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- There Is More To Trauma Than Just Painful Memories - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of 2012, I came to the conclusion that if I could change what was going on in my mind my life would change. The outcome of this was that I ended up having hypnotherapy. I was in a lot of emotional pain at this time and I had no idea what inner peace was like. A little while ...
Views: 944 - “I Want To Help A Billion People!” - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was out earlier I saw someone who reminded me of someone I spoke to a number of years ago. We spoke about a number of things, and one of the things I remember clearly is how they wanted to make a difference in the world. But, this was not something that they hadn’t really thought ...
Views: 943 - Critical Thinking: Is It A Surprise That Some Attractive People Are Deeply Insecure? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that although all human beings are equal on a deeper level, it doesn’t mean that this is the case on a more surface level. One thing that can give someone an upper hand in life is intelligence and another thing is attractiveness. And while someone might only have one of ...
Views: 942 - Trauma: Are Some People Trying To Heal Trauma By Changing Their Thoughts? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone ends up getting into self-development, it can be a sign that their mind is their own worst enemy. So, instead of this part of them giving them the support and encouragement that they need, it will be doing the complete opposite. This part of them could have the tendency to produce ...
Views: 942 - True-Self: Are You Being Guided By Your Ego Or Your True-Self? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperTaking action is one thing, but it is another thing altogether as to whether or not the action someone takes is coming from their true essence or their need for approval. One of the best ways for someone to find out is to take the time to reflect on why they are doing something. What this ...
Views: 942 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some People Want To Save The World? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to act as though it is their purpose to save the world. The world is then going to be in a mess and it will be up to them to do something about it. This could be something that will consume their whole life, meaning that it will be hard for them to ...
Views: 941 - Projection: Is There A Reason Why We Project Our Issues Onto Others? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to look back on their life, they may become aware of a time when they saw their own issue in someone else. This could have been a time when they accused someone of having anger problems, when they themselves were the ones who had anger problems. Or, perhaps they accused their ...
Views: 940 - Do You Want To Become More Grounded? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago I was thinking about trying Tai Chi, yet I didn’t end up taking the next step. Since that time, there have been moments when it has crossed my mind, and a little while ago, I spoke to someone who did Qigong. They told me that it was good for grounding, amongst others ...
Views: 939 - The Guidance You Seek Is Within You! - by Submitted on May 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was speaking to Errol Campbell a while back, he ended up talking about how one of his family member used to read tea leaves. When they did this, he said that they would say more or less say the same thing to everyone who had a reading. There was then nothing personal about the ...
Views: 939 - Relationships: Should Someone To Ask Themselves Why They Want To Get Back With Their Ex? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one’s relationship has just come to an end, they could feel relieved and happy that they can now move on with their life. Maybe, this was a relationship that was no longer working, meaning that it had run its course. Disconnected For a number of weeks, they might have thought about ...
Views: 938 - Self-Esteem: Is Self-Acceptance The Key To Self-Esteem? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t feel good about themselves or simply wants to feel better than they do, they can end up trying to change one area of their life. At the same time, they may try to change a number of areas of their life. When this happens, someone is likely to believe that they will feel ...
Views: 936(1 vote) - Being Centred: Is It Harder For Someone To Be Centred If They Have The Need To Please Others? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to stand on the edge of a building, it would be a lot harder for them to feel at peace than if they were in the middle of it. Being on the edge can cause them to feel uncomfortable, whereas being in the centre may allow them to feel at ease. In the same way, someone can either ...
Views: 935 - Critical Thinking: Why Would A Woman Want To Put Fillers In Her Face? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, dermal fillers were only used by a small amount of women but, as time has passed, this has changed. Far more women use them than ever before and there are undoubtedly a number of reasons as to why this is. One important distinction that needs to be made here is the difference ...
Views: 935 - “Changing Your Environment Is The Easiest And Quickest Way To Change Your Thinking!” - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI recently went to Stockholm, Sweden, and while I was there I spent time with a friend who I met many years ago. This was Peter, and this was someone who I met when I did a healing course in London towards the end of 2009. After I spent time with him in London, I ended up meeting him again ...
Views: 934 - “I Came to Accept People From Other Cultures!” - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen our family guest had only just been opened, a lot of the people who stayed were just passing by or on holiday. Yet, as the years went by and our guest house became more well-known, we started to have people stay from all over the world. This also meant that we had students stay ...
Views: 934 - Relationships: Is It A Good Idea For Someone To Ask Themselves Why They Want To Rescue Another Person? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had a friend who was going through a challenging time, they might look into what they could do to assist them. This could be a time when they will listen to what is going on for them and offer their advice. Then again, this might not be enough, and they could offer to take them out ...
