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- Anger Management Class:Goals and Objectives - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2012 from Joe JamesAn anger management class is very effective for those who experience difficulty in controlling negative emotions. Parents, executives, teenagers and even elementary age children can benefit from learning how to deal with aggression and hostility in an effective manner. These classes can be taken ...
Views: 10866 - Denial in People with Anger Management Problems - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2010 from Joe JamesAnger can be like an addiction in that people are very creative in finding all sorts of rationales for their anger and why they don’t need anger management. At times it can almost appear as if they are in denial about their anger management issues. Part of the reason for this is that the way our ...
Views: 8608(4 votes) - 6 Anger Management Techniques to Manage Your Boss - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2010 from Joe JamesOne of the most important people to use anger management techniques with is that person in your life that you struggle getting along with that you warmly refer to as your boss. You're tired. You're discouraged. You're dejected. You're unmotivated. You may feel that your boss is intimidating, ...
Views: 7551(2 votes) - Anger Management - The Difference Between Anger and Aggression - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Joe JamesMost anger management courses should probably more accurately called aggression management classes. This is because anger and aggression are not the same thing. Anger may lead to aggression, but it is something entirely different. If you ask most people what the goal of anger management is ...
Views: 6728(1 vote) - Court Ordered Anger Management: It Really is a Big Deal - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2011 from Joe JamesIt's easy to think of court ordered anger management as something to not be too concerned about. But it is. If you've been ordered by a judge to take anger management classes, then you must take this very, very serious. If any part of the court ordered anger management obligation seems silly, ...
Views: 6219 - Anger Management: The 5 Relationship Killers - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2010 from Joe JamesAnger Management: The 5 Relationship Killers At times, every marriage or significant relationship has times in which anger management would be helpful. Its pretty hard to live with someone and not get angry with them at some point. Interestingly, research has shown that its not the number of ...
Views: 5769(2 votes) - After an Affair: 5 Ways to Cope with Flashbacks - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2011 from Joe JamesThe unpredictability of flashbacks after an affair can be very exasperating. Sometimes it can feel like you are taking one step forward and two steps back. This can be especially true when you feel like you've been making progress. Sometimes it may feel as if the roller coaster ride will never ...
Views: 5678 - Surviving Infidelity: The Pain of Obsessive Thinking - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2011 from Joe JamesWhen something traumatic such as infidelity happens our brains, being the problem solving machines that they are, look for explanations or ways to make sense out of what has happened. In its quest to find an answer your brain will keep looking and looking for more information to try to make ...
Views: 5614 - Coping With Infidelity: Is Your Partner a Sociopath? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2011 from Joe JamesIt is important to remember that coping with infidelity is not the least bit easy but people all over have to do it. There are some important tips to always keep in mind when dealing with such a situation and they just might help. When people deal with such things they often feel as though they ...
Views: 4791 - Coping With Infidelity: The Serial Cheater - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2011 from Joe JamesSeeing various people from all walks of life begin the process of coping with infidelity is very common nowadays. Anytime that a person is facing this particular situation there is certain advice that might be of use to them. It is not uncommon for these people to feel alone with the struggle ...
Views: 3749 - After an Affair: How Do You Rebound? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2012 from Joe JamesHow do you rebound after an affair? If one holds onto grudges, it is hard to look at your spouse the same way. Recovering from an affair can be devastating. If a husband or wife has neglected their spouse and the spouse then wants to look elsewhere for love, cheating is not the answer. It is ...
Views: 3156 - Surviving Infidelity: Dealing with Feelings of Shame and Failure - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2011 from Joe JamesFor many people who are surviving infidelity, one of the most common thought that flashes in their head is that somehow, one way or another, there must be something wrong with them, they must not be good enough in some way because if they were the infidelity never would have happened. These ...
Views: 2936 - Anger Management Courses for the Court - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2012 from Joe JamesAnger management courses are usually taken at the order of the court system as a result of domestic violence or assault charges. Most often, it is men that are ordered into these classes, as they are the more aggressive sex. It is a beneficial course to take for men or women who have a lack of ...
