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- Projection: Do You Project Your Inner Conflict Onto Others? - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the conflict that is taking place in the external world, one only needs to look or to listen and they will soon be aware of what is taking place. Now this could relate to something that is taking place in front of them or something that is happening on the other side of the ...
Views: 1892 - Projection: Is There A Reason Why We Project Our Issues Onto Others? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to look back on their life, they may become aware of a time when they saw their own issue in someone else. This could have been a time when they accused someone of having anger problems, when they themselves were the ones who had anger problems. Or, perhaps they accused their ...
Views: 939 - Projection: What Can Happen When Someone Projects Their Feelings Into Others? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone views another person, it can be as though it is simply the result of who they are. Therefore, one is not adding anything to them; they are just aware of what this person is like. This is no different to how if one was to describe what a car in front of them ...
Views: 530 - Projection: Will Someone’s Past Be Projected Onto The Present If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is an adult, what took place during their formative years could be something that they have more or less forgotten about. If this was a stage of their life that was somewhat nurturing, it could be said that this won’t be a problem. However, if this stage of their life was ...
Views: 512 - Prometheus: My Interpretation Of The Metaphors - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the first things that I heard about this film was that it was a prequel to Alien. And after seeing the trailer I was expecting another film to do with the end of the world. I wasn’t expecting too much and I went into the cinema with an open mind. After watching the film for the first ...
Views: 3260 - Psychic Protection Is A Load Of Rubbish! - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst I was reading a book about psychic protection, someone basically turned their nose up when they saw the cover. It was clear that this person believed that what I wasn’t reading anything worthwhile. I didn’t think much of what they said and carried on reading the book. After a while, ...
Views: 647 - Psychic Protection: Does Someone Need To Protect Themselves From ‘Negative’ Energy? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperThere are numerous articles, videos and books available that go into how important it is for someone to protect themselves from ‘negative’ energy. Furthermore, there is a lot of information that goes into how this can be done. When someone does this, they will create a strong energetic ...
Views: 215 - Psychological Boundaries: The Ability To Say Yes And No - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe term boundaries can seem unclear and even confusing at times. What does the term ‘boundaries’ mean? And how does it relate to psychological wellbeing? Are they the same as ‘walls’? And in this context what are walls? What I am describing here are psychological boundaries. So here I will ...
Views: 4313 - Psychological Boundaries: What Are Psychological Boundaries? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe word boundary can bring many ideas to mind and this is partly because boundaries can reflect something physical and also something that is not physical or visible to the eye. This could be a wall around a house or marker at the end of a territory for example. And a psychological boundary ...
Views: 5270 - Psychological Validation: What Is Psychological Validation? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes achieving psychological well being; validation plays an incredibly important role. This primarily consists of two aspects: On one side this means that one’s thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviours will be acknowledged and accepted by other human beings; and on the other side ...
Views: 3655 - Purpose: Can Having A Purpose Stop Someone From Being Distracted? - by Submitted on May 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are now more ways than ever before for people to be distracted. For example, one no longer needs to sit down and watch TV or to turn the radio on, as they can simply look at their phone and become completely consumed; no matter where they are or what they are doing. So based on this, ...
Views: 1446 - Purpose: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Hide From Their Own Purpose? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to finally get in touch with why they are here, they could soon do everything they can to change their life. What they have been doing for all this time might no longer interest them, and it will then be time for them to do something else. At the same time, it might not be this ...
Views: 1161 - Purpose: Do Only Some People Have A Purpose? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people in this world, doing what they love is a normal part of life. And for others this is nothing more than an idea that sounds good and is far from there day to day experience. To do what ones loves and enjoys might have not even been considered by this person. Life can be seen as ...
Views: 2147 - Purpose: Do Some People's Childhoods Make It Hard For Them To Connect To Their Purpose? - by Submitted on May 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to feel lost and as though they have no reason for being on this planet. But while someone like this may find it hard to get out of bed each morning, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they won’t have a job. Still, even if they do have a job, it is ...
Views: 580 - Purpose: Does Your Need For Attention Stop You From Fulfilling Your Purpose? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who wake up in the morning with a sense of purpose, there are others who don’t. If someone does, their life is likely to be far more fulfilling than it would be if this wasn’t the case. A Reason One way of looking at it would be to say that they have a reason ...
Views: 1172 - Purpose: How Can Someone Find Their Purpose? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who feel as though they are on track in life, and there are others who don’t. As a result of this, it could be said that not everyone is going to experience life in the same way. When one feels as though they are doing the right thing, it is likely to be a lot easier for ...
