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- Childhood Trauma: Can Someone Feel Like A Child If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they are able to step back and to reflect on their life, is that they rarely feel emotionally strong and secure. In general, they could feel powerless, helpless, hopeless, fearful and scared. On the outside, then, they will look like an adult but they feel like one ...
Views: 433 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone Feel Like A Child When Their Childhood Trauma Is Triggered? - by Submitted on May 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are likely to be moments in every adult’s life when they will feel like a child. When this takes place, it could be said that they will have regressed to an earlier stage of their life. During this time, someone may feel scared, powerless or helpless, with it being irrelevant that they ...
Views: 610 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone Have A Fear Of Being Annihilated If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that can take place, that’s if someone has experienced childhood trauma, is that they can typically live ‘up top’. This means that their point of focus will primarily be in their head. When their point of focus is in their head, they won’t be aware of what is taking place in their ...
Views: 592 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone Have The Need To Be Rescued If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to take a step back and to reflect on their life, they may find that there is something that absorbs most of their attention. This could be a time when they come to see that they have a strong need for another person to take care of them. Upon closer inspection, they may ...
Views: 470 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone Reject Life If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s early years were anything but nurturing, it would have meant that they didn’t receive what needed in order to develop in the right way. To say that this would have been a challenging time in their life will most likely be an understatement. Year after year, it could have been a ...
Views: 484 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone Wear An Invisible Straight Jacket If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have many needs and one need, a need that is a key part of what will allow them to live a fulfilling existence, is their need to express themselves. This need will include being able to behave how they want to behave, to say what they want to say and to be creative. Each of these ...
Views: 368 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone’s Childhood Trauma Be Triggered During Their Adult Life? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAt one point in time, someone could be able to handle life, and, at another, they could be in a very bad way. This could show that they have just experienced a breakup or a loss, or perhaps they have just lost their job. Irrespective of what has taken place, they are not going to be the ...
Views: 451 - Childhood Trauma: Why Do Some People Fall Apart When Their Life Has No Structure? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNow that some, or all, of the structure from someone’s life has been removed, they could be in a very bad way. In a way, it could be as though they were on solid ground and now they are trying to keep their head above water. To be clearer, their emotional self will be all over the place and ...
Views: 599 - Childhood Wounds: Can Someone’s Adult Life Be A Manifestation Of Repressed Childhood Pain? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is an adult, it could be said that what took place when they were a child will be over. As a result of this, the pain that they experienced during this stage of their life will be firmly in the past. What could add weight to this view is that if they were to think about this stage ...
Views: 689 - Childhood Wounds: Can Someone’s Adult Life Be A Manifestation Of Their Childhood Wounds? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, it is believed that once someone is an adult, their childhood years will be well and truly behind them. It could be said that this is to be expected, considering that they will look like an adult. That phase of their life will be over and it simply won’t be possible for them to ...
Views: 511 - Chronicle: My Interpretation of the Metaphors - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAfter hearing about this film through a friend, I thought it sounded similar to a number of other films that have been released in recent years. The films Push and Jumper came to mind. Now that I have seen the film I believe that it is a metaphor for intention and how intention is what ...
Views: 2119 - Clothes: Does Someone Need To Wear The Right Colours If They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, one no longer needs to look the same as other people, and this is partly because there is so much choice when it comes to what they can wear. And, when they want to buy something, they won’t need to go out either. Online Shopping The only thing that one will need to do ...
Views: 1465 - Coaching: Can Someone Use Social Media To Connect With Coaching Clients? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperNot only has the internet changed how people communicate with their friends and family, it has also changed how they connect with their clients. In the past, someone may have promoted their business through advertising in a paper and/or a magazine, by giving out business cards and even attending ...
Views: 1576 - Coaching: How Can Someone Start A Blog For A Coaching Business? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are number of ways for someone to promote themselves in today’s world, and one way they can do this is through having their own blog. This will also make it easier for other people to get a deeper understanding of what they have to offer. If someone doesn’t have their own blog, they ...
Views: 2080 - Comments: Why Do Some People Always Leave Negative Comments? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThrough the invention of the internet, people have been given a platform to express their views and opinions. And while this need is nothing new and has not just appeared, it has made it a lot easier for people to speak out and this is due to a number of reasons. When one is expressing their ...
Views: 2986 - Commitment: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Commit? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to achieving something, developing a skill or having an intimate relationship, for instance, it will be essential for someone to make a commitment. Through making a decision to stick with something, they will be able to make progress and to reap the benefits of doing so. If this ...
