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- Relationships: Is Someone's View Of The Opposite Sex Created At A Time When They Couldn't Think Clearly? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that people have different outlooks when it comes to how they perceive different countries, they also have different outlooks when it comes to how they perceive the opposite sex. There will be some people who generally have good things to say about the opposite sex, whilst there ...
Views: 1037 - Critical Thinking: Why Do So Many Celebrities Support Open Borders? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to look towards a celebrity for guidance. Consequently, it won’t matter if a celebrity is a good singer, actor/actress, or any else for that matter, as they will be seen as an authority on just about everything under the sun. Now, if someone has ...
Views: 1035 - Self-Worth: Why Do Some People Believe That They Need To Be Good At Everything? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that if someone wants to be good at something, they will need to put the work in and to be patent. In addition to the time that they need to put in each week, there can be moments when they will need to change what they are doing. The Next Level Through doing this, it ...
Views: 1035 - Social Media: Is Criticising Trump A Great Way To Gain Approval Online? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a social media account, there are a number of things that they can do. Even so, they might just prefer to use it to talk to their friends from time to time. If this was to occur, it could be said that it would simply be another part of their life; it is not going to be ...
Views: 1035 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Control How Some People Feel? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhether someone does something or not can all depend on how they feel, and this shows how powerful their feelings are. There are going to be people who are defined by how they feel, and then there are going to be others who are able to take a step back. A Slave When someone’s behaviour is ...
Views: 1033(1 vote) - The Healing Power Of Nature! - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA few weeks ago, I was having a conversation with a friend of mine called Wain, and this was a deep conversation. However, this was a conversation that was far deeper than usual and I ended up thinking about what we spoke about. I won’t go too far into what we spoke about as I sure that he ...
Views: 1032 - “You Are Wasting Your Money!” - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter hearing Dov Baron speak about how important our beliefs are, through an interview I listened to in December 2006, I searched for more information on this topic. Ultimately, I was looking for a way to change or remove what I believed. I spent a little while going over the information ...
Views: 1032 - Self-Worth: Is It Harder For Someone To Be Sensitive When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on May 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one behaves in a way that is seen as being socially acceptable, it can be a lot easier for them to feel good about themselves. But before they were even old enough to go out into the world by themselves, there would have been how they were treated by their caregiver/s. An Extrovert ...
Views: 1031 - You Just Need To Let Go! - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago I wrote an article title, ‘You Just need To Love Yourself’, and I was going to talk about this article title in the same article. But, I felt that doing so wouldn’t do justice to this important topic. So, in the same way that people can be told that they just need love ...
Views: 1030 - Do You End Up With People Who Are You Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI was thinking the other day about how common it is for people to end up in a relationship with someone who is not available. This is something that usually causes them to experience a lot of pain. To go through this once is more than enough, but there are people who have experienced this ...
Views: 1029 - Fight Instinct: Do Some Peoples Childhood Set Them Up To Disconnect From Their Fight Instinct? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter where someone lives on this planet, they are going to need to be able to stand their ground and to protect themselves. What this will do is stop them from being walked over by other people. Now, this is not to say that everyone who one will come across will have the desire to harm ...
Views: 1029 - "You Have A Way With Words!" - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn September 2005 I ended up studying music technology, and this was due to a number of reasons. Firstly, I was into dance music and wanted to learn how to create my own music and, secondly, I didn’t know what else to do. During this time, I thought I would be spending a lot of time learning ...
Views: 1029 - Self-Worth: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Attach Their Value To What They Do? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to observer how the people around them behave, they may find that a lot of them have something in common. What could stand out is how so many people are always doing something. Always On the Go And even if these people were to go on holiday or to take some time off work, it ...
Views: 1029 - Self-Image: Why Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Have An Enemy? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how one sees themselves, they can be their own best friend or their own worst enemy. What this shows is how important their self-image is, and if they want to lead a fulfilling existence, it will be necessary for them to see themselves in a positive light. At Times Now, ...
Views: 1028 - Self-Worth: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Human Doings? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who have moments in their life when they take action and moments when they relax, there are others who are practically always doing something. As a result of this, it is going to mean that these people don’t experience life in the same way. One Outcome When ...
Views: 1028 - Social Media: Should Someone Delete Their ‘Friends’ If They Supported A Different Presidential Candidate? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperNow that the election is over, it has given people the chance to share their views on what has taken place. This could be a time when one is happy about how it is has gone, or they could feel let down. Alternatively, they could wonder what all the fuss is about, and think about how life will ...
Views: 1028 - Needs: Why Do Some People Ignore Their Own Needs? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that can’t be denied about human beings it that they have needs and, while some of these needs can be met without reaching out to others, there are others that cant. This is why human beings have been described as interdependent, not independent or dependent. But, even though there ...
