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- Therapy: Why Would Someone Say That The Type Of Therapy That They Are Having Is The Best? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone has worked with a therapist for a little while, they may find that their life has started to change. As to what caused them to have therapy in the first place, there can be a number of reasons. For example, their mind may have been out of control and their emotions may have ...
Views: 602 - True-Self: Can Someone Lose Touch With Their True-Self If They Disconnect From Their Feelings? - by Submitted on May 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to be in touch with all of their feelings, they will need to be in touch with their body. The reason for this is that their feelings are primarily found in their body, not their head. Ergo, if someone has a good connection with their body, it will allow them to connect ...
Views: 602 - Your Beliefs Are Creating Your Life - by Submitted on May 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperBefore I got on ‘the path’ in 2003, I had no idea what beliefs were, let alone the impact that my beliefs were having on my own life. At this stage of my life, I didn’t think that I had much of an effect on my life and that I was nothing more than an observer of it. This all changed in ...
Views: 600 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Believe That They Deserve To Suffer If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, what took place will be over but it doesn’t mean that they will have put what took place firmly behind them. So, in the same way that a soldier who has left a warzone can carry the effects of what they experienced, one can also be in the same ...
Views: 599 - Childhood Trauma: Why Do Some People Fall Apart When Their Life Has No Structure? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNow that some, or all, of the structure from someone’s life has been removed, they could be in a very bad way. In a way, it could be as though they were on solid ground and now they are trying to keep their head above water. To be clearer, their emotional self will be all over the place and ...
Views: 599 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Want People To Have A Victim/Perpetrator Consciousness? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are numerous ways in which someone can perceive life and while some of these ways will be empowering, others will be disempowering. Ergo, if someone believes that the world is a safe place overall and that people are generally kind, they are likely to experience life in a certain ...
Views: 598 - Emotionally Reactive: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Reactive? - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s mind and emotions were settled and they felt at peace, they may wonder what it would be like to experience life in this way more often. Then again, thanks to how rarely they experience life in this way, they could be totally consumed by what is taking place. Perhaps they have ...
Views: 598 - Are You An Old Soul? - by Submitted on May 26, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, I have heard a number of people use the term ‘old soul’. Whenever this term has been used, it has been used to describe someone who is seemingly wise beyond their years, aware, a healer and/or someone who is ‘spiritual’, for instance. It hasn’t mattered if this person was at ...
Views: 597 - Emotionally Weak: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Emotionally Weak? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that someone’s life would be a lot easier if they were unable to experience emotions. The primary reason for this is that they would no longer experience emotional pain. As a result of this, they would never feel sad, powerless, helpless, or hopeless, and fear and anxiety ...
Views: 597 - Self-Awareness: Does the Ego-Mind Make It Hard For Someone To Face Their Inner Wounds? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that are part of the human experience, and having inner wounds is one of them. It doesn’t matter how good someone’s early years were or how good their adult years have been, they will have baggage. Nonetheless, although having inner wounds is part of the human ...
Views: 597 - Individuation: Is Individuation A Lifelong Process? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is born, they will have a separate body but that will be as far as it will go. Not only will they be unable to see that they are separate from everyone and everything, they will also lack a sense of self. This is why it has been said that each human being needs to go through two ...
Views: 596 - Decisions: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Make Decisions? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone is not aware of the fact that they experienced trauma during their early years, what they may be aware of is the fact that they find it hard to make decisions. It might not matter if it is a big or a small decision as it could still be a challenge. As a result of this, they ...
Views: 593 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Keep People At A Distance? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may want to form deeper connections with others and to even have an intimate relationship, this might not have been possible. When it comes to the former, they may have only been able to get so close to people, and, when it comes to the latter, it might not be any better. If ...
Views: 593 - Self-Absorbed: Can Someone Suffer If They Only Focus On Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that social media has done is made it easy for someone to focus on themselves. So regardless of if it relates to how their pictures look, how people respond to what they share or how many friends they have, it is all going to be about them. In the past someone would have only have ...
Views: 593 - Childhood Trauma: Can Someone Have A Fear Of Being Annihilated If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that can take place, that’s if someone has experienced childhood trauma, is that they can typically live ‘up top’. This means that their point of focus will primarily be in their head. When their point of focus is in their head, they won’t be aware of what is taking place in their ...
Views: 592 - Relationships: Does Someone Need To Emotionally Separate From Their Caregivers To Be Emotionally Available? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIt is one thing for someone to be in a relationship and it is another thing altogether for their emotional self to also be involved. The former involves one being with another person, the latter involves them opening up and actually being emotionally connected to them. Taking this into ...
Views: 592 - Rejection: Can Someone Feel Rejected Before They Are Even Born? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to strike up a conversation with someone who they are attracted to, they may end up being rejected by them. Now, one way of looking at this would be to say that this person didn’t reject them, they just rejected the version of them that showed up and there can be a number of reasons ...
