Many of us were raised in a home where approval and love
were especially shown to us when we accomplished something.
Parents, understandably enough, want to let their children
know how pleased they are with their children's accomplishments.
As a child, perhaps you got to hear how "wonderfully bright"
you were when you did something. And perhaps you were never
wonderfully bright when you didn't do something.
Here, small children often make a huge misinterpretation by
believing they aren't worthy if they fail to achieve and
accomplish all the time.
In many instances, this "failing" is one of the biggest hidden
reasons why we drive ourselves so hard as young adults and
mature grown-ups - basically, an old misunderstanding we still
carry from our childhood.
This can also be a notable cause of low self-esteem even later
in life.
The beauty with raising and nurturing our self esteem is
coming to the full realization that we are OK and lovable
just as we are.
Here's a statement that can decrease "negative stress" in our
lives and increase our wellness:
**You matter, simply because you exist. You don't have to do
anything - you don't have to be anything. You matter, simply
because you exist.**
Once we make this conclusion, we allow ourselves to accomplish
any task we take on with more joy and effectiveness, and, at
the same time, we make the goal of finding and maintaining a
balance between our work and necessary recreation so much
easier.
- Julia Nestler
You make a living by what you get. You make a life by what you give.
- Winston Churchill
Intuition is a spiritual faculty and does not explain but simply points the way
- Florence Scovel Shinn
A dream is just a dream. A goal is a dream with a plan and a deadline.
- Harvey Mackey