Views: 933 - Trauma Separates Us From Our True Essence! - by Submitted on May 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI mediated a few weeks ago and this was something that I hadn’t done for a little while. But even though I hadn’t done this for a little while, I soon remembered how beneficial it was to mediate. I felt more at peace afterwards and it brought to my attention how different the mind is ...
Views: 931 - Relationships: Does Someone Have A False Sense Of Importance When They Always Expect Others To Change? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a position where someone else’s behaviour was having a negative effect on them, they could look into why this is taking place. This can then be a time when one will reflect on what is going on externally and what is going on internally. Two Parts What this can show is that ...
Views: 930 - “I Kept Having Nightmares!” - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperDuring the beginning of my life, I remember having two reoccurring dreams. In one of the dreams, I would be at the top of a flight of stairs and shortly after, I would fall down the stairs. And in the other dream, or should I say nightmare, it was as though I was surrounded by everyone on ...
Views: 930 - Free Speech: Is It Dangerous For Someone To Think Critically In Today's World? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone goes along with the status quo, it is unlikely that they will have to worry about saying the wrong thing. Through accepting what they have been told by the mainstream media, politicians, and what they have learned whilst they were in the education system, amongst other things, they ...
Views: 929 - Critical Thinking: Can A Child's Need For Approval Make Them Want To Change Their Gender? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of years now, a lot has been said about adults and children who don’t feel comfortable with their gender. And what can define what something thinks about all this can be their age. A Different World If someone is at the beginning of their life, for instance, they might not ...
Views: 928 - You Need To Stop Being A Perfectionist! - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I wrote an article titled ‘you just need to love yourself’ and another titled ‘you just need to let go’, I came to see that there was another area for me to touch upon. Along with these two phrases, there is what can be said if someone is a perfectionist. If so, they can also be told ...
Views: 928 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Emotionally Dependent On Their Partner? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for someone to say that they need to be with another person in order to feel complete. Yet, even if they don’t say this explicitly, their behaviour could say this implicitly. Popular Culture When it comes to films, music and TV shows, this is a theme ...
Views: 927 - Childhood Development: Are Some People Born To Fulfil A Role That Their Caregivers Had Planned For Them? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn ancient Greece, Sparta was a prominent city-state where boys were trained to be warriors. When a boy reached six or seven, he was removed from his parents home and sent to military school where he began the ’agoge.’ In order for these boys to become fearless warriors, they had to go ...
Views: 926 - Critical Thinking: Does The West’s Obsession With Tolerance Show How Out Of Balance It Has Become? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, a day rarely goes by when someone in the public eye won’t talk about how important it is to be tolerant. This is often seen as the ultimate value to have; it is as though it is the answer to most, if not all, problems. Therefore, the more that people are willing to allow ...
Views: 926 - Dating: Is It A Bad Idea To Have Sex On The First Date? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperMany, many years ago, sex was something that people would typically have if they wanted children. Nowadays, it is something that lot of people have if they want to experience pleasure. In the past, then, it was generally seen as having one purpose and in the present, it is generally seen as ...
Views: 925 - How To Stay Humble On The Spiritual Path - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor many, many years I have wondered why there are people on this planet who are aware and people who are not aware. More specifically, I have thought about why there are people who are abusive and people who are not. Now, clearly just about everyone acts in ways that are destructive from ...
Views: 923 - Are You Using Social Media To Deceive Others? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, I have written a number of articles that go into the affect that social media is having on the world, and one of the affects that came to my mind again recently was how easy it was for someone to deceive their so-called ‘friends’. This can take place by only uploading certain ...
Views: 922 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Use The 'Drama Triangle' To Control People? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe idea that the people at the top keep people in line by dividing them is nothing new; this has been going on for many, many years. Over the years, A number of words have been used to describe who these people are. In recent years, they have been described as the ‘deep state’, whereas in ...
Views: 922 - Relationships: Do Some People Need To Experience A Few Bad Relationships Before They Can Appreciate A Good One? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who will feel comfortable being in a relationship with someone who is not abusive, while there will be others who won’t. Therefore, if someone who can relate to the former was to end up with someone who is abusive, they would probably soon walk away. And, if someone ...
Views: 921 - Critical Thinking: Does It Matter If A President/Politician Is Male/Female? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about how their needs to be more female politicians. The view that is often put forward is that there are far too many men who hold these positions and that progress needs to be made so that the gender gap changes. This is then something that not only ...
Views: 920 - “I Learnt How Dangerous It Was To Have A Closed Mind!” - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I first got into self-development, about a year I left school, I wanted to share what I had learnt with my family. But although I was extremely curious and wanted to find out as much as I could, my family were not really interested. After talking about what I had learnt and being put ...
Views: 920 - Inner Guidance: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Look Outside For Answers? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt can be easy for someone to believe that they wouldn’t know anything if it wasn’t for their time in the education system. The information that they were fed during this time in their life would then have played a big part in who they are today. Taking this into account, it would have been ...