Views: 1098 - Purpose: Is Our Purpose Important? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe purpose that we all have on this earth can change as we change; similarly to how the weather can change. From one moment to the next, what one wants to do and achieve, can alter. And then there are certain dreams and expressions that one has, that never seem to change and always ...
Views: 1771 - Purpose: Why Is It So Hard To Find Our Purpose? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOnes purpose could be described as a combination of factors. With ones dreams, goals, intensions and behaviour all combining to express and fulfil this often elusive thing known as ‘purpose’. Some people say it is something we find and others see it as something that we create. Dreams No ...
Views: 2242 - Putting People On A Pedestal Stops Us From Growing - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI was thinking the other day about how much of an obsession there is with celebrities in today’s world. Actors, sports stars, singers, and even people who have been on reality TV are often seen as gods/goddesses. On the surface, it can seem as though most people in the west are not very ...
Views: 978 - Qi Gong Has Many Benefits - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAround three months ago I started practicing Qi Gong, and, as I mentioned in a previous article, this was something that I had heard about quite some time ago. When I look back on what I have gained from doing it about once a week since I first started, I can say that it has been time well ...
Views: 873 - Racing Thoughts: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Have Racing Thoughts? - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, and perhaps this has been the case for quite some time, one could be in a position where their mind is often out of control. To use an analogy: it will be as though their thinking brain is a human being who drinks a lot of energy drinks. This part of them is generally ...
Views: 493 - Racism: Can Racism Be Caused By A Lack Of Intellectual Development? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that could be said about today’s world is that it is a time where people are standing up for each other, and it doesn’t matter where someone is from or what they look like, for instance. This has meant that certain people, who didn’t have a voice before, now have the chance to speak up ...
Views: 1274 - Racism: What Causes Racism? - by Submitted on May 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWe live in a time of extreme exposure and this exposure is no longer limited to the old ways of reporting; where radio, news papers or the Television were the primary ways. There is now Facebook, Twitter, YouTube and many other ways that allow for current events to be exposed and for individuals ...
Views: 7894 - Racism: Why Do Some People Always Say That Other People Are Racist? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one reads the paper or watches the news on TV, they may come to the conclusion that racism is getting worse. When it comes to what has played a part in this, it can be the result of what has taken place in their own country, as well as what has taken place abroad. One Thing after ...
Views: 1082 - Rage: Can A Man Carry A Lot Of Repressed Rage If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man may carry a lot of rage, this might not be something that he is consciously aware of. But, even if this is the case, it doesn’t mean that this won’t have an effect on how he experiences life. There is a strong chance that he will spend a lot of time in a collapsed physical ...
Views: 275 - Rage: What Causes Rage? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt has recently been reported that rage could be the result of what is going on for someone at a biological level. And while this has been said, they have also wondered if it’s the other way around; with rage causing ones biology to change and not ones biology causing the rage. However, ...
Views: 1904 - Reach Out For Support If You Need It - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many books and films that talk about how important it is for someone to keep going and to keep getting back up, no matter what happens. This is something that is often mentioned when it comes to being successful and being able to overcome challenges. Another ability that is often ...
Views: 678 - Reactive Behaviour: What Causes Reactive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWe all have our own style of behaviour and this can change when one is around different people and based on how one feels. As one grows and changes as person; this can also lead to ones behaviour altering. And there will be times when ones behaviour is a response to situations and other times ...
Views: 9201 - Reality Or Projection: What Do We See? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the questions I have been asking myself recently is; are we seeing reality based on how it is today or are we interpreting and creating it based on what happened in our past The first response to this question could be; Of course we are seeing reality for how it is today, what else is ...
Views: 1960 - Reality: Can Trapped Emotions Create Our Reality? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what one attracts and doesn’t attract into their life, thoughts are often the primary focus. And when someone has this point of view, they are seen as the key to one attracting what they want and repelling what they don’t want. So here, one needs to become hyper vigilant ...
Views: 1700 - Reality: Do We All Have Our Own Reality? - by Submitted on May 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWe all live on a planet called earth and are all effected by the natural laws of this earth. And while there are some things such as these that we can all relate to, when it comes to our own lives, there can be radical differences. How people experience and perceive life can vary from person ...
Views: 1692 - Receiving: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Receive? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and to reflect on their life, it might occur to them that they have a problem receiving. They may see that although they give a lot, not a lot comes back to them. It is then not that they sit around all day waiting for things to just drop into their lap, ...
Views: 517 - Receiving: Can Someone Find It Hard To Receive If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that it is often hard for them to receive what they need to survive, let alone thrive. So, when it comes to money, they may rarely have enough. Keeping a roof over their head is then going to be a challenge ...
