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- Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their Survival If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that child abuse and/or neglect can do is stop someone from developing in the right way. The years will then pass and there will come a point in time when they will look like an adult, but that can be as far as it will go. Behind their appearance can be someone who feels more ...
Views: 672 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their True-Self If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that can happen, that’s if one was abused and/or neglected as a child, is that they may have disconnected from their true-self. Due to what took place, they can believe that they have to hide who they are. Therefore, while living in this way will stop them from being able to be an ...
Views: 743 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected during their early years, there is the chance that their life is far harder than it would be otherwise. They can have mental and emotional problems, health problems, and their relationships could be in a complete mess. However, while what took place ...
Views: 780 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Grew Up In An Oppressive Environment? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, they may see that they don’t have a strong connection with their feelings. As a result, they are going to spend a lot of time in a disconnected state. Not being in tune with this part of them is going to undermine them. This is ...
Views: 225 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a problem to be solved, two things need to take place. Firstly, it needs to be clear that there is a problem, and secondly, it needs to be clear what the problem actually is. For example, ones car might not be running properly but, until they become aware of this absolutely ...
Views: 833 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Both Idolised And Demonised During Their Childhood? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs a child, someone generally needed to be treated as though they deserved to exist and were valuable and lovable, among other things. If this is what took place, now that they are an adult, there is a strong chance that they will have developed a strong sense of self and be able to feel good ...
Views: 241 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Physically Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIdeally, if someone was abused as a child, they would end up getting the assistance that they need now that they are an adult. At this point in their life, they will most likely be able to do something about what they went through. The years will have passed, that much is clear, but what they ...
Views: 730 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Regularly Humiliated During Their Childhood? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the challenges with early abuse and neglect is that by the time someone is an adult, they can have no recollection of what took place at this stage of their life. This is not to say that once they get to this stage of their life, they will have chosen to block it out. No, what it comes ...
Views: 337 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Treated Like Their Parents Enemy? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wasn’t cherished during their formative years, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. But, if they were able to take a step back and reflect on how they experience life, what might soon stand out is that they are not in a good way mentally and ...
Views: 169 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Verbally Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, it could be something that they are only too aware of. Many years will have passed since they were a small child, but it could seem as though very little has actually changed. They would have gone through hell during this part of their life and they could ...
Views: 763 - Child Abuse: What Can Someone Believe If They Were Physically Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was physically abused as a child, there is the chance that this is not something that will ever cross their mind now that they are an adult. They may remember certain parts of their childhood, or it could be one big blur. It could seem strange as to how something so traumatic could ...
Views: 687 - Child Abuse: What Expectations Can Someone Have If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, it doesn’t mean that their suffering will be over now that they are an adult. The reason for this is that while what took place will be over, what took place during this period of their life may have had a massive impact on them. Many years ...
Views: 657 - Child Abuse: Why Are Some People Not Believed When They Talk About Being Abused? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has been abused as a child they have already gone through enough, without having to prolong the pain of what happened. However, there are certain things that can add to this pain and one of these things is when one finds that the people around them don’t believe them or it could ...
Views: 2362 - Child Abuse: Why Can It Be Hard For Someone To Open Up About Being Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, they could be in a very bad way now that they are an adult. What they experienced will have taken place many, many years ago, but they won’t have truly put the past behind them. There is a strong chance that what they went through during this time left a mark ...
Views: 533 - Child Abuse: Why Can’t An Abusive Parent Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused by at least one of their parents during their formative years, they might have a strong need to talk to them about it. However, it might have taken them a while to realise that this stage of their life wasn’t very nurturing. This is because their brain will have blocked ...
Views: 288 - Child Abuse: Why Do Abusive Parents Always Talk About How Good Other Children Are? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a parent can offer encouragement and acknowledge what their child is good at, they can also behave in a different manner. Instead, they can criticise their child for what they can’t do and overlook what they can do. A Negative Effect The child is then going to be brought up by ...
Views: 1246 - Child Abuse: Why Do Abusive Parents Deny What Happened? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone was as abused as a child, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this now that they are an adult. This can primarily be the result of the defences that their mind has in place. To handle what took place during their early years, so that their life didn’t come to an end, ...
Views: 997 - Child Abuse: Why Has Child Abuse Gone On For So Long? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAwareness around child abuse has gradually increased over the years. This can only be a good thing and something that will help to reduce the amount of child abuse that is in the world. However, in this day and age it may be hard for some people to comprehend why this has gone on for so long ...
