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- Being Seen: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Have A Fear Of Being Seen? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and to reflect on how they behave around others, they could find that they have the tendency to lose themselves and to be who other people want them to be. It could be as though a button has been pressed, causing their behaviour to completely change. As a ...
Views: 424 - Boundaries: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Condition Them Up To Be Caught Up In Other People’s Lives? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that when someone is in balance, they will be there for themselves and they will be there for others. This doesn’t necessarily mean that they will neglect their own life when they are there for others, though. In general, they could find time to be there for others without ...
Views: 424 - Critical Thinking: Is It A Good Thing That People Are Starting To 'Wake Up' To What Is Going On In The World? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, a number of videos that have been made that look deeper into what is going on behind the scenes. Somewhere, in particular, that has been given a lot of attention is a place in America that is known all over the world for making films. For those that have just started to take a ...
Views: 424 - Inner Child: Can Someone’s Wounded Inner Child Cause Them To Keep People At A Distance? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAfter many, many years of pain, one could find that they have the need to keep people at a distance. At this point, it will be clear that it is not other people; it will be the person who they see whenever they look in the mirror. But, although they will now understand that they are the ones ...
Views: 424 - Self-Worth: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That They Have To Earn The Right To Exist? - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf instead of doing what they usually do, someone was to take a step back and to reflect on their life, they may see that it has been one big struggle. Nonetheless, this is not to say that they won’t have ever experienced good things or have good things in their life. There is the chance that ...
Views: 422 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Believe That They Don’t Deserve To Receive Anything If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to step back and to take a closer look at their own life, they may see that their life is out of balance. The reason for this is that they might give a lot but they might rarely receive anything back. Through living in this way, they will almost certainly be used to running on ...
Views: 421 - Child Abuse: Does Someone Need To Forgive Themselves If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone may see that they were abused as a child, it doesn’t mean that this is something they have realised for very long. If they have been aware of this for a little while, it doesn’t mean that they were very young when this became clear. The main reason as to why it would have ...
Views: 421 - Critical Thinking: Is Focusing On ‘The Elites’ Distracting Humanity From The Inner Work That Needs To Be Done? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that, at this point in time, there are more people than ever before who are looking into what is taking place behind the scenes, so to speak. Thanks to the amount of information that is available, this is not something that takes much effort. There are numerous websites, ...
Views: 421 - Individuation: Can Someone’s Life Be An Expression Of Their Caregivers Unresolved Issues? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOnce someone has left home, it could be said that they will be their own person. Undoubtedly, what they learnt during their time in their caregiver/s presence will have influenced who they are but now they will be free to express themselves. If they have trouble expressing themselves or ...
Views: 421 - Relationships: Are There Four People In Every Relationship? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people out there that are in an open relationship and then there are people out there that aren’t. When it comes to a relationship that is monogamous, it could be said that there will only be two people involved. Unlike the other type of relationship, each person will only need to ...
Views: 421 - Overwhelmed: Is It Easy For Someone To Be Overwhelmed If They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that they can handle a fair amount of stimulation without feeling washed out. So, one could wake up and check their phone, spend most of their day around others, and even go out in the evening, and everything could be fine. Along with this, there can be all the time ...
Views: 420 - Critical Thinking: Does Humanity Need To Heal Their Own Self-Hate In Order For The World To Be More Loving? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about how much hate there is in the world. One thing that is seen as having played a part in the rise of hate is social media, with these platforms often being viewed as breeding grounds for hate. So, as part of an ongoing crackdown on hate, videos and ...
Views: 419 - Self-Absorbed: Can Someone Suffer If They Only Focus On Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that social media has done is made it easy for someone to focus on themselves. So regardless of if it relates to how their pictures look, how people respond to what they share or how many friends they have, it is all going to be about them. In the past someone would have only have ...
Views: 419 - Childhood Trauma: Can It Be Harder For Someone To Change Their Story If They Experienced Childhood Trauma? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to someone’s ‘story’, this can relate to how they see themselves, what they believe they are capable of and what they believe they are here for. Now, it could be said that the ideal will be for each of these elements to be empowering. As if someone sees themselves in a positive ...
Views: 418 - Disembodied: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Live On The Surface Of Themselves? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, someone can look whole, but that doesn’t mean that they are actually whole on the inside. This is not to say that they will be missing certain organs; it means that they might not be an integrated human being. If another person was to get to know them, they may soon realise ...
Views: 418 - False-Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Have An External Focus? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, there is the internal world, and on the other, there is the external world. The ideal will be for someone to be aware of what is going on within and to be aware of what is going on without. Through being this way, they will be able to tune with their needs and feelings, and they ...
Views: 418 - Individuation: Is Individuation A Lifelong Process? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is born, they will have a separate body but that will be as far as it will go. Not only will they be unable to see that they are separate from everyone and everything, they will also lack a sense of self. This is why it has been said that each human being needs to go through two ...
