the fact that she chose to take her own life. You may wonder if you could have done something to prevent it. You may ... Views: 274
Robin Williams’ recent death left many of us, who didn’t even know him, feeling bereft. How could he, who was loved by millions, take his own life? How could his life have been so unbearable that he had to end it? And how do we cope with the aftermath?
About 40,000 people in the U.S. commit ... Views: 229
The dissolution of the robotic response of the human brain is necessary to understand the hidden aspects of life and the afterlife. Such dissolution can be called the psychological death. It leads to wholesome and holistic living.
Ending of the ego can be considered as a matter of ... Views: 280
We live in a culture where expressing grief is not honored in meaningful ways. We live in a society that’s awkward around the subject of death & dying, as well as grief. We have “bereavement leaves” in the workplace that last for three or four days. We use words like you need to “get over it,” ... Views: 212
"Whenever one person stands up and says, "Wait a minute, this is wrong," it helps other people do the same." Gloria Steinem
Wouldn't it be nice if we lived in a world where everyone had a strong moral compass? How safe would we all feel if everyone followed the golden rule and treated others, ... Views: 252
"Two things define you; your patience when you have nothing, and your attitude when you have everything."
In my article on March 2, 2014 and chapter two in my book Backbone Power The Science of Saying No, I speak about the importance of being able to say No when you mean No. After listening ... Views: 265
According to a website called Army.mil, ever since WWI, mothers of fallen soldiers have dubbed themselves as “Gold Star Mothers”. The name derived from the Gold Star, a symbol in the military known for “loss and sacrifice”. Ever since 1936, September 29th has officially been recognized by the ... Views: 265
Mothers are normally military minorities. Sure, women in general are gaining more recognition in the military, but surely many people forget that a large majority of these women are mothers as well as national heroes. However, balancing these two identities is hardly ever easy. One military ... Views: 255
WHERE GRIEF HIDES
In the space of one breath, I moved from a place of conscious breathing to a space of intense grief. Grief deep and profound... This particular experience of grief was a surprise. My dear friend had passed after an intense experience with a progressive disease, five months ... Views: 320
When you lose someone to death, the tendency at first is to focus on how bad it is because you will never see them again. However, you can go through the mourning process more quickly when you go through memorabilia of the person and allow yourself to enjoy reminiscing. Read about this and other ... Views: 393
When the learning process moves into the region of some paranormal phenomena, it helps us lead a life of order, dignity and love. It would also aid our passing on phenomenon - be it our own or of our dear ones - to be met with peace and insight.
Freedom from the Self-created Prison
People ... Views: 328
As we grow up, life in this world becomes a complicated rigmarole. It needs simplicity in our approach to understand it. This is where the total inward resignation can help. It is a matter of deep relaxation without adopting any psychological posture.
We see many ... Views: 391
Loss of A Loved One: The Journey of Grief
Since no two relationships are ever the same, the grief that follows
from this particular loss is also never the same. How could we possibly express the magnitude of the true loss we feel inside? We each experience loss and pain in our own personal ... Views: 324
Paranormal phenomena like the near death experience and the out-of-body experience have brought to light the connectivity of all living beings and the feeling of oneness at their essence. Can we move towards that holistic awareness?
Among the many important messages from near death ... Views: 465
Reflective people apply themselves to understanding the vagaries of life and it helps them move into deeper perspectives. Consequently, there is a sensing of the non-apparent aspects of life. They see that shocks in life have a message understanding which the shocks become unnecessary!
When ... Views: 425
It has been known that some terminal patients report paranormal visions when they are close to passing away. A careful look at those reports can help us receive profound messages regarding what happens at the transition between life and the afterlife.
A lot has been published about the ... Views: 441
The funeral was lovely. It was packed with friends paying their respects. But once everyone else has gone back to normal routines, close family and dear friends still grieve for the lost loved one. They may feel that the world has passed them by and feel very alone.
Now is a perfect moment to ... Views: 338
When my grandmother passed away at 98 it was a very difficult time in my life. As part of the process of working through my own grief I wrote the following poem.