Views: 2694 - After an Affair: Dealing with Grief - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2012 from Joe JamesLife after an affair can be heartbreaking even though its something that happens in many romantic relationships. The ramifications of the betrayal must be dealt with before a person can more forward in life. Learning how to rebuild a life after an affair takes patience, determination and a ...
Views: 2623 - Anger Management Course: What You Can Expect to Learn - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2011 from Joe JamesHave you been required to take an anger management course? What are such classes like? These courses are not at all like some of the ways they are depicted in popular media. Anger management courses just teach basic life skills. With the help of a counselor participants learn how to ...
Views: 2560 - Anger Management: Common Themes - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2011 from Joe JamesThere are lots of resources online to assist with anger management. But how can you tell if some of the things you find online are actually helpful in controlling anger? While the range of good advice can vary quite a bit you’ll find that the vast majority of good anger management articles ...
Views: 2366 - Anger Management: Dealing With Frustration - by Submitted on May 15, 2011 from Joe JamesHow can anger management help you to deal with frustration? While anger is a common enough emotion that usually arises as a result of a frustrating situation, it can become a problem when an individual is no longer able to control themselves, resulting in outbursts and worse. Such individuals ...
Views: 2254 - Anger Management Techniques to Diffuse Anger - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2011 from Joe JamesAnger management techniques are important because one of the most destructive forms of emotion in anybody's life is anger. Unfortunately, when a person becomes overloaded with stress, anxiety starts to kick in as well. Once all of this occurs, it becomes very easy to get angry, even if it is for ...
Views: 2252 - Surviving Infidelity: Baby Steps - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2012 from Joe JamesSurviving infidelity is never easy, no matter how forgiving any couple may be. Adultery remains the worst offense that any spouse can commit against his partner, since it is a direct assault upon every single principle of the marriage union. In many cases, the offended spouse is so wounded that ...
Views: 2191(1 vote) - Anger Management Techniques for Women - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2012 from Joe JamesWomen can become a slave to their tempers if they do not deal with what is bothering them. Getting mad is a natural emotion all men and women experience, but handled in the wrong way could lead to many unhealthy habits. Learning a few anger management techniques will help you to lower your blood ...
Views: 2188 - Cheating Spouses: Why They Cheat and What The Consequences Can Be - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2011 from Joe JamesOver fifty percent of marriages end in divorce and a large number of these splits are due to cheating spouses. It used to be the dreaded seven-year itch where a spouse would become bored and start looking for excitement outside the marriage, but now recent evidence shows this boredom is ...
Views: 2180 - Anger Management Classes and Genetic Vs Environmental Anger - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2011 from Joe JamesOne of the most frequently asked questions in anger management classes is whether one's anger problems are due to genetics or environment. At its most basic level anger is a survival mechanism which is hare wired into all of us. When you get angry, your sympathetic nervous system causes certain ...
Views: 2094 - Anger Management Techniques You Should Know - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2012 from Joe JamesAnger is an emotion that people feel when some one has wronged them or a situation does not go as expected. This is a normal feeling, but becomes abnormal or bad when it causes people to do or say harmful things to others. When it comes to such a point that an individual finds he cannot control ...
Views: 2062 - Anger Management Class for Court: All You Need to Know - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2012 from Joe JamesAn anger management class for court is really no different from one that you would take voluntarily. They would teach techniques to deal with stress and how to empathize as well as to improve communication. However the practitioner does have to be licensed and there must be a structured ...
Views: 1973 - Surviving Infidelity and Moving Forward - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2012 from Joe JamesSurviving infidelity is now possible. Infidelity is by far, according to statistics, the leading cause of divorce throughout the world. For those people in marriages, you will agree that it is very difficult, almost impossible to survive betrayal. It is for this very reason that most marriages ...