Views: 416 - Toxic Shame: What Are The Different Levels Of Toxic Shame? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to shame, it could be said that there is normal, or healthy, shame, and then there is abnormal, or unhealthy, shame. Another way of looking at this would be to say there is shame and there is toxic shame. What this means is that shame is not bad per se; it is simply part of the ...
Views: 415 - Letting Go Off Self-Hate Doesn’t Happen Overnight - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone may hate themselves, it doesn’t mean that they will actually realise this. What this means is that this will be something that is just outside of their conscious awareness. However, not being aware of this won’t mean that their life won’t be affected by what is taking ...
Views: 414 - Manifestation: Is The Law Of Attraction A Lie? - by Submitted on May 06, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor many, many years now, a lot has been said about something called the law of attraction. In most cases, this law is used to back up the view that someone’s thoughts create their reality. As a result of this, if someone wants to experience or to attain something, they will need to have the ...
Views: 414 - Relationships: Does Someone Need To Emotionally Separate From Their Caregivers To Be Emotionally Available? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIt is one thing for someone to be in a relationship and it is another thing altogether for their emotional self to also be involved. The former involves one being with another person, the latter involves them opening up and actually being emotionally connected to them. Taking this into ...
Views: 414 - Social Media: Is Social Media Bad For People's Mental Health? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor a lot of people, social media is as much a part of their life as breathing is. When it is a big part of someone’s life, they can have a number of different accounts online. Through having these accounts, it will be possible for them to stay in touch with their friends and family. ...
Views: 414 - The Media: Is The Mainstream Media Bad For People’s Health? - by Submitted on May 18, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperDue to what is currently taking place in the world, it has meant that a lot of people have paid more attention to the mainstream media than usual. Additionally, there are those that have started to pay attention to this source again after having ignored it for so long. As far as this source ...
Views: 414 - Critical Thinking: Does The Illusion of Separation Make It Harder For Humanity To Change The World? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the ways that a lot of people find out about what is taking place where they live and the world as a whole is via the mainstream media. So, by watching a screen and/or reading a paper, someone will be informed. Along with this, there will be those that primarily look towards the ...
Views: 413 - You Need To Raise Your Self-Esteem! - by Submitted on May 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for someone to be told that they have ‘low self-esteem’, that’s if their life is a certain way and/or if they behave in a certain way. The same thing could also be said if they experience a lot of ‘negative’ thoughts. So, someone may find that it is ...
Views: 412 - Critical Thinking: Has Childhood Trauma Played A Part In The Riots That Are Taking Place? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of weeks now, a lot of coverage has been given to what is taking place in America. This is somewhere where some people have been protesting, whilst others have been destroying property. But, although both of these things have been taking place, it doesn’t mean that every media ...
Views: 411 - Emotionally Stunted: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Stunted? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNow, while someone’s early years may have been a time when they received what they needed in order to grow and develop, there is also the chance that this wasn’t the case. As a result of this, they would have been deeply traumatised at this stage of their life. However, even though this took ...
Views: 411 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Only Need To Repeat Something For People To Believe It? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there are so many different media sources, and so many of these sources come out with the same thing. There have even been videos made where different newsreaders from different news stations are saying exactly the same thing. After watching a video like this, it will be perfectly ...
Views: 411 - True-Self: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone’s True-Self To Go Into Hiding? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone behaves and what their life is like, there is the chance that these two things are a reflection of what is taking place internally. In other words, there will be a connection between their inner world and their outer world. This is not to say that their behaviour ...
Views: 411 - Sense Of Self: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Developing A Sense of Self? - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, someone may come across as a strong and as though they have a good connection to themselves. Additionally, they could typically appear to be happy and full of life. But, although they can generally create the impression that they are a well-adjusted adult, it doesn’t mean ...
Views: 410 - Commitment: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Commit? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to achieving something, developing a skill or having an intimate relationship, for instance, it will be essential for someone to make a commitment. Through making a decision to stick with something, they will be able to make progress and to reap the benefits of doing so. If this ...
Views: 408 - Expectations: Are Your Expectations Holding You Back? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that someone shouldn’t have any expectations and that they should just see what happens. Now, there can be times when having this outlook will be the best way to be. For example, if they were to reunite with a long-lost friend or family member, for instance, being this will ...
Views: 408 - Word Association Can Allow You To Access Your Unconscious Mind - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, it has been well documented that human beings have both a conscious and an unconscious mind. One way to get an idea of the difference would be to see the former as the tip of the iceberg and the latter as the part of the iceberg that can’t be seen. Another way of looking at ...
Views: 408 - Critical Thinking: Has The Collective Unconsciousness Erupted In America? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperDue to the impact that the Coronavirus has been having, it seemed as though it would be the main news story for quite some time. However, as a result of what has been taking place in America, it has started to receive less attention. If someone lives in America, they may have started to ...