Views: 2496 - Child Abuse: Why Is It Hard For Someone To Heal From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, they can be in a very bad way now that they are an adult. Like a car that has been in a massive accident, they won’t just have a few scratches; every part of them can be messed up. So, their thoughts and emotions can be all over the place, their brain might ...
Views: 844 - Child Abuse: Why Would A Parent Deny That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to see that they were abused during their early years, it doesn’t mean that what they went through will be validated by the parent who mistreated them. No, what they went through as a child could end up being denied. To take one step back, though, they may have suffered for a ...
Views: 404 - Child Abuse: Why Would A Parent Make Their Child Into Their Parent? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will have their own life. No, practically their whole life could revolve around their parent or parents, with them behaving more like their parent than their child. Naturally, if a lot of their time and energy is being directed towards ...
Views: 265 - Child Abuse: Why Would An Abusive Parent Only Abuse Their Child/Children? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone could wonder, if they were abused as a child, is why one of their parents abused them but treated others differently. They could see that while this parent was not always pleasant to others, they were not abusive toward them. Therefore, they might have had moments when ...
Views: 273 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Be Mistreated Both As A Child And As An Adult? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone has been treated badly as a child, the same thing could take place now that they are an adult. Therefore, the hell they experienced very early on won’t be over, it will have simply continued. However, it might not cross their mind that their adult life is very similar to their ...
Views: 269 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Be Mistreated Both As A Child And As An Adult? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone has been treated badly as a child, the same thing could take place now that they are an adult. Therefore, the hell they experienced very early on won’t be over, it will have simply continued. However, it might not cross their mind that their adult life is very similar to their ...
Views: 302 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Expect Their Parent/s To Give Them What They Couldn't Give Them As A Child? - by Submitted on May 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone may have received the kind of care that they needed during their early years in order to develop in the right way; there is also the chance that this didn’t take place. As a result of this, their early years may have been a time in their life when they experienced a hell of a lot ...
Views: 654 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Have Been Abused By Their Parent? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has come to see that their early years were anything but nurturing, they can wonder why they were treated so badly. However, it might have taken them years to arrive at this point. The reason for this is that their brain is likely to have blocked out what happened and they might ...
Views: 62 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Have Been Treated As Though They Were Nothing By Their Abusive Parent? - by Submitted on May 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may see, if they were to step back and reflect on their early years, is that they were often treated as though they had no value and were worthless. So, they might have often been physically harmed and verbally put down and largely been deprived of the emotional nutrients that they ...
Views: 241 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Idealise Their Abusive Parent? - by Submitted on May 24, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s early years, they might have had at least one parent who didn’t treat them very well. If they did, this parent would have often been very cruel and, as a result, this would have deeply wounded them. Still, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to acknowledge how cruel this ...
Views: 249 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Only Say Nice Things About Their Parents After They Have Passed on? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are likely to be a number of people out there who not only have plenty of good things to say about their parents now that they passed on, but who had good things to say about them when they were alive. When something like this takes place, it could be said that someone valued their ...
Views: 1666 - Child Abuse: Why Wouldn’t An Abusive Parent Be Able To Acknowledge The Hurt That They Caused? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone is going to carry, if they were mistreated during their early years, is a lot of hurt. To handle what was going on, this hurt would have had to be pushed out of their conscious awareness and stored deep in their brain and body. If this hadn’t taken place, they might ...
Views: 195 - Child Abuse: Why Wouldn’t Someone Be Able To Accept That They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone was mistreated during their formative years, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to acknowledge this. This can mean that they won’t talk about what happened or they could often talk about some of the things that happened. But, if they do talk about some of the things ...
Views: 196 - Child Abuse: Will A Narcissistic Parent Ever Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years, they could have a strong need to talk to their parent or parents about what happened. Now, it might seem strange as to how they have only just come to see that this was the case. However, what needs to be ...
Views: 204 - Child Abuse: Will Someone Be Controlled By Their Abusive Parent If They Hate Them? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter thinking about some of the things that they experienced during their formative years, someone could find it hard to understand why they were treated so badly. But, if they were treated as though they were their parent or parent’s enemy as opposed to their child, this is to be ...
Views: 171 - Child Abuse: Will Someone Be Trapped Forever If They Need Their Abusive Parents To Acknowledge What Happened? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that it will be normal for someone to want to talk to their parent or parents about what happened, if they were to see that they were mistreated by them during their formative years. They might want to know why they treated them in this way and for them to express remorse, among ...