Views: 1950(1 vote) - Infidelity:Possible Root Causes - by Submitted on May 02, 2012 from Joe JamesInfidelity often comes as a result simple problems that are often unattended to. Poor communication skills or repeated ignorance makes a spouse mad and easily tempted to cheat. This may eventually lead to a severe breakup or separation. The couple should equally work together to nurture their ...
Views: 1900 - This is Your Brain, This is Your Brain on Anger: A Simple Explanation of How Our Emotional Brain Hijacks Our Better Intentions - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2010 from Joe JamesEmotional Brain Logic. The part of our brain that controls our emotions is located in an area of the brain called the sub-cortical region. You are unaware of most of the functions of your emotional brain. Scientists who have studied the emotional brain tell us that its main concern is ...
Views: 1821(2 votes) - Anger Management Class: Sorting Out Your Options - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2012 from Joe JamesPeople who are not able to effectively control their rage would do well to look into enrolling in an anger management class. Uncontrolled anger damages families, destroys relationships, and causes many far-reaching issues. Understanding what goes on these kinds of conditions is the first stage ...
Views: 1775 - Infidelity: Concrete Actions to Take - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2012 from Joe JamesA relationship or even a marriage can survive an infidelity from a cheating partner. However people need to realize that healing from unfaithfulness in a relationship is tough and excruciating work from both the cheating partner and the cheated person. Both parties must be fully committed to ...
Views: 1764 - Anger Management Course: The Many Benefits - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2012 from Joe JamesThere are many reasons a person may pursue an anger management course. He or she may be feeling overwhelmed at work or at home and subsequently begin lashing out at other individuals. A person may also simply feel that his or her rage is out of control and choose to seek professional ...
Views: 1740 - Anger Management: Treat Depression to Treat Anger? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2010 from Joe JamesHows this for a head turner - the best anger management technique for some people may be to treat them for depression. Depression, goes the old saying, is anger turned inward. In my experience, its just the opposite - anger is depression turned outward. Where am I coming from? Well, ...
Views: 1708 - Anger Management Class: Sorting Out Your Options - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2012 from Joe JamesPeople who are not able to effectively control their rage would do well to look into enrolling in an anger management class. Uncontrolled anger damages families, destroys relationships, and causes many far-reaching issues. Understanding what goes on these kinds of conditions is the first stage ...
Views: 1687 - Surviving Infidelity:Should We Have Sex? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2011 from Joe JamesOne of the topics couples most frequently ask me for infidelity advice on is sexuality. Is it right to have sex after an infidelity? Well, my typical answer is that it depends on how you define sex. For most of us, when we think of sex we think of intercourse. Many couples, when trying to ...
Views: 1683(1 vote) - Infidelity: The Importance of Boundaries - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2012 from Joe JamesMany people who are in a relationship fear the potential for a partner's infidelity. All of us have seen cheating and the emotional wreckage caused by it portrayed in films, novels, music, and magazines. Many among us have also been subject to the infidelity of a significant other or spouse, or ...
Views: 1649 - Anger Management Techniques and Skills - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2012 from Joe JamesAnger is usually one of the most common and destructive disillusions. This usually inflicts on people minds on a daily basis. To control it, one needs to recognize its side effects to them and other people around them and learn to appreciate the advantages of being patient during difficult ...
Views: 1640 - Anger Management Class - Three Easy Criticism Techniques - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2010 from Joe JamesGiving criticism can be just as, if not even more stressful than receiving it. Studies have shown that people who are about to offer criticism are often concerned that they or the other person may get angry at them and that they will not know how to manage that other person’s anger. According ...
Views: 1629 - Anger Management Techniques: The "I Feel Pretty" Technique - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2010 from Joe JamesMost anger management techniques don’t work. Why is that? Well, to be effective an anger management technique must be able to change your emotional state and change it rapidly. That’s not always easily done as your brain may be barreling down a one way track at full speed making it hard for ...