Views: 319 - Receiving: Can Someone Find It Hard to Receive If They Had A Manipulative Parent? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they typically give a lot but they rarely receive what they need, let alone what they want, they could struggle to understand what is going on. Naturally, as they are doing a lot of the right things, this is to be expected. One thing that they may have done ...
Views: 281 - Receiving: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone From Being Able To Receive? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can give things to others and end up receiving things from them, there are others who don’t experience life in this way. What they can find is that although they go out of their own way to help the people around them, rarely does anything come back to them. One-Sided ...
Views: 1068 - Receiving: Do Some People's Childhoods Stop Them From Being Able To Receive? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people in the world who are not only able to give, they are also able to receive, and as a result of this, they are not going to be accustomed to running on empty. On the other hand, there are people who going to be used to running on empty, and this is because they are unable to ...
Views: 1652 - Receiving: Does Someone Need To Embrace Their Feminine Nature Is They Are Unable To Receive? - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings have the need to receive on one side and the need to give on the other. When it comes to their ability to receive, this is something that relates to their feminine nature; whereas when it comes to their need to give, this relates to their masculine nature. ...
Views: 1104 - Receiving: Does Someone Need To Feel Safe In Order To Receive? - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that in order for someone to be able to give, they will need to be able to receive. With this in mind, being able to receive is the first part and being able to give is the second part. Right at the Beginning Another way of understanding this would be for one to go back ...
Views: 1339 - Receiving: Why Are Some People Unable To Receive? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, there are people that are happy to receive but have trouble when it comes to giving, and, on the other side, there are people who are happy to give but have trouble when it comes to receiving. Nonetheless, although both of these types of people are going to experience difficulties, ...
Views: 834 - Receiving: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty When They Receive? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, there is receiving, and, on the other, there is giving. Now, although it would be easy to say that each of these elements is as important as each other, this is not the case. One of these things is more important than the other and this is because if one of them doesn’t take ...
Views: 760 - Receiving: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Receive? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side is the ability to give and on the other is the ability to receive. And it is often said that unless one can receive, then it won’t be possible for them to give. So the ability to receive is generally considered to be the most important aspect. This makes me think about how ...
Views: 2221 - Regression: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Someone To Regress? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf defence mechanisms were mentioned, it is likely that regression would be spoken about and this is because it is one of the more common ones. But no matter what defence mechanism is used, they all have the same purpose. With the purpose being that they allow one’s mind to avoid the emotional ...
Views: 1833 - Regret: Are Regrets Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough life is rarely black and white, it doesn’t mean that some people won’t see it as being this way. And while most people are going to see it this way from time to, there are going to be others who are unable to see it differently. They are then on one side or they are on the other and ...
Views: 2224 - Regret: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Someone To Have Regrets? - by Submitted on May 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone takes a certain action or a number of actions that don’t lead to the outcome that they desired, there is the chance that they will later come to experience regret. And while there is nothing that one can to do to change what took place, they will suffer nevertheless. This is ...
Views: 1563 - Reiki Healing Can Ease Your Pain - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperI was looking through a newspaper the other day and one thing that caught my eye was an article about the opioid crises. In this article, addiction specialist Dr Robert Lefever, spoke about how so many people are hooked on drugs that are designed to take pain away. When this happens, someone ...
Views: 641 - Rejection: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Carry A Deep Sense Of Rejection? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNow, if someone carries a deep sense of rejection and feels as though they won’t be accepted by others, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. The reason for this is that this can be something that is outside of their conscious awareness. However, what is taking place ...
Views: 307 - Rejection: Can Someone Feel Rejected Before They Are Even Born? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to strike up a conversation with someone who they are attracted to, they may end up being rejected by them. Now, one way of looking at this would be to say that this person didn’t reject them, they just rejected the version of them that showed up and there can be a number of reasons ...
Views: 591 - Rejection: Why Do Some People Fear Rejection? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many fears that human beings can have and some of these are classed as real and parts of one’s ability to survive and others are seen as self made and have very little to do with ones survival. And the fear of rejection is often classed as a fear that is irrational and not based in ...
Views: 2142 - Rejection: Why Do Some People Feel Worthless When They Experience Rejection? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are certain things that are part of life, and this means that it is not possible to avoid them. Still, this is not to say that some people won’t try to make sure that they don’t experience something. Rejection For example, there are going to be moments in ...
Views: 1079 - Relationship: Why Do Some People Only Feel Valuable When They Are In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is not currently in a relationship, they may find that this doesn’t have effect on how they see themselves. It is then still going to be possible for them to feel good about who they are, and this is going to make it easier for them to function. A Whole Human Being Ultimately, one ...
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