Views: 918 - True-Self: Can Someone Leave Their Body When They Don’t Feel Safe? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, the title of this article might sound a bit strange, and it could be said that this is not going to be much of a surprise. After all, it can seem more or less impossible for someone to ‘leave their body’. To be human means having a body and, if someone lost this part of them, ...
Views: 918 - When The Past Is Present - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the book, ‘When The past is Present’, David Richo goes into how our past can still influence what is taking place in our present This was a book I read in 2012, so I can’t remember any specific details about it. However, I had an experience recently that clearly demonstrated how what took ...
Views: 918 - Sexuality: Can Someone’s Early Years Have An Effect On What Turns Them On As An Adult? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAs an adult, someone can believe that the things that arouse them are just the things that arouse them, and that all there is to it. However, what this wouldn’t take into account is the part that their early years may have played in why something in particular has this effect on them. If, ...
Views: 916 - “You Suffer From Survivors Guilt” - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn the final episode of season five of Arrow, Slade says to Oliver that he “suffers from survivor’s guilt”. After this, Slade says that he can’t get over the death of his father and that he needs to forgive himself. Confused, Oliver asks what he needs to forgive himself for, to which Slade ...
Views: 916 - Empowerment: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Comfortable With Feeling Powerless? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is an empowered human being, they will know that they do have an effect on their life. In each moment of their life they will have the ability to decide how they will behave, and they will be able to decide the meaning that they give to what takes place. One is then going to see ...
Views: 915 - Vulnerability: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Have A Fear Of Being Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that in order for someone to grow and to develop, they will need to feel comfortable with being vulnerable. The reason for this is that if someone has the need to protect themselves, they are not going to open themselves up to life. Their main priority will be to do ...
Views: 914 - Critical Thinking: Did The Ego Create Cognitive Behavioural Therapy? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to end up having Cognitive Behavioural Therapy if they are going through a tough time. This is due to the fact that this is seen as the ideal tool to deal with a whole host of different challenges. It has been said that one of the good things about it ...
Views: 913 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Want To Destroy Masculinity? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone pays attention to the mainstream media on a regular basis, they may have heard the term ‘toxic masculinity’. And even if they don’t pay attention to this source of information, they may have still heard this term. This could be because they are at university or have been there in ...
Views: 913 - The Power Of Hope - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperDuring the moments in my life when I was in a hell of a lot of pain, I had this sense that things would change for the better. I didn’t know how this would happen I just knew that my life would change; in a way, it was as if I was in a country that I was only visiting. If I had only listened ...
Views: 913 - Critical Thinking: Are Borders More Important Than Ever Before? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about borders and whether or not the time has come for them to be removed. And, when it comes to what someone’s views are on this topic, it can all depend on what side of the political line they are drawn to. If someone is drawn towards the left of the ...
Views: 911 - Critical Thinking: Does The 'I'm Offended' Response Show How Narcissistic The Western World Has Become? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, the mainstream media routinely covers instances where someone has been offended by something. At times, what has taken place can receive a fair amount of attention, and, at other times, it can receive a small amount of attention. But, while this source typically covers instances ...
Views: 911 - “Are You Happy?” - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere has been times in my life when I have been asked if I was happy, and this has often been followed by me feeling somewhat perplexed. When I have been asked this, part of me has felt as though I should say yes, while another part of me hasn’t wanted to say anything. The reason for this ...
Views: 911 - Critical Thinking: Is The War A Reflection Of What Is Taking Place Inside The Collective Consciousness? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, there is a war taking place in Ukraine and hundreds of innocent people are being killed. If someone watches TV or has a Smartphone, they are likely to have heard a lot about what is going on. Due to this, they could be deeply worried about what is going on and this could make it ...
Views: 910 - Relationships: Can A Lack Of Emotional Intelligence Cause Someone To Cheat? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that can have a negative effect on a relationship and, while some of these things can be the result of what is taking place within, there can be others that are due to what is taking place without. When it comes to the former, it can be due to inner conflict, ...
Views: 910 - Critical Thinking: Why Are Men Being Demonised? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThe short film that was recently released by a big brand is yet another thing that focuses on ‘toxic masculinity’. There are some people who are pleased that it has been made, while there are others who have had a very different reaction. If someone is on board with it, they could believe ...
Views: 908 - Emotionally Disconnected: Do Some Men's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough both men and women can be out of touch with how they feel, it is undoubtedly something that impacts a lot of men. Therefore, it would be easy to say that more men than women are affected in this way, but that would possibly be a matter of conjecture. With that aside, when a man has ...
Views: 908 - Relationships: Is Someone Out Of Balance If They Rescue Others? - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people take the time to be there for themselves and to be there for others, there are others who don’t. If someone can relate to the former, they are not going to have the tendency to neglect themselves; whereas if they can relate to the latter, this will be the norm. Two ...
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