Views: 276 - Child Development: Do Mothers Love Unconditionally And Fathers Love Conditionally? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that there is the being and then there is the doing, and that both of these aspects are important. Therefore, if someone can only embrace one of these aspects, they are going to be out of balance. Another way to look at this dynamic would be to be to say that there is the ...
Views: 1095 - Childhood Abandonment: What Are The Consequences Of Childhood Abandonment? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperDuring the first few years of one’s life, they are emotionally dependent on their caregivers. And so it is vital that they are not left alone for prolonged periods of time, because if they are left it can be extremely overwhelming and therefore traumatising. But this doesn’t mean that one’s ...
Views: 1863 - Childhood Development: Are Some People Born To Fulfil A Role That Their Caregivers Had Planned For Them? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn ancient Greece, Sparta was a prominent city-state where boys were trained to be warriors. When a boy reached six or seven, he was removed from his parents home and sent to military school where he began the ’agoge.’ In order for these boys to become fearless warriors, they had to go ...
Views: 912 - Childhood Development: Do Siblings Have The Same Parents? - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough siblings can have the same parents, it doesn’t therefore mean that they will up behaving in the same way. As a result of this, they can end up being radically different, and it might be hard for other people to realise that they are related. The Reason If one was to ask someone ...
Views: 1391 - Childhood Neglect: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Believe There Is Not Enough? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people on this planet who always have enough and then there are others who never have enough. And it doesn’t matter what state the economy is in either; as there will still be the haves and have not’s. When one thinks about people to have what they want, they may start to ...
Views: 1653 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be A Divided Being? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone is not connected to themselves and rooted in their body, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. As a result, there will be no reason for them to do anything about their life; they can just carry on living in the same way. Nonetheless, this doesn’t mean that they will ...
Views: 548 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That It Isn’t Safe Enough For Them To Exist? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, feeling safe is just going to be part of life and this is likely to allow them to embrace life. However, for others, this is going to be something that they seldom experience and, due to this, it will be a challenge for them to embrace life. What this illustrates is how ...
Views: 262 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That It Isn’t Safe Enough To Exist? - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone could live somewhere that is relatively safe and secure, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this at the core of their being. As a result of how they behave and live their life, it will be as though they are living in a very dangerous environment. But, even though this is ...
Views: 480 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Fear People? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might not be consciously aware of the fact that they fear their fellow human beings, they can still be aware of the consequences of having this fear. So, if someone in this position was to take a step back and to reflect on their life, what could instantly stand out is how ...
Views: 605 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Like An Empty Vessel? - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that is often said in the self-development world is that someone shouldn’t seek approval from others. This is typically seen as something that will hold them back and prevent them from living a fulfilling existence. A quote by Eckhart Tolle, a spiritual teacher and author, goes ...
Views: 581 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Slowly Kill Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperA lot has been said in recent years about the number of people who are taking their own life and how this has got worse over time. Along with this, there are the people who often think about calling it a day. With this in mind, it would be easy to assume that if someone wants their life to ...
Views: 323 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Define What Someone’s Personality Is Like? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked to describe themselves, they could end up using a number of different adjectives. Furthermore, this could be a time when they use a number of different labels. Now, if this was something that took place online, and they were able to look through what they had written, ...
Views: 459 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Set Someone Up To Leave Their Body? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that someone can do when they feel overwhelmed and are unable to handle what is going on. They can get away from what is taking place or they can get away from themselves. If the former takes place, it can show that what is going on externally is the problem. ...
Views: 492 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Realising That They Are Creating Their Life? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was deeply traumatised during their early years, they may typically live on the surface of themselves now that they are an adult. As a result of this, they are unlikely to have a strong connection with their feelings and certain needs. However, this could be something that they ...
Views: 576 - Childhood Trauma: Can It Be Harder For Someone To Change Their Story If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to someone’s ‘story’, this can relate to how they see themselves, what they believe they are capable of and what they believe they are here for. Now, it could be said that the ideal will be for each of these elements to be empowering. As if someone sees themselves in a positive ...
Views: 543 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone Fall Apart During Their Adult Years If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone can come across as strong and together, it doesn’t mean that they have a strong core and that their sense of self is built on firm foundations. However, not only can this be something that other people are unaware of, one could also be unaware of it. If the people in their ...
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