Views: 591 - Critical Thinking: Does Humanity Need To Heal Their Own Self-Hate In Order For The World To Be More Loving? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about how much hate there is in the world. One thing that is seen as having played a part in the rise of hate is social media, with these platforms often being viewed as breeding grounds for hate. So, as part of an ongoing crackdown on hate, videos and ...
Views: 590 - Personal Power: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Embrace Their Personal Power? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in touch with and is able to express their personal power, there will be no need for them to control others. They will have control over themselves and their own life, which will take away their desire to infringe on another person’s boundaries. Through being this way, they ...
Views: 590 - Self-Awareness: Does Someone’s Ego-Mind Make It Almost Impossible For Them To Face Their Inner Wounds? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a mirror will reflect back what is taking place on the outside of someone’s being, their outer world will mirror back what is taking place on the inside of their being. However, although the former is something that is self-evident, the same can’t be said for the ...
Views: 590 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Like An Empty Vessel? - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that is often said in the self-development world is that someone shouldn’t seek approval from others. This is typically seen as something that will hold them back and prevent them from living a fulfilling existence. A quote by Eckhart Tolle, a spiritual teacher and author, goes ...
Views: 589 - Happiness: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Guilty For Being Happy? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can have the need to be happy, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable being happy. Consequently, they can end up doing just about everything that they can to make sure that they are never happy. Still, while they will be sabotaging their own happiness, it doesn’t ...
Views: 589 - Service: Are Some People Too Undeveloped To Be Of Service To Others? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that someone’s younger years are a time when their caregivers are there to serve them and their adult years are a time when it is down to them to serve others. This could be seen as something that makes sense. As a child, someone is in an undeveloped state and this is why ...
Views: 589 - You Need To Take Action!You Need To Take Action! - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a lot of information available that goes into how important it is to take action and what someone can do to get themselves moving. This could be seen as a sign that a lot of people don’t realise how vital it is to take action and find it hard to get the ball moving, so to speak. ...
Views: 589 - Coronavirus: Is It A Surprise That Some People’s Mental Health Has Deteriorated During This Time? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperDue to what is currently taking place in the world, it has not been possible for a lot of people to behave as they usually would. To protect themselves, others and different services, they are only allowed to leave their home to do certain things. If they need to go shopping, to exercise or ...
Views: 588 - Critical Thinking: Is A Large Part Of Humanity Stuck In The Drama Triangle? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperThe mainstream media routinely gives exposure to stories where one person, or a group of people, is the victim and another person, or a group of people, is the perpetrator. One person will then have been randomly harmed in some way by another person. The former will have been powerless to do ...
Views: 588 - Needs: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Stop Someone From Revealing Their Needs? - by Submitted on May 23, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough each person on this planet is an individual who has their own needs, it doesn’t mean that this is something that everyone embodies. Thus, there are going to be people who act like an individual, while there will be others who won’t. If someone does, they are going to be aware of ...
Views: 588 - People Pleasing: Can Someone Have The Need To Please Others If They Don't Feel Safe In Their Body? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that they have a strong need to please others, making it hard for them to live their own life. Or to be more accurate – this can stop them from being able to live their own life. So by having the need to do what other people want as opposed to what they themselves ...
Views: 588 - Powerless: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Powerless? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAfter living a pretty miserable existence for many, many years, someone may come to see that feeling powerless is a normal part of their life. This means that they are unlikely to feel this way from time to time, they can more or less always feel this way. If they don’t feel this way, based ...
Views: 588 - Repetition Compulsion: Why Would Someone Repeat The Past? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperThe other night, I watched a video of a brown bear that kept walking around in circles. This bear was not in a cage, though, it was outside and was thus, free to go anywhere that it wanted. Apparently, it wasn’t that long ago that this bear was in a cage and didn’t have the freedom that it ...
Views: 585 - "You Should Know What My Needs Are!" - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere will be times when it is possible for someone to know what another person’s needs are and times when it won’t be. That is, of course, unless someone has the ability to read minds; if they do, they will always know. But, if this ability is put to one side, another person will need to ...
Views: 584 - Intimacy: Can Developmental Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Show Up In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to end up in a relationship, is that it is far harder than they expected it to be. There will then be what they thought it would be like and what their experience is actually like. Now, this is not to say that they won’t have had a relationship before, ...
Views: 584 - Being Seen: Can Childhood Trauma Set Someone Up To Believe That They Need To Hide Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, it will be hard for them to accept that someone would be able to hide themselves when they are around others. In their eyes, this will be seen as something that could only take place if they were away from others. Here, someone would be away from others and this would prevent ...