Views: 602 - Commitment: Why Do Some People Fear Commitment? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one may want to commit to a relationship, it doesn’t mean that they feel comfortable doing so. On one side they may have to have the need to be with someone and at the same time, it could be something they fear. And while this could be something that only has an impact on their ...
Views: 2234 - Communication: Are Manners Important? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past manners were often drilled into children by their parents and then by teachers and as one grew into an adult; it would then have typically become a habit to have manners and the need to be reminded would not be as necessary. However, in the modern day world this process doesn’t ...
Views: 3938 - Communication: Are You Approachable? - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone might want to be approached by others, it doesn’t mean that this actually happens. And if it does happen, it could be something that doesn’t happen enough or in the right situations. This is going to relate to all kinds of scenarios and the primary areas are often to do with ones ...
Views: 2019 - Communication: Can Someone Use Their Imagination To Improve Their Communication Skills? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wants to improve their communication skills and to make it easier for them to talk to others, a number of ideas could enter their mind. Firstly, they could think about getting a book on communication, and secondly, they could decide to go to places where they can talk to ...
Views: 628 - Communication: Does It Matter How You Greet Someone? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be times in one’s life when they meet someone for the first time, and how they greet them is likely have a big impact on what happens after they have met. This is because the other person’s first impressions are going to be heavily influenced by what takes place during this ...
Views: 1948 - Communication: How Can Someone Make It Easier To Talk To Strangers? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to talking to someone, how we perceive them usually makes all of the difference. If another person is seen as a friend or someone that one has spoken to before, then it is going to make it easier for one to talk to them. And this is part of being human, because although times ...
Views: 1950 - Communication: How Can Someone Start A Conversation? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone can start a conversation, it doesn’t mean that they find it easy to keep one going. And while some people can keep a conversation going, they might find it hard to start one. There will then be others who have no trouble starting them and keeping them going. However, ...
Views: 1792 - Communication: Is Being Present Important? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone is talking to another person, it doesn’t mean that they are actually aware to what is being communicated. Physically they are there and this is visible to the other person and to anyone else that is around them and yet emotionally and mentally they could be somewhere ...
Views: 2599 - Communication: Is Empathy Important? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings are ‘social animals’ and this is because they are interdependent. So while one may see themselves as being an individual, this is not the complete truth. The person they have come to be is the result of the experiences they have had with others and in order ...
Views: 1816 - Communication: Is Eye Contact Important? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one experiences eye contact from another person it can cause them to feel: acknowledged, respected and important. And yet when this doesn’t take place, one can end up feeling: ignored, disrespected and unimportant. Eye contact could be seen as something that is relatively effortless and ...
Views: 2272 - Communication: Is It A Good Idea To Have Positive Expectations? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to order their favourite meal, and this was at a restaurant that they have been to before, there is a storing chance that they will be looking forward to the moment when this food arrives and eating it. In this example, it could be said that their expectations won’t have much of an ...
Views: 1587 - Communication: Is It Easier To Start A Conversation When We Focus On What We Can Give? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one knows someone, it can be easier for them to talk to them, and this could be because they know how the other person will respond to them. As a result of this, they are less likely to think about what they are going to say. It is then going to be possible for them to have a ...
Views: 1516 - Communication: Is It Good To Be Curious? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperMost people have heard the saying ‘’curiosity killed the cat’’ and this has lead to all kinds of meanings being constructed. For some people it will have been interpreted to mean that being curious is dangerous and others may simply dismiss it as just an old saying. But regardless of this ...
Views: 2100 - Communication: Is It Important To Acknowledge Others? - by Submitted on May 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings not only want to be noticed by others, they also want to be appreciated by them. But while these are two needs that each and every one of us would like to have fulfilled, it does mean that other people will always fulfil them. Generally, one would have ...
Views: 6091 - Communication: Is It Important To Approach Others? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to go camping in the middle of nowhere and they had no food, it would be up to them to find something to eat. Due to where they are, the food that they need is not going to be delivered to them. In the same way, when someone goes to a social club or to an event, for ...
Views: 1049 - Communication: Is It Important To Be Consistent? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about the people they are closest to, they are likely to think about their family and/or friends. When they start to think about them, it might not take very long for them to feel good. On one hand, there are going to be the experiences they have shared together, and on ...
Views: 1499 - Communication: Is It Important To Be Emotionally Expressive? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to connecting to other people, our facial expressions play an important role. And like one’s body language and their tone of voice, one is not always aware of how they’re coming across. Or one might be aware of their body language and their tone of choice, but their facial ...
Views: 1953 - Communication: Is It Important To Respect Other People's Personal Space? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperDuring those moments when one is in a crowded place, it is not going to be possible for them to maintain their personal space. The space that they need in order to feel comfortable is not going to exist. This could be something that one experiences everyday or it could be something that ...
Views: 4700 - Communication: Is It Important To Smile? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who always seem to have a smile on their face and then there are other people who are not as expressive. They will smile from time to time, but it won’t be as often as someone who smiles freely; it could be said that they like to hold back. However, when it comes to ...
Views: 2027 - Communication: Is Listening Important? - by Submitted on May 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, talking will be something they enjoy doing and this will be balanced out by their ability to listen. But there will also be people who are good at either talking or listening and yet, they will fall down when it comes to the other option. This is going to mean that they are out ...
Views: 1870 - Communication: Is Posture Important? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be some people who have always had good posture, and there will be others who have developed their posture during their adult years. However, there will also be people who had good posture at one point in time and then ended up going the other way, and others who haven’t taken ...
Views: 2493 - Communication: Is Vulnerability An Asset? - by Submitted on May 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to creating a deeper connection and a lasting impression on others; it is often assumed that sharing ones good points is the best approach to take. To share ones vulnerable side is something that should be avoided at all costs. This means that successes and achievements should ...
Views: 1931 - Communication: Where Can Someone Improve Their Conversational Skills? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may have the desire to improve their conversational skills, it doesn’t mean that they will know what to do next. If they were to think about what they can do to make progress in this area of their life, their mind could end up going blank. One thing that they could do is to ...
Views: 964 - Comparison: Should We Compare Ourselves With Others? - by Submitted on May 03, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that comparing oneself with another is a natural part of living in the modern day world. And it is also true that this doesn’t necessarily have to be something that is negative or disempowering. There are of course certain comparisons that can be made, without ones wellbeing ...
Views: 1873 - Compassion: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To Compassion? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile being compassionate can be seen as the right way to be, it is not always the easiest option. What can be easier is to go to the other extreme and to become indifferent to other people’s problems and the suffering they are going through or have gone through. And not only can one be this ...
Views: 1692 - Compassion: Do Human Beings Have Selective Compassion? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to read a paper or to watch TV, there is the chance that certain things will draw them in. When it comes to a paper, they may look through the back pages before they look through the front pages, or they might not even look through the front. Their primary interest will be what is ...
Views: 1276 - Compliments: Why Can’t Some People Accept Compliments? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to compliments there are some people who can accept them gracefully and others who completely reject them. It may be that one rejects all compliments or only compliments that come from certain people. This can relate to men who reject all compliments from women or women who ...
Views: 12507 - Compulsive Behaviour: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Compulsive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the biggest challenges when it comes to acting in ways that are healthy and functional, is something known as compulsive behaviour. This is something that has received wide spread publicity in recent years. When someone behaves in ways that are compulsive, it means that they are not ...
Views: 1784 - Conditional Love: What Can Happen If Someone Experienced Conditional Love During Their Childhood Years? - by Submitted on May 18, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that there are at least three types of love that a child can experience during their early years. There is value love, outcome love and love that is promised but never delivered. When it comes to the first type of love, a child will only be loved when they adopt certain ...
Views: 354 - Conditional Love: What Is Conditional Love? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is love that is not given freely; love that is only given based on certain requirements being fulfilled and met. It is during our childhood that we have our first experience of love and our meaning or model of love is also created as a child. And to be more specific here, the love I ...
Views: 5213 - Conditioning: How Do We Change Our Conditioning? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile we would like to see ourselves as human beings who have control over how we behave, this doesn’t always reflect reality. Because although one has the ability to think before they act, they can also act without thinking. And this is not ‘bad’ per se; it can enable one to save a lot of ...
Views: 1862 - Confidence: What Is Confidence? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe word confidence is a term that is often hard to define. What is it and what does it look like? Are questions that can be asked. Through the act of comparison, one can see that there is a difference between people that are confident and people that are not confident. Many years ago I was ...
Views: 2290 - Confidence: Why Do Some People Go From Having No Confidence To Being Arrogant? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people who appear to always be confident, there are also people who appear to always lack confidence. In this case, it would be easy to come to the conclusion that some people are more resourceful than others. However, although this is how they come across, it is unlikely ...
Views: 1573 - Confidence: Why Don't Some People's Lives Change Even Though They Feel More Confident? - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to get into self-development, there is a strong chance that it will be because they want to feel more confident. The reason for this is that this is a common challenge that people have in today’s world. However, even if one did want to work on their self-confidence, it doesn’t ...
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