Grandma Went Home On Mother’s Day
She was the mother of a son and a daughter.
She was the loving grandmother to five.
She was ... Views: 250
When someone close to us dies many companies will give you a few days off with pay to recover. Much of the rest of our society seems to believe that grief is something very temporary. If only it were that simple or easy. Grief is not about forgetting or “ getting over it. “ It is about learning ... Views: 339
During our life on earth, we are offered many possibilities. Some of them are healthy and some unhealthy in regard to our moving towards a holistic life of inner peace, empathy and loving application. What can help us take the right course?
A great deal of our life is wasted by living on ... Views: 391
The understanding of reincarnation leads to perspectives on many hidden issues of life so that our vision expands. As a result, the outlook on one’s life also expands helping us treat everyone and everything on earth with respect and dignity.
It is good to live one’s life on this earth ... Views: 516
The transformational state is based on pure awareness in the ‘Now’; the future is taken care of by that holistic state of mind. In contrast, paths to preset goals sustain the ego through expected fulfillments; the ‘Now’ is relegated as a mere passage.
The conventional mindset in which human ... Views: 390
Human beings don’t think much about their last hour before leaving this planet. If they care for it at all, they give in to some religious promises rather than rely on their own awareness and discovery. There is good scope here for reflections.
It is good to reflect on the last hour that ... Views: 448
In the aftermath of quite a few near death experiences, the person gets cured of almost impossible medical conditions much to the amazement of the hospital staff. We look into some case studies and the possible inferences from them in this presentation.
There are many aspects of near death ... Views: 519
Wanting to impress people with their assumed humility, human beings may take on a posture of freedom from their ego. This is pious egoism. Its tricky ways can keep us arrested in its deception. Those who wish to expand their spiritual vision understand this deceptive tendency in the human ... Views: 373
In your memory I choose to see what you have tried so hard for me to see. It is in your memory that I choose to take love, honor and respect to a whole new level. I am trying the best that I can and I walk strong, in your memory.
For all the times I just wanted to cry, you made me laugh. ... Views: 429
Messages from paranormal phenomena can take us into the realm of the unknown, the Beyond. To receive the messages, one must listen and remain without judging. That means one should not fall a prey to the usual tendency of being a believer or a non-believer.
Human beings generally live ... Views: 411
Our lives can be enriched by paying attention to the wider consciousness beyond the limited cocoon within which our habitual mind revolves. We get a glimpse of its greatness by looking into the descriptions of Oneness in that pervasive awareness.
Consciousness, the basis for our being ... Views: 434
Have you heard the song, “Live Like You Were Dying” by Tim McGraw?
If you haven’t, click on the link and head over there after you’ve finished reading. It really makes you sit up and take notice of how you’re living your life. That’s what it did for me, anyway, when my coach at the time had me ... Views: 411
Death, no matter what the cause, is always unexpected and a shock. I know this, and as a death care professional and grief coach, I teach this. Working over 12 years in the death care industry, I’ve seen the emotions of death and grief. I’ve assisted hundreds of families with prearrangements, ... Views: 539
It is usually assumed that our consciousness begins with birth and that matters get recorded from then on. In reality, consciousness exists even while the child is in the womb and a kind of ‘knowingness’ seems to operate then.
Studies have been conducted on pre-birth experience (PBE), the ... Views: 408
People have the habit of repeating parrot-like and copying what others do and say without much reflection. A very popular example is the saying, “We are equal in death.” But is it true that we are all equal in death?
First of all, do we all die in the same way? Some people die in accidents, ... Views: 408
The Self: An Evolving Constant
A true yet perplexing paradox of self is that it is an evolving constant. It is that stable sense of constancy yet it also embodies an undeniable fluidity over time. This irony captures the Self in its most fundamental dualism. It may be an understatement to say ... Views: 363
Although the 2013 Academy Awards are history, one gem - Amour - will continue to shine. This heartbreaking and unflinching movie was painful to watch but it stimulated conversations with more questions than answers.
As the people we love decline, how do we deal with the inevitable ... Views: 524