Views: 407 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Create The Impression That We Are Just Observers Of Reality? - by Submitted on May 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has ever been exposed to the mainstream media, which they most likely will have been if they are on this planet, they may realise that this source generally focuses on the same things. So, irrespective of whether they were to pay attention to this source now or if they were to think ...
Views: 407 - Self-Awareness: Does the Ego-Mind Make It Hard For Someone To Face Their Inner Wounds? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that are part of the human experience, and having inner wounds is one of them. It doesn’t matter how good someone’s early years were or how good their adult years have been, they will have baggage. Nonetheless, although having inner wounds is part of the human ...
Views: 406 - What Can Someone Do To Understand Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough having emotions is a normal part of the human experience, it doesn’t mean that someone is born with the ability to understand them. In the same way that someone will need to be taught how to speak, they will also need to be taught how to understand their own emotions. Therefore, ...
Views: 406 - Childhood Trauma: Why Do Some People Fall Apart When Their Life Has No Structure? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNow that some, or all, of the structure from someone’s life has been removed, they could be in a very bad way. In a way, it could be as though they were on solid ground and now they are trying to keep their head above water. To be clearer, their emotional self will be all over the place and ...
Views: 405 - Critical Thinking: Is The Focus On External Problems Distracting Humanity From The Inner Work That Needs To Be Done? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what is going on in the world at this point in time, there is no shortage of problems. There are the problems that are regularly spoken about by the mainstream media and those that are rarely, if ever, mentioned. Additionally, there are problems that are not mentioned by this ...
Views: 405 - Positive Thinking: Can The Need To Be Positive F**k Up Someone's Life? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the world of self-development, positive thinking is often seen as an essential tool when it comes to living a good life. It doesn’t stop there, though, as this is an outlook that has permeated mainstream society. With this in mind, this is likely to be something that the ...
Views: 405 - Self-Worth: Can It Be Hard For Someone To Just Be If They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to self-worth, this could be seen as something that is an inherent part of someone. Unlike self-esteem, then, it is not something that is defined by how other people respond to them. Taking this into account, the former is what will allow someone to feel good about themselves ...
Views: 404 - Child Abuse: Why Can It Be Hard For Someone To Open Up About Being Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, they could be in a very bad way now that they are an adult. What they experienced will have taken place many, many years ago, but they won’t have truly put the past behind them. There is a strong chance that what they went through during this time left a mark ...
Views: 403 - Your Beliefs Are Creating Your Life - by Submitted on May 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperBefore I got on ‘the path’ in 2003, I had no idea what beliefs were, let alone the impact that my beliefs were having on my own life. At this stage of my life, I didn’t think that I had much of an effect on my life and that I was nothing more than an observer of it. This all changed in ...
Views: 403 - Critical Thinking: Is A Lack Of Individuation One Of The Biggest Problems In Today's World? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a lot has been said about the number of people who are suffering from mental and emotional problems. This is something that the mainstream media regularly cover. After the inner part of people’s beings was largely overlooked by mainstream society for so long, this can be seen ...
Views: 402 - Critical Thinking: Why Do So Many Humans Behave Like 'Sheep'? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone believes in ‘conspiracy theories’, they can describe those who go along with what the mainstream media comes out with as being ‘sheep’. Unlike these people, one will think for themselves. One is then not just going to go along with what this source sells, they will do their own ...
Views: 402 - Childhood Trauma: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Like An Empty Vessel? - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that is often said in the self-development world is that someone shouldn’t seek approval from others. This is typically seen as something that will hold them back and prevent them from living a fulfilling existence. A quote by Eckhart Tolle, a spiritual teacher and author, goes ...
Views: 401 - Critical Thinking: Does Someone Need To 'Be The Change' That They Want To See In The World? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperUnless someone has been living under a rock or in the middle of nowhere and had no connection with the outside world for a number of years, they will have probably noticed that there are a lot of people that want to change the world. Or to be more exact, they will be aware that there are a lot ...
Views: 400 - Emotionally Reactive: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Reactive? - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s mind and emotions were settled and they felt at peace, they may wonder what it would be like to experience life in this way more often. Then again, thanks to how rarely they experience life in this way, they could be totally consumed by what is taking place. Perhaps they have ...
Views: 400 - Fear: Do We Fear What Has Already Happened? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what someone fears as an adult, it might not seem as though it has got anything to do with their early years. In fact, one might struggle to remember most of what took place during their early years. Consequently, when it comes to what they fear, it could seem as though these ...
Views: 400 - Critical Thinking: Is Humanities Existence Under Threat From The Collective Unconscious? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOnce something has been pushed out of someone’s conscious mind, it can seem as though it has disappeared. This could be something that takes place in a very short period of time or it could take a little while longer. At one moment in time, then, it will have been there and in the next, it ...
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