Views: 1027 - Our Value Is Not Defined By How Many 'Likes' We Get! - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI remember hearing about someone who only felt good about themselves if they received a certain amount of likes on a social media site. This person was sharing pictures of their face and their body. If they received a certain amount of likes everything would be fine, but if they didn’t, ...
Views: 1027(1 vote) - Critical Thinking: Does Identity Politics Cause Some People To Suffer From Thinkaphobia? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that the main purpose of the education system is to give people the guidance that they need in order to be able to think for themselves. Along with this, it will be important for them to receive the tools that they need to stand on their own two feet. In an ideal world, that ...
Views: 1026 - Emotional Problems: Does The Need To Look Strong Stop Some Men From Reaching Out For Support? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperBoth men and women experience emotions, but it is often a lot harder for men to open up about how they feel. Now, if emotions were things that could simply be overlooked, this wouldn’t matter. The trouble is that this is not the case, which is why it can lead to all kinds of problems when a ...
Views: 1026 - Social Media: Does Social Media Create Division? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that have been said about social media, and what is often said is that it connects people. This is something that can’t be denied; it no longer matters where someone is in the world, as they will still be able to talk to their ‘friends’ and family. All ...
Views: 1025 - Relationships: When Someone Tells Other People How To Live Their Life Does It Show That They Lack Empathy? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one spends time with the people they are close to, they may find that they are happy to listen to them. This is likely to show that they are there to support them, and their life is then going to be a lot easier than it would be otherwise. The Perfect Scenario Through being treated ...
Views: 1024 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Condition People To Believe That Everything Is Black And White? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to being informed about the world, it is not uncommon for someone to look towards the mainstream media. There is a strong chance that this is something that has taken place for most of their life. They could find that the people they spend time with also have the same approach, ...
Views: 1024 - "What Was Cute In Romance May Become Acute In Conflict” - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago I read a few books by David Richo, and this is someone who really knows what he is talking about. Whether it is relationships or self-development in general, his books are packed full of insights. When I read two of his books towards the end of 2013, I had recently gone ...
Views: 1023 - Child Abuse: Why Do Abusive Parents Deny What Happened? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone was as abused as a child, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this now that they are an adult. This can primarily be the result of the defences that their mind has in place. To handle what took place during their early years, so that their life didn’t come to an end, ...
Views: 1023 - Defence Mechanism: What Is Splitting? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone experiences emotional pain, and this pain is too strong for them to handle, their mind can end up using a defence to keep it at bay. In this sense, a defence is very much like a water dam, inasmuch as it is there to stop something from flooding in. After a little while, it will ...
Views: 1020 - The Media: Is The Mainstream Media More Deceitful Than Ever Before? - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are, of course, a number of ways to find out about what is taking place in the world, and this is why it is no longer necessary to look towards the mainstream media. Someone can now find out about what is taking place by looking towards the alternative media. Old Habits Die Hard ...
Views: 1020 - Feeling Hopeless Can Be A Good Thing! - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone feels hopeless, it can cause them to feel down and as though they have no control. And, unless something changes, they could end up feeling even worse - sinking even further down into themselves. It can then seem as though there is no way out, and they may come to believe that the ...
Views: 1019 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Believe That They Have To Do What Other People Want In Order To Be Accepted? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that it is part of human nature to want to be accepted, and this is something that human beings need during the beginning of their life. When this takes place, it is likely to be a lot easier for them to function when they are older. Self-Acceptance The reason for this is ...
Views: 1019 - Self-Development: Are You Drawn To A Teacher Because Of What They Know Or Because Of How They Come Across? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted to change something about themselves in the past, they may have ended up reading a book, for instance. Nowadays, one can end up going onto a search engine and watching a video. But if they were to read something, it could relate to what has been written on a blog. What this ...
Views: 1019 - Critical Thinking: Can Someone End Up With Mental And Emotional Problems If They Don’t Eat Meat? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperDue, in part, to the amount of attention that the mainstream media give to mental and emotional problems, it can seem as though more people than ever before are in a bad way. In many easy, it is as though it is case of who doesn’t have them, not who does. If this problem is a big as this ...
Views: 1017 - Critical Thinking: Is Being Outraged Another Way For Someone To Receive Attention? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon to hear about someone who is outraged about something. But while this is nothing new, there is something that is new, and this relates to the kind of things that people get worked up about. A Mountain Out of a Mole Hill If someone got worked up about ...
Views: 1017 - Emotional Strength: Is Someone Weak If They Can't Control Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is often believed that someone’s feelings are caused by their thoughts. Thus, if someone wants to change how they feel, it will be essential for them to change the thoughts that are running through their head. The reason this is widely believed is partly due to the ...
Views: 1016 - Social Media: Why Do Some People Keep Their Views To Themselves On Social Media? - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to social media, it is often seen as something that people use to express themselves. Here, they can talk about what they have been doing with their life, and they can share their views on certain topics. And, when one does this online, it is going to allow their ‘friends’ to ...