Views: 583 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Realising That They Are Creating Their Life? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was deeply traumatised during their early years, they may typically live on the surface of themselves now that they are an adult. As a result of this, they are unlikely to have a strong connection with their feelings and certain needs. However, this could be something that they ...
Views: 583 - To All Those Working Through Their Inner Wounds, I Salute You! - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago, I heard from someone who had had a childhood that was anything but nurturing. This was someone who I hadn’t seen for a number of years. Although I didn’t know much about them, I was still surprised when they told me this. What surprised me even more, though, was that ...
Views: 583 - “The Only Way Out Is Through” - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago, I wrote an article about something I had heard from a TV series called Arrow. What I touched upon in this article is not the only thing in this show that has caught my attention; there are a number of other things. Something that caught my attention was when the main ...
Views: 583 - Why Is Fear A Powerful Manifestor? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to experience/attain something, it won’t just be a case of them having the right thoughts; they will also need to have the right feelings and to behave in a certain way. What this comes down to is that their thoughts are just one part of the equation. This might be hard ...
Views: 582 - You Need To Raise Your Self-Esteem! - by Submitted on May 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for someone to be told that they have ‘low self-esteem’, that’s if their life is a certain way and/or if they behave in a certain way. The same thing could also be said if they experience a lot of ‘negative’ thoughts. So, someone may find that it is ...
Views: 582 - Critical Thinking: Why Is It Hard For Some People To Accept That Their Government Lies To Them? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are those that not only believe that their government, along with other governments around the world, would lie to them but who also have the evidence to back it up. This is then not going to be something that has just happened once; it will be something that takes place on a regular ...
Views: 581 - False-Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Have An External Focus? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, there is the internal world, and on the other, there is the external world. The ideal will be for someone to be aware of what is going on within and to be aware of what is going on without. Through being this way, they will be able to tune with their needs and feelings, and they ...
Views: 581 - Critical Thinking: Is It Easier For 'Intelligent' People To Avoid Their Own Inner Wounds? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn addition to having a physical body, human beings also have a number of other bodies. There is what could be classed as an emotional body, mental body and at least one other body that can’t be perceived by the five senses. Now, although each person on this planet has a number of different ...
Views: 580 - Purpose: Do Some People's Childhoods Make It Hard For Them To Connect To Their Purpose? - by Submitted on May 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to feel lost and as though they have no reason for being on this planet. But while someone like this may find it hard to get out of bed each morning, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they won’t have a job. Still, even if they do have a job, it is ...
Views: 580 - Relationships: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Lose Themselves In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in a relationship, the ideal will be for them to be in touch with who they are and to express their true-self. By being this way, being close to another person will have changed them, but it won’t have caused them to abandon themselves. Therefore, when they are around the ...
Views: 577 - Victim Mentality: Why Is It Hard For Someone To Let Go Of A Victim Mentality? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has the tendency to believe that the world is against them and that they play no part in what takes place in their life, it is likely to show that they have a victim mentality. Through having this outlook, one is going to be nothing more than an observer of their life. Their life ...
Views: 577 - Self-Awareness: Is It Harder For Someone To Be Self-Aware If They Are Carrying A Lot Of Pain? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has developed a good level of self-awareness, they will be able to know what is taking place inside them. This means that they will have the ability to connect their thoughts, feelings and needs. Thanks to this, it will be a lot easier for them to behave in a way that will serve ...
Views: 576 - You Need To Stop Trying To Save/Rescue Others! - by Submitted on May 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust because super heroes are not real people, it doesn’t mean that some people don’t try to mimic them in the real world. When this takes place, someone can have the tendency to try to save/rescue others. These are unlikely to be people who are stuck in a burning building or who are about ...
Views: 576 - Expectations: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Have ‘Negative’ Expectations? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that someone shouldn’t have any expectations; however, it has also been said that having expectations is simply part of the human experience. If they are simply part of the human experience, it is not going to be possible to remove all expectations. So, if someone was to try ...
Views: 575 - True-Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone’s True-Self To Go Into Hiding? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone behaves and what their life is like, there is the chance that these two things are a reflection of what is taking place internally. In other words, there will be a connection between their inner world and their outer world. This is not to say that their behaviour ...
Views: 575 - Critical Thinking: Does Politics Attract People Who Can’t Acknowledge Their Own ‘Darkness’? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are left-leaning/right-leaning who see all people on the other side of the spectrum as crazy. In fact, it could go even further than this with these people seeing all of the people on the other side as less-than-human. When someone is in this position, they are ...
Views: 574 - Critical Thinking: Is A Lack Of Self-Awareness One Of The Biggest Problems In Today's World? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked to talk about some of the biggest global challenges, they could mention the things that most people are aware of. For example, they could talk about climate change, poverty, inequality, and terrorism. These are the challenges that are often highlighted by the mainstream ...
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