Views: 1625 - Anger Management Classes for Couples: How to Save Your Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Joe JamesThese days most of us could use help with an anger management class. As the political debate gets more polarized it may even behoove our politicians and certain TV news pundits to take it down a notch. Because living with someone can be stressful at times, anger control is particularly relevant ...
Views: 1591 - Anger Management Class: Finding the Aid You Need - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2012 from Joe JamesFamilies and couples that relate together consistently have to deal with anger problems from time to time, which makes an anger management class a useful and important resource. The unity of a family can be destroyed when outbursts of temper are not properly managed. An anger management class ...
Views: 1582 - Anger Management for Court: Important Facts to Know - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2012 from Joe JamesThere is no difference between an anger management class for court and one you would voluntarily take. For it to be recognized the practitioner must have a license. A set curriculum must be followed and this would teach communication skills and anger management techniques and other things such ...
Views: 1566(1 vote) - Anger Management Class - Three Ways Automatic Thinking Fuels Anger - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2010 from Joe JamesOne thing an anger management class should help you to understand is that we all use mental shortcuts that oftentimes are very helpful, but sometimes end up fooling us into misunderstanding a situation and getting angry because of it. What do I mean by mental shortcut? Well, if you really had ...
Views: 1543(1 vote) - After Infidelity: Love Can Endure - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2012 from Joe JamesAfter infidelity the pain can be excruciating, but it is not always so. A lady who owned a brothel had a married boyfriend whose wife did not mind him sleeping at the brothel. When customers called the lady sometimes left her boyfriend's bed, briefly hired out her body and then returned to her ...
Views: 1533 - Coping With Infidelity: Some Ideas On What To Do - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2012 from Joe JamesCoping with infidelity may be difficult, but it can be accomplished if you refrain from making common errors. Couples may fix the destruction caused by the extramarital relationship by following certain methods. This process may reinforce the bond between you and your partner, enhancing your ...
Views: 1525 - Marriage Counseling: How to Get the Results You Want - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2010 from Joe JamesOne of the questions I am most frequently asked is what makes for successful marriage counseling. Naturally the training and background of the therapist is very important in making for a successful marriage counseling experience. However, I am going to focus on that in a separate article which ...
Views: 1518(1 vote) - Coping With Infidelity: Should I Stay or Should I Go? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2012 from Joe JamesThere are several things people will do when they are coping with infidelity. Some are positive things while others are negative things. The positive methods that some people take come in the form of therapy or counseling. Negative methods might be drinking or a new addiction to drugs, gambling ...
Views: 1487 - Anger Management Techniques: Slow Down and Think - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2012 from Joe JamesAnger management techniques are important in living peacefully in the society. This is because people have issues managing their rage and this leads to problems. Irritation is a very strong emotion that results as a result of displeasure in a certain issue. In most causes annoyance is caused by ...
Views: 1458 - Anger Management Classes: The Many Benefits - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2011 from Joe JamesWhy attend anger management classes? As common an emotion as anger is, some people actually find it challenging to control anger-related outbursts. This often leads to a degradation of existing relationships while eliminating the possibility of creating new ones. People who have issues ...
Views: 1438 - Anger Management Class: The 3 Anger Responses - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2010 from Joe JamesThe primary goal of an anger management class is to help you reduce and manage your anger before it becomes destructive and out of control. Although everyone feels angry at times, when it's not managed properly anger can become destructive and uncontrollable. There are physiological changes ...
Views: 1428 - Three Secret Ingredients of Successful Couples Therapy - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2010 from Joe JamesOne of the questions I am most frequently asked is what makes for successful marriage counseling. Naturally the training and background of the therapist is very important in making for a successful marriage counseling experience. However, I am going to focus on that in a separate article which ...
Views: 1402 - Surviving Infidelity: Getting Back Your Self Worth - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2011 from Joe JamesThe key to surviving infidelity is to deal effectively with the pain and win back your sense of self worth. This is not easy in the face of betrayal by someone you have loved. However, if you do not focus on these tasks, the anger and hurt feelings may overshadow the rest of your life. There ...
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