Views: 1016 - Critical Thinking: Are Certain Celebrities Causing Women To Sexually Objectify Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperUnless someone has been living under a rock for a number of years, they will have most likely heard about a certain family that receives a fair amount of media exposure. In this family, there are a number of daughters who routinely strip off for different magazines. That is, of course, when ...
Views: 1015 - Relationships: Is It A Good Idea For A Man To Only Confide In His Partner? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is single, he may find that there is no one is his life that he can share certain things with. This can relate to how he feels, the challenges that he is going through and the things that he has done that he is not too happy about, for instance. He can then have a big family and ...
Views: 1015 - “I Wanted To Convert People!” - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I had been into self-development for a few years, in the middle of 2005, I learnt about the effect that our thoughts, emotions and beliefs have on how we experience life. I think the first time I had heard about his was when I read ‘The Power of the Subconscious Mind’, by Joseph ...
Views: 1014 - I Went On A Hoffman Process Introduction Day - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago, I ended up hearing about the Hoffman process and I was told that this was a powerful process. This was put forward as something that would allow someone to let go of the patterns in their life that are holding them back. I wanted to find out more about this process, and ...
Views: 1013 - Critical Thinking: Why Are So Many People Obsessed With Celebrities? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there have more or less always been people who are famous for one thing or another, but what is different about today’s world, is that it is easier than ever before for someone to achieve this aim. There are two main reasons for this, with the first being reality TV and the ...
Views: 1012 - The Value Of Your Work Is Not Defined By How Many ‘Likes’ You Get! - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI was speaking to a friend of mine the other day called, Wain, and he was talking about the work that he had been sharing on social media. He had recently created another page and had put in a fair amount of work to build it up. From what he was saying, it made me think about how it is easy ...
Views: 1012 - Therapy: What Does It Say About Today’s Relationships When Some People Have To Pay Others To Listen To Them? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to work with a therapist or a counsellor; in fact, it could be said that it is a fairly common occurrence. Even so, this doesn’t mean that someone won’t feel ashamed for needing to be assisted in this way. Yet even if they did feel ashamed at this ...
Views: 1012 - Adrenalin: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Addicted To Adrenaline? - by Submitted on May 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to get an idea of what it is like to experience adrenalin, they could imagine what it would be like if ten people were running after them. Not only will their body be in fight or flight mode, they will also experience a surge of energy and feel alive. What plays a part in ...
Views: 1011 - “Shadow Work Is Important!” - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe last time I spoke to a friend of mine called, Errol Campbell, we touched upon the effect that the mother/father wound can have on someone , and this time we looked into another important area. But before I got into what this was, I want to talk about how this topic came up. This was ...
Views: 1011 - Relationships: Is It Harder For Someone To Settle Down If They Have Been With A Lot Of People? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, it was the norm for people to wait until they were married before they had sex, and they would have most likely stayed with the same person until their time on this earth came to an end. Thanks, in part, due to the ‘sexual liberation’ of the 60s and 80s, this has all changed. ...
Views: 1009 - Relationships: Is It Harder For Someone To Leave An Abusive Relationship When They Are Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in a situation that doesn’t serve them, it is going to be in their best interests to move on. Nevertheless, it might not be possible for them to walk away and to put this all behind them. The Next Step The reason for this is that one could be in a job that is paying them ...
Views: 1008 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Use Pictures Of Children And Animals To Manipulate People? - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has the tendency to buy a newspaper, they will have probably seen a picture of a child on the front cover at least once. And even if one simply looks at the front covers of newspapers and doesn’t buy them, they may also have had the same experience. Just a Picture There is the ...
Views: 1008 - Travelling Is Great For Self-Development! - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I went to Stockholm, Sweden, I was reminded of how good it was to travel, and the experience was very similar to how I felt when I have travelled in the past. When I went away last time, I came back feeling alive. In addition to this, I saw myself differently and a lot of my thoughts ...
Views: 1008 - Letting Go: Does Someone Need To Embrace Their Feminine Nature Is They Always Need To Be In Control? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted to move something, they would pick it up and then put it down once they have found the right spot. While it was in their hands, they would have held on and, when they put it down somewhere, they would have let go. Two Sides It could be said that there are times in life when ...
Views: 1007 - Relationships: Should Someone Change When They Get Into A Relationship? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one comes into contact with someone who they like, they can end up putting on an act. This could be something that will happen without them even releasing it, or they might be able to pick up on this. One way of looking at this would be to say that this is normal, and this is due to ...
Views: 1007 - Self-Worth: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that play a part in someone being able to live a life that is worth living, and having a sense of self worth is one of them. When one has this in place, it will be possible for them to feel good about themselves. Through having the ability